RendHeaven

men want the sense of anchored rest that comes as a result of them asserting their will out into the world. i.e. if the "kiss" (metaphorical or literal) feels earned and drops the breath deep into the gut, that makes it all worth it. if the "kiss" is a participation trophy or free handout and the shallow breathing continues, then the man will keep searching

my refusal to kiss the boys is actually a rejection of infinity if you think about it If I REALLY cared about truth, I would just suck cocks (no biases!)

Right, if I recall you had some switch % from that test. I also forced all my friends to run that test for fun and was surprised that many of them had switch tendencies, though everyone had a preferred polarity between dominant and submissive (nobody was truly equally split down the middle at 50/50) I would bet that if you dropped birth control entirely you would almost all interest in being dom and the bar would shoot over to hardcore sub (not just based on earlier stories, but on general knowledge that birth control gives women androgynous sexual preferences) really weird implications for identity if you think too hard about it lol

definitely. trying to "dominate" women outside of the bedroom is just tacky and stinky

not for men

Right, edited the quoted passages from earlier. of course this is amusing... I have the same messed up thoughts but from the opposite sadistic angle I think spiritual people will try to explain away outrageous sexual power play as "(s)he has trauma" implying that sadomasochism must come from some sort of unresolved wound but I think there is a real sincerity and pure honesty in wanting to brutally conquer/be conquered from the masculine POV, it's obvious why dominating a woman and watching her melt into submission is awesome. totally self explanatory. you feel powerful, in control, and you witness her in her most vulnerable... all for you. You simply win. This is heroin on crack. but the feminine POV is far more fascinating. it's not obvious at all why letting a guy have his way with you to the point of helplessly following orders and being totally used would feel thrilling and awesome. In large part I suspect this confusion has to do with our unspoken cultural assumptions around domination = winning VS submission = losing, and nobody wants to feel that they are the loser. It doesn't exactly feel empowering to announce that you let yourself lose all control and became someone else's toy. And masochism on paper just sounds like self harm or self hatred, which is a big no no if you're on a self-love journey. That's a destruction of personal will and agency, which is not something that any sane person would celebrate. But there is something a little insane about the pure feminine when it allows itself to be vulnerable and honest. She feels catharsis as she melts her pride and willingly 'loses' herself under his presence. Though I can only vaguely imagine what that would be like - I suspect that in a twisted way, the woman who fully surrenders actually feels more powerful than even the man. In destroying herself, she receives all the credit for bestowing heaven onto her man. Make no mistake, the guy gets NO credit for her submission. The guy opens the door but she walks through. A guy can never actually "make" a woman submit to him - which is why actual rape is deplorable and vile, but rape fantasies are hot as fuck (because she imagines herself choosing to give in). In the ideal fantasy, even as she is reduced to something resembling slave-status, the fact that she elected to go there makes her the secret final boss pulling all the strings in the end. The guy may be the one to bend her over and plows her passionately with no mercy thinking that he claimed her - but all along, it was actually she who claimed herself and him.

this resonates I spent all this time dismantling the play only to come face to face with myself on the other side: me: "why'd you ruin my cosplay man? i was having fun " me: "fuck. my bad" me: "let's go back" me: "yeah, let's go back."

this is very very solid. probably the best answer to OP's question. I lowkey derailed the thread by being a contrarian and acting like i'm above toothpaste lol. In terms of answering what's actually the best toothpaste - the answer would be to make your own coconut oil, baking soda, and mint essential oil is all you need IMO. I'm assuming you're using erithritol as a harmless sweetener? looks pretty optional to me, but I understand that you might want your brushing experience to be more pleasant. One downside of home made coconut oil toothpaste is that if you experience cold winters, this can clog your sink as you spit, so you have to remember to run hot water

literally just take peppermint essential oil mixed with distilled water. trial and error to find a ratio that suits you its the same as isolating the "cooling" ingredient from a conventional toothpaste or mint candy if you're already using a toothpaste that makes you feel fresh, then this is mostly redundant - although it is nice to have a tiny spray bottle of this stuff if you're going out

take care bro

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Poor girl. You're giving her so many mixed signals. Your fault for stringing along your fuck buddy

I voted yes, it is a net negative if you imagined a hypothetical modern porn-free society and imagined the delta between that hypothetical and our real world, all else equal. But porn was also completely inevitable, so this hypothetical modern porn-free society can only ever be in the imagination. The moment we discovered photography, we were capturing naked bodies. Before that, we were painting and sculpting them. Porn is a logically necessary consequence of the advent of video and online streaming. There could not have been a world without porn. I almost see it as pandora's box was deterministically seeded to be opened. That's the situation we find ourselves to be in. Thus it becomes actually impossible to judge whether it is negative or positive overall, because there's no alternative state of affairs against which to compare it to. Porn is absolute and here to stay. We will NEVER know if we would have been healthier with or without it. Best we can do going forward is to inoculate the individual, protect our kids and educate our teens. But honestly I don't even see that solution lasting, given that AI porn is on the horizon. I predict vast swathes of the population (men and women alike) will be completely sexless and touchless in a couple decades. And the current porn industry will collapse as well. Real women will no longer have leverage in the porn industry. An AI hyperreal digital copy of madison beer with inflated tits, indistinguishable from reality, who listens to your every command dynamically and happily simulates getting fucked in the most depraved positions while simultaneously giving you chat therapy (for a monthly subscription ) will drown out anything a real girl posts or produces. If you think this is not coming within 10-20 years, you're a fool

lotta guys probably just need a hug and a kiss lmfao

At the end of the road there actually is a hard diverging split. Infinity will ask of you (itself) to let everything go forever. And it will really feel final. And you won't be able to tell yourself that this is just a temporary state. You will scramble to stitch together a story about how you as a human took psychedelics, and it will all blow away into dust as Infinity asks again: are you willing to never again return to the human story? And you will probably fold and find yourself right back in your meat suit, kissing the floor with tears in your eyes If you hero dose 5meo back to back (do not recommend this lightly) you will see what I mean But I understand your point. it is possible to balance your humanity alongside a higher orientation

I am not against inputs. I love inputs. For example I take vitamin D 5000IU every day. my ancestors didn't have that. I'm against inputs that deplete you and then stacking more inputs to patch up the holes the first negative input left. I want to stack +1 +1 +1 from a baseline of 0, rather than fluxing between -1 +1 -2 +1 -1 +2 -1 -2 +3 -2 +1 +1 -2 -3 +1 +2 which keeps me hovering around 0 treading water forever Given my diet, having experimented with all sorts of toothpastes, it's become abundantly clear that toothpaste adds precisely +0 to me. Or maybe charitably it adds +0.1 for the minty breath effect, but this can be achieved much cheaper with a homemade peppermint spray Consider that I'm not merely lucky or genetically gifted. If you ate exactly as I did, toothpaste would actually become redundant and a waste of money. But you won't eat like me, because you have different idiosyncratic values and needs. So you have to think for yourself whether toothpaste is meaningful or not

This is why I respect Leo. It's clear to me that he actually would trade everything in the world for infinity. At times that can come off as sociopathic to us (like a lack of concern for human affairs), but I choose to interpret him charitably. I figure he just casts the net of his love as wide as possible. Which takes boldness and sacrifice. Most of us cast our net narrow, around the specific pieces of our lives that we cherish the most. There's no right answer here. All is love at the end of the day. I just find that most people think they're more like Leo when really they're more like me or emerald

@Natasha Tori Maru I see what you're saying. You can smell "truthseeker" neurosis from a mile away. In my case, I thought of myself as a champion of truth my whole life, until recently I had an apocalyptic infinity awakening that basically wiped away everything I had ever known or loved. And somehow I was still given the option to go deeper, endlessly, forever. The cost for Truth is EVERYTHING. No exceptions. You only get everything by giving up everything. Naturally, it must be this way. You get what you give, because you are the progenitor and the receiver. It's just you giving to yourself. So whatever you're not willing to give will not be received. You are are cut off from infinity precisely by the degree to which you are not willing to give up finitude. And I couldn't do it. When I came face to face with the TRUTH, I ran away in terror... and here I am. I made the trade of Everythingness for human life. Arguably foolish - I basically traded a trillion dollars for a pubic hair. But it's my favorite pubic hair. I couldn't let it go. Though I say that truth is my highest value, when my neck is under the guillotine, I choose life. Forgive me, a weak fool, for being so in love with the finite

@Emerald You're so wise for this People have no idea what they're asking for And your words will fly right over our heads

Yeah I understand, this alone justifies the use of a natural nontoxic flouride-free toothpaste. Spices and sauces will leave lingering smells (in your gut, which creeps up through your mouth even if your teeth are clean). The real power of toothpaste is not merely that it cleans or protects your teeth from the erosion of damaging foods but that it bombs your oral cavity with "freshness" which overpowers all negative smells. There's a reason normies brush their teeth after waking up or before a date, but forget to brush after a meal. It's because they're not even brushing for hygiene, they're brushing to mask odor. Not that this is wise, but that it does actually make sense to use toothpaste if you're consuming foods that make you stink. For example, if you cook with garlic or onion spice - toothpaste is mandatory

you have a very rich imagination

Jaw actually dropped God we're so human Blessing and a curse My phone broke down a few months ago and I simply never bothered to replace it. As a completely phoneless person, I miss nothing.

To be clear, "fructose" is a category of sugar and is obviously found in fruit, but is more importantly found in all the processed foods (corn syrup) and added sugars that everyone is eating. At a high level, my stance is not that fruit is bad for teeth, but that processed sugar is bad for your teeth. At the end of the day, all sugar is a threat, but fruit has protective compounds that "counterbalance" the sugar content, whereas something like cereal with corn syrup will just fuck you over time. If anything, I do recommend a moderate daily intake of (organic!!) fruit for most people (amazing vitamins and antioxidants, which are overwhelmingly positive inputs). I am weird in the sense that I'm basically on 0grams of dietary sugar (personal preference. not a universal recommendation). Sometimes I drink organic pomegranate juice in glass for the antioxidants, but it's not a daily thing. This does stain teeth so I sip through a metal straw to avoid as much teeth contact as possible, and promptly brush and floss my teeth (with water) afterwards. tl;dr: fruit is generally fine. fructose is more concerning in processed normie foods (which everybody is eating, which is why everybody needs toothpaste). within fruit, there are further distinctions about staining foods vs non staining foods. you can use your gut to discern. like obviously blueberries will stain your teeth more than a banana. You should be brushing (with or without paste) after every time you eat fruit, but if you're guzzling blueberries every single meal then just water might not be enough to keep your teeth completely white