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why does he look old in all of these haha were the images altered

I love you

Try this album, and tell me it's "low consciousness" https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLstDyV1EjcNK7tprs6LKlgw967tVJuusF Here's my personal favorite:

@Nahm I wonder if non-dual advice is really the best in this situation. I considered it, but it's just too unrealistic to encourage the realization of "I am not my suffering" while you are bound to an unconscious partner. First dissolve that bond (the bond is ultimately in your mind's eye anyway, there is no reality to it) and then pursue awareness. Best way to dissolve that bond? Break up The mind is so tricky that unless you physically end the relationship, it'll convince itself that it is conceptually "dissolving of the bond" while maintaining deep unconscious attachment. Sounds like a recipe for suffering honestly.

Yes, of course conscious women exist, lol. Nobody is denying that. Like I said, These are GENERAL statements. Don't act as if they apply to any individual man or woman. Nonetheless, I am able to make these general statements due to personal experience and consensus. When's the last time that you as a woman had a parade of people (of any gender) cheering you on for having sex? If that's ever happened - wow! awesome. But I doubt that's your everyday experience. For men, it's not so strange for this to happen. We group together and PLOT about sex. We encourage and celebrate it (in very toxic ways, of course. I'm not saying this is the right thing to do). Many people will confirm this double standard. Just look around. 1) Yes, yes he does. Because our culture has a double standard. 2) Yes. You're absolutely right. These values are all relative constructs and one day they will be extinguished. I'm not encouraging these values... I'm merely observing that they exist. I understand if you have a problem with these values. But it doesn't seem accurate to pretend that the culture around men's sexuality and women's sexuality are the same... which you seem to be arguing for? I'm not so sure. I'm curious. What "work" do you think is necessary?

I see. I agree with @Elisabeth that you should not be worrying about purpose right now. So you know what you want - what's stopping you from achieving them?

Bro you good? You sound depressed.

I love this. Yes.

There's not much I can tell you that you already don't know... Just end it. You're both clearly unhappy. The housing situation is a lie. The vacation is a lie. Of course, they feel real. You're both using whatever means necessary to retain the comfort and security you currently think you have. If that entails making your lies feel real, than so be it. Think of your ideal man. You've already said: it ain't him. Well what are you waiting for?? There are so many charming, sexy, genuinely caring single dudes out there right now just WAITING for you to cuff them. You just don't see it because you don't put yourself in front of them. Clinging to this old relationship is a huge reason for that. You know it'll be over anyway. Do you really see yourself in this relationship in 10, 20, 30 years? In 60 years on your deathbed? What are you really running from? What do you gain by staying together? "Comfort" and "security" are obvious reasons... don't stop there. Ask yourself, "WHY do I hold comfort and security above all else? Above personal happiness? Above what my life COULD be?" Perhaps you're afraid that nobody else will love you. Perhaps you're afraid of loneliness. Perhaps you're afraid of having all of your shortcomings splayed out in front of you like a banquet, shredding the bunker of lies you live in. I don't know. I made all that up From my limited outsider perspective, having heard your side of the story, all I can say is this: 1) End it. 2) Get in touch with your fears. 3) Move on, grow, live life. I imagine you're either furiously nodding your head right now as you read all of this, or you are frowning skeptically. If you disagree with anything I've said, that's perfectly fine. I don't have the full story anyway. I'm sure there are plenty of tiny details that make this all so unnecessarily complicated. But that's also why YOU are the one who must cut through these complications by self reflecting - 9 out of 10, these "complications" are just lies you create to maintain what you've built and avoid loss. Furthermore, if you are in complete agreement with me, don't pretend that everything is fine now because some douchebag on an internet forum understands you. You must then PERSONALLY confront this man and say "Hey. It's over." There's not much else to say here. Just do it. And if you're feeling all sorts of internal contention ("But this! But that!") in response to what I just said, that's also fine. Keep living life the way you do. There's no obligation necessarily to change things. But in that case, recognize that it's your own complacency that is causing unhappiness. If you decide not to end it, don't come running back here that things aren't working out. Best of luck P.S. Regarding the feeling of heart-brokenness, that is a whole another issue deserving of it's own thread.

It's not an accident that many women lie about how much sex they've had and pretend to be less sexual than they really are on average. I suppose you can say the same about some men, but the culture is still different to this day: A man gets laid, he gets a pat on his back. A woman gets laid, she must hide it (unless it's with a trusted longtime significant other - what might that be about? Survival perhaps?) Though things are slowly changing, and you see extremely liberal women flaunting their sexuality carelessly, that does not speak for the majority of women. Furthermore, those individual instances of sexual rebellion are exactly that - a collective ego backlash. Very reactive stuff. People like this are still on a deep level clinging to their cultural values. Otherwise, they wouldn't have anything to react against. Rarely do you see a woman who has all the sex she wants (while maintaining reasonable boundaries), without any shame or guilt, and furthermore without rubbing it in people's faces so as to demand respect. Why? Because that would require her to let go of her cultural values. And for her to do that, she must de-prioritize her own survival to some degree (not entirely).

Plato's soulmates? Sounds fishy. How long has this relationship been?

Rick as a character is stuck in deep orange, locked in the materialist paradigm. The show in general has a blind bias toward rationality, science, and atheism. It tries to explore nihilism without going full circle, painting a bleak, partial picture of the universe. It's entertaining to watch, and certainly thought provoking, but I wouldn't take any of it seriously at all. Nor are any of the themes within it comparable to spirituality whatsoever.

@Marinus Alright, thanks man.

I really liked this part about your "best self." I have a very similar imagination of my potential as well. I've highlighted the overlaps in red. Love the term "spiral wizard" by the way

I wonder how people like that get started? If I decided tomorrow that I wanted to host a course about miracles for $15, nobody would show up. Even if I were a genuine miracle man, I would still have no name and nobody would care. I'm assuming these people you mentioned all amassed a form of social media following first before charging for sessions?

@Marinus I have plans to start Youtube as well, but I think my biggest limiting belief is the same as your first: I'm actually at 3 years as well, and I also have this sense of "who would listen to me?"

You're really freaking cool, dude We share a lot of values in common. Just found this journal, read the whole thing. Rooting for you! I've subbed to your YouTube.

What makes you say that?

The only kind of sex for me >:]

Well yeah no shit lmao. Most enlightened people understand this. Winterknight of all people is the most likely to understand this. I don't understand why there must be a "war" for this.

How do you know you're not stuck up your own ass and deluded? Explain "de-enlightenment." Why war?

Damn bro that made me smile

I like you >:)

@DivineSoda @Marinus I love that you guys just threw yourselves into the mix. Did you have to push through any internal resistance to put out your first video?

Woah, that's wonky! I'm new to this genre of music but I must admit you're very talented