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Nah-ah. I am not denying existence, or importance of emotions. Sadness is not wrong. Something happened and we know that it is wrong because we are sad. Crying is not wrong either. Have you noticed that we cry when something is sad, but we also cry because something is beautiful? When something catches us by the heart? We are touched by things that we find important and tears are how this importance is released. There is no difference between tears of sadness and tears of beauty. When you cry, you let go of a part of yourself that you are desperately trying to keep. Now, I have never lost a loved one, but I have lost people in my life. I think that the most important way in which grief is useful is to serve as a reminder that anything that we hold dear can be taken away from us. It's purpose, however, is not to frighten us into possessively guarding everything that we value, but to teach us humility and appreciation of the everyday life.

@now is forever Oh, and did you notice that when we interact with people we look them in the eye as if a person was located there? It's just a black dot in the middle of a squishy white ball. Not only that, but there is not even a dot there. It's a transparent hole into an eyeball and it's black because it's dark inside. How crazy are we?!

By the way, do you know that your skull has no facial expression? It's just your flesh moving around your bones.

@now is forever Good. Cry your eyes out. The world will be ready for you when you feel like returning to it.

Have you tried crying? Edit: Ugh, I'm so dumb sometimes that it amazes me.

What I was getting at is that there is no managing anything. Managing things from within may work until suffering becomes unbearable. Then, shit's gonna blow. Managing things on the outside makes you reactive, uncentered. It's only a matter of time until you stretch yourself too thin and drop a few plates. Try doing neither and you will have to do both. We can't avoid suffering, but we can't help to try.

The main direction is called inevitability. We go along with our dreams until we remember that there is something more important and follow that for a while. We do not choose our path. Even if we plan, the will to plan something is spontaneous. So is the will to go through with the plan or not, when the time comes. Importance is not 'out there'. Things are not important. We are the importance of things. Problems are not 'out there'. We find things problematic. Ashes to ashes and dust to dust. Everything else in between is entertainment.

INTJ as fuck.

Yes. This is the greatest paradox. Happiness is suffering if you anticipate its cessation. There is really nothing we can do about suffering, other than being present to it. And we can't help but to try to stop it nevertheless.

Humility and surrender helps me with moods like this. Imagine all of the suffering you will never experience.

@now is forever Really? Can there be suffering if there are no thoughts?

@Bryan Lettner What you are saying is irrelevant. Not because of its contents, but because of its medium. The only talking that is worth listening to is called doing. I am not saying that it is a good thing. It is you who are saying that it is a bad thing. It is neither good, nor bad, and it does not contradict the fact that there is a reason for it and it is highly intelligent. Blaming people for their level of consciousness is ridiculous. The world is not the way it is because of people. People are a part of the world. They change it and it changes them. Attributing them with responsibility is misguided. Understanding the world lets you influence it. The paradox is that the more you understand it, the less incentive you have to do so. This is why I called you naive. Because of your grandiose will and strong convictions. Let me finish with Lao Tzu's words here: Hushing Not praising the praiseworthy keeps people uncompetitive. Not prizing rare treasures keeps people from stealing. Not looking at the desirable keeps the mind quiet. So the wise soul governing people would empty their minds, fill their bellies, weaken their wishes, strengthen their bones, keep people unknowing, unwanting, keep the ones who do know from doing anything. When you do not-doing, nothing’s out of order.

@Bryan Lettner Check your wounded ego. Haven't read this much naivety on this forum in a long time. The world is much more intelligent than you care to observe and there is a reason why it is structured the way it is. That reason is not attributable to people. People are attributable to that reason. We are not actors, but places in which matters meet. Designing your perfect little worlds is fun. Thankfully, the 'real' world is immune to Leonardo da Vincis like you.

@Michael569 You are too attached to your LP and it makes you miserable. Most people that are into self-development know to not compare themselves to others. What is important to keep in mind is to not compare others to yourself as well. How developed I am is nobody's business. Not even mine.

So, we have this manager that has outbursts of 'negative emotions' (anger) every now and then when the workload is too great for him to handle and he takes it out on employees. It usually takes form of a witch-hunts and scapegoating that end in him screaming at people, implying incompetence. It's been like that with him ever since I've known him and I do not expect him to change. I had always let him off the hook and stomach his outbursts, but two days ago he's been particularly nasty with me and another employee and I just fucking snapped and started screaming back at him. His was angry at something he's been repeatedly told is not true and in his anger - he failed to listen and acknowledge that fact. So, I am not really worried about my job, or my relationship with him. What is the problem for me is that two days had passed and I'm still burning on the inside, ready to lash out at any perceived misbehavior on his part. While I space out, I imagine getting into fights with him and prepare a list of nasty responses to be used in retaliation. Basically - I'm still angry and I cannot seem to calm myself down. I can function normally (my wife even says that I'm nicer than usually), but I feel like if something had happened - I'm 1% off from erupting. I was always fearful of my anger getting out of control and perhaps I had just become aware if its extents. The feeling of anger is located somewhere between my heart and the throat and it feels like an insane amount of energy, ready to explode. When I come to think of it - it is actually kind of pleasant. So, the question is: how should I proceed from here? Can I calm myself down somehow, or should I let the mind run its course and not be afraid of further confrontations?

@now is forever Hahaha. Who would have thought that the smarter should give in to anger?

@now is forever I am the one that judges the situation to be not judged fairly. I am the one that makes the behavior unfair by saying something. Situations always inter-are. They are not only what happens, but also what is being perceived. It is neither wrong, nor right to act. It is inevitable and choice is an illusion of the monkey-chatter. Aggression is action fueled by suffering. To successfully retaliate is to store your suffering somewhere else. When I'm mindful of other people's suffering when they are aggressive, I hear the screams as a plea for mercy. They cry for mercy a lot in my workplace. Listening to it and watching the suffering is all I can do for them. My particular problem was a bit strange because I got angry because I was blamed for something false. I am long past the point in which I believe that anybody can be blamed for anything and it simply makes me angry because of sheer stupidity of it. Because of that, I retaliated and blamed my manager for blaming me. I feel so stupid . I've seen it before. The former CEO used to erupt very frequently and the whole company was nuts. Thankfully, he retired and with only the manager left - it got better. Actually, it was! I kinda felt like a superhero and my relationship with the manager had improved for some strange reason. He seems to respect me better now. That, or I respect myself and simply not notice his fits. That's actually good advice. Too bad that it always has to be me that handles other people and has to behave sensibly... I wish that people would take care of their own suffering and defuse it.

Thank you . Kind of. I think that the lack of responses was the best response that could have happened. Many things happened over the past three weeks and I'm not sure what is a cause and what is an effect (and what's even the difference). What I do know however that I can notice that I'm much more decisive. It may be the case that I associate the buildup of energy with anger, and anger with something unpleasant. Going through such eruptions may be necessary so that I acquaint myself with myself a little more. Having experience with emotions that I fear is very valuable to me.

@YaMayka Authenticity is not something you do. You are what authenticity does. You cannot be inauthentic. Even if 'the current moment is clouded by feelings', it is clouded right now. You cannot deviate from the present moment even if you are lost in thoughts about tomorrow, or about other people's reception of your dance. There is no 'you' that is constant throughout the day. The dancer that dances alone is not the same dancer that is shy in the crowd. They both do what they do because they are who they are now. Edit: I realize that I sound as if I preached some truth to you, but I don't. I'm simply stating my experience.

@YaMayka Like I said: authenticity is not about your relationship to the public, but to the present moment. Your dancer is just shy and authenticity, or lack thereof has little to do with it in my opinion.

@YaMayka Authenticity is not about being open 100% with other people and letting them know everything you think. That's naivety. Authenticity is about being present to what you experience and reacting to that. Inauthenticity on the other hand, is trying to reconcile your pre-conceived expectations, or past experiences with the present moment. The road from the latter to the former does not lead through any path in particular, because if such path existed and could be explained, then it would be, by definition, inauthentic. It leads through realization that you cannot, in fact, ever be inauthentic.

Mostly google apps: Google keep is the most frequently used for to-do lists that are active for around a week or so. I usually collaborate on those. Google calendar with events that come up that I need to be notified about. I sometimes send out invitations for events. Google photos is my gallery. Forrest for productivity as @moon777light mentioned. I think that more advanced apps with a lot of functionality are generally not worth the effort to learn. I used to use tasker for automatic SMS responses for missed calls, but nowadays I have not much use for it. Social media are facebook and instagram, but I very rarely use them. Reddit is my time sink.

@deci belle Usually, if I have that sort of feeling is when I try to express something and I can't. Then, I say that it's on the tip of my tongue. Now, with your posts - I kind of feel like that, but they are on the tip of my ear. I understand what you're saying, but not quite. They resonate with me, but I can't understand how and I usually don't have any sensible questions to ask (it may very well be the case this time as well). I think that it would help if you said something more about potential and how it relates to inevitability of how situations unfold. Is potential karmic (cyclic)? Is not-doing related to surrendering? I think that the greatest difficulty in communicating with you stems from your rigorous use of terms that you never explain in 'ordinary' language. I understand that nothing can ever be defined, but your words do not bring clarity to me. They are more like an invitation?

Read about shadow work.

@luckieluuke From within non-dual perspective, there is no such thing as science and your question is absurd. Self-inquiry is a technique that breaks paradigms and lets you see the world without them. Science is not going to be broken down because of scientific inquiry into material reality. Science is the scientific method by which you look at the material reality. You are never going to find what science is, if you are looking with the eye of a scientist. That is because a scientist looks at what can be scientifically observed. Paradigms are self-sustaining because of ignorance to assumptions that choose what can be observed. It's a self-referential cycle that locks one into captivity. There is no need to destroy science if it is used as a perspective to solve specific problems. Self-inquiry from the point of view of science is done to shake it off from the throne of a top-level perspective that everything is reduced into. Science is not self-justifiable. Using science is very unscientific, because the scientific method has not been proven by science. What you consider evidence is predicated on your unquestioned assumptions that define your worldview. Following it is tail-chasing and will get you nowhere. I'm sorry if I sounded harsh. I had an intense day.