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I don’t understand which frecuencias should I use and for what (alpha, beta, theta, etc)? Also, if someone could explain the science behind binaural beats?

How do you give emotional support to a woman as a logically minded man? How do you move from thinking logically to thinking more emotionally and star COMMUNICATING emotionally and start opening up?

After watching the episode on masculinity vs femeninity I saw the importance of, as a male, also being emotional. I’ve noticed I’m having very hard time opening up, being more emotional and not so emotionally “autistic”. I really see the need now and I’m starting to get desperate. I can’t express my self. I don’t know it it is insecurity or something like that. How can I let go and be emotionally free? I want to be able to express my self as I want. I want to experience the joy of being confident, with no worries, and I mean this to the enlightenment level. Not fake confidence, real confidence, being ok and calm even if you’ll literally die. Stage turquoise kind of confidence and attitude. @Leo Gura

Thanks!

@Salvijus Of course it is not the same looking at her in the eyes as easy as looking at my dog for two minutes, but definitely I don’t start panicking. maybe I can’t find anything to talk about because it is an even deeper level of the ego trying to defend its self that just blocks any ideas for conversation from coming up.

@Salvijus I’m very comfortable, rather the problem is that I just can think of stuff to talk about. But the actual interaction I believe it goes very well. And wen there is an interaction I can feel in the girl the rapport. But those situations are difficult to come along because I don’t want to go by as to needy. I feel like the girl doesn’t try to make. A lot of moves probably because she is nervous. btw. I don’t find things to talk about not because of a lack in confidence but bécalas I can’t simply think of stuff to say

@universe Nothing to intimate yet. The attraction phase just passed.

Yes, I’ve tried. And it is much better. A LOT better. But still I feel I could go a little deeper on the emotional/feminine energy/intimacy. Also I’m struggling to keep a balance between finding opportunities to talk to her and being to needy.( Right now I haven’t been needy, but it feels like in order to get more progress I’ll start getting to close to being needy.) I just feel some pressure to make the next move, I believe there’s another guy considering going for the same girl (his a friend of mine)

At school I had been thinking about trying to get in a relationship with a girl (who is in my class). Yesterday there was a Christmas event organized by the school where we, thestudents, have to sell food and drinks and organize games and there’s a talent show and all this kind of stuff. So, I had to sell drinks with a couple other people, including the girl that up to this point I’ve only spoken to her a couple of times during class (asked her something, explain something to her and the occasional joke, etc). Everyone were kind of bored and waiting for people to come buy to our stand (we were forced to do this by the school). So I tried going around with a cooler selling the food with a friend and we sold a couple of items, I came back to the stand (where the girl was) and she sees that we were having some fun and selling, she decides to come with me (my friend goes somewhere else so it’s just me and her). And we go offering some snacks to people, trying to get them to buy. And on the mean time we were haveing a LOT of fun and later even flirting (Keep in mind we hadn’t really talked up to this point). Then it gets late she has to leave, good bye hug, good bye kiss in the cheek (doesn’t mean anything, just a way of saying good bye where I live). But now , how do I proceed with the girl when we go back to school on Monday an everything is back to normal? How do I go in a relationship with her. We’re both 17, I’m boy and she’s a girl. Also she is of the more popular kids, I’m not (not that I feel that limits me but just thought to let you know) *IMPORTANT NOTE*: My parents are VERY closed to me having a girlfriend. They are the kind of parents who want you to have excellent grades and school is the only thing that matters and are extremely overprotective, overwhelmingly overprotective. So when this relationship happens, it will have to be kept secret. Having a girlfriend it’s a taboo for them. Naturally it is very awkward talking about having a girlfriend with them. So to summarize; How do I go from the attraction phase to “having a girlfriend” phase. And all this with my family (heavily) opposing it.

@universe I was thinking about asking her for help with chemistry (we are in exams), mostly for the 1v1 time you said. Btw, I’m factoring in all the counterintuitiveness that comes with “dating” and attracting someone. Also, what about my parents strictness?

The book Breaking The Habit Of Being Your Self, by Joe Dispenza.

@Leo Gurawhats about México Jejejeje (maybe in Cancún ?).

@Gabriel Antonio yes, which book?

Much appreciated

After watching the episode on masculinity vs femeninity I saw the importance of, as a male, also being emotional. I’ve noticed I’m having very hard time opening up, being more emotional and not so emotionally “autistic”. I really see the need now and I’m starting to get desperate. I can’t express my self. I don’t know it it is insecurity or something like that. How can I let go and be emotionally free? I want to be able to express my self as I want. I want to experience the joy of being confident, with no worries, and I mean this to the enlightenment level. Not fake confidence, real confidence, being ok and calm even if you’ll literally die. Stage turquoise kind of confidence and attitude.

@Serotoninluv How can I let go of the ego?

Unfortunately I haven’t had a chance to try a full dose of psychedelics, but I wonder how would I react/learn to Leo’s lectures if I was on some long lasting psychedelic (like shrooms/LSD) that would allow me to still be aware and understand what the video is saying. For example how would it be if I watch the “what is consciousness?” Episode on about 5 grams of shrooms? has anyone tried it?

@Leo Gura hahaha makes sense

@Leo GuraI would really appreciate it if you gave some insight on this. I’ve heard trying to answer deep questions on psychedelics is VERY helpful, but I wonder if listening to something (like one of your videos) which is very detailed and long wold be on psychedelics.

Honestly. I’ve been following and learning with actualized.org an other places for 3 or 4 years by now (I’m about to turn 18) and every new thing I learn it makes me doubt even more the purpose of school, specially at such a specific level like high school.Too many idiot rules to follow just because a teacher wants you to. And basically sacrifice almost every aspect of your life (specially spirituality) to get good grades, which are useless (even looking at them with a materialistic perspective). You’ll probably never find you life purpose at school. You have to constantly kiss the teachers’ ass to keep them happy. And on top of all this my parents are the type of parents who would be very upset if I don’t go the hard science (physics, biology, etc) rout. Is not that I don’t like school beacons I prefer to do drugs and play video games (I don’t even like that) but because genuinely think I would have a more useful and close to spirituality and life purpose education outside of school. To actually go out and learn outside a textbook, to research by my self stuff that is actually important (like health witch all I know I learnt it by my self). I just feel very restrained by school. Any solutions or advice to cope throug or how to get out of school? Leo, I would infinitely appreciate it if you answered this question.

@Alex1o1 you’re totally right. Although for some people (less actualized) this is a step to far, if you keep growing you’ll eventually start value more being alone. But because you want. You shouldn’t do it until you feel you need it (when you’re ready).

Any advice or experiences to share for teens? I discovered Actualized.org (about 1.5 years ago) I wouldn’t consider my self new to this. It’s hard to talk to anyone about this, or to take advantage of psychedelics, or to find calm and alone time to meditate, etc.

@egoeimai won’t psychedelics help with addiction?

@Outer Still live with my mother. How could I find time to try them. Any one who I trust to trip sit me is too “immature “ (spiritually talking) and he is going to distract me or panic. Probably won’t be able to take them at home alone.

I think fasting is done during prolonged meditation, but is exercise ok during prolonged meditation? Whats your overall opinion for water fasting and (not extreme) exercise during 1+ days of meditation... ?