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This girl is insane. Non-psychedelic drugs, raves, sick jealousy, manipulation. What the fuck dude?!? The problem is YOU. You have ZERO self respect. What the heck do you expect from a degenerate junkie with narcissism? She's going to destroy your life and then find another guy to abuse. Block her now. Now. And run. I'm serious.

Uh, I guess it's really hard to keep a real relationship with these guys I've heard this explanation about authentic sexual interest in the pua community, since I'm starting to approach and study this area of life. I understand what you're saying, it's a matter of being sincere with your core and being direct with the girl. But what about the fact that girls WANT you to be an emotional tampon for them? They continuously ask their bf to help them everywhere and to solve every single BS problem they have with their friends etc. Isn't this unfair? Since they don't want to be the emotional tampon for you. And to be honest... I still don't undestand if I can be sincere with her about my fears and emotions in life. Is it ok to ask for cuddling and emotional talk to feel that your partner is beside you? I'm NOT talking about asking her to fix you! I'm just talking about asking her to be beside you in your struggles, not to fix them for you. Is it ok or is it a turn off? Do they dislike giving a hug to their man to give him warmth? In my very FEW experiences with girls, it seems to me that they are very self centered and solipsistic, and they only think about themselves. They want to be reassured everytime, but when you need it you are a piece of s*** for this. Sorry for my frustration, but I just want to improve.

Nice response, man. Yeah, I'm working on myself since my breakup, and I'm still trying out a lot of things. But I will find my inner peace, sooner or later. But what about the "asshole" dynamic? Why do you say that women like authentic emotional communication if they "fall in love" with assholes that don't even share a single feeling with her? Doesn't that prove that women are emotionally shallow?

Thanks for the book recommendation, I was thinking about ordering it! Mh, yes, I get it that she needs to see you as an emotional man and a grounded man. But what I don't get is: if you show emotions and ask for sharing opinions and experiences she sees you as a p*ssy and dumps you for the drug dealer who doesn't give a fuck about even talking with her. That's what I don't understand. Why are women attracted to shallow and non-existant emotional connections? Are they disgusted by an openhearted honest man? (provided that he's grounded in his purpose)

I'm sorry for the clumsy questions, but I'm still new to spiral dynamics and to this area of psychology. In this orange phase we can see that approaching and learning how to be social is still good and a attainable for men. But... passing through green and yellow (and possible new phases) will it still be possible and acceptable for men to approach girls and explore the social world? Or will it be forbidden for men to try to evolve themselves socially and sexually? I'm asking it because in the blue phase it's clear that approaching is bad taste, because of religion, sexual repression, etc, in orange it's a nice thing to do, since it's in tune with the hustling mentality, but will it be ok for green and yellow? Green seems to be very anti-male and anti-free speech, so I'm just guessing that a full implemented green stage would have men forbidden from the dating scene. Yellow I believe instead will be a very rational and funcional, equilibrated, stage, with lots of freedom. I actually like yellow a lot. What do you think?

This reply is very clear, thanks man! The previous one was too tricky for me lol. Yes, i still deeply identify with orange stage, mainly because I grew up in a very traditional, religious and moral family, so I grew out of stage blue as I finished high school. Now It's very hard for me to embrace a green phase since it mean going back to collectivism, which I despised a lot when I dropped religion and morals, in favor of success and growth. I get it that green stage brings new ideas and progress to orange, but I feel it like some kind of regression to blue stage. I actually want to skip it to yellow stage and see the world as the complex system that it is. What do you suggest to do to grow up to new stages? Meditation?

Deep answer. Yeah, I want to evolve, and probably my tastes will change a lot.

I appreciate the reply, and I get the argument about the self agenda. BUT LEO (quoting your videos xD), I'm not living my male interests in a crude and aggressive way. I respect people, and when I meet women I care about finding out about their personality. I'm not even interested in plain sex. I started pickup because I wanted to become social and find the right girls for relationships. I'm not into the aggressive male mentality. I like sharing quality time with a girl, and possibly building a deep relationship. I'm just saying that the green stage seems somehow anti-freedom. But wanting myself to be free doesn't mean that I want others to be enslaved. Yes, I feel needy sometimes, but I don't feel the need to bring violence to women. At all. I'm a pacifist and I just want to love the right partner. That's all. I want women to be free, but also responsible for themselves. And I want everybody to be peaceful with the next person. I don't see anything wrong with wanting to become social and able to explore the social world. It's not a crude aggressive male mentality. People are ALREADY too antisocial today. Am I wrong?

Leo's video "Motivational speech for building a passionate life" is very inspiring, and focuses a lot on being in contact with your survival instinct and your drive to succeed. Which is GREAT, because we're very tamed nowadays. But I still don't get a paradox inside this concept. If reality is just an egoic dream, and everyone is part of everything, if the ego is an illusion, and the need to fight is an illusion.. what's the point of getting in touch with your instincts and your animal core? Isn't success pointless from an enlightened perspective? And I'm not saying this as an enlightened guy. I'm just a noob, and that's why I still don't get this paradox. Isnt' the ego just a result of evolutionary pressure to survive? Seeing the others as competition is what creates the division of the ego. So what's the purpose of getting in touch with your animal core to succeed? Why succeeding? And don't get me wrong, I WANT to succeed, but I don't undestand the paradox of wanting to be aware of the wholeness of the universe while wanting to win. If Leo himself could explain it would be great!

I appreciate the effort, but you're wasting your time. Historically marxists only understood the language of gunfire. Either from them or directed at their faces. It's sad. I'm a pacifist, but I'm just stating a fact.

Ok. And Hitler's national socialism was not real national socialism. The true one will take the form of Gandhi himself reborn. With unicorns. Ask for citizenship in North korea. that's your paradise.

Why the heck are people in 2018 still promoting communism? Do you hate your freedom so much?

Marxism is a toxic authoritarian ideology that completely destroyed the ussr and made a lot cubans flee their country in fear. Instead of listening to ignorant and insane professors, start studying history. Thank me later.

What do spiritually actualized people think of social justice people? In my opinion they are insane and completely in the lowest consciousness paradigm. Always talking about hate and seeing the world as a struggle, using censorship and shaming on everybody. In my humble opinion they are extremely far away from enlightenment and acceptance of people. What do you think?

Yeah, that's true. It hurts to think about those ideologies, and it's clear that I should just focus on my growth. Well, actually I appreciate when people help and accept everybody, and I've never hated on someone like you or self help teachers. I always like them a lot. Because they tend to help everybody. But seeing terrorists and crazy ideologues makes me scared and angry because they don't show compassion to people. I know that I have a self agenda, but with these people what I don't like I seeing them attacking the next person, for no reason. I never hate on successful and positive people. Yeah, it's true that Peterson is not happy discussing with these ideologues, and it's somehow two opposites wasting time... But I still like him a lot because he likes to help people and promote freedom of expression. Freedom is in my self agenda of course, but I still strongly believe that freedom is in everybody's best interest. Maybe even this message is self deception, I don't know....

Thanks a lot for the response, Leo!! Yes, i get it. In fact terrorism triggers me even worse LOL. I freak the fuck out with terrorists. I rationally understand that everything is the oneness, since I follow you and am starting this actualization process, but I still have a strong ego, and like to detach myself from those who commit certain hateful acts. And i get it, it's a self deception, but I still can't get it emotionally lol. It's a very deep reply, I appreciate it.

I love deep insights like this. Yes, sometimes I'm obsessed with crazy and violent news because I deeply fear disorder and hatred, and danger. I recognize this as a mirror of my insecurities and fragility. It's hard to stay focused on yourself in these moments.

I appreciate all the challeging responses, and I get it that I have to focus on myself But you're excusing their violent and hateful behaviour. I'm not talking about hippies. I'm talking about violent marches on the streets, destroying property, destroying buildings, attacking people from the political centre and the political right, damaging random people. I don't care if I judge them, I've never done anything violent in my life. I don't understand why you're defending them just because they are pro-democrats. And I'm not a republican, I'm libertarian and centrist. I just don't like violent and anti-freedom people. Are you sure of being pro freedom, guys?

Yes. It's the same as chauvinism, but for females. It's a hate ideology, and its core strategy is to claim egalitarianism while in practice exerting discrimination. It's a very clever and deceptive ideology, that deeply damages true egalitarianism. In fact a lot of true egalitarians are threatened by fem terrorism and bullying. it will go away only when women will start to take full responsibility for their lives.

Hi guys, my problem here is with an old breakup, happened 6 months ago, and it came back biting her and then me. We've been together for 8 months, (I'm late 20s, she's 22), and she broke up with me at the end of summer peacefully, asking to remain sincere friends, actual friends. I agreed, because I appreciated her as a friend too, and I also already introduced her to my group of old friends, so I wanted her to stay with them. In the first month I was aching inside because of the breakup , but i kept cool and after 3 weeks we ended up in a """"friendly""" date and had sex again. I fell again in love, while she tried so fucking hard to hide her feelings for me, saying bullshit like "I don't want you to get attached, it was just a mistake because I like you and I find you a cool guy, but I don't feel love anymore", which I DON'T believe, because she kept contacting me as a "friend" every single day, including confidential talk, and confessing her deepest fears to me. Then we decided to stop texting, and became loose friends. Then she finds a new guy to go out, but she never kissed him, only 2 dates to try to know him. She comes to me to confess these dates and she reveals to me that "he is not on your level. you are still my best boyfriend, i've never been so close to someone as with you. i want to find someone similar, so I ditched him". In the meantime I went out to find girls and new people. At new year's eve she freaks the fuck out with me, even though the friendship thing was already cool to me, since I already was thinking about finding new girls and I was ok with her. But at this party she freaks the fuck out because I'm "too close" to her as a friend, and she feels like all the old problems of the pre-breakup are coming back, and that I don't understand her. I try to calm her since i was already calm and cool. I had no problem with her, and was a perfectly fine friend. In the first of january she tells me on the phone that she is SICK of hearing me. I am TOTALLY shocked since we had NO problems, only normal discussions as friends, and a simple fight as normal friends two weeks before. She tells me that that stupid fight as friends is the cause of her sickness of me, and of course I tell her that it's BS, since it was a stupid fight about organizing my birthday party in december. A fight which was already resolved the day after. She insists that she is sick of me, sick of the feelings related to me , and sick of all the problems we had in our couple (What the fuck?!). She blocks me on all social media without warnings, closes the call brutally, and since then I have zero clues about her. I'm moving on with my life. Can you explain what happened? where did I fuck up? I'm still somehow sad but I want to learn and go on. And rescue our friendship maybe

Thanks a lot! I was always honest with her, since I always told her my insecurities, my fears and my ideals about love. I was affectionate and very present with her, but at the same time i was VERY insecure about leading this relatinship. She wanted me to be confident and positive about it. But I kept on telling her that this relationship might end badly, and that I was so scared of making mistakes... that's why I was always "ready to leave", like wainting for the moment to be dumped.... Until it happened. She dumped me saying that she's sick of hearing me being scared of potential problems in the couple. We had a great emotional and sexual connetion but I completely made her paranoid about my confidence of wanting this couple. Never cheated, never left her alone, and yet... I made an emotional mistake. I will go out and interact with new people. And start over again. I hope to regain the friendship with her one day

Thanks ahah well, I'm not so young, I'm in my late 20's. She is 22. I will follow the advice, since I want to self actualize and learn how to love better I've already improved since my previous relationship, which was 3 years ago. And i will continue to work on myself. Regarding being impulsive.. yes, I tend to be impulsive with girls and passionate, and I make mistakes, but I'm ready to learn more.

Because I was insecure about the relationship. She was the one asking me to become a couple, and I accepted it, but I kept on expressing insecurity about wanting to be with her (never cheated, never insulted, just insecure). After a lot of time she started to become sick with it and asked to breakup politely.

I get what both of you are saying. My mistake was accepting her "magical friends frame" in an instant. And she payed that mistake too, since she freaked out. I need to set some distance the next time I break up. Do you think I can regain the friendship with her in the long distance? After months of no contacts I mean.

Looool I love your profile picture! I totally agree. I took full responsibility for my bad choice of a gf, and that's why my advice is completely honest and in tune with taking responsibility. But don't fall on the trap of taking away responsibilities from women. If a woman manipulates, it's her fault for choosing to do it. And your responsibility takes place only in avoiding contact with her.