Leo Gura

It's all fair from the absolute POV since there is no difference between anything. But this will not help with your survival concerns, which is the context of this thread. Survival cannot ever be fair since it is false and finite. Yes, your lack of self-love could kill you. You need to locate the source/root of this self-hate (hint: childhood trauma) and work on healing it. Therapy or psychedelics would be your best bets. I'd try both. This isn't rocket science. But you have to want to face that trauma and heal it. You can't fix it if you don't want to face it. Why do you hate yourself/life? It simply boils down to this question. Dare to answer it. The answer is gonna be something like: you didn't get the love you wanted. And the solution is to go about getting that love.

All kinds of fresh meat + all kinds of fruits & veggies + healthy oils = endless meal options. Pick one from each category and mix and match. Find which ones taste best to you.

1) I would not trust those hair tests at all. Who knows what chemicals might cover your hair from water, soap, shampoo, etc. 2) The reality is that you have to go with the lesser of all the evils. What else are you gonna cook with? Plastic? Aluminum? Copper? Teflon? Stainless steel seems to be the healthiest kind of material relative to plastic, aluminum, copper, Teflon, and other coated pans. Maybe glass is better, but some glass can contain lead. And you can't really cook well in glass so it's not gonna fly long-term. Also, why would high quality SS contain nickel? 3) You could have easily gotten that nickel from food and drink. That's in fact the most likely source. 4) Do a provoked urine test to really see what is being pulled out of your body. Then chelate if necessary.

To be a serious philosopher you have to be super interested in contemplating the nature of everything. It's not about getting famous, it's about understanding reality. And if you happen to do that long enough maybe one day you will understand reality so deeply that you will generate some unique insights and that could make you a bit famous. It's the same advice as if you asked how to become a world-famous weightlifter: go to the gym every day for many hours per day and lift those weights. If you do it seriously enough, long enough, one day you might become well-known. But don't do it for that reason. Do it only if you enjoy lifting and there's nothing else you'd rather be doing. Philosophy isn't about reading books, it's about understanding reality accurately. Do you even care about understanding reality accurately? If not, philosophy isn't for you.

But that's probably exactly what you need. You're avoiding facing the trauma which is the root cause of your BPD. It's not gonna be easy to face, but without facing it you will never really heal. If you have BPD it's gonna be very hard for you to heal yourself by yourself.

She's into you, but on a surface level. As she gets to know your personality better incompatibilities can naturally arise. Don't take it personal, this just means you two are not suitable for each other. Compatibility is crucial and you can't know compatibility within 1 hour of talking to a person. It takes time to unfold. I've had cases where our personalities just clash and grate. She might be hot but her personality might be very lacking.

1) Life ain't fair, so drop that childish expectation. Embrace the challenge. Embrace your weaknesses. For some guys earning $1M will be easier than getting a girlfriend. For other guys, earning $10K will be harder than getting a girlfriend. We each have our strengths and weaknesses. Honestly, for me, it is way easier to make $1M than find the right girl. But I have high standards. It would be worth it to pay $100K to find the right girl. 2) It doesn't usually take 1000s of hours to get a gf. The 1000s of hours we're talking about here is not to get a gf but to develop the skillset to become really good with attracting and understanding girls, and also growing yourself into a powerful man. The gf is the least important part of this process. 3) There are many degrees of getting a gf. There are many qualities of gf. Just getting a random slob girl at the bar to be your gf is way easier than say, getting a smoking hot, mentally stable, spiritual, well-developed gf who aligns with your personality. The higher your standards the harder you will have to work for it and the more value you will have to bring to the table. When I talk about getting a gf I'm really talking about finding your "perfect" girl. A high quality life partner, not just some fuck buddy who you are afraid to show your friends. 4) There's also the matter of how high outside your league are you trying to bat? If you're not so good looking you will have to provide a lot of value in other areas to attract and keep your smoking hot gf. But if you are happy with a below-average girl, then that will be way way easier to get. - - - - - - Think of it this way, the 1000s of hours of self-help work is something you should already be eager to do for yourself. You're not doing it for the girl, you're doing it FOR YOU! And then you will leverage that investment to also attract a high quality girl.

Should work.

Go out of your house and talk to 1000s of people. Bars and clubs work well.

Learn to trust your girl. But also you can set boundaries with her. Clearly you've got insecurity issues tho which you should work on.

It won't be long until that microchip is implanted into your skull, and you will do it eagerly to interface with machines.

@Barna Don't confuse your BS for openmindedness.

If you keep trolling, expect your threads to be locked. I notice that a lot of you guys are not serious at all about this work. I'm not gonna let you waste our time here with bullshit. If you wish to do that, go elsewhere.

Not really. But sometimes you two just won't match up or she will not be into it. I've had dates where I was into her but she wasn't into me. I've also had dates where as I learned more about her, I didn't like her much as a person. Solution is to screen hard up front and stop going with girls just because she's receptive to your approach. Actually screen her for what you're looking for.

If you went on 30 dates, that actually means that a lot of girls like you. No girl will show up to a date with a guy she wouldn't be willing to sleep with. Your date game is just bad. Fix that and you will start getting laid. The problem here is that you're missing the fundamentals of inner game. It sounds like your inner game and self-esteem is so bad that it turns a lot of girls off. This is something you can fix. 30 dates is A LOT of dates! You're not even registering that as success in your mind, which is a huge problem. Getting good at dating requires a lot of persistence and patience. You have to work on every one of your sticking points. If girls are going on dates with you, your sticking points are not physical appearance, that much is obvious.

You shouldn't be consuming hydrogenated oils at all.

If death was real, all of spirituality would be pointless.

What you actually fear is not death, it's infinite consciousness.

Lol It is an unncessary burden because death is imaginary.

This one will be a classic for the history books:

No

Nothing works for everyone. You need to adopt more nuanced thinking. There cannot be a one-size-fits-all for awakening. Whenever we talk about spiritual techniques we are talking about loose probabilities.

We don't peddle in conspiracy theories here. This one is especially dumb.

Ah yes, haha Haha You got. Welcome to God-realization YES! Yup That's the bitch of it. Namaste But it also goes deeper

People are deeply lost in the dream and live like animals.