Wad Morld

Cold approach is bullshit. It doesn't make you better at attracting women. A woman either likes you or she doesn't. If she likes you, she will let you know. If you approach a woman that shows you signs of interest and you act not too weird, you should have 99% chances to get her. What makes you more attractive is not the "experience of doing thousands of approaches", but it's your looks, your status, your social skills, your charisma, basically anything that shows that you are a man that can protect her. The few times i went out partying i had some women sit next to my seat, or take my hands to dance. I didn't have to do or say anything to attract them, they already liked me because of the way i looked and carried myself. You could approach a thousand a women and not get any result, because none of these women weren't choosing you, while i could just show up, approach a girl that is choosing me and sleep with her. So, give women something to choose. There isn't a particular way that you have to practice "pickup". Being aspie you have to acquire the common sense, behaviours and social skills of normal people , you know, the people that you see everyday on the street, some of them get more women than pick up artists. And i know that i shouldn't be giving advice if i don't get women, but that's because i have physical problems that make it hard for me to go out and issues about my sexuality. But this is the truth of the game that i learnt from the real players: women do the choosing.

Hi, I consider myself to be in the autistic spectrum. I have no experience with women so don't take me as an authority, but i want to share what i have learnt so far: First of all, cold approach is not a good way to meet women. Sure, it might get you used to talking to women and improve a little your skills, but it's extremely straining and requires a lot of time and energy, not to mention that the success rate is very low (depending on how attractive you are). You also run into many problems such as being seen as a weirdo and running out of women in your town. It actually is weird, no one does it, normal people don't approach women randomly like that, at least as far as i know. The truth is that women choose men (this is what some of the top players will tell you, not pua) and they choose you based on several factors like looks, status and their personal preferences (some women like intellectual men, some women like men with a perfect ass, some women like men with hairy chest). If a woman likes you she will let you know by giving you eye contact, then you can approach her and have very low chance of rejection. That saves you all the time and energy that you would have used to cold approach. By the way, the woman that "says yes" afer you cold approach 50 other women, was already choosing you. From an evolutionary standpoint, women want a man with power who can protect them. Looks and status are a manifestation of that power. Looks = height, muscles, face, your style Status = your job, your car, your social circle, your skills, your money I consider looks to be a part of status: they combine together in giving a particular perception of yourself. Everything contributes to this perception: looks, status, the way you walk, the way you speak, your smell, your hygiene, your general knowledge, your possessions, your life experiences, the quality of your clothes, your ambitions, your fears, your weaknesses your strengths, the tidiness of your bedroom. Then you have the personal preferences and you can't do anything about that. Some women just don't like Brad Pitt. Again, women choose. In other words you must think like a businessman and make yourself as perfect as you can. You should also lie a little, to hide your weaknesses (NEVER reveal your weaknesses) and to make her feel important (with compliments that you don't necessarily feel). I stress this because some aspies tend to be honest and hate lying. Truth and honesty must not be important for you in this case. What's important is getting what you want (the woman). Now let's get to the Asperger part of the issue. I identify two main components that stem from being in the autistic spectrum and those are: - Lack of skills (social, physical of whatever) - Wanting to life a particular lifestyle (loner or introvert, for example) We aspies need to learn scientifically what neurotypicals learn instinctively. Neurotypicals are like sponges, meaning that they absorbe whatever they experience. We don't, therefore we have to study to compensate. Observe people, try to see how they move, how fast they walk, how they act with their partner, what words they use, how they dress, what kind of physical contact they have and how long it lasts, stuff like that. You need to study all these things in a conscious way and try to understand the reason behind these behaviours. The best thing to do would be to get a mentor and ask him to show you and make you practice all these things. It could be a parent, a friend, or someone on the Internet (it's not optimal though). Once you'll learn all these skills, they might start to make sense to you and they'll become easier for you to perform, just like playing a musical instrument: humans are not born musicians, but with practice we can do wonders. You can always improve, but it depends on how much you actually want to: do you like women? do you like physical contact? do you see yourself in a relationship? do you like people? because all these things will impact your results. I realized that i have some of these issues, my lifestyle is not compatible with women, so maybe i'm better off alone, at least for now. The best thing would be to find a woman that suit my lifestyle, but that would be extremely rare. If you do things the right way you will always improve. My final advice is to just talk to a normal person in real life (father, friend, relative, therapist), they are much more likely to be more successfull with women than many PUAs on the internet. Again, i have little to no experience with women so don't take my advice too seriously. Hope this helps, cheers