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Hi Paul I messaged you on instagram

I am currently doing research and a "small bet" at the same time in conjunction with my life purpose. It is a podcast project and I am looking to have recorded conversations (kind of like a curious journalist who doesn't work for the news) with people who fit this criteria: -They left some sort of business or job they were not suited for given their strengths or that they just did for the money (and had no meaning for them) -Currently do something they find fulfilling and is ideal work for them and they make an income from it (even if its just a side hustle/part-time income) -They are willing to have an audio interview recorded (video preferable) to discuss their journey As far as benefits to the interviewee: I will be doing my homework to ask the best possible questions during this interview to lift the biggest insights from your story. You may start to understand how you work better than before, and have a promotional device for the future. My goal is to release this in the next month or so. Please reply to this if you or someone you know is interested. Thanks. Will

@Thought Art Leo is right in that it's all on you. I experienced that first hand. Every marketer trying to sell you something will sell the idea of done for you, however, most know absolutely nothing about marketing self help and higher consciousness businesses, much less doing it authentically. There are much cheaper and more valuable courses in my opinion. This is $97 a month and I can attest to its validity. They have group coaching also. The $97 a month stuff is very good. It goes from basic to advanced. I have done their coaching, they will hold you accountable. https://www.digitalmarketer.com/ Also, it sounds like you've already convinced yourself you want to do this and your not really listening to feedback. I am often like that. In fact, people within that coaching group brought my attention to that over and over.

Thank you I appreciate the advice!

I would not ghost him. I think personally as a guy or girl, ghosting is not a good policy. It is essentially a dishonest act and it masks the real issue. He will go on doing the same thing to the next girl until he's told. You're helping him by telling him the truth. I would use this situation as a way to improve your ability to set boundaries. Most women I've met have a hard time saying no, which is a boundaries issue. Most men suck at it too, but it's typically not as severe. But they have their own common issues like resisting emotions etc. If you don't feel safe with him, simply tell him that and break it off. This guy obviously doesn't have a life purpose and wants to make you his world. That's too much pressure for anyone. I would begin practicing boundaries, perhaps with this book. https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-When-Take-Control-Your/dp/0310247454 In my experience, many relationship issues in work or interpersonally comes down to poor boundaries. It's a transferable skill.

So I already posted on a Reddit page and messaged with a guy in my area that wants to go out picking up women. Ironically, I asked a friend whos married now and he said when he lived in Japan he had a friend really into pickup that he went out to bars with and he just did what he did. This is good advice!

Do you have a forum you'd recommend?

Could you go into a little more about how you do this? It piqued my curiosity.

I got out of a relationship in late 2019. I went on lots of dates in the last 18 months and talked to several hundred women and I screened all of them for some basic criteria to establish a good fit. I had never done this before, and i did it so I wouldn't waste my time or the woman's. After all those dates, I found one girl that I liked a lot that met all the non-negotiables. For several reasons, part being a values difference, part being she was too busy to pursue anything serious (MBA plus fulltime job), I am now single. I've decided I'd like to focus on my life purpose and spend some time each week going out and talking to women for the pure purpose of honing my skills. I did this last night and got 2 numbers without focusing on the outcome of actually doing that. I focused on eye contact and having fun interacting with them (a very difficult thing for me sometimes). I have tried any woman that wanted me, that didn't end well. I also tried getting the "right woman" which didn't actually end up working long term even though I spent 18 months finding one I really liked and thought would work out. Also, part of me realizes that since I'm working on my life purpose if I don't have any outlet for my sexuality at all, it may lead to worse habits. I have not had sex for as long as 3 or 4 months because I didn't find a good match even though I was going on dates every week. I could do that again if necessary. If I am trying to get better with women through practicing the core skills, should I have sex with women that do not fit my basic criteria (Them not having kids, politically moderate or non-polarized, and non religious or at least does not go to a traditional church) ? Or would that be detrimental to them and myself by getting caught up in a distraction?

That's what I was thinking! i will direct message you

Are There Any Fellow Dallas Dwellers Here? If so, would you like to meet up in person to discuss self-actualization topics of any sorts? I feel like that would be more impactful than the general forum for me personally.

Thanks for your feedback on the topic of feedback . So I also have values that speak to this. Creativity/Self Expression/Innovation I am exposing myself to new insights and sharing them with other people in a creative and unique way. I would be regularly sharing helpful and interesting ideas to benefit other people and creatively presenting them in a way that expresses myself and my opinions. I am doing something creative everyday such as brainstorming content ideas, creating new talks or presentations, and fleshing out ideas as it pertains to my content. Progress/Growth I am getting tasks done that progress me towards my life purpose, personal goals, and tracking my behaviors to see where I am growing. I am also freeing myself from scarcity thinking, mental blocks, and other neurosis on an ongoing basis. I am reminding myself of my purpose and my goals daily and doing tasks each day that move me closer to mastery in those areas, and tracking my progress to reflect on what I accomplished (Such as recording the number of speeches I have done at toastmasters, the speeches themselves, and the number of podcasts I've done). I am also growing personally through taking courses, retreats, seminars, meditation, journaling exercises, and using professional help to resolve negative patterns within myself to grow more in my pursuit of mastery and personally.

I am mostly done with the Values section of the life purpose course and I find my value of impact seems noble but is somewhat based on positive feedback from others but I don't think it's purely approval, I simply like to see that what I am doing is helping others. Impact Contributing to others through my work and getting positive feedback on how my ideas have improved the quality of their lives. I am producing content regularly and regularly asking for feedback from people who enjoy my content and are making positive changes in their lives. Do you think this is still a noble value?

@Leo Gura I am mostly done with the Values section of the life purpose course and I find my value of impact seems noble but is somewhat based on positive feedback from others but I don't think it's purely approval. Impact Contributing to others through my work and getting positive feedback on how my ideas have improved the quality of their lives. I am producing content regularly and regularly asking for feedback from people who enjoy my content and are making positive changes in their lives. Do you think this is still a noble value?

I like it man great job!