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Do you have this idea that guys just go out and do all the work? I wish. It takes a lot to attract a man that's worth your time in even just the bedroom.

Actually, the things I wrote are feminine specific. Guys can do them too but these are some things I do to attract a man. To be an invitation to his masculinity. Yea plenty of guys can just go out and ask any random woman on a date. But a woman who wants to attract a high value man will show up herself as high value.

So freaking much. I'm really focusing on softening my body and being in touch with my pleasure. Opening my heart instead of closing it. Dressing nice and being well put together. Taking care of my physical being. Having good posture. Being mentally upbeat and engaging. Generous with my energy and not just sucking value from the man. Being relaxed and fun, moving my body, smile and laugh a lot, responding to him. Not being stiff and uptight.

Thank you!

Yea exactly. I am a seemingly "separate self" who still must deal with "human" problems. Do you go about your life saying there aren't "solutions" because the problems are actually "imaginary"? I'm trying to wrack my brain for a world where I would always default to remembering that I am imaginary and there isn't any "real" me when I'm faced with emotions. It upsets me when I say something about my life and someone comes in and says "remember, your "self" is just an illusion". That's armchair philosophy in this context. Is this what actualized.org teaches? To deal with life this way?

Men are physically stronger than women and women are more emotionally tuned in than men.

❤ But I'm not arguing this. I stated things I notice in myself and ways I deal with my emotions and you said they're not real. That doesn't help me. Are you saying you meditate on nothingness? Is remembering nothingness a way to deal with life problems? I want to know what the practical aspect of remembering the non-real quality to reality is.

Resistance is normal too tbh. It would make things easier to not have it though haha

There is a lot to be learned! It's not enlightenment, it's just dealing with life-stuff.

No its not gaslighting. Death doesn't matter and is an apparent function the body must deal with but we talk about it all the time as being imaginary. Where does it end? Hunger? Ugh.

I know you're not trying to criticize me but this is really frustrating This is exactly what you are doing. I see concepts everywhere. I don't see enough non-concepts. That is one part of liberation. Liberation is multi-faceted. That and, I'm a human who feels and expresses a wide range of emotions.

often I often have a problem with your responses lol ❤ Why not say something like this when you're hungry? You're hungry? Oh it's not real. Maybe, but that doesn't help anything!

@EmptyVase if sensitive, almost any dose of mushrooms will show dmt realms. But I think you have to know what these realms look like first, so actually having that dmt experience helps.

It can be helpful when done appropriately and with wisdom. When I'm going about my daily life and something is bothering me, I rarely try to stop my suffering by saying "it doesn't matter" and instead actually try and go into my feelings. I used to default to "it doesn't matter" all the time because I lacked the knowledge on how to properly deal with my emotions so instead was just spiritually bypassing and mentally masturbating.

I got my second dose of Pfizer finally. I had a sore arm, ever so slightly stuffy nose and was tired the next night. I got my first dose back in January so if you're like me and chickened out on your second dose you can still most likely get it no problem.

Awesome!

The episode "Reality is a Strangeloop" mentions: 'listen to this episode right before and not during a psychedelic trip' I would love to see more content like that. Not something geared for super-newbies but medium-newbies

I'm locking this thread because everything that needs to be said has been.

Quick question for the ladies and then another for the guys... Girls, do you like to wait an amount of time before having sex with someone? Men, does a girl gain your respect for putting off sex until she feels she's more ready? Currently in a situation where I actually like a guy (possible potential for relationship, we'll see...) and don't want him to think less of me for giving it up early (it could on our second date). On an even more personal note, I've slept with 4 men this year (2 one night stand type situations and 2 couple month long dating situations) already and have been feeling a bit wary to share my sexual energy with "just another guy". But I do see more potential with this current one than the others. Is having sex on the second date a turn-off? feeling worried I will ruin something and not earn his respect...?Hearing lots of conflicting things and I'm just not sure so want some of your wisdom.

@Isaac k Don't pray pray a lighter load, but for broader shoulders. Trying to avoid the pain will only make it last longer. Be a friend to your depression. It will help you grow. After struggling nearly my whole life it just started slowly going away as I become the person of my dreams.

Feel it out a bit. If you realize you made a mistake you can always change directions.

Nope. Don't do it. Watch you thoughts too because even if you're not talking, you might be silently talking shit which isn't really a change of heart.

@Isaac k I have felt grateful for my depression because it's lit a fire under me to continue seeking. It can take a long time to feel better, but it is possible so don't give up. Do you have hope? Try to keep that in mind as you move forward.

And that is where gratitude comes from... I was thinking about who we are saying "thank you" to like, when we see something beautiful in a psychedelic trip (for example), or nature. And this came to mind. I realized that when I say thank you, I am saying thank you to God, my higher self. Sometimes, the magnitude of the blessing leaves nothing left to be said except thank you, thank you, thank you.

Is worship a spiritual game? What should I do instead?