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@NightHawkBuzz what do you think you've learned from your stupid decisions? Have you ever acted and made good decisions?

What, female composers? You betcha:

One of things I aim for in this journal is openness. There's definitely a fine line to be walked here. I don't mean in terms of not airing my dirty laundry - although some things are too dirty to air - I mean not falling into the "look at me" trap. I'm effectively anonymous here, which makes being open easier (saying that, anyone with two brain cells to rub together and enough motivation could work out who I am, but I'm probably half a world away from you physically). Maybe trap is too strong a word here. There's a lot of unconcious types of "look at me" type behaviour. Some categories might be: "look at me", peacocking, virtue signalling, being brash and intrusive, faux humility, drama, having something to prove, sageness, stroky beard wise mage behaviour, pure narcissism, put everyone down troll (i.e. "you're all idiots I know best"). The essence of all these types of behaviour is to get attention in some way, and by extension to receive the love of people (on here mostly from familiar strangers). But what else are we all doing by publicly journalling, other than just getting attention for our woes and ideas? Isn't that the whole point? To counterbalance the unconcious or sometimes conscious attention grabbing, the other thing I try and aim for is just being spontaneous and coming from a place of genuine exploration. This aspect is more introspective but also sharing oriented. I want to share myself for the sheer love of doing it. I want my love to go outward without expectation of response or attention grabbing. Everything else that hangs off that is a bonus. When people respond to something I write that resonates with them, I get a nice fuzzy feeling (probably oxytocin ha!). I post to try and explore and work through my problems, and to help others do the same even obliquely, and sometimes I just post spontaneous shit, because I'm a human with spontaneous wit - and I hope that someone sometimes clicks with my own particular brand of quirkiness. What am I trying to say? Dunno. Be the light, warmth and love, don't be a black hole sucking everything in.

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@WokeBloke you're right it's all a matter of definition. What anything "is" is always a problem of how it's defined. Here's my personal broad definition just for fun: Thought: A non-tangible (from Latin to touch) experience that you take ownership of. So the ownership thing. You can divide the world into things that emanate from you: your actions, thoughts, physical presence, and everything else (not you). You definitely don't need words to think. Just picture yourself walking on a tightrope or think about your favourite tune.

I'm alive, it seems like carrying on is the path of least resistance. So I don't need to give myself reasons to live, I only need to give myself reasons not to live: but that sort of ideation is a waste of being alive. Meaning and purpose is just icing on the cake of living.

Are you a secretly a perfectionist? No matter how wise and together you are, there will always be situations that turn you into an idiot. That's the joy of living. You secretly long for everything to fall perfectly into the scheme inside your head. That intricately and well rehearsed world you thought of yesterday crumbles away today; you're just playing a game of controlling the world through thought. It makes you anxious, neurotic. There's a better way and that's to give up control. Giving up control doesn't mean giving up everything and being bullied by stark reality. It just means giving up on your pefectionism. Idealism is perfectionsim, ideology is perfectionism, optimism is perfectionsism, pessimism is perfectionism, bigotry is perfectionism, narcissism is perfectionism. Instead you want to sway with the wind, bend your branches a bit, lose a few leaves. Non-perfectionism means being nimble and changing yourself as the reality in front of you changes. It means being present. It means mastering yourself, not only because mastery requires you to think on your feet, but also being prepared for any eventuality: this is the art of being alive. Out of non-perfectionism you can ever grow and stretch yourself, be shaped and moulded by the intelligence of nature around you; freeing yourself from the prison of your perfect world and stepping out into the awe and beauty of a seemingly imperfect reality.

The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away.

General chit chat on all things DMT, very interesting:

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I have high hopes for him (lol). must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work I've been designing a new programming language, it's been on and off the last few years. I kind of work like that, a project lays dormant for a year and then I get the itch again to start tinkering. The programming language is to compile down to 8-bit machine language, so I can write a new retro game for original 80's equipment. I have a BBC Micro in my cupboard which sometimes sees the light of day, but mostly I use an emulator since it's easier than spending twenty minutes setting up my old micro. I started to write an adventure game, you know Go North, Take Lamp type of game in 6502 assembler. More accurately I wrote an engine that would take the game description, possible moves etc and then that would create the assembler code. The thing that makes me drop a project are when I hit a wall of some description. This happens often in programming. In this particular case I had immense problems with needing to use recursion (searching rooms for objects, where objects could be inside other objects), I thought I would just let it stew and get back to it. It's been two years. In the interim I thought I would create a new programming language so I could actually crack the recursion problem and program the adventure game in that new programming language instead. I'm nearly there. Except. I'm stumped at implementing recursive functions, as I have to do variable address allocation and follow the function call-chain around, but my compiler hangs and runs out of stack space because it follows the recursive function calls around and around forever. I'm sure there's a link with spirituality here... Anyway, it's all very niche and esoteric stuff, my own private land of fun to play in. must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work As the year winds down and so does Covid restrictions, I feel like I should be getting out more. I've had something on nearly every weekend for the last few months. But I think what I'm lacking is exploring new things. I want to get to see some live bands, I'm happy to go solo, but I'm notoriously bad at remembering to look stuff up and booking it. I also want to learn to fly, I must just, book it - a friend of mine is also interested in this. I definitely want to get some art galleries and museums in - in my defence I did go to the Royal Academy the other week, so big tick. Some theatre might be good too, several friends may be interested in that. And I need to decide what to do for Christmas, I've already got two different sets of friends invite me over, must choose, or contact my Dad and see him in Dublin instead. He's as bad as me about Christmas however, so it won't be very Christmassy, but it will definitely cheer him up to see me. I want to travel, I want sunshine and warmth, I fell in love with Italy and may go again. I also have an invite from my sister to see her in the states. I also feel like it would be fun to take my nephew out and indulge his nerdy love of coffee in some way, maybe there's some sort of coffee exhibition probably in London? Who knows! must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work I know I know I'm starting work now, it's 11:13. Music to work to: must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work Ok, I'm super distracted this morning, still haven't started work. I've also been playing chess nearly every day, thanks to Chess.com. My blitz rating has seen a steady linear increase over the last few months since I started. Very frustratingly I wiped out my hike of a hundred rating by consecutively losing about ten games. I realise this is all part and parcel of mastery, one step forward two steps back. It's all about calibration, whenever you're learning something new, new knowledge and techniques need time to bed in. Whilst that bedding in is happening everything suffers: the rating goes down. But once that's happened everything accelerates, I suspect my rating will rebound. Of course with chess actual stufy of techniques (opening, middle and end game), gives you great advantage, at the moment I'm just plucking the low lying fruit of learning through repetition and just playing the game. My rating in the slower games (30 minutes instead of blitz 5 minutes), is about 200 higher because I can take my time and think about things and not make idiotic moves. But mastery requires both, quick thinking and slow thinking. That's the point of all mastery, you cover all the angles in depth. Ok, I'm working now 11:28. must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work must work

Where do people go when they die? Is this question even a question? Going somewhere implies a destination that isn't here, where could that be? I'll dig into a bit more. We can start with the division between being alive and not being alive. If you zoom right out and take the Earth a whole, it's clear that what it means to be alive is highly concentrated there. When you look elsewhere at other planets or whatnot there's no signs of life whatsoever. It looks like life if synonymous with planet Earth. It's clear that living beings are constituted from the Earth, they constantly take in food to fight entropy (destruction) and excrete waste. So a living being is a complex physical/chemical process in segue with the environment of Earth. Earth itself has many processes in feedback loops such as the water cycle and carbon cycle and thermohaline circulation. So Earth itself is a complex set of processes and could be said to be living. Even if Earth itself is not living, it's clear that the dividing line between a living being and the Earth is hard to pin down because the Earth evolves living beings and living beings modify the Earth, living/non-living are in complex feedback loops with each other. At one extreme you can take the system as a whole and say Earth is a living organism, and "life" is a strict subset of that one organism. When a person dies, the delicate cascade of chemical feedback loops is interrupted and shuts down. That is physical death. The answer to where does a person go is: nowhere, they are chemically disassembled and reconstituted elsewhere into other life or back into the organism of the Earth. Earth is not the centre of the universe, instead it circles the Sun, because the Sun is more massive. But it is at the centre of life, it is more full of life than anywhere else. My gut intuition tells me that the Earth is the only living being in the universe (at the moment). What about a person's consciousness and other non-physical attributes? If we presuppose that a person has a consciousness (they could be a p-zombie), then we have to ask the question about whether their consciousness is separable from their body. Because if their consciousness is separable it could be that it doesn't need a body to continue existing. This would seem unanswerable, because how do we check for a disembodied consciousness? How do we interact with a pure non-physical thing, how does it interact with us? It seems like there's a symmetry here. Being alive seems inseparable from the Earth and being conscious seems inseparable from being alive. I don't think that's a coincidence at all. If the Earth is a giant organism, then it could be said to have one consciousness - its own. As disambiguated individuals we are like the limbs of the organism of Earth, and we share in its consciousness. I'd go one step up and make the three the same: Earth/Consciousness/Life is one thing, the same thing. I suspect there isn't a hierarchy of containment, Earth, Consciousness and Life are on an equal footing and interchangeable. Looking at our deaths as indvididuals is asking the wrong the question, only Earth/Consciousness/Life carries on.

I have a soft spot for street art, especially graffiti. It can be clever and ephemeral. Why should art just be confined to galleries and stately homes? Where I used to live in Brighton seems to be a kind of epicentre for it, or at least it's well tolerated there. Anyway, here's a scenic walkthrough of some of the stuff I've taken pictures of over time. Brighton: John Peel (Brighton) I think the kissing policemen is a Banksy and had to be protected from vandalism: A recurring character: Pisa or Florence (can't remember which): Vienna: This one had a mirror in it! New Zealand: London: Belgium: Devon: Spain: Someone felt the need to show their undying love, it's sweet: Some picture keep duplicating don't know why...

Mixing relationships and physics. When a new person enters our spacetime there is a kind of gravitational pull. The pull can be weak and far away or strong and close. This is not necessarily sexual but just a kind of resonance between people. You both begin to enter into a kind of gravitational embrace circling each other for a while. The revolutions can be slow and weakly felt; that acquaintance you see every six months, other times it's a wild merry-go-round exciting or nauseating. Everyone is affected by each other's gravity, spacetime is warped, we inevitably warp and change each other. But gravity can be unstable and chaotic, it's equations tell us that much, and our closest planets get flung out far into the void. We feel the loss and readjust our web of gravity, but their perturbations have already changed us and we are imprinted with them and them us - no one is ever truly lost or completely forgotten.

I've never really had much of a sense of shame or regret for my actions. I think it comes from not having engaged with myself much emotionally in the past, it just never really made much sense to me. I've taken a more utilitarian view of my mistakes: I made them, I apologised where I needed to, I put things right where I could, and then I moved on. This feels like enough for me. The idea of ongoing self-flagellation or deep shame for my actions never fully connected. Is this a failing of mine? I don't know. I do know that I'm not a psychopath and completely lacking in empathy. In fact my empathy muscle has got stronger over the years both in terms of feeling other's plight and also expressing empathy, it comes more naturally nowadays. I think when I was younger I was far more dismissive of people's emotions and what I saw as emotional hangups. I just couldn't understand why holding a grudge or unresolved emotion for any length of time was actually productive in any sense. On the whole I took people at face value and expected the same from others, most people seemed to understand I was this way, but I also put many people's noses out of joint - some people really didn't click with me at all. Again, I just didn't care if someone didn't like me, it made no difference to me. This kind of binary hot/cold response from people dogged me most of my life. Particularly in a work setting I didn't suffer fools or pander to people's emotional reactions, this even got me effectively fired from one job, because the big cheese just didn't click with me in any way, I just wasn't interested in playing to his tune. To layer on top of that, I had a certain amount of social anxiety which made me socially awkward at times. If I connected with someone, then I could be fluid and relaxed with them, but a lot of the time there was awkwardness on my part and I was always very aware of it. The awkwardness in my case was a symptom of hyper-awareness, I would pick up on someone's body language or tone and I wouldn't know what to do with it, and then that would make me behave awkwardly. This ongoing social awkwardness eventually came to head, I simply got fed up with it. I regularly wondered if I was autistic (I still do sometimes) and that I would never be comfortable socially which depressed me. The equation was simple: lack of empathy plus social awkwardness equals autism (although I have other tell-tale traits). In the end I broke down, I simply had to change myself or off myself, I couldn't continue the way I had. What I've learned is that I can be more empathetic if not more emotional with it. The realisation is that empathy is not emotion, it's just that most people connect the two as some sort of natural law. Empathy is really understanding, and understanding comes either from your own experience or by having enough interest to learn what's going on with the other person. Paradoxically having had a kind of breakdown, I'm a lot more empathetic towards people and particularly with bad mental health, I now have a deep understanding of how helpless and confusing it can be. I also know that it's possible to navigate through it and come out of the other side. Also, I have learned to connect with my emotions more deeply and listen to what they have to say. I'm a lot less socially awkward than I was. I was always and still am interested in people; I've learned to tone down my hyper-awareness in social situations and just "go with the flow" and "be present", it's the moments when I'm not in flow that I become awkward and it still happens sometimes. I think that hyper-awareness of body language came from being very visual with my mum, as she was congenitally deaf and I had to have a highly refined feel for eye contact and facial expression. I eventually realised that I did have social nous and I wasn't autistic, or if I was it was possible to overcome it, largely, in my case. I still struggle with some social aspects, but I'm more rounded now: I opened the door to my prison. There are still things in my past which I feel regret or cringe about, I know I behaved in a hurtful unempathetic manner at times. I suppose this is me confessing to strangers, but that's fine, it's only ever our own conscience we have to make peace with. Some damage can't be undone not really, the past is immutable, I can only try and be a more loving person now.

I suspect we all have parts that are embarrassing that we wish we didn't have or would just go away. Maybe it's less to do with blind acceptance and more to do with giving those parts love and positivity, acknowledging them for what they are. For some recontextualisation: I would say tarot and astrology work by giving you a way to tap into your intuition in a concrete way. And fantasising gives you mental rehearsal for the real thing, so you can have more solid relationships. Seems positive to me?

At least you know you're not your mind, as you don't exist. If you are your mind, then clearly you still exist.

I've always had a healthy relationship towards sleep (and food). With sleep I pay attention to my body, and if I don't it punishes me. I've never been able to function properly on too little sleep. By function I mean able to go to work and think about complex things, and that's been the number one driver for me getting enough sleep in my adult years. Sitting at a computer yawning for over eight hours and not being able to concentrate is literal torture. Unfortunately, the world of work and presenteeism has never meshed too well with my sleep tendencies. I'm an owl not a lark, I've always found it a drag to get up in the morning and it was especially acute in my late teens and early twenties. I was known for my epic sleeps at university often sleeping for twelve hours (especially after a night of drinking and clubbing). I always shrugged my shoulders and just told everyone I needed the sleep, I was unapologetic. I definitely know if I've woken up too early as I feel like I've been drugged. Left to my own devices I will just come out of sleep feeling refreshed and not like a zombie. My sleep pattern nowadays is definitely shorter, 8.5 hours seems just about right. But I'm usually under this in the week at around eight hours. I force myself to go to bed at midnight most nights - although that can slip sometimes. My waking up is slightly erratic and it can vary by up to an hour, even with an alarm! I don't see a pattern to this yo-yoing at all, but I definitely notice as winter draws in I get up later. This morning was a case in point as I was still struggling to wake up at 9am when I should have started work (at home). This definitely has to a be a morning light level kind of thing. And I still, even now, on occasion sleep ten hours or so especially on weekends. I've found myself napping more as I've got older, a stereotype that I never thought I would take on when I was younger. I think this is less to do with being older and more to do with being able to go to sleep more efficiently. I've always struggled to actually get to sleep, my mind was always hyperactive (can't you tell?) most of my life and being an owl, especially at nights. But around 15 years ago I took the bull by the horns and trained myself to be able to go to sleep better, mostly by distracting my racing thoughts with hypnosis of sorts, and it worked eventually (I'm sure I've written about it previously). Nowadays my mind is a lot calmer and less anxious, and I find I can switch off and sleep when I need to - it's a relief. I'm not sure what caused the hyperactivity in the first place, but it could have been a combination of genetics, possible ADHD, caffeine consumption, or any number of other things. But I will say cutting out caffeine, and wearing blue light blocking glasses in the evening have helped me tremendously. I notice that there's definitely a slight stigma against getting proper sleep. Some people just require more sleep biologically than others, regardless of whether they're owls or larks. Society wants you to burn the candle at both ends, by getting into work on time, but also by indulging in leisure late into the night, and sleep mostly gives way to this sort of stupidity, as if sleep were optional. There's periodic wails from the media of an epidemic of lack of sleep, but I'm not so sure about it. The fact is most of us can function just ok on slightly less sleep than we should be getting, and unless you're a parent you catch up on the weekend in any case. There's a definite strong link between not getting proper sleep and some forms of bad mental health. Some go so far as to say that some mental health problems are actually sleep disorders in disguise. My suspicion is that it goes both ways and possibly training people to get proper sleep may go some way to improving their lives. Sleep! It's the best.

The person and your mind are created at the same time, they both have the same source. The nature of the mind is to project outward from itself and to claim ownership of everything it thinks.

Yup I'm practising procrastination today. A bit soundbighty but it resonates with me:

I'm on a roll. I just had the strangest thought about what I'm doing in this journal. It's completely like I'm casting a shadow. You can see me but only by the shadow I'm casting into this journal. You then reconstruct me from my ramblings. It's like I'm giving you the mould of me and you're pouring your interpretation into it. But isn't this exactly what we do IRL? You can never know "me" only what I present to you. Is that sad? Nah. It's glorious, because I have infinite depth and have an infinite number of facets to show you.

More random ramblings. I was thinking about some comments made about Leo's latest video on how to get laid. I haven't seen the video, I don't feel invested enough to watch it at the moment (which is no particular comment on its subject). Maybe I find people's reaction to it more interesting than actually watching it? Anyway, the primary thought I had was that there is a certain ickiness around these sorts of subjects. Why's that? Some of that ickiness I think revolves around the idea of "gaming" people. This is the sort of thing at the heart of capitalism, the idea that it's perfectly ok to use any technique at your disposal in order to sell things to people, or more subtly to get what you want from people. For capitalism the currency is money, for getting laid the currency is sex. There is definitely a quagmire to navigate here, because it's not so clear cut that all forms of manipulation are asymmetrical or necessarily bad per se. What is probably bad is the attitude of active manipulation, and having that attitude permeate society. What's the difference between active and passive manipulation? That's tricky to define. We all need to survive and have our needs met. Largely, having our needs met involve other people at all levels. In turn those other people also need to survive. It works like a balance sheet, having your needs catered to by others goes in the plus column, having to use your resources to help others goes in the minus column. Naturally the exception is where mutual helping helps both sides survive: this results in trade and capitalism eventually. So passive manipulation is at baseline to do with surviving and having your needs met, asking for food and shelter is passive. Active manipulation on the other hand is where you consciously use all the techniques at your disposal to corral people into doing what you want: gaming them. By gaming people you are using an understanding of psychology and human behaviour to manipulate them in an ways that they're not aware of. That there is exactly where the problem lies with gaming. It's that lack of consent and awareness from the person being gamed. Surely that's ok though? If someone is stupid enough to fall for your tricks that's their fault? No. There is a big difference between being open about your intentions: hey I'm selling you this product because it may help you and it will help me also, and, I'm going to trick you into thinking you need this product, even though I know you probably don't. It's not possible for people to be so switched on at all times that they know they're being manipulated and somehow just laugh it off as harmless. And so it is with gaming your way into having sex with a stranger. Is it being done with clear intention in a mutually beneficial environment? Should you feel good about winning at sex by gaming people? Probably not. Saying that I'm not completely naive, to a degree biology dictates that men "prove" themselves to women, and women get to do the choosing. But that is passive manipulation: ultimately survival. In other words e.g., men and women openly flirt with each other and the intention is obvious (flirting is of course passive manipulation and dependent on orientation too). With flirting the manipulation is in both directions for mutual benefit. I think the correct way out of this mindset of gaming others, is to reflect it back on yourself, game yourself. In a way gaming yourself stops being gaming and turns into self-development: you can't pull the wool over your own eyes (mostly). Learn to game yourself for your own benefit, and then let that be a springboard for getting what you want through more natural means. From having read comments on the forum, I think that's ultimately what Leo is pointing out in his video: work on yourself, game yourself not others. -- For something completely different, I stumbled across this artist I suspect I'm completely the wrong demographic, but I really like her voice, and the blatantly Scouse (Liverpool) accent, it's refreshing to hear. And another for good luck:

How could I forget this classic?

It's not for everyone, but one of the main points of a marriage ceremony is the spectacle. It cements the marriage in everyone's mind, there's buy in from all vested interests. Everyone contributes to the commitment and helps it along.

I can neither confirm or deny I may or may not have bumped and grinded to this And some songs are clearly meant for certain activities: