Leo Gura

Selfishness is not wrong. But viewing things as wrong IS selfishness

Well.... The needy thing is very tricky, because you have to understand that any guy who gets into a relationship with you is doing so to fulfill certain needs of his, be that sex or whatever else. So it's mostly just a question of degree of neediness. The whole point of a relationship is to use the other person to fulfill your own selfish needs. Otherwise you would not relate at all. Both partners are doing that, so then it becomes a sort of dance/game/negotiation. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it does not.

That which you take the most of

@tsuki The deeper thing you're missing is that what you see is literally what is True. Everything else is fantasies.

They will exist when you create them. It gets paradoxical here because the finite and the infinite are ultimately identical, while you are trying to distinguish them. It's sort of like you're asking, Does the next frame in the movie exist? Technically not until it is rendered on the screen. You imagine it will be rendered, but it may not be.

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Yeah, well, I understand. But that is the definition of neediness: I need something from you and I can't wait, and if I don't get it, I'll be upset. And of course neediness is unattractive. Do as you like but don't be surprised if it turns people off because all healthy people find neediness unattractive because it's fundamentally selfish. ME! ME! ME! Give ME what I need!

That's what the game is.

Negotiation is a game which includes all the trickeries and masquerades that survival employs. You are like a wolf telling a rabbit, don't camouflage yourself! Just be honest because I am hungry.

Survival agendas must be negotiated and reconciled, since they always conflict. There is no such thing as two humans loving each other without a conflict of survival agendas.

That's the woman's survival agenda. It makes sense if you are a woman. You guys have a hard time grasping the relativity of survival agendas. What's good for your finite self is bad for some other finite self. This is the nature of all finite things.

It is pure selfishness. Of course men are selfish too. Both parties are just doing what is best for them while expecting the other one to be selfless. See, when you act selfishly, why are you surprised when others do the same? They are only doing what you're doing back to you. But since you are selfish, you don't like it. The ego's game is to be as selfish as it can while denying others that same move. You exercise your choice not to have sex with a man when he needs it but you don't. And a man exercises his choice to go pickup other girls when he needs it and you need him to be loyal to you.

Both cases are not good. That's how political decisions are. You are always choosing the lesser of two evils. Which is why the wise move would have been for Bush to not put us into an impossible situation in the first place. Once you've put yourself into an impossible situation, you're screwed. Which is why decision-making requires serious wisdom, which Bush seriously lacks.

You have a concept of limitation in your mind. That's an abstraction. But then there is what the concept points to. You have concrete instances of that abstraction. One of which is you walking into a wall. What is so hard to understand here? You are obviously limited since you can't fly. All forms are limited.

Reality = Truth People have very wrong ideas about what truth is. You are experiencing limitation right now, and all your life. You are literally God having a limited experience. That's what your whole life has been. Can you walk through a brick wall? Well... there is your experience of limitation. Try walking through a wall. Infinity knows itself perfectly simply be existing as itself. Knowledge collapses into Being/Existence at a nondual level of consciousness. So you can "know" Infinity deep than you can know anything in the physical world. By becoming Infinity. But this not conceptual knowledge. Infinity knows Infinity by being Infinity. The end. As far as conceptualizing Infinity, you can play those games till the end of time and you will always come up short. All your concepts of it will be partial and limited.

God is the perfect word. You just aren't yet conscious of what the God points to. And that is a deficiency in Buddhism. Except it isn't since your entire understanding of self and reality is entangled with language. Of course the word itself could be changed to something like Teotl or Allah or Great Spirit. But the concept of God to which all these words point is fundamental and unavoidable. Any teacher or teaching that is not telling you directly that "You are God" is not really telling you the truth. All of spirituality can be boiled down to two simple lines: 1) You are God 2) God is Love That is the most concise formulation of what you must realize to fully awaken. And if you don't realize these two, then nothing else matters for you have fundamentally misunderstood reality.

Which is why a man has to take responsibility for getting the sex he wants. Because women certainly are too selfish to care about giving to him when he needs it. Hence pickup is born.

The real clingy part is needing to move in with him.

Truth is prior to what people call knowing. Knowledge is an indirect 2nd order thing, Truth is a direct 1st order thing. Infinity is inherently unknowable. And yet you are Infinity.

Technically what I mean is: you need a sufficiently high baseline state of consciousness. That could be thanks to genetics or other factors. There is no getting around your base line state of consciousness. State is EVERYTHING in this work. If you're missing the state, you're fucked. Which is why most people never awaken. Nothing can substitute for lack of state. But you can change your state.

You start by learning attraction theory, then by going out a few times per week. Or take a boot camp. Find experienced wings. I had a lot of good wings. Of course it takes months and years to develop that kind of laser intent and ability to lead/close. Real life game will bitch slap you so hard it will force you to shape up. Learning game requires 110% passion and commitment. You gotta be going out rain or shine, and learning ever day like there's a gun to your child's head. Embrace the intensity.

Japan is a weird mix of modern and ancient.

That's a profound metaphysical question: What is drugs?

Yes, we've already seen his video here last year. There's an old thread about it.

Why not? 2 dates per week is plenty! Like I said, too much of a good thing burns it out. Sounds like you're getting too clingy.