Leo Gura

The selfishness is in the fact that you said he wouldn't be open to learning about how to make you cum, to not invest time in that. He should be eager to invest time in that. Why hasn't he been using his fingers to make you cum? This is just negligence. The deeper problem here is that it doesn't sound like he's interested in investing energy into growing the relationship. This is a deal-breaker.

So the answer here is very simple: Either he gets interested in making you cum on the regular, or you break up with him. You're not breaking up with him because of his dick. You're breaking up with him because he isn't interested in making you cum. Which is a very valid reason to break up with a guy. Why would you want date such a guy? That's not something you can just overlook. That's not some minor, superficial thing. He's being too selfish.

It's likely going to be exploitative because of the power differential. A 30+ year old man has enough life experience to manipulate the shit out of 21 year old girl in a relationship. If a 30+ year old were to date a 21 year old, he would have to have very high integrity not to manipulate her. But most PUAs are manipulative and low-integrity people, so it's gonna lead to exploitation.

I don't think guys pursue young girls for the sake of being predatory. They are just immature themselves which results in predatory-looking behavior. They are just thinking purely with their dicks.

You can meet some really cool girls personality-wise in the 25-30 range. But if you're a guy over 35 and your goal is 21 year old's... yeah.... that shows immaturity on your part. You're basically a man-child. I've talked to A LOT of 21 year olds and they leave much to be desired personality-wise, hot as they are. If I see a hot girl who I like and I find out she's 21, I'm like, "Damn, this sucks. I would rather you were older."

Let's see celebrities stick to that rule first. You can definitely date way younger girls. But if she's under 24 and you're over 30, that shows that you're not selecting wisely. Girls under 24 tend to be mentally and emotionally immature and not really worth dating, only for sex. Which becomes exploitative and toxic. 25-35 is still very hot. But you get the added benefit of mental and emotional maturity. Which is totally worth it.

@tashadwoodfall I'm guessing what you really want is not a big dick, but for him to deeply satisfy you in bed. A big dick is not necessary for that. How many times does he make you cum per session? Zero? Then that's the problem, not the dick. Lasting longer is something that he can develop. He can also employ other methods to make you cum deeper. The physical size is not what makes you cum hard. A guy who knows what he's doing can make you cum deeper via text messages than you ever came from a big dick. The mind is what makes you cum, not the dick. It sounds like you just need to communicate to him that you're not feeling fully satisfied sexually and you want to explore WITH HIM deeper ways of satisfying you. Encourage him to learn how to satisfy you better in bed. There are so many ways. You can suggest methods, books, courses, videos, toys, tantric techniques, etc. Also you need to be explicit with him about what makes you cum hard. So he understands your needs. Be specific with him. Of course you can also tell him that you want to work on satisfying him deeper in bed too. He will like that part.

Realistically, for most people, not a chance in hell.

Treating women like disposable objects and basing your life around that. It's classic foolishness.

Seems like the NewsWeek expose destroyed him: https://www.newsweek.com/pick-artist-sold-sex-audios-targeted-teen-girls-using-major-tech-firms-1648461

That actually demonstrates skillful means.

Arnold did not con his way into success. The dude is a workhorse. I have read various bios of him.

Big con-man vibes from him. He is gaming guys more than he is gaming girls. The grift is to sell guys on the player lifestyle -- which is faked.

Yeah, DMT is on another level. The more you trip the easier it becomes to handle deep trips. Of course it will be shocking a first. Yes, of course. Most of my deep trips these days are super blissful and just pure love. It took a lot of work to reach that point. You get use to the scariness. That's the whole trick. There's not a good answer other than doing lots of spiritual work. Just lower your dose. There will always be a dose at which you can freak yourself out. So take less. It's not going to be as sharp as vaped DMT, more smooth and drawn out. Just the rapid onset of vaped DMT can be terrifying if you take a big dose. LOWER YOUR DOSE and continue tripping.

Look, the reality is that there is a sexual marketplace. Every actor in this marketplace is trying to maximize value. This being the case, of course the highest value actors will tend to hook up with other high value actors. If you got no game and low social value, then yeah, your looks matter more because you got little else of value to offer. For looks not to matter so much you gotta develop either game or social value. Ideally both. The real question here is: How much value are you bringing to the negotiating table as a man? This value can take many different forms, from status to friends to leadership skills to spiritual connection to looks. When people hook up through dating apps they are basically sorting themselves by looks.

You really can't if you find the girl amazing. Or, you could if you are seeing a bunch of other girls at once. But this isn't necessarily a good thing. It's natural to fall for a girl you really like. Of course you will get somewhat needy. That's okay as long as she reciprocates. The key is to make her also fall for you. Sometimes you're just not going to know why a girl did what she did. There could be many hidden factors at play which you will never know. It sounds like the thing you could have done better was to indicate your romantic intentions towards her earlier on and escalated in a smoother way. This seems to have taken her by surprise. You want to practice man-woman communication so that it's obvious to her that if she ends up alone with you, sex will naturally happen. There shouldn't be doubts in her mind about your romantic intentions towards her. And then you gotta learn smooth physical escalation. Going straight to a make out is not the way. You have to gradually seduce her with physical touch. But anyways, it is rather odd that she wanted to leave. Most girls would not do that at such a late stage. I mean, you could just ask her why she got cold-feet.

THIS!

Be careful, there is a dark side to pickup which is easy to get sucked into. You have to be very careful not to get lost in pickup and the toxicity and ego that can come with it. The more successful you become the more ego develops around it.

That is the work. I would say most of them are shallow and lost people. It's a pity. So much wasted potential. Many of them drink. Some don't. Drugs I haven't seen used by PUAs so much.

I would rather just say what I wanna say.

"It is difficult to get a man to understand something, when his salary wealth depends on his not understanding it." -- Upton Sinclair Here's why billionaires should be taxed more: Because a society with huge wealth inequality becomes fundamentally undemocratic, unhealthy, and eats itself alive Billionaires should be taxed more for the same reason cancer cells should be checked by the immune system. A billionaire saying to tax him less is like a cancer cell saying, "Control my reproduction less, I will do great things."

Definitely a scam.

Ummm... No.

Forecasting the future is a fool's game. Stop caring what others are up to and do what you know you gotta do to build a great life. While others are whining and raving, you are patiently working on your LP and yourself. I broke out of wage slavery in 2008-2009, in the middle of the worst economic crises of our lifetime. People were whining and raving, I was working hard and making a bunch of money. There is enormous opportunity to be seized in any era or world situation. You are not a statistic. Don't treat yourself as one.

I doubt it. His father was an abusive alcoholic I believe and Owen was a weed dealer, so he made a strict policy never to take drugs himself because he saw how it destroyed people. This actually holds him back today with his anti-psychedelic stance. He would grow a lot from taking them, but refuses to.