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Yeah made my list of people for openings(what kind?).Served me well. Good training I guess. That's a non-sequitur if ever I've seen one. Man, you speak in riddles.

@sethman good to hear. What was your takeaway from the Jacques Derrida video then?

@intotheblack Because they're misogynistic whining manchilds. Obviously my comment is not productive and possibly inflammatory, but it does make me feel better.

Don't be daft there are no "right" words. Right according to whom, you? Watch this video for an explanation as to why - it's only two hours long:

@fish what are you saying? This forum is more delicious than an Italian ice cream parlour.

You have nothing to prove. Let people believe what they want to believe, you can't please everyone. In fact, just stop talking to the neighbour, that will give a stronger message. Obviously be civil, say "hi" if you bump into them but keep it to a minimum.

The normie force is strong within you. Only your thoughts are going round in circles. Why not aim to escape from the prison of your thoughts? Meditate regularly. Walk in nature. Learn to play an instrument. Have sex. Do something out of the ordinary. Therapy probably won't help, it's just more thoughts. But I'm no therapist.

And that explains precisely nothing. Leo's audience needs explanation, he's not preaching to the converted. Explanation takes lots of words. Leo has to convice his audience of what he's saying. The more esoteric the video, the longer he needs to explain things, which is why his videos have got longer. What you're saying is like saying that War and Peace should just be ten pages long, because most of it is fluff. Yes, maybe, but then you lose all the nuance and guts of the story and all the juicy details. You should be able to focus for a few hours on anything without it being a problem. Here's a short video for you:

Ah yes, love. We all need love me included. It's not a bad need to have, but it is a need that never seems satisfied. There are so many ways to trigger it within yourself. Where we go wrong is to think too narrow: "I will only feel love in a relationship with this particular person". Love is everywhere in many different forms.

Is it though? Some of us seem to be drawn to creating our own thought prisons: no free will, solipsism, no self, illusion of reality etc. We get a melancholic thrill from it. And we use it to stop ourselves going any further into the scary unknown.

What do you need? A man, a relationship, the love from a relationship, not to be alone, something else?

Coincidence only happens if you are aware of it. It's the active process of awareness that is weaving together reality. That awareness is intelligence itself. Everything is just luck and coincidence.

A value is like a thought story compressed into one word. To see it just ask yourself for example: "Why do I value authenticity?" and out comes the story. All values are like this, there are many aspects to them. In a sense the word used for the value has no absolute meaning, something like "love" is just a placeholder for a whole story about love. You could replace "love" with "excitement" and some of the elements of both those values would overlap. Because they are just stories, your "authenticity" would be slightly different from someone else's "authenticity" - it's all relative. Meaning comes from emotion and identification with something. We say something is meaningful if it contains some truth or has some sort of emotional charge behind it. When you have a value of "being kind" for example, it's not because it's innate but because you have an emotional response to the story of "being kind". And, because you have the positive emotional response you identify with it. Maybe you imagine being kind to a person and it makes them happy, and you get a good vibe from this thought story, and then that makes it meaningful to you.

Would you say that is done through character assasination? Or is it more commonly just shunning someone?

@UDT sorry miscommunication - I meant I'm the fan boy not you. I was just proving your point about fan boys and bloody corpses. Anyway, moving on...

I think you forget that his audience is not scientific. The only reason a scientific presenter can speak so concisely is because s/he uses a lot of scientific words and is speaking to a scientific audience. Leo also uses some jargon (god, ego, enlightenment and so on), but mostly it's plain English, so it takes a lot longer to explain. Also, unlike a scientific seminar Leo uses lots and lots of examples to make his stuff easier to understand, and this takes extra time. I'm sure Leo prepares plenty. There's no way he could talk about what he does without solid preparation. [Leo fanboy, I'm looking at you @UDT]

Truth is unchanging.

Why not press pause and watch the rest another day?

What are you? It seems like if you strip away all the things that are not you, you aren't left with much. For example, if you lose a limb are you still you? It would seem so. So you are not that limb, or that limb isn't needed to define you. It quickly gets metaphysical. It appears that you could be a kind of disembodied (i.e. limbless) entity that observes or senses the world. In this view your body and the rest of the world is observed and is in some way separate from the actual you. I like to think of it like a bar magnet: You can see the lines going from North to South. You are the observer in the South pole sucking in everything from the world in the North pole. If you cut the magnet in half width-ways you get two magnets each with their own North and South; hence there are many observers in the world, each observing their own version of the world. Looking at this analogy the world (North pole) emanates activity and the observer (South pole) passively sits there taking it all in. But it's worth noting that without the South pole, the lines have nowhere to go, and without the North pole, there are no lines to observe. The whole is a system one part co-dependent on the other. Can we do better than this analogy? Notice how the field lines seem to circulate out and then back in. If you were to remove the magnet, but keep the lines it would form kind of circuit perpetually going round and round. Also notice that the field lines have no edges, it fills all of space in all directions. You could imagine how these circuits of field lines are self-sustaining, once they get going. There's also a sort of centre to the circuits where all the field lines squash tightly together into nothingness. So maybe, you're a self-perpetuating field of something? You are everywhere and are neither observer or observed, but both simultaneously. You have an ill-defined centre from which everything springs and is subsumed. This centre is the thin slice of the present moment, and all the lines are awareness or consciousness. That is what you are.

Five is too small a sample size to make any firm conclusions from. Take a deep breath and try 100 (not in a day!). If 100 flake then you have to change something. On the other hand, if you try anything 100 times you'll get much better at it. Practice, practice, practice and patience.

Yeah, biology still counts. It's like there's a little computer whirring away in the background adding up all the pros and cons for every man or woman you meet. It's just the computer runs different programs for men and women. The program doesn't really care about what you think consciously, most of it is subconscious. It doesn't care if it's a one night stand or something longer term, or fun, or FWB or pickup or anything really. Regardless if it's sex or not, you still need a relationship to bring up a child. The path is: attraction > relationship/sex > pregnancy > child > adult >more babies. That's the evolutionary program.

Long live this thread! Bump.

You put it better than I did. @Gabith it takes practice to be able to lead and you should always be ready for it. If the women wants to talk, of course let her. Good, own it, display the hair for all the world to see. Being confident and self assured is more important than appearance every time. Appearance is just the icing on the cake.

@Preety_India compliment gratefully received