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Feels so dreamy. I agree on that our senses are limiting and our body is the vehicle. After all, we read this world's data only by those senses and each have their own limitations (frequencies, resolutions, highs and lows, etc). We can improve our hardware and software but we can also accept it and work on being aware of its tricks.

Love is when you enjoy spending time with each other and be close when you both want to. Give him/her space or be there when needed and are able to share your dark times with him/her without being judged. He/she can help you become a better person and possibly the best version of yourself and you do everything in your power to do the same. You love each other for who your are and maintain your love as you both grow by communicating and willing to do anything to make it glow. (rhymed :D)

Amazing discussion <3 Key point.

It was a really beautiful writing. Thanks for that I don't know how much of it could be true, but I felt it to be true. I think I also have been feeling deeper and more myself when in dark. Staying awake at nights when ever and where ever I can, liking winter as it is dark (especially in Finland :D), having the fewest lights possible on at home, I can even focus better and be more productive in darkness. Some people say it may be so for people born in cold months, but I don't think that's it. I feel what you wrote, light is a liar.

@TheEnlightenedWon Are we in a loop?

I think it depends on you a lot. Where are you in the scale between "You can't identify yourself with anything in your country" to "You don't want to leave home and possibly start your life from zero in a foreign country". How much of the self actualization process are more limited in the place you live than in another place that you'd possibly want to go. There is more aspects that you really need to focus on figuring out before you make a decision but as a person who left her home country, these came to my mind.

It makes sense to me that we don't have free will at all. Including the decision we make to join the path of enlightenment. I've got this feeling from Leo's videos that choosing this path means that we have chosen to accept that there is no free will so we can be peaceful and not at least emotionally involved with the ego's sufferings in this world and live a better, happy, actualized and successful life. But isn't this choice the result of the whole process chain behind it or is it something extraordinary which makes choosing to become enlightened different from choosing materialistic world or eat an ice cream for the rest of your life in that sense?

@starsofclay Yeah I agree it is hard to control sometimes, but it gets easier by time. Though I remember when I was watching Heroes and I really loved it, it was so much easier for me to do their tricks in my dreams than some time later

Hello, I have been wondering about this for a long while and I've got ideas from my experiences and the information I've got so far. What I have understood from Leo's videos is that we can't control dreams at all. But I have had experiences that I consciously made choices in my dreams or changed things for my benefit. So when I was a kid, at some point I started noticing that I can actually control things when I notice that I am dreaming. I remember one of the very first ones going like: "I was dreaming about the neighborhood I was living as a child, I was talking to my friend who lived right across the street from my home. I suddenly noticed that they had a staircase at their entrance door and it hit me that in real life they don't have it! So it must be a dream. Then I just left to the candy shop that was at the end of the street and picked things." I have had many similar experiences since then. I have been doing a lot of random things I desired. This as I call ability, comes and goes, gets stronger or weaker in me, probably due to how conscious I am at that point of my life. When I was a kid I could do it, then I couldn't for a few years, then it came back again. These days when I notice I'm dreaming, I can make things or people appear in my dreams, also I can move objects with my mind there (started when I was watching Heroes series). By this topic I don't mean at all that we have/may have choice in real life, it makes sense to me completely that we don't have any choice. But just for the sake of dreams and if any one had similar experiences to what I've had. Also any ideas and suggestions on this matter are appreciated .

True. I got confused about it here many times. I guess it's one of those things that needs to be experienced rather than discussed.

Thank you for the answer. But doesn't it mean that making a choice to get to this path is out of free will as it is not as the result of the process anymore? I still don't believe that it would be out of free will in any case. Just that some people choose to become enlightened, they start reducing self deception points and get closer to their goal. Doesn't mean they actually get free will.

Check out Leo's video on "Self Deception". If I'm correct, on this one (or the second one) he also mentions vomiting.

It's really OK to feel sad, cry and express your feelings. Which parts and how much they bother you? Do you think you may be depressed or does it mostly come from being open to your emotions?

Hi, Have you checked Leo's videos on "Addiction"?

Oh thanks I forgot about this concept.

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You mean believing in infinity and not having free will?

I've tried it too, it has never worked. I agree on that video that was shared.

It's hard going through wondering how much of you, is you and how much of you, is wrong. But you are you, no matter what, and there is nothing wrong as long as you accept yourself through your own eyes, not others. Check out Leo's videos on "judgments", "shoulding" and "how to stop caring what people think of you". I think the mood swings about your look may come from your transforming into something else. Like if you are generally changing from caring to not caring, you may be on the way there and sometimes the ego and the part you don't logically agree with, hits you. Though in my experience as a gender fluid/gender queer it is different as the actual mindset of my identity of gender changes. I've had problems with it a lot and since I figured it out, it has been helping me a lot to work on accepting myself no matter what I wear or how my hair is. Being liked by people first comes from if you like yourself first. If you love yourself the way you are and you make a great life that you are enjoying your company, then wanting to have someone in your life becomes your choice first.

The situation now is not nice, but you had your own reasons to make that decision. Blaming and hating the other person is not healthy for you, after all, you made that decision, it wasn't made for you. I suggest remembering the whole process how you got to decide that, counting everything including all the frustrations you got while studying in Japan which lead to listening to the other person's reasoning. Also some work on how to forgive.

I have the same problem. Mainly because I have been a people pleasing person for too long and have been working on it. What I've learned is that defending your own space and ideals is not wrong. Specially when you see the other person totally violated it. Of course there is always the analysis on why he/she did it which leads to how much of it was your fault or how much that person ignored the general moral rules or the fact that people think and act differently depending on the situation, but it doesn't change the fact that you shouldn't express yourself.

@Ether AKA ego probably.

@billiesimon Thanks. I hope it for you too. @Ether Agreed. Peace in mind happends when we understand the world the way it is.