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Thanks for asking I have two really close female friends and one male friend who is a previous partner. I recently moved so they are in a different state and I have yet to make any solid friends here. I have a couple internet friends, too. I get a lot of social interaction through my jobs. I've made friends and met lovers while working and I feel lucky to be able to interact with such a wide range of people. I used to be a dog-walker too and that required a huge amount of social abilities. I date and occasionally meet people through dating apps. I'm very introverted naturally and used to be cripplingly shy but in the past few years have been making massive strides to get out of my shell and am becoming the "good with social stuff" person I've always wanted to be. Hating people and being extremely judgmental of them is such a drag. I rarely (if ever) feel physically alone. I have a very supportive family and again, lots of social interaction through my work. However, I often feel spiritually alone. I do wish I had more friends that I could connect with on things like art, psychedelics, spirituality etc. Men need to know not to be too nice. I appreciate the sentiment but I like a man who isn't afraid to take control and who can treat me like a slut sometimes

Sometimes I like to send a flirty text right after a date, something like: "X, I had such a nice time with you tonight! :)". Should you text him now? Hmm. If you do, think of something fun and flirty you could say. Leading with desire: "I've been thinking about you since our last meeting, I love the talks we have and I long for when we can meet again ;)" or something to that effect! Do not keep it cold!!! There's your problem:) Often times a man won't show flirty interest super obviously right away. That doesn't mean he's not interested. He may be shy or unsure if you're interested, especially if you're acting cold! What you need to do is flirt anyway. Let loose, lay it on. Of course, be genuine about it, but do not be shy to show your goddess and feminine. Open your heart, do not wait for him to lead in that regard.

Maybe? I'm not an expert but it sounds like it's pointing to something.

What makes you think that? You don't get to go into a church and start preaching about the devil. In life, there will be spaces where you don't get to express your views 100% freely. This is normal. There are many forums on reddit where you can talk about conservatism etc.

For whoever needs this... If you're depressed or maybe you have ADHD and struggle doing basic chores like the dishes: clean just one or two And that's it. You don't have to do the whole pile. Cleaning one dish will help you feel better about yourself because you did the thing despite your state. One dish is often very doable even in super challenging times. Also, it's OK if you can't even do one. It's just nice to have options if you're being hard on yourself for not cleaning at all. I love this trick because I often find myself cleaning several dishes anyway even though I never expected to.

I LOVE getting a club soda or sparkling water at the club or a bar. Get it in a pint glass with ice, a lime and a straw! It's super tasty, looks like you're drinking and makes you feel a little special.

Do you know Abraham Hicks?

There's no hard rules on the matter. It can be really powerful to be recognized for the job you did especially if it comes from a genuine place and from someone you respect.

@Ananta I'm so glad you're ok that sounds terrible. I've been in a couple wrecks and they definitely leave an imprint.

You need to turn a lot of this energy into physical motion if you have a genuine desire to meet people. If it's coming from a "should" mindset you're not going to get very far. It is hard to meet people and you're going to have to open up to the idea that not everyone will be perfect according to your standards. In fact there is a TON you can learn about yourself (what you want out of friendships and your own shortcomings) and life in general just by meeting with literally anyone. Even the TV-watching, lazy, shallow ones.

Comics are art, a form of creative self-expression. I'm not a big comic lover but I find them entertaining, clever and thought provoking at times.

Pushing your body to extreme limits is not healthy.

My ketamine story suits this forum. Several years ago I snorted some at a party. I had been drinking, which intensifies the effects of ketamine. At this point in my life I had several psychedelic trips under my belt. As soon as it entered my body I felt really heavy and had to get down onto the ground. The heaviness intensified and I felt ill so I crawled to the door and onto a patio to lay on the ground. At this point I couldn't physically move and began getting intense visuals. Not colorful psychedelic visuals though. My whole world tilted laterally and I entered into a black hole of sorts. It was just blackness that had a quality of depth to it. Infinite darkness that dove deeper and deeper and deeper. It didn't stop and I was very scared. As it kept going I thought to myself "what is this?" and as it continued I was like "oh yea, it's God." I had some familiarity with God already so I was open to seeing it. The experience lasted for what seemed like quite some time and I spent the rest of the night recovering from the whole thing as the body load was extreme to the point I couldn't walk for hours. I don't recommend it. It's dark and I saw several people get addicted and lose themselves in it. But if you do try, make sure you trust the source, the people you are with (don't do it alone), and the dose you take. Also, no drinking with it. Professional ketamine therapy is gaining traction these days as well so it does have healing properties when used correctly.

This or nicotine gum, it gives a buzz. Anything to get you off the smokes. They're so addictive that it's normal to have to taper off with a different nicotine ingestion method.

@Gabith there are actual classes you can take to desensitize you from phobias. The way it works is they gradually expose you to the trigger so you are no longer bothered by it.

@PepperBlossoms it may be helpful for you to grieve. Cry for yourself that you made this mistake, for the person you hurt, for the loss of how things used to be. Allow yourself to feel the pain and have it move through you.

@assx95 maybe they sensed the conversation wasn't going anywhere and got bored.

Somatic Experiencing. You can look it up online but finding a practitioner woupd be most effective.

What are some of the traits of a high quality woman? Here's a few I came up with: Takes care of and nourishes her body Dresses nice and clean Able to laugh and enjoy herself Is kind to people and animals Has hobbies Is in touch with her own spirituality and wildish nature Is confident in her sexuality Knows what she likes

@roopepa you don't have to wait for an official diagnosis from doctor. Self-diagnosis is valid.

Thats how comments online work sometimes.

@meta_male it can be really helpful to watch videos of other people going through a dark night. This man's YouTube has some good videos that you may like. https://youtube.com/channel/UCVv4cVyjKgc3EkFF7-lAwOA Also, don't try and escape it. It's a great teacher and you will learn a lot. Take care of yourself.

Yes. There is research that says regular use severely depletes your serotonin, forever. https://www.drugabuse.gov/publications/research-reports/mdma-ecstasy-abuse/what-are-mdmas-effects-on-brain

@Kamo desensitize means you will have a hard time feeling. But thats only if you use it heavily. Some damage will occur with light usage but it won't be very significant.

*entheogen