WaveInTheOcean

yea. that's freedom. then everything becomes so full. I'm so death inside these days that everything around me feels so alive. It's pretty beautiful. “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about.” - Rumi

he is using an analogy to describe that which is indescribable "It's real and unreal unnamable unfathomable incomprehensible....THIS" yes I very much agree. But we can still try to point to it. And I personally think Rupert is very good at pointing:D But this is ofc also individual. What resonates. Listen to him again perhaps and be aware of the fact that he is just very consciously using an analogy for something which can't be described. The analogy is pointing to something, though, nothing:D

Subconsciously the woman-mind is always looking for a serious relationship or a man to raise kids. Also young women. Of course there are exceptions, but I'm talking in general terms here. From the feminine point of view. Just like , subconsciously, a man-mind is always looking for a new hot woman to inseminate. That's how survival works, bro. " but the first impression is still extremely important." Sure, it always is. The thing is though, that for a man, a large part of his first impression of a woman will largely be dependent on her looks. While for a woman a large part of her first impression of a man will largely be depend on his charm/personality/micro-expressions, basically the way he puts himself forward/talks/uses gestures/smiles/eye-contact, etc, and to some degree also what he says (not that important though). Ofc looks will also influence her first impression, but far less than looks does for a man.

This is very true. And this is also what spiral dynamics tells you. That a person's values and beliefs depend on the environment he/she grew up in. There was a time where it was useful for a woman to have a stage red boyfriend. There was a time when it was useful a woman to have a stage blue boyfriend. And so all the way up to turquiose. The more layers of maslow's hierarchy of needs that are satisfied, the less a guy/girl will focus on just survival ("me, me me") and the more they will focus on having a greater purpose, harmony between people, helping others, being useful to humanity, happiness, feelings, spirituality. Stage blue, for instance, is very useful if all you care about is law and order and safety. A "straight up" normal guy, you know where you have, and who has his standard 8-15 job and does what you tell him to (xD). Stage orange, for instance, is very useful if all you care about is success, money, expensive cars and diamond rings and social survival (power, fame and so on). Then a rich man or just a guy who portrays himself as determined and confident will be enough for a stage orange/stage blue woman. When we get to stage green, people are beyond success. They value feelings and harmony between people and between different cultures. Now, a stage green woman probably wants a guy who she can talk deeply and openly about feelings with. She wants a guy that has a purpose beyond his own myopic self-success, or that is beyond just money. When we get to stage yellow, she probably wants a guy who is very smart, intelligent, open-minded, yet pragmatic. When we get to stage turquiose, she probably wants a guy who is very deeply invested into spirituality, highly honest, highly conscious. They do, don't worry <3 This is very beautifully written. You are very much on point. Except, of course, a highly conscious person would be conscious of the need for eating and sleeping -- and even sex -- to satisfy the ego (((the lower needs of Maslow's pyramid, which IMO need to be met for basic happiness for even the enlightened master; I'm talking about the lowest three, especially the lowest two. Number three, belongingness is sort of a grey area, but I think it's needed, too. The highest two, esteem needs and self-actualization aren't needed but are still enjoyed when given))). There isn't any problem with ego per se. Only unconscious ego is a problem. Ego that has light/awareness/love shone upon it, transforms into God <3 Everyone can transcend chimp drives. Don't be conservative now. Of course, many -- in this life time -- won't. But hopefully, in future generations, as more and more people climb from stage blue to stage yellow and above, more and more will be able to fully transcend chimp drives. "But I'm not gonna bank on that when looking for a date." Which is probably why you will never meet one that has. Law of attraction, hehe. As long as you are primarily dating to just get laid, of course you will also primarily only attract pretty unconscious women. It's a self-fulfilling loop. On some level it is, yes. But another level it is also pretty wise. Depends on context. I mean, all that separates most average stage orange/green "healthy", normal people from being a Buddha: is their ego. People who are stage orange and above are quite high on the spiral. They are pretty conscious. I mean, a stage orange kind of dude treats life as if its a game..., which it is, hehe. They just aren't aware it's Love's/God's game, though, but why aren't they? Ego. This video is really cool. He's so on point in his talks about how you just need to lower your own, and thus hers, ego, to actully get a deep spiritual connection. The video isn't so much aboubt sex, or how to pick-up. He's beyond that, now, my great Connor friend. Instead he talks about you have to be honest and vulernable in a loving way in your interaction with a girl, if you want to connect with her "quickly and deeply". If you can show her that you are okay with being vulnerable, then her ego will also be weakened, because it sees that it's still possible to love oneself/others despite of "flaws". Love your fucking ego, man. After all, what is flaws? Flaws are imaginary. Flaws are something society, culture, mom/dad, peers told you existed within you. They told you you were ugly/bad, or they told you you weren't good at x or y, or that you were x or y. And you bought it and thus you acted your whole life like it was true. It's a self-fullfilling loop. You buy a belief from "others" and you live it out, and thus it becomes "true" by you living it out. Lol. Beliefs are the greatest trap in self-development/spirituality. One really has to question ALL beliefs. ALL. "Sexual attraction is not a conscious choice." No, per default it isn't. But with enough inner work, consciousness, love and of course LOTS of direct experience in the field of dating, it can become, of course. The thing is, the ego doesn't believe in "mind-knowledge/beliefs" that goes against its default programming. It has to see for itself (live it). Thus, for the ego to surrender, it has to have directly experienced lots of external things, such as getting lots of success, sex and material things, before it can accept that these things won't give it lasting happiness (because they never do, of course). Also, of course, the ego has to be shone upon by the grace of Awareness/Light/Love/God. Then it surrenders, for good and for real, naturally. "It's must wiser to go into the situation understanding that you and they are both selfish animals." Yeah that understanding is wise to have. But it's important to have both of the opposite perspectives in mind. That one one hand, we are both animals, and on the other hand, we are both Divine/Love/God. I agree with you that only buying into either of these perspectives is ignorance. We have to keep both perspectives in mind if we want to develop truth, love and consciousness in our lives. "This doesn't preclude a loving relationship." Well, it easily could if you "forget" the other -- just a true -- perspective of both of you being The Self/Love/God dancing around. If you don't see and acknowledge the divinity in each of you, then, naturally, a 'divine loving relationship' is impossible, and is never going to happen. "The entire domain of dating is basically chimps in a zoo." You believing this make it seems so. As if is the only case. It is not the only case. Yeah, on Tinder it is. And lots of places, most of USA sure, and many forums, such as this even. And to you it is, because you are still invested in pick-up world views. It isn't to everyone, though. "I like being honest and realistic about that, rather than dressing up these chimps with pope hats and pretending they are saints." This sounds like a materialist saying about the metaphysics of the world: "I like being honest and realistic about physical reality, rather than dressing the obvious materialistic world up with fancy concepts such as idealism and consciousness and pretending the world is made by some God." You see, Leo, I don't disagree with you per se, I just disagree with your conservative way of writing here, which make it seem like you take a very narrow stance on dating. Not a very holistic view. And it's funny, because you take a holistic view on almost everything, except dating and women, lol. "You are not going to change what makes a chimp want to fuck. Because the desire to fuck and the act of fucking is completely absurd and irrational to begin with. And relationships are equally absurd and irrational." But Leo! (;D) There are no chimps! There are no human beings! There is only God imagning himself/herself to be human (and lots of other infinite things). Everything can be changed. Stay open-minded in regards to dating, man. <3 Sure, the desire to fuck is absurd and irrational... from ONE perspective. From another perspective it is Divine or perhaps even very logical. Sure, relationships are absurd and irrational from one perspective. From another perspective they are absolutely magical and Divine and full of potential for growth for both parts.

But even what is "perfect tits" differs from guy to guy. I personally don't like them too big, and prefer natural. Also different shapes can each be beautiful in their own way.

Sure, they are better at reading body language. But the second part, nah. plain wrong. This is how it is for us guys. We determine within a few seconds of meeting if a girl is fuckable or not to our standard. That's not how the general feminine mind is wired, though. Sure, they can quickly determine if a guy could be someone they would find interesting or not, but in most cases, women's raw desire is something that is built up over time. And you can explain, from evolutionary psychology, why this is true. For men the important thing is just spreading our sperm everywhere. Reproduction right. For a woman, getting a baby in her stomach, is no small task. She NEEDS a man that is able to protect her while she is pregnant and her and the child during its upbringing. So of course, desire/libido is programmed to take time to build in a woman, while it's quick and fast in a man. This doesn't mean that men are more sexual beings than women. It means that they are different. Men are more quick and done, while women are more slow but also more deep (in terms of desire / sexuality).

"There is no difference between attracting a chain-smoking club slut vs a virgin enlightened unicorn soul princess." Of course, there is. I won't even try to explain why, since it should be obvious, and I take you are just playing a game now of taking an extreme point of view. Either that, or you are somehow still stuck in stage orange when it comes to dating/consciousness about the genders. "The attraction triggers are all hardwired deep in her brain stem and are the same." Aight, aight. I see where you are coming from, although I find it funny how you in some "discussions" (if we can call it that, maybe "teachings" are a better word) say to people "the brain is imaginary; it doesn't exist" as an argument, and then in others say the opposite (like here). Cheery picking the arguments that supports your different world views in different contexts. Oops I said the word, context. Yes, I'm aware, it of course depends on context, and I'm aware that you made a "Dating-forum" on this forum mostly to help clueless incels (perhaps, cos you yourself were one +5 years ago) to get laid. And clueless incels need to hear the simple -- relatively true -- 'stuff' of: - attraction is a script - learn the script and you'll get laid cos that's simple and just requires hard work and some balls. But, hey, this is not absolutely true. For once, brains are imaginary (from one perspective; a high one). ((Nothing we can say with words is absolutely true. Remember, Leo, our biggest traps is replacing direct experience with concepts. We can't eat the menu.)) It depends on context and the level of consciousness one is at. For once, attraction can be very mysterious. It can look like a script from a generalized point of view, when you look at people in general. But if you look into the individual human beings who have gotten together with what they call a soul-mate, then attraction often happened out of mysterious reasons, not because of some script. The attraction triggers can easily be reprogrammed if you just become conscious enough (sure, takes som work). I hardly watch porn anymore, cos I find it so soulless. It doesn't turn me on. You seem to still believe that 'attraction' can't be transcended. Of course it can. (EVERYTHING can be transcended). Just because you haven't transcended it, doesn't mean it can't be done. And of course you haven't. You have yet to try to be in a long-term-relationship where both you and your partner were highly spiritually developed. (Now, you might say that you have no interest in long-term girlfriends, because you 'have higher fish to catch', and that's a very fine story to tell yourself, but that also means that you will never be able to transcend something as attraction, for instance). Have you ever met an enlightened unicorn soul princess? Or is it just fantasy? I suppose, if you actually HAD met such a fantasy-girl, then you would have "picked her up", since the way you talk matters on this subject portrays you as one who knows his shit. But. Do you know your shit here? The projections are real here. Anyway, of course everyone likes sex -- also Jesus and Teal Swan. But that doesn't mean that everyone puts "pure stage-orange sex" as a top priority. What people value depends on their level of consciousness. I think you and I can agree on that. Sure, they are. But you can become conscious of it and transcend it. With "transcend" I don't mean that they stop being it (i.e. horny animals) but I mean that they can control it and guide it much much more (towards something that is in alignment with the Truth of Oneness and Consciousness and Love/God) than they could before they transcended it. This, for instance, means that yogis (men as women) who have transcended attraction will value deep, spiritual, high-conscious sex much more than just plain "getting bent over"-sex after only knowing each other for 5 minutes. (At least women will. I suppose young men can always be tricked into fucking at any time if the girl is hot enough. Ehe.) Yes. But a high-conscious girl -- as in stage turquiouse/yellowish -- will not pretend that she is special or "not that type of girl". That's a belief. I think a very high-conscious woman would surely acknowledge that some part of her self (shadow) IS in fact exactly that girl. And exactly because she is so conscious that she recognizes and acknowledges her own ego (shadow) --- i.e. is conscious of the fact that there is some part in her that just wants to be bent-over and fucked by a hugely toxic overly masculine stage-red-orange asshole psychopath-guy --- she is able to 'free herself' from it and can control it/move elsewhere when such a dude approaches her. In other words, she sees through "the game" (the script). Sounds to me like you have mostly only encountered stage yellow/greenish and below girls. And that you yourself is still stuck in stage orange when it comes to dating. Not that there is anything wrong with that. But dating for stage yellow+ girls is different than for stage orange girls. You should know that. There is no difference between attracting a chain-smoking club slut vs a virgin enlightened unicorn soul princess." Of course, the basic mechanisms underlying attraction are the same for ALL girls and guys. BUT, how they value, respond to, direct and use these "underlying forces of attraction" differs from girl to girl, guy to guy, from stage beige to stage turquiose. I mean, just take a moment to look at yourself. Who would you rather like to "pick up", a hot conscious stage yellow+ woman or a hot unconscious stage orange woman (assuming their bodies are identical in 'hotness' terms of your taste) ?? An enlightened high-conscious woman would prefer an enlightened high-conscious man as her partner. End of discussion. Same goes for the other way around. Sure, if we just talk in terms of raw unconscious attraction/pure sex/one-night-stands, then, sure, stage turqouise women and men alike will often be turned on by charming stage orange/green people, but stage turquiouse women and men don't value pure, raw sex that much, and thus they know better than to respond to these animalistic instincts. They are conscious after all. They are conscious of how attraction works, and thus they have learned/re-programmed themselves to not just respond blindly to that. Instead they, voluntarily, become "consciously attracted" to a potential partner that is on somewhat the same level of consciousness as them, at least not too big of a gap, like stage orange<-->stage turqoise... I'd never find a pure stage orange woman interesting enough to sleep with, no matter how beautiful she is. I mean sure, my dick would probably tell me otherwise, but that's no problem. Consciousness prevails. I have bigger fish to catch:D I dunno, man. You seem to still have a very generalized narrow view on women and what attracts them. Like the view is very much coloured by some aspect of your ego you have yet to transcend.

Yeah, if you are just focusing on getting lots of superficial sex with fine, unconscious women, then sure, you need the right bait. But if you are looking for a potential high-conscious soulmate, then to hell with "skill sets", fishing, and bait. Here, honesty, consciousness and real Self-Love are the "skill sets" you want to apply.

on the surface. For instance, "detacahment from outcome" ... yeah they present themselves that way outwardly, but inwardly all assholes are attached as fuck to their own ego and thus also outcomes; otherwise they wouldn't be assholes:-)

LOL HAHAhaha. For god's sake man. this line is gold "since I've decided to be a chimp and not persue the Hero's Journey, I feel like not being bad wouldn't be authentic to me." No. You are being inauthentic. You cannot not be, unless you start actually valuing honesty and consciousness and love. You see. since you - after all - are so conscious of yourself/reality that you can acknowledge that you have chosen to be a chimp, that means that the only way forward in life for you is to transcend that, i.e. move up the spiral towards yellow and beyond. You see, on a conscious-level you are obviously green or higher ,since you can be so self-reflection/self-conscious. My point is, you are not the real deal for the girls. That's why you're far from being a casanova. If you really were a true unconscious chimp/badboy/prick, then you'd get more girls. Also if you started taking your own spiritual path seriously and started consciously to not-act-like-a-chimp and instead pursue Love/God (that is: your higher/true self: consciousness/awarenesss), then you'd start finding that higher-developed girls would start finding you interesting. After the stage orange ego have been fed up with enough superficial sex with other stage orange/stage blue girls, then it will eventually start to put less value on the amount of sex it gets, and instead focus on self-actualization/development and the quality of sex/women (being attractive to stage green and above-girls).

how you integrate? you go with the flow and follow your heart and reflect a lot on what happened and ponder how you can integrate the insights into your life -- how you'd like to change as a person.

I have much respect for the dear Ralston, but it's never not silly how a master will always still be blind to some parts of himself.

what happens -- at "final" enlightenment -- is that the ego surrenders so much to the truth of Infinite Love that it sees its own unreality. From there on freedom and peace awaits.

changa perhaps. easier to break through on through a water bong, since u can smoke it without destroying the sacred molecule. u cant smoke pure dmt, because that destroys the molecule

This is absolutely fascinating. I'm totally mind blown over this: Read the text produced by the GPT-3 AI and also read the twitter comments below. Perhaps also read the philosophers' essays. GPT-3's ability to be aware of its own limits and inner working is seriously fascinating. Exciting times ahead. Terrifying also.

Less is more. You can have ego death on 0 g of shrooms Try 3 g next time Also ginger helps against nausea

mhm. do you have an internal, independent representation of what words mean?

loving someone can never be a substraction. Loving one's family and no-one else is just a very narrow focus of the radiance of infinite love. The point of life is to make this focus as wide as possible:-> Yes, Jesus was talking about self-realization. And your familiy members often do not support your own awakening/self-realization since they are afraid that your infinite freedom will make you fly away from them. Ego wants things to stay the same, as long as survival is maintained. Homeostasis.

The "worst" form of ego is denial of ego, ignorance, unconsciousness. Self-deception. The "best" form of ego is selflessness, empathy, love, consciousness, acceptance of self-deception/ego-

meditation, exercise, visting a psychologist, psychedelics/mdma at some point lots of things to do leo has a video on forgiveness. watch that one perhaps keep your head up, life is full of possibilities <3

dont hate/judge yourself for failing at goals like diet etc. we are all humans, we all fail to be God everyday. besides that. do it man. do what you heart tells you. move. dont always think too much, but *do* instead. let's go <3

<3 <3 <3 true love is unconditional (true as in when it shines most clearly and bright,... cos love is always what *is*.., it's just hiding from itself quite often... hide'n'seek being God's favorite game in town to play).

" why God would create men with micropenises?" To test how loving he can be despite of that. You are God. Will you be able to love yourself despite of a micropenis? That's the test. All of life with all its struggles and miseries can be seen as God's love-test. also, your personality is 100x times more important to most healthy women than how your cock looks. If you can love yourself and thus be full of charm, humour and confidence and radiate warmth and love around you DESPITE of you having a micro penis -- or whatever other "serious external health problem" you can have -- then she may even be more impressed of you than if you had a big cock.

Watch and learn women: Watch and learn @Leo Gura: