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Any power statements? Right now my power statement that I said to myself is — "take as much time as you need to get good rest and recover."

You have gotten me hooked on you. I can die for you. I want you. Make me one with you somehow. Anyhoq My heart wants you You are my soulmate

What are you going to do?

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I really really deeply love this man and I think he would make a great partner. This is the first time I'm falling for a guy who is super emotional and sensitive and not like the cocky ones I used to date before. So recently I have found a guy who lives in the US and we have known each other before. It's a long distance relationship. We chat for hours. I have fallen hard for him. He likes me too. He is cute and sexy. He prefers to keep to himself and doesn't open up much. He is a very emotional guy/sentimental type. He has cried before and language he uses is generally emotional. We bond with each other over our shared emotional nature. The thing is sometimes when he shares emotional/sad things with me, I tend to laugh a little inside. (I don't show that I'm secretly laughing at him or just not able to relate). I find it hard to empathize with him because I don't expect him to be weak or fragile or sensitive. The whole idea that a man should not be vulnerable/emotional is baked in my head. I don't laugh at him obviously so it doesn't show. Whenever a female friend cries her pain out with me, I immediately relate and cry with her. Not with this man. Of course I don't have bad intent and I would love to be his emotional supporter but I'm struggling in this capacity. But when he does open up, I end up showing superficial empathy yet I can't really relate to his anxieties and frustrations and issues as a man. I find it hard to grasp how he feels or how he is going to react to whatever I have to say and as a result we get into fights later. I cannot preemptively judge the situation and that causes me to not be emotionally aligned with him, my responses causing more harm than good. He detects my lack of sensitivity or finds it odd to open up to me and recoils back into his shell.. How can I (as a female) understand and relate to Male emotions better?

But there is a road to healing.

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I suck. I am a bad person. I need to shame myself until I'm sick of myself.

Time for self flagellation I'm a psychopath I'm a liar I am selfish as fuck I manipulate. I'm not innocent I deserve to be shamed

I have been acting like a pure psychopath sometimes and I hate that shit. Why do I do it? I don't like this part of me. It's not innocent.

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My emo guy is a Virgo who is born in September and Virgo have fluctuating emotions.

P is an emo guy. Exactly my type. The problem is that he is a male. A guy. So.... I never quite understand male emotions. Although I have always put my best foot forward whenever they needed any kind of emotional support or help. In fact I have gone out of my way to help them But still.... Something is missing. With an emo guy you never know. The problem is that I can't read his mind. I don't know what will set him off or what will make him happy. For the time being .... That is.

I really want to get to know P.

Even while having sex im emotional. Wait a minute. I never had sex.

Cook different recipes Go for a walk Contemplate and self inquiry Do shadow work Talk to yourself Keep a track on moods Do relaxation exercises Listen to ASMR Clean room Sit under a tree Sit outside at night in the cool breeze and watch stars Write poetry Get emotional Drink tons of water Have someone to love Chill

@hyruga hey that sounds like total manipulation to me!!! Shouldn't we love someone for who they are rather than reject them for who they aren't?

Sometimes my mind just wanna race.

I think a lot of people (especially women who get into toxic relationships) value trust over integrity (ironically integrity is what helps build trust). But having someone who gives support, trust and intimacy in the moment is especially attractive to most women, they see it as a prize, historically women have been taught to trust men to protect and provide, they have been told to rely on a man for their needs and these are not necessarily material needs. A woman is also looking for comfort and protection. The man is her chocolate and candy bar. So when a woman comes across a low integrity man, the one thing this man (not every low integrity man) has to offer her is comfort, protection, validation, intimacy, support (both material and emotional) and trust. These qualities are almost exclusively desired by most women. The more feminine a woman, the more she would rely on the man. The more masculine a woman the more she will orient the man. A certain dependency is seen in most feminine women. This is natural and to a degree biologically enforced. A woman experiences a man's trust and domination even during sex. The thing is she does what we call a tradeoff. She happily trades integrity (because it doesn't occur as super important, consequences don't matter in the moment) for the qualities or values mentioned earlier. So even if he is a gangster, as long as he keeps her trust and supports her the way she wants to be protected, she is all fine with such a man. After all he fulfills her survival agenda. Women are very insecure in that category (historically). The problem with such women is that they are a bit low IQ. They don't realize (or they don't care enough) that a man with low integrity can hurt her at the drop of a dime. He is only superficially useful but deep down cannot be trusted. It's like sleeping with a lion. The lion protects you everyday from other predators. But someday the lion goes mad and you become his prey. That's the situation with these women. They choose a predator. One day this predator turns on them they pay a heavy price for trusting someone shallow.

Disrespect does hurt a lot. And it's not about entitlement. Respect is like the most basic right that everyone deserves. We respect animals too. Feeling disrespected is the first sign of abuse.

There's nothing wrong with you. When others mistreat you, it shows who they are and not who you are. You should just let it go and accept the reality that not everyone is cut from the same cloth. And they won't have the same love, compassion and empathy, respect that you have for others. Cultivate forgiveness and grace and throw love where you don't receive it and let go.

I'm the goddess you need to pray to. I'm the river you need to drink from. I'm your savior in trouble. I'm your pillow at night. I'm your queen, your princess, I'm your feminine shadow you've punished and demonized and Denigrated. I will worship you. With my gentle touch I'll bring you back to life. With my innocence I will mend your hard edges. With my sweetness I'll smoothen your roughness. With my Purity I'll drown out your dissonance. With my playfulness I'll take away your sorrow. You call me a Narcissist. But even a narcissist is capable of loving.

For me love is a secret matter, a private thing. Anyone who engages in airing out the dirty laundry in public is quickly off the list, no thanks.. Sorry too much insecurity and I'm extremely high on privacy. That's why I write cryptic. I can't tolerate all the public shit. It's too much for me. I'm a delicate soul. I'm just a fragile human being. A beautiful woman carved out of ivory and shell. I can break with one blow.