RendHeaven

Girl trust me I know lol. You're avoiding the point of this thread. There exist successful couples (in the ways I described above). At least, I've heard stories of them + it seems statistically likely given the almost 8 billion human souls on this planet. What are they doing that you and I are not? The questions I asked are highly precise and practical. P.S. by "they must exist" I just meant any successful couple. Not talking about a partner for me or anything like that.

@Preety_India Successful couples must exist somewhere. I have faith.

What's stopping you from trying it out yourself?

Low quality thread lmao *waits on leo*

Maybe ya'll see reality different AND are hilarious Connor is genuinely motivated by pursuit of truth. He has suffered a lot off camera. He is playing a persona online. love + show are not mutually exclusive.

She will always be __ on the inside? But hey, good for them.

Alright. I just had the impression that you were judging as an outsider. Relationships can yield unbelieve beauty. It's not all hell. Balance in everything

I love connor. People calling him shallow are hilarious lol.

How many long term relationships have you been in?

I'm strongly convinced that what I ultimately want is monogamy (once I'm older and wiser lol), but I could be tricking myself. I just don't know anymore. Currently I'm leaning towards open relationships because I'm young and have been hurt by monogamy in the past.

I understand exactly this feeling. It is my first reaction as well. All I will say is, the longer you wait, the more you will suffer.

The principles are timeless. 1. I'm not sure whether you mean the culture around male-female dynamics, or if you mean covid-19. Either way, women are still on the streets, and whether or not they're willing to talk is entirely up to how interesting you are. 2. But it does. How else would you possibly learn how to interact with people other than interacting with people? LOL. There's no shortcut or workaround.

@Everyday I meant exactly what I said. There are millions of better girls out there in the world. She is not special. This goes against all of your higher values. Someday, you want a sexy, smart, caring, loving, and strong but vulnerable girl to spill her soul to you and fuck you and cuddle you and to look up to you with glowing eyes, right? Well, it will never happen if you continue this mindset of settling for the any scrap of affection. I promise, you CAN develop yourself to the point where this girl I described shows up in your life and bonds with you. But you have to take control of your life and make the hard choices. Dump your current gf. Study attraction (pm me if you need help). Practice socialization (https://www.actualized.org/forum/topic/61312-opening-up/). Exercise. Build personal clout. Move countries. Embrace loneliness. Become strong. Become somebody that stands for something. Become someone who's soul is so steeled that you can withstand any adversity. And develop a genuine want to appreciate and protect women. Not to be liked in return, but because you're so appreciative and strong inside that it just overflows into the external world. You can do it, If you decide to. Or not

You're dating a child. There are millions of better girls out there in the world.

@Etherial Cat Do you think you can describe the connection you desire?

You're going to fail regardless. So, fail faster. Just go do it.

Would you say that a man who recognizes this is a superior lover (to one who doesn't)?

Honest feedback: I wish you'd show, not tell On the topic of seduction, all hetero men ought to watch this:

I've been saying "hi" and making small talk with as many strangers as I can recently. This has been a very positive experience overall but it saddens me that there is no substance of connection underneath any of these interactions. How do I reliably take a stranger and cultivate an atmosphere where we can open up to each other? In the past this has happened organically without my trying. But now that I'm trying, I can't replicate it. P.S. I'm asking in a general context, not just dating... although this applies to dating as well.

@Average Investor +1 from me on "similar purpose" Toastmasters is a decent idea, but I tried it once and decided it's not for me. It's very formal and business-like. Laughter and flow is not taught/encouraged. Youtube videos seems to be 100% the way to go no matter how I look at it...

Got it, thanks

Hmm although maybe not having social media could be an interesting topic to bring up? And if I'm the one putting my number into their phone, they don't have to deal with fumbling over numbers. This will take a lot of tact and rapport though, I can tell.

Thanks again. Yeah, I've been ejecting way too fast for sure. Sometimes we're actually really vibing and I just cut it off and leave because for some reason I can't get over the projection that I'm preventing people from going about their day. Maybe me talking to them is the best thing to happen to them? I simply can't know so I shouldn't assume the worse. What would you say is the best social media to have? Currently I've got nothing (used to but deleted everything as a personal "cleanse"). I can still do phone numbers but that feels like a heavy investment to ask of someone... fumbling with numbers lol...

This is great, thank you. Does intention always have to be explicit? I just pictured stating "hey let's get to know each other" or "hey I'm just being friendly" out loud and sort of gagged at the utter boldness. I feel like there's a fine line here between coming off weird and coming off like a champion. And if not explicit, how would you possibly show intention implicitly (in a non-dating context?) Thoughts?

WOAH...