Leo Gura

Beautiful responses. Keep 'em coming.

This Although my work is not passive.

Don't forget, something like 20%-40% of America is like this. Explains a lot.

I am how I am. My style is my style. Every style will have its pros and cons.

You are expecting too much. He has no idea you are interested in him romantically. You're not seeing this from his POV. You judge him too soon on such superficial stuff. First flirt with him, THEN see how much he cares about you. You will still have plenty of time to figure out his willingness to invest in you. You have nothing to lose by flirting with him, but you could potentially gain a boyfriend. This risk-reward scenario is a no-brainer. If you want something in life you have to go after it, not sit around hoping for it to come to you. YES! -- even if you're a girl. That's not a valid excuse. The only thing you got to lose here is some ego.

Depends on what kind you're talking about. A bit. Of course if someone was poking me with a stick all day I would get more angry. I designed my life so I don't have to put up with anyone's bullshit much.

It was one of the few times in the least 5 years that I got angry. I can count the number of times I get angry on one hand.

Omg girl, you are way overthinking this. Stop worrying and just flirt with him. It will make him feel flattered.

I still experience fear and anger sometimes. Fear moreso than anger. It takes A LOT to anger me but it might happen once every few years. They have helped me with emtional mastery by making me more loving and conscious. I actually feel emotions more deeply now, both up and down. I am more sensitive. There is also more desire in me to feel emotions more deeply. Emotions take on a spiritual dimension.

I can see it working. Eye contact and vibe is at least 50% of game. The silent opener is more of an advanced technique. Requires really calibration and groundedness or it comes off creepy.

Your lead is so weak he might just see you as being friendly and nothing more. If you want to do this you must actually flirt with him. Stop being afraid of rejection. How do you think us guys feel? We deal with that bullshit all the time. It's okay, you'll live. You must indicate some romantic intent. An ex-gf of mine initiated on me with the line: "I would go home with you." It was very effective on me.

It's useful in helping to understand your personality better, to understand your strengths and weaknesses and why your mind works the way it does.

Realistically you will probably lose a lot of girls this way. It's pretty weird to stop someone who's walking and then stay silent. But on some girls is may work.

Your location is the #1 factor in game. There is no game if there are no girls. So move to where the girls are. The real solution here is to work on your career such that you can easily afford to live wherever you want. Make that your meta-goal. It is nearly impossible to become good at game while stuck in a small town. There just aren't enough girls. You will be in deep scarcity and you will not have enough practice opportunities.

Not sure. Working in it.

Day game is only effective in certain cities and areas. There usually just aren't enough girls out during the day to make it effective for building your skill. Night game is what you need to build skill.

The way you master filmmaking is by making one film at a time. However, the difference is that with the mastery mindset you're not placing your hopes into any one film succeeding, you're rather focused on the process of making each film. Focus on the technical aspects of the filmmaking process and reframe all your mistakes as getting you closer and closer to mastering filmmaking. Your goal is not to make one film. Your goal is to become a master filmmaker by making one film at a time. See the difference?

Obviously If you never compromise on anything you are basically too selfish and immature to be in any kind of healthy long-term relationship with anyone. My philosophy is: be alpha but treat your woman really well as long as she is deeply invested in you. And aim to maximize intimacy. This will give you a great mix of both player and provider traits that women will find irresistible. She wants a player who will invest in her. Lead her into deep intimacy.

You can just explicitly hit on girls as long as you're in a location where it is socially acceptable. For example, you can just say, "Omg, you are sexy as fuck, girl." But you have to say it in a non-needy and matter-of-fact way, and you cannot just leave it there to hang, you must splice it into the middle of a conversation and quickly move on with the rest of the conversation. You must say it as an aside. Like you could be talking to her about her dogs, and in the middle of that you put your hand on her shoulder and say, "Omg, you are sexy as fuck, girl", and continue talking about her dogs as though you didn't even just hit on her. This requires some tact and skill to pull off, but it works really well once you master it. This skill lets you turn social interactions into romantic ones while still maintaining an air of "just being social". Really, the most effective way to get girls is using the "just being social" method, but sprinkling in intent and flirtation. This way you slip past the defenses and you can even do it in front of her friends without triggering their defenses. You can even do this in front of her mom and it will work. The "just being social" frame buys you A LOT of leeway and good will. The trick here is to not fall into the friendzone. So you have to maintain sexual intent without being explicit about it.

@SamC Watch Mike's in-field videos: https://www.pickupalpha.com/video/ This is the most realistic presentation of how night game and club game works.

Great! In a club kissing a girl within 15 mins is not too early. Dude, you can pull a girl in 15 mins. You can kiss a girl within a minute or two if she's in the right mood. The problem is not that you did it too early, the problem is that you didn't escalate up the kino ladder properly. Before you kiss her, you should physically escalate in other smaller ways so that she is not blindsided by the kiss. Usually before you kiss her you gotta have your hands all over her body. Physically escalating over her body is more important than kissing. And you need to learn to start doing it immediately upon opening. Especially in a club. That's silly. You approach as soon as you see a girl you like. Especially when you are just starting your training. Your job should be to maximize the number of girls you open and the time you spend talking to them. You need warm up sets to get in the flow and build up your state. And a lot of times you can pull a girl pretty early in the night. You don't have to wait till the end of the night to pull. If it's extremely loud and crowded, you must rely much more on physical game and strong eye contact. Don't try to have a logical substantive conversation. You basically talk about herself and yourself. And you riff variations on that. You flirt. Watch some in-field footage to get an idea of what guys talk about. The advice is: it takes 100s and 1000s of approaches to get good. Your first 500 approaches will suck. Just do the best you can and don't judge yourself. Approach as much as you can and take risks. Learn by failing.

Clarity of your intent is key. There are two kinds of interactions with women: 1) Friendly and social 2) With sexual intent, man to woman You need to be clear in your own mind what your intent is. That intent shapes the whole interaction. If all the girls you talk to start out as #1, and you do hours of #1, then converting that into #2 will be difficult if not impossible because now she sees you as her gay friend, and you see yourself that way too. You need to become better at simply communicating when you are attracted to a woman. If you are genuinely attracted, tell her early on. It should not take you hours to know you are attracted to her. You should know within 5 seconds. Of course the more you communicate as #2, the more rejections you will get because you are forcing her to quickly decide whether she's attracted to you. And most girls will simply not be attracted to you no matter what you do. So the key here is just take the rejection as a good thing. It means you clearly hit on her. The easiest way to turn a friendly conversation with a girl into one with sexual intent is to drop small hints that you find her attractive. For example, "Hey cutie"

Most heads of families are not players. Nothing wrong with being a strong provider. However, a lot of guys fall into that frame of bending over backwards for their woman because they are incapable of finding a new one if she leaves. There is a sort of chump way of being a provider. It's the classic "nice guy" stereotype. You're basically asking me, "What's wrong with being a nice guy? What's wrong with being nice?"

Sounds like you enjoy chess but it is not central to your LP. It's just that you are afraid to go after your LP full-bore because you don't yet know how to actualize it and chess is something you're good at seperately, so you're trying to shoehorn that into your LP somehow. But is this really relevant to your LP? Some food for thought. I am not telling you what to do.

Unless you are impregnating all those females you pull, sex is giving peace to your brain no less than porn. Ironically, pickup guys are anti-reproduction. Healthy kids are not usually raised by players, but by provider guys with a bad case of Oneitis. Think about it: Was your dad a player? Did he have a double or triple digit lay count?