Leo Gura

Of course! The more a girl likes you and sees you as boyfriend material, the slower she will be in doling out the sex. Because in her mind she respects you so much that she wants it "to be special" and not cheap. The cheap quick easy sex is for the douche bag player who she will never see again. Girls are super counter-intuitive. This is otherwise known as setting the boyfriend vs the player frame. If you set the player frame, she will have sex with you on the same night. If you set the boyfriend frame, it will take 3 dates. I once was gonna have sex with a girl who really liked me in my car. But I had set the boyfriend frame. So she said, "No, I want it to be special". This is how girls think. Everything is backwards. You will not be rewarded for the boyfriend frame like you might expect, even though that's what she most wants. The other problem with just playing with her but not closing the deal is that very often she will flip her mood the next day and never call you back because she feels like a slut or just awkward. It's quite risky to not close the deal. If you got her half-naked, it's usually best to close the deal. The chances of future success after that situation drops quite a bit. My general rule of thumb is: don't get her naked or too horny unless you can close the deal. Because setting up the next date will be so awkward in her mind. If your plan is to court her over multiple dates, then the best move is to not push for sex the first date. Then you don't come off as cliche pushy guy and she will be excited for it on day 2.

Just the fact that you put her on such a pedestal already means you will never attract nor keep her. And you are focused on the wrong thing. You putting all your attention into looks without any consideration who she is as a personality and what it would be like to relate with her. You imagine her personality will match her looks and you two will get along great, but that's not how it works in real life. Chasing girls like that will certainly bring you much suffering, even if you get one. Change your dream to a cute girl who's personality you jive with and fits your lifestyle, and who still has plenty of flaws that you will have to work your ass to deal with. These flaws will both be physical and psychological. Even this will be challenging to obtain, but worth it. And this should make you plenty satisfied to get. RSD theory will get you laid, the skills you learn are important, but RSD is not a fundamentally healthy lifestyle to emulate. Those RSD instructors have deep trauma and they have been chasing girls for 20 years with not much satisfaction or intimacy. Most PUAs are psychologically damaged. Remember that. Healthy, conscious guys do not remain players for long. The healthiest guys in RSD left RSD. You grow out of it pretty quickly if you are doing serious personal development. Learn the skill set of attracting women but don't try to emulate the player lifestyle and philosophy. That is, if you care about consciousness, truth, and love. If you want a stage Orange existence, okay, be a player to the hilt. See how happy that makes you.

And yet, it was totally genuine consciousness of myself as God. How you judge it is doesn't affect what it was. I didn't have much expectations. I was just being authentic. I was not scheming about it. Just sharing my experience. An awakening is an awakening regardless of how you get there. The method does not change the truth of the awakening.

Great share! Yeah... the dead giveaway here is the confluence of: offshore casinos, crypto, expensive prizes, get rich quick scheming, and frat-boy culture. This is like the motherlode of devilish things. Of course it's gonna be a scam. The amazing thing is how people see all that and think it isn't a scam.

Of course, that's how survival is. All survival is deeply unjust. Think of how just it is for a rabbit to born a rabbit rather than a wolf, or the wrong color of rabbit in a winter environment. It's unrealistic to transcend physical sexual attraction unless you transcend the craving for sex altogether. In which case mating would cease to interest you much. You're basically talking about cutting off your balls. A huge part of the spiritual work is accepting the unjust nature of survival. It's fucking brutal. It breaks your heart. And yet, you have little choice but to survive. Learning to accept / love that is the challenge. Giving up chasing the perfect 10 girl is pretty much a must. Otherwise you're in for so much suffering. But that doesn't mean you need to sleep with a crack whore. You need to find some comfortable place where you can be happy. But you will not get everything you desire in a girl. It is madness to expect so. You have to learn to make some strategic compromises to maintain your own sanity. Practically speaking you should be able to find happiness with an 8, 7, or even a 6 girl. If you can't find happiness with an 8, you're really fucked.

Of course all those models are far too limited to capture the uniqueness and fullness of what you are. Those models are just helpful for showing you which areas of yourself you could be working on and what you have overlooked developing. Hold the models loosely. Don't be afraid to let them go when necessary. You can always pick them back up tomorrow, or next month, or next year. You can go through a phase where you do lots of work using the models. And then switch to a phase when you drop all models. And switch back to models again to see if you've missed anything important.

Well, psychedelics would be the fastest and easiest way. If you don't like that way, then hardcore self-inquiry, meditation, kriya yoga, etc. Those are basically the only ways. No teacher can do it for you. If I could give you the awakening I would have done so long ago. It's very important that you understand that merely sitting there and thinking about it will never be enough. You will not awaken through lots of thinking about it. It isn't found in the domain of thinking. So you need to adopt some method which isn't thinking.

They are exactly what they are. They are raw experiences, unvarnished and unfiltered.

That would definitely need to be a separate episode. I will do some deep episodes on Conscious Relationships at some point. It's very different from getting laid. Almost the opposite. Yes, assuming there is a solid authentic match. The reason people manipulate and act inauthentic so much is because without those manipulations it's hard to match. The manipulation is like a fudge factor that helps the two halves find common ground. But at the cost of long-term collapse. It's like, being authentic ensures more rejections, but the upside is that if it clicks, it really clicks and it's more real.

I think that even girls are sexually free and comfortable with their sexuality STILL won't be much into casual sex. Girls might go through an early phase of that when they are 21-26, and then they wise up and grow out of it because it doesn't satisfy them. For girls the problem is not one of being sexually up-tight, it's about craving deep emotional intimacy which cannot be had from shallow flings. I think basically all girls are open to a few shallow flings. But it never satisfies them so the quickly grow out of it and seek something deeper. Also, as the girl ages her beauty fades and she needs to get more serious about finding a partner. Very young girls at the clubs aren't yet thinking about that. They are just being spontaneous and therefore end up sleeping around. Of course these are generalizations. There will always be exceptions and you could hunt for those exceptions.

@diamondpenguin The only lesson is: Be conscious. As conscious as you can stomach.

Of course! THAT is the coping mechanism! And the first one who finds the right one will end up hurting the other. Also, a lot of girls get sucked into fuckbuddy situations because they think they will win the guy over if they fuck long enough. A girl will usually only put up as a fuckbuddy for a brief window, like 3-8 months. Then she desires something more and leaves. Because all healthy girls want deep intimacy. But there are many damaged and unhealthy girls who can be easily manipulated. Which is what many guys exploit to get easy sex. The healthier a person is the harder they are to exploit because they have high self-esteem and strong values and boundaries. So if you want sex with the healthiest people you can't get there with scummy selfish tactics and gimmicks.

The reality is that dating, period, creates hurt on both sides, because both parties are playing survival games and trying to get their own needs met first. Hearts get broken. But, harm reduction is possible with more conscious and ethical methods. Some situations are so obviously casual that little or no expectation is placed by either side for stuff beyond sex. This is a true win-win, but it can be hard to find that scenario. You'll mostly find it at parties and clubs, or places like Vegas. People fly to Vegas just to fuck. But this is not how most dating works. When it comes to casual sex, that game is skewed in the guy's favor because the girl has more to lose and is more likely to get hurt. The problem is that if you tell a girl before sex that this will just be casual, 95%+ girls will not sleep with you. Hence it is suicidal to utter such words. Even if the girl wants just casual sex she cannot allow herself or her friends to know that explicitly otherwise she is cast as the biggest slut in town. But still, it is possible to go to bars and clubs in a somewhat ethical manner. You can reduce collateral damage by screening girls more and basically getting laid less. You can aim to mostly sleep with girls who you would be happy to develp a connection with beyond sex. But if all you're doing is hunting for new pussy each night and trying to maximize your lay rate, I don't see how this is ethical. You will hurt a lot of girls, and in order to keep doing it you will have to lie to yourself about it, which will place a ceiling on how conscious you can become in life. Fundamentally, chasing after lots of sex, or the hottest sex, is a low consciousness behavior and mindset. There is no magic bullet around this fact, sorry to say. Which is why the most conscious people have the least sex. So what do you want more, sex or consciousness? Tough decisions! Be careful fooling yourself that you can have it all. Doing pickup consciously is quite challenging. But you can do it. I recommend you do. You will grow like mad. But it will hurt like a bitch. Remember, dating involves some hurt feelings. That is the cost of entry. Just seek to reasonably minimize those costs.

Of course that happens. But don't forget girls pull such shit all the time too. This scenario is not at all limited to guys. You know how many girls I've built connections with who never had the decency to call me back? This shit is like the norm. And of course it stings like a bitch.

Of course casual sex happens and fuckbuddies sometimes work (for a while, always for a while). But I think those are exceptional situations, like temporary coping mechanisms people take because they cannot find the right partner or they have some psychological baggage they are avoiding or in the middle of working through. Many guys have a deep fear of intimacy and commitment. Or are looking for a hotter girl. Even as a guy, you should notice that when you meet an amazing girl you want more with her than casual sex, and it will break your heart if she dumps you. Guys get attached too.

You are speaking from the absolute level. But from the practical relative level there is much inner work which can be done to deepen one's skill with handling emotions. Your position is far too reductionistic. Developing emotional skills is very practical and valuable for all humans to do, whether awakening happens or doesn't. And remember, for most people awakening will not happen because they don't want to go that far. And awakening will not happen without first a healthy dose of emotional mastery work.

The amount of misunderstanding such raw videos breed have left me with no desire to share any more. No matter where I put them they will get out and people will use them to smear my work and create needless drama and distraction.

Interesting report. It's good that you're going so deep. However, also, be careful how you frame this notion of "non-existence". It's crucial to realize that non-existence isn't a thing from the level of Absolute Consciousness. Non-existence is a concept. Existence is Absolute, existence is all there is. Now, of course, this dream and your body and ego-mind can morph and change into whatever thing, but Consciousness itself -- what you are -- cannot cease to exist. YOU ARE existence itself, not any particular form within existence. This is the crux of Awakening that must be grasped to yield immortality and peace. If you are terrified by some aspect of reality that is a good sign that you have no penetrated and properly understood it yet. So be careful not to confuse your ego-mind's reactions to the 5-MeO revelations for the highest truth. It could be that your mind is twisting itself up and not seeing Truth clearly because it is afraid or resistant. I recommend you go slower with your trips and get really honest clearing up any lingering confusions or egoic reactions. If you are experiencing a lot of fear rather than love then that is your clue that your mind may not be properly making sense of your trips.

Dude, get real. 95% of girls want serious relationships, not friends with benefits or open relationships or whatever. You can't make her feel better with some "friendship route". Most girls are sleeping with you because they expect to be your girlfriend. If you want to be ethical about dating then you should try to fuck only those people who you might want to be in a relationship with. Unless perhaps you're just clubbing and having obvious one night stands with girls who clearly understand it's just a one night stand from a party. But in this case you don't see them after that one night. And still, you will hurt some girls even then. You can't just have sex with a bunch of people and not hurt anyone in the process. You're kidding yourself.

There is an entire Emotional Mastery section in my book reviews. You are never going to reach some sort of end-stage of "Emotional Master". It's just about becoming better at working with your own emotions and psyche.

Obviously she is really attracted to you and you are not serious about her. This breaks her heart. What do you think will happen? Most decent girls will not be okay with "just something casual". You make her feel like a cheap slut.

@Lyubov Maybe she's just being dumb. That's also possible. Not everything is your fault.

There is awakening. Stop confusing people and yourself.

Yes, of course. In this case this girl is telling him: "I'm losing attraction for you". Raw attraction is what makes her wet. Love is a different matter. You can have one without the other and vice versa. It's like two balls that you're juggling and you gotta keep them in balance.

You can do crying but gotta maintain that masculine edge. You have to balance tenderness with dominance. For example, you cry together, but then you tie her hands up and fuck her brains out like a dirty slut so she feels your dominant masculine energy. This is why you have to be careful not to listen to women's advice on attraction. The advice they give you is their ideals and fantasies, not the cold hard reality which makes them wet. Regardless of their ideals, they want a man with a strong edge. That's what turns them on. But they will often gaslight you about this by telling you to be more sensitive. Being too nice to women tends to backfire. This is the reality. A few women can appreciate it, but many can't. Women are often conflicted about what they want. They say they want a nice, developed guy but in practice they get turned on by undeveloped jerk behavior because it will make her feel feminine. But in general, part of the challenge of being intimate, vulnerable, and authentic with someone is that they might reject you precisely for being you. Vulnerability and authenticity does not guarantee attraction. Which is precisely why guys love to manipulate and be inauthentic with women, because they are trying to be what they think the woman wants. So, many guys try to act more macho than they really are. This too can backfire. But it can also work. Which is why guys do it. The bottom line is: you gotta learn to carefully balance the intimate with the dominant/masculine. And you also gotta find a girl at your level who can appreciate this more mature form of masculinity.