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Absolute gold mine. Been following his channel for a while.

This is also a big one. There is no love without freedom. If you don't want to give things to her, don't. But the relationship ain't gonna fly this way. If you want your relationship to be smooth, you want to give her things she wants. You must realize this. Relationships are an exchange of value. They are about survival. We're pretty freakin' smart animals. Give your relationship 99% instead of 100% and she will know immediately. You will know if she's not committed as well. Just 1% is enough to make you know.

Yep. But dude, surprise her. And don't be stingy. Get 30 roses out of the blue. Chicks love extremes. Go watch a romantic comedy to see what they want. They LITERALLY want THAT. Get it? Your smelly feet aren't a shit-test. They just smell like shit . Take care of them dude. Nothing sexier than a well-groomed man.

Oh, that's a big one. Can't wait to hear the gurus speak. I'm in my 6th year and I recently discovered that there is an absolute ton of things that I know that she deeply desires and that I was afraid of doing. There is no better aphrodisiac for my woman than to promise, or give her exactly what she wants. And I know exactly what she wants. So do you. All of the unnecessary thoughts about being a beta, or being taken advantage of: poof, gone. It is all a matter of choosing to be happy instead of being right.

I don't know how old are you, but I'm guessing pretty young, so don't beat yourself up too much. The teenage struggle is the same for everybody. We're just learning to be authentic, while still clinging to our parents and school circles. Extremes are necessary so that we can learn the toxic excesses of each stage. It's a dynamic. You still got plenty of time. Oh, that's interesting, never thought of that. Thank you.

The question about reason of existence in general was answered by @mandyjw. Non-existence does not exist. Poof, here we are. As for why you exist as this particular human on Earth in this particular time - this is a relative question regarding your life purpose and it can only be answered for yourself.

This is not a matter of ego co-opting anything. The setup where the ego is somehow opposed to consciousness is a delusion. This discussion is ENTIRELY a matter of being the top of the spiritual pecking order. Entirely a human, relative activity. What is funny and foolish is that you pretend otherwise because you think that survival is somehow opposed to love and pretend to be free of it. That there is no self to be found in there. This is spiritual ego and it isn't going anywhere. Go ahead, argue me and prove my point.

Insufferable fools, ARGUING about who is more enlightened, by EXPLAINING that nothing exists. How is this not a self-survival activity? I dare you to explain. Tell me that you don't exist. I dare you to open your mouth and say it with honesty and integrity. Go ahead, let's see if anyone can.

From what I've gathered, the only thing that it accounts for is HRV-based stress measurement, and (probably) workout activity. It does not take calorie intake into account, but it will detect HRV-related changes due to caffeine, etc. I find it actually pretty smart, as it may detect battery drop when I'm feeling unwell, etc. I actually own two such devices and lent one to a friend to compare results. It was pretty interesting tbh. If you have like 60% after a full day, then I'm very impressed. I usually start at around 80-90% if I stick to my sleep schedule and end the day with around 20%. I use it to track my fibromyalgia-related issues.

From what I've read on their website, the device uses more accurate readings and claim to be in accord with medical equipment 99.*%. Also, the ring seems to read temperature which is not available in the smartband. How do you find vivosmart's BodyBattery feature? Do you find it accurate? What are your energy and stress levels throughout the day?

dude, lol. Yes, you are the highest in the spiritual pecking order. You won. You even got a green nickname. Please don't beat us anymore

I'm using garmin vivosmart 4 to track my stress, sleep quality and energy levels. Does anyone have a hands-on experience with the ring? I'm interested in how it compares.

Cool

So why the death-talk? It's just a bunch of beliefs. The self will die, but I am existence itself. It is not possible for me to not exist because I don't.

Survival as a self is love and it isn't going anywhere after enlightenment.

It is clear to me, that whatever you claim to have become, it is definitely not what the OP is referring to as death. (See the first point about beliefs).

The only obstacle to enlightenment is: social conditioning and half-truths that you've taken for granted enlightenment is not conducive to survival, so the intellect will be blind to it Enlightenment is not anti-survival. It does not require you to die in a horrible way. This is a delusion. The difficulty lies in the fact that conditioning is entirely relative and nobody knows what you believe. There are no sign-posts on your road because there will be no other human that will ever travel it.

@Leo Gura Thank you.

With regards to your question, I don't fully agree with all of the statements about the identity building technologies. For instance, the professor was saying that they are distinct in that they are somehow alternatives. I believe that they stack nicely and actually correspond to how we learn and grow. Sincerity give us the tools to act efficiently in the world and integrate the work we do into our lives by giving us careers. Authenticity gives us a sense of personal empowerment, character and magnetism that we are able to express using our skills. Then, there is profilocity that enables us to genuinely advertise our sincere and authentic efforts. One could picture a Venn diagram that would show intersections between these areas. Authenticity and Sincerity creates something of a hermit. Sincerity and Profilicity, a hustler. Profilicity and Authenticity, an inspiring leader. In the middle, the three intersect as a life purpose. If you flip this description, it is easy to see the downsides of each of the technologies. When taken to the extreme, sincere identities are like the silent generation, completely dry, unrelatable and rigid, based in societal norms and duties. Authentic ones, are the unrecognized artists and geniuses that struggle to live. Profilers, on the other hand, are, plainly speaking, scam artists - a promise of a product that does not deliver.

Actually, his response was very good. If you want to take conscious ownership of the voice, you should learn to identify where it comes from (who is responsible for the beliefs its articulates). And yes, the most persistent parts of the voice actually come from your mother, since she was there with you when you were the youngest.

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@Nivsch Have to, or else what? You won't be able to do what you should be able to do? Can't you see that you are comparing yourself to an abstraction? This is not a game you can win. You are not an abstraction. There is no single person that is like you and there never will be. Ever. There is just one and single history and this history gave you OCD and anxiety. And many other things that you currently omit. You grit your teeth, take what you have, and do whatever you can. This is as good as it gets, now what are you gonna do about it? Are you going to wallow in misery? Is this how the one and only Nirvisch will live his unique, exquisite, one and only life? OR are you going to respect yourself and commit to giving yourself whatever you can to thrive? Love is not some poetic, imaginative thing that you do once per week with a diary.

You've lost your chance to address the disrespect. Move on, but learn to be conscious of your emotions on the spot. If you ever feel bad in his presence again, tell him what he does and why it bothers you. If he does not acknowledge it, makes fun of you, or whatever, avoid him. Some people will cross your boundaries to assert dominance out of insecurity. They are not worth your time. It takes practice to spot them and it is difficult to move past if you had lots of people like that in the past.

@Nivsch As you were suffering when you were a child, you were creating yourself into the man that you are right now. Look at my profile picture. It represents your psyche. The innermost layer is the infant, the outermost layer, the shell is the present moment. You want to direct your attention and love inwards, because the child needs the parent, but you don't get to rewrite your past. This child is, and will be, with you forever and the best you can do is to understand the sources of your pain, avoid them, and develop compassion for others. You will be anxious and will have OCD and it isn't going anywhere. Ever. Your job is to manage it by being conscious of the fragile child that is there with you and doing the absolute best you can to give it everything it needs. This is true love that you can give to yourself and it is indistinguishable from plain old survival. Now go, love yourself and be all that you can. Don't bother with what you can't because there is only one you and you haven't yet found how much of a treasure you are.

All children, especially masculine men, become independent sooner or later. It is painful for mothers because you were literally a part of her body for 9 months and she was supporting you for all of your life. She might have not grown out of this mindset at all. As painful as it is for her, this is none of your concern. She will fight for you to stay, and yet you have decided to pursue your dream. There is no other way. At some point, you may find a way in which she fits with your life and your relationship may rekindle. The nature of the mother-son relationship is such that you have no choice in loving her and she has no choice in loving you. She will wait until you reach out and you will want to and hate yourself for it at the same time (until you grow up). Now, you are a man. Do what you must.