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Hello everyone, I've been on a challenging journey of self-discovery and overcoming personal blocks for most of my life. For years, I struggled to start my own YouTube channel, facing an unidentifiable fear that held me back. Eventually, I realized this block stemmed from an emotional bond with my mother and a refusal to fully acknowledge her true, negative nature. This revelation was a turning point for me, leading to significant personal growth. This wasn't obvious and rooted deep in my subconscious. I think I am facing something similar AGAIN and I need help with that. Currently, I'm facing a similar block in forming relationships with women. Despite substantial efforts, I haven't found complete relief or breakthroughs. Here are the steps I've already taken: Personal changes, including circumcision, thinking it might address sexual anxiety. Moved into my apartment to overcome the mental block of inviting someone over while living with roommates. I engaged in social challenges like cold approaches, club visits, and pushing myself out of my comfort zone. Enhanced my social skills by interacting with more people, attending meetups, and being open, honest, optimistic, and humorous. I've been through a dark night of a soul experience, where I faced my emotional trauma, trapped in my solar plexus. Took up martial arts to boost self-confidence and embody masculinity. Practiced Wim Hof breathing techniques daily to reduce stress on a neurological and biological level. I have organized my life, focusing on my career, passions, and personal business to enhance self-worth and reduce neediness. Attempted online dating without much success, limited by financial constraints (low quality / not that flashy photos). Underwent hypnosis and practiced affirmations to eliminate negative beliefs and reinforce positive ones. Committed to NoFap and eliminated pornography from my life. I've been to therapy and I am doing inner child work for some time every day. In short - I did everything I could think of. Despite these efforts, I feel there's an underlying, non-obvious block at an unconscious level, similar to my previous experience with starting YouTube. Maybe these efforts were necessary to face something bigger; I'm not sure. I'm reaching a point where I desperately want to understand and overcome this block. Perhaps all these things I've done, like drops of water eroding a rock, were necessary for me to face something greater. This is something that I'm looking for as I'm tired of the constant struggle with myself. Thank you for reading and your support.

@Yimpa Bro, you're obviously clueless of what you are talking about. First you didn't even knew that you can have a fwb with someone long-term (like that's the entire idea behind it lol) and now you're just sharing something that YouTube algorithm showed you on a main page. Like, are you even here to help or you tell that to yourself, while what you are really doing is procrastinating from something? Wtf

@Yimpa as long as there will be good body, great sex and three digit IQ, I'm open to pretty much everything lol

@Yimpa Umm, maybe, I'm not really that lovey-dovey kind of a guy 🤷

@Yimpa Yeah, probably a long-term friend with benefits for now. But if a chick is great, hard-working, smart, all of that good stuff, and a relationship with her will allow me to still pursue my goals - hey, I'm cool with that too.

@Salvijus @Yimpa I'm not a vampire, I have a lot to give and overall I'm a cool and valuable guy I think. To be honest, my main goal of having a gf right now would be to have constant access to sex, not gonna lie, but it doesn't mean that I would use that person, manipulate her, take advantage of her, or lie, none of these are going to happen. I just have my needs and want to meet someone cool, that would want to meet on weekends, spend some time together, and have sex with. Currently, I'm still working on my business to gain financial freedom for myself and a full-time girlfriend isn't something that I want to spend a lot of time on. I'm open to your suggestions, though maybe I'm being close-minded and close-hearted here.

@Raze I did some challenges (as mentioned in points in my post), but all of that was cringe and I was really fucking nervous

@Raze Cold approaching women. This is something that I wanted to start doing for years. It's strange, it feels like forcing, but not like breaking a comfort zone.

@Raze Never, I hate doing things with my eyes, I fucking can't, sorry @Yimpa Umm, I don't @PurpleTree Yeah I tried some of them, they are on a list Yesterday was a day of me being like: "I'm sick and tired of this shit, I have no idea what to do anymore", and today I am having some kind of emotional trauma purge in my heart chakra area, interesting. It is something that started happening to me this month, you can call it a mini dark night of the soul, today was tough, 2 hours of laying down, feeling old, stored, negative emotions, I went for a sauna afterwards to recover, now I'm feeling them again. I n t e r e s t i n g 🤔

@PurpleTree The first one sounds like something that might be true The second one also lol, all my previous relationships ended up with me being traumatized and resentful towards women But what can I do about these? 🤷🫠

?? @Raze I'm doing IFS with my therapist, I did psychedelics (shrooms) for trauma release, I meditate everyday

I have a nagging problem with getting laid. I don't want a girlfriend, in fact - I don't like women They attract me sexually, but I don't like them! (And the exact opposite towards men) What is my solution to this problem? I want to pursue my life purpose and do my work, but I can't because I'm getting too horny and I can't focus! What a fucked up, sociopathic design this is? You have a dick that is telling you to fuck, but to do that, you have to deal with women, that you don't even fucking like. Please help me, I can't struggle with this any longer... Thanks. To answer your questions in advance about finding a source of my not liking women - psychopathic narcissist mother, tons of failed relationships that proved to me over and over again it's not worth it (but my dick thought otherwise), women are mostly dumb, childish, too emotional, most of them are low value doing some bullshit activities, living in their delusional bubble, I really don't care, it's not worth it

@The Renaissance Man That's a limiting belief, it's like you would say something like that about Leo. Fuck you, Leonardo!

@Squeekytoy I already am not able to sleep properly because of the urges. I filled my schedule with work, gym, stretching, sauna, reading, and university. Will add YouTube to all of that soon. I added semen retention for one year on top of that. If these will not force me to change something, nothing else ever will. 🤷‍♂️

My problem is multilayered and I'm trying to hit it from different angles (just like your moms 👉👌) I'm understanding myself more and more, but I am sure that I don't want to end up with escorts, VR, or sex toys @Squeekytoy - thank you for your advice 🤗 My current reality is that girls act arrogant and have ridiculous standards and I'm not sure what more I can do tbh. I'm not going to simp for them or whatever they want, I'm not going to lose my dignity for pussy. They don't want me, I accept that. I go on a one-year semen retention journey, we'll see what happens. I'm already on one month or something (I'm doing NNN and I started a couple of days before November). On a side note, this is an observation that I made: 1. Most men are single 2. Most women aren't single How is that possible and what's happening here? Is that possible that they are all fucking the guys at the top, but act like they are such good, innocent souls, that they are taken and have boyfriends? 🤔 Because they can't have boyfriends, as there are no boyfriends having them, most men are fucking single, math. Hmm... 🤨😐😑

@The0Self What would be your judgment when it comes to my "polygon" results? A reminder: my mother was a narcissist, probably high psychopathic spectrum, she left my father when I was like 4, father-in-law didn't give a single fuck about me. I am afraid of cold-approaching women, I think they are delusional when it comes to their standards and they have way too fucking high self-worth, probably created by social media approval. That makes me sick and don't want to even interact with them, as I would feel like I'm kissing their asses just for the pussy. And I don't want to do that and lose my dignity for that. That's why I act like a meme-like sigma male grindset guy, that's just on his grind and never makes any moves and wants them to do anything No, just accept the fact, that they should be worshipped, approached, provided, they should be complimented, god knows what else, just because they fucking exist. That's the sad reality. And that's the realtity that I don't want to accept.

@flowboy This is what I wrote in my first post before I asked a question about what should I do: All of the advice was like: "There's something wrong with you, you should like them", and here's what you can do with that: (...) Fuck your musts and shoulds, I'm not convinced. If everyone else jumped off a bridge, would you?

@meta_male 😏

@UnbornTao Yeah, you're right. This topic is mainly an exercise to check-mate my brain so that my negative beliefs about all of that get shattered / I find some kind of solution that I didn't think about before. I'm fine. I know what I'm doing. I'm pretending a bit to get people's reactions. Thank you all for participating 🫡

@Princess Arabia I fucking love myself, you had a bad day or something? All I hear is you screaming at me for no reason than the ones that you probably imagined 🤗. You guys try to throw some nasty stuff on me, but none of you hit yet, keep trying 🙏. But also it would be nice if some of you could (at least try) to answer my question. It's easier to hate me because I don't agree with what you think is the ultimate truth and there are no other ways. I prefer to stay open-minded and do not accept your route, with all the respect. Of course, I did some name-calling, but you can't simply expect me to just sit there and accept whatever you're projecting/imagining/expecting me to listen to without fighting back. I know exactly what I'm doing and where I'm at with the process of healing, trust me on that. That doesn't mean that I can't do some experimental stuff. 😇

@UnbornTao Are you talking to me or this @Salvijus guy? Not sure

Never said that

@Salvijus It is truthful + I'm not doing anything wrong. If people get emotional, there's something to be triggered and that's not my fault🤷‍♂️ @Twentyfirst Yeah, let's just ignore the elephant in the room that is another man's dick in her mouth an hour before she met with you.

@UnbornTao Thanks for your response, you sound like a smart fella, don't know if what you're saying is that practical though. I mean, I know what you mean, yeah, my narrative is like that because I don't have a reference point of good experience with women, so I'm speaking from my own, fucked up, over-and-over experience. @Tenebroso Thank you, +1 @NoSelfSelf You are saying, once again, that if a woman behaves badly, it's the man's fault, because he was too weak. Not like she can choose to behave well, even if a man is weak. No, let's accept her as she is 🫡 I'm not saying that now we have to love and accept all weak men (but who knows what some of them have gone through), but when it comes to women you say we should accept not only weak women but also the bad ones, can you even hear what you're saying? @Twentyfirst Don't wanna, it seems dirty and gross. @Salvijus Drama and conflict bring more people. I thought it was a good strategic move to bring more people to get the answer I wanted (it worked really well) 😇

@petar8p Yeah, I know that. This moderator smart-ass guy told something along those lines, I'm just mocking him 🥰