Tearos

@Nahm Love you too bro! Have a good one.

@Prabhaker What a beautiful story! Thanks.

What is the purpose of funerals?

Awesome! Thanks guys.

How do we know if everything that Leo teaches isn't dogma and that we are not just a bunch of fundamentalists? Thank you, Tearos/Fred

Is Self-Transcendence a part of Self-Actualization or is it a seperate part of Maslow's hierarchy of needs? When we self-actualize, we self-transcend as well, because when we self-transcend we have acheived our fullest potential, right? Correct me if I am wrong. Thank you for all answers! Tearos/Fred

@Outer I don't understand where you got this from. I have attended funerals - I just don't get why emotions like sadness are involved in it.

@Prabhaker But death is what makes life beautiful and exciting, is it not? There is nothing bad about death.

@Vipassana There is nothing sad about an ego leaving a vehicle (the body). That's what we are striving for when we are pursuing Enlightenment, is it not?

@Outer That's why I am asking, because I don't know the answers

@Rilles Sometimes I feel like I am! Haha

@Moreira Why are there emotions like sadness involved? There is nothing sad about it.

Does suffering really exist if there is no one to experience the suffering? Argument: I can't really experience suffering because I don't really exist. Why are we then so concerned about others' suffering? Thank you in advance, Tearos/Fred

If your problem is that you don't feel respected may reflect on how you behave around others. Are you disrespectful towards others? If so, that's what you get back. Try to look at your own behavior from an objective perspective and ask: Does this person deserve respect? People may treat you like a child because you act immaturely. If you feel like you are mature, show it in good manners. Girls seek these characteristics: - Self-confidence - Don't give a damn - Status - Original/edgy - Indifferent Remember that you should be able to be happy without relying on external circumstances, including relationships with girls. If not, something is wrong. I think it depends on what you mean by being "a man". What you fundamentally need in order to be a male, is the body of a male. Society has created the gender of man and expects you to fulfill their requirements in order to be accepted by its people, therefore there's a lot of pressure among men (I don't claim to say that females have no social pressures). I think it will help you in your situation if you let go of trying to please society's requirements and just be your authentic self. Here it seems you've revealed your self-confidence problems. This is good because now we have found a problem to solve!

@TripleNipple @brovakhiin @Nahm But 'we' care about family more than others? Or am I just very confused?

@brovakhiin But when we realize that our existential Truth, that we're not human beings, but God, what importance does the family have?

@Ether Who am I?

@Ether Who is it to be involved in these things?

How do I become more humble? Each step closer on the pursuit toward Self-Actualization, one develops a better version of oneself. One who seeks Self-Actualization, because being average/normal/like everyone else is being mediocre, knows they have accomplished more than the mainstream. Is being arrogant, being self-absorbed, having one's head up one's ass, and thinking that one is better than others therefore inevitable? (These are labels I have been given by others). Am I really arrogant, or is it other's image of me that is incorrect? I have researched characteristics of the arrogant/self-absorbed behavior so that I can better myself at this area. I was radically honest with myself, and couldn't find any of the characteristics that fitted my personality. Have I been blinded by my own self-image? Is it an Ego defense mechanism? I know for certain that I do not know everything and I am not best at everything - And I'm not afraid to admit it to others. It is a fact, however, that I work on myself a lot more than most people I know, therefore I feel like I am, in a way, better than them.

@Spinoza Thanks for your answer! Yeah! I most oftenly have to "dumb down" for the 'crowd' to relate to me so I can fit in. But once I talk about advanced, deep, profound stuff, not only do I sense that others find me arrogant, but I see myself as arrogant! It's the 'looking-glass self'!

@PsiloPutty I've been having those thoughts too! But I've been telling myself that this thought could be a potential defense of the Ego, once again. Glad to hear that I'm not the only one to think this, it might mean that I'm not crazy after all

@DocHoliday Thank you for your answer! I was actually originally working on my self-confidence and being more outgoing towards other people. being more talkative. I usually hold my thoughts to myself, but I also wanted to be able to engage in a conversation with others, sharing my thoughts. This is where I think I am being seen as arrogant, etc. Now that I have learned this skill, I feel like I might be too outgoing, have too much self-confidence when I talk. It's like I went from introvert to over-extroverted, including arrogant because I am confident in my thoughts. I guess I have to find that sweet spot in between since I want to be able to switch between both when I want to (Introvert & extrovert). I will try my best to be more mindful! Thank you for your advice!

@Yavor Kirov Thank you for your answer! The "having one's head up one's ass"-thing was meant by a joke by another person, but as we know - jokes can contain a certain opinion or truth. But once someone makes a comment about me being arrogant and such, I get really obsessed with the comment and get thoughts like "What did he/she mean by that? What did I do wrong? How did I just behave to make this person view me like this? I have to find out so I can better myself!", etc. I am 17-years old right now, and it can have something to do with that as well. People label me as 17-years old/inexperienced, therefore they are certain that I am more ignorant than I feel like I am. All of my life I have had to "dumb down" to fit in my age group, or even an older age group. However, I am a person who listens more than speaks. I usually am really mindful of my own and others generalizations and stuff like that, but I will do my best to be better! Thank you for all of your advice

Please come to Boston, Massachusetts! I'm here at my exchange program until end of June! If you're not coming here, come to Norway in July!

Hello! What does it take to convince/motivate others to Self-Actualize? I have heard excuses like "But Fred, I don't want to do that, because then I'll realize what my problems are and that will make me miserable. I'm already happy as I am!". Is it necessary to help others to Self-Actualize if they don't want to? Thank you in advance, Tearos/Fred