SgtPepper

I'd call him a man-whore

The only way to be attractive is to have goals and ambitions.

Learn to live with yourself, find healing, and find a partner who complements you. It's not easy to do any of this and while I don't have Borderline-PD, I do have GAD, and I needed to own it and do my best. Best of luck @Preety_India

You gotta ask yourself what you really want and recognize that your perspective on relationships is kind of immature, at least thats how I feel about what you wrote. It's feely based instead of purposeful. Consider how you commit to a career or skill, this is how you should view monogamous relationships. These thoughts of FOMO have occurred to me too, being that I have been with partner since high school. I concluded: I feel like trying to meet girls just for sex even if they are "9-10s" is inauthentic to me and pointless, there's no purpose besides stroking my ego. Monogamous relationship have purpose: growing together, unconditional support. Fun wholesome activities. Potential to have a family. Trust. This is the real deal. A heart bonded with a person like that to me is authentic love. Growing with someone, is as deep as watching yourself grow. Even the sex is amazing too because it evolves, and can know each other's like Trading that for sex with a strange girl when no genuine feeling of care or bond has been formed is not useful to me. It's like a temporary intoxication. It's not going to bring anything to my life besides emptiness because it's grounded in not being myself, drugs/alcohol, and sex. You also don't know who these women are, they could be crazy, lie to you, hurt you, addictions, have eating disorders, daddy issues, or whatever. Maybe I am totally wrong, but... If you want a stable family in the future, pick a Good girl and commit to her.

At the moment, How is justice served? How are wrongs made right? I suppose I answer it by considering how every action contains within it existential consequence or commonly called karma.

Actually, you'd be happier being religious than a materialist

The thing is... you don't know this person. I feel like best case scenario, just hang out with them as a potential partner, but I'd avoid sex if you want to make yourself stand out and communicate you are looking for a serious long term relationship, unless one night stands are your thing. There's also the saying 'Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free'? Besides do you want someone that sticks around because they like your character? or because of the sex you gave? Obviously probably both, but which one do you want your relationship to be grounded in? If someone won't hang out with you 10 times sober & without having sex, then they were never looking at you seriously imo.

IMO, nothing spiritual about it. It's just what I'd categorize as devil behavior. What would be spiritual is transcending the need to do any of that. Better yet, dedicate yourself to serve others in a way that benefits them and not yourself, that would be way more spiritual.

Thank you for bringing this up. https://www.bbc.com/news/stories-51053580 This news story completely convinced me to not visit any ayahuasca retreat, which I really wanted to do this upcoming year. Maybe if they legalize here in US with licensed psychologists but it is way too risky. Shamans are overrated. @SeaMonster Good retreat reviews do not prove that retreats are safe since many times sexual assault and rape goes unreported or even worse is not even identified, because people are not educated what behaviors constitute sexual assault. Psychedelics and hair loss is a pretty ridiculous claim. I mean literally you can look at older hippies and see they still have a full head of hair. For example. Timothy Leary tripped like 300+ times and died with hair, so did John Lennon. Hair loss is a genetic thing. Just trip by yourself and choose your preferred spiritual text, and read it, let that be your shaman, or don't and look at the sky, or put on some music. It's really not that hard. You don't need some foreign shaman, Leo, or myself to validate the veracity of a psychedelic trip.

Reading a psychology textbook is what I did for my undergraduate and while it is an interesting read, and necessary to know psychology. You'd probably be better off just watching a YouTube doc on how the brain works and basic theories, or visiting a museum. Books that greatly influenced my psychology and work behavior were: Non-violent communication: A language of Life written by psychologist Marshall Rosenberg. 7 habits of highly effective people by Steven Cohen So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport I'd also recommend just listening to the audiobook The Power of Habit. That book solidified how important habits are for top performance.

I am not. I was annoyed with Will Smith at the time. I'm still going to enjoy Fresh Prince though, idc.

It just sounds like a habit and possibly a source of dopamine - boredom killer activity. I think you should tackle this by learning about yourself. Maybe abstain and when you get the urge to do it, talk to yourself and ask yourself why you want to do what you're trying to abstain from. Maybe go down that road and while you're there, ask yourself why you are there. More importantly, what do you want to be doing instead?

Some risks and dangers, I have experienced myself... It can give you episodes of derealization, depersonalization, and paranoia. Periods or moments of physical discomfort, mental discomfort, and thought loops. Sometimes they happen during the trip, or things like depersonalization and derealization can stay for 24-72 hours post-trip and attached to these feelings can be thoughts that everything is meaningless, and it feels very real. I've done powerful doses of psychedelics like ~ 25 times; micro-dosing once a week for months. I've also had lots of positive, heavenly, thoughtful/insightful, grounding, and gratifying experiences. I've never had a problem with the law or medically, and I have no regrets. In retrospect, these challenging episodes or emotions actually helped me mature and connect to living with more meaning. I haven't found them to be addicting. Most of my powerful doses happened in a period of 8 years. I spaced out trips between periods of 3-6 months. Occasionally I would trip twice in one month during those 8 years. Now I just trip about 2 times a year and micro-dose during 1 out of the 4 seasons. I think the biggest danger is getting caught with them by the law. After many years, I still think they're unbelievably amazing, like shout it from the rooftops amazing. I used to be a bit more zealous about it, but now I see not everybody is called to it. It can give some a bit of an ego complex, but I think that happens more in New Age/Neo-Advaita circles in my experience. It raised by self-esteem because I see I am a child of God, but it also made me surrender and be humble to God.

your girl shouldn't be interested in dancing with any man that's not you or a family member bro. but if a guy is forcing my girl to doing something she doesn't want, I am stepping in.

The Bible - it has a bit of everything in there. @DocWatts I am reading Frank Herbert's Dune right now

I see myself in everything.

@thisintegrated That's a cool study! On a side note, some replications would be nice. I was thinking you were going to link studies that suggest that abstaining from orgasms would shrink dick size and lower T? I don't really see this as a problem in the short term. I actually prefer this. To each their own though.

Yeah I agree. @thisintegrated Post your studies bro!

@Osaid I agree. Ultimately, the only way to 'fight'' demons, is to be with God.

I kind of get it? I have seen like the depths of heaven and hell within myself. And it feel like there is something more there, sometimes beyond observation, and other times appearing as visions of beings. kind of like these Alex grey paintings.

This isn't my first online forum or group. I think I haven't had any problems because I have learned how to conduct myself over the years. but I hear you, getting banned sucks. I think the warning point system is pretty good, and I think it takes 20 points to get banned? that's quite a lot of warnings.

My experience is good. I recognize everyone is human here, the possibility for misunderstanding, so I try to be clear and forgiving when communicating.

Yes definitely. Psychedelics have so much dynamic and depth, it's beyond beyond beyond... To me spiritual practice is just to produce the God in you I still think practice is good, but psychedelics have impacted by life to a profound degree. I do the spiritual practice naturally on psychedelics.

Read what you wrote here. You identified specific things you don't like about the activity. Even if I told you that porn is healthy, your personal truth is telling you something else. So why do you keep coming back to it? and if why you keep coming back is not what you want or is not how you want to get that feeling then what do you want to do instead? or how do you want to get that feeling?

I don’t think so. The way we’re talking about polyamory, is voluntary and mutual. Historically speaking it’s been expressed as one man marrying multiple mates.