Leo Gura

My default state is not much different than it ever was. But I understand what I am looking at, which is God. The more I focus on it the more I get in tune with God, so to speak. But many times throughout my day I am not focused on God, I am busy with other things. What I have more of is not a state but an understanding of what everything is. Understanding is different than a state. Understanding has been the core of my work. In the future I will work more on my state because now my understanding has started to max out. But this required years of work.

If you go a few times as a tourist, sure. But if you are actually seriously going to church and consuming their dogma in the hope of realizing God, that can be a serious obstacle to Awakening. It's not a matter of fear, it's a matter of avoiding distractions that will waste decades of your life.

1) Given that you're so young you can focus on other parts of your life for now. Having relationships at 18 is largely a waste of time. None of them will last anyway. And that's normal and okay. 2) On the other hand, it's good to get relationship experience early on otherwise it will take you longer to learn how relationships work. For someone your age, worrying about guys leaving you due to looks or youth should not be an issue at all. You are thinking too far ahead and not letting yourself just enjoy the whole process of dating and relating. You don't need something final right now, you just need to experiment and gain experience. 3) The more energy you invest into dating the more likely you are to get a good result. Just expecting the right guy to magically fall in your lap is not a good approach. Just like anything else in life, if you want a great result you gotta put work into it. You can go on dates and screen guys for maturity.

@integral Look, girls are girls. Rather than trying to retrain your GF it will be better for your relationship if you accept her as she is. Girls can be very emotional regardless of how spiritual they are. Of course you can teach her some of these concepts but she has to be ripe for it and it will take her a long time to train herself even if she wants to, which it doesn't sound like she does. Expecting a girl to just deconstruct her emotions like some Buddhist is a tall order.

Apply mindfulness to your OCDs and let them go. "But I can't let go." Yes you can.

Yes, some states are very stable over long periods of time. Like this state of being human. Those states we call stages.

@Water by the River If you had Alien Consciousness you would forget all about Buddhism. The only problem is locking it in. It will kill you that you can't. If I had permanent Alien Consciousness I would literally never talk to any human ever again. I would quit humanity forever and bask in my own Mind, and every human spiritual idea, practice, teaching, and attainment would mean nothing.

The more guys you meet the better your chances of finding the right one. Real Love is God. Fill yourself with God's Love and then you won't need it so badly from men and you can enjoy men with less attachment. You're placing a lot of attachment and expectation on relationships, which isn't ideal. Try doing relationship without so much expectation and demands. Relationships will come and go. Occasionally you might find a really deep one. - - - - - Plenty of people on this planet are happily married. So it is possible. Don't just chalk it up to blind luck. If you want a great marriage you can create one. Go date 50 guys and find yourself the best one. This isn't rocket science. All you need to do is find one guy who's suitable for you. 1 out of 1000s.

Those are correct but comprehension of God goes so much deeper. It's a matter of depth. Buddhists are not wrong. There's just more that's missing. There exists a whole dimension of transhuman consciousness. Buddhism is all still within the domain of the human.

@TryHard Maybe I'll just upgrade your account within the next few days.

@Water by the River You may know that you're God but that does not means you know what God is. God is such a profound thing that no Buddhist comprehends it. With that said, I like the techniques you shared. I can see their power and I will try them out to shore up my baseline state.

All stages are actually just states. There exists nothing but states of consciousness. Consciousness is an infinite state machine.

@Water by the River Your True Nature is God. Which is not the same thing as Emptiness, nor nonduality, nor Buddhism, nor egolessness. The real question you should be asking is, What is God?

@Water by the River Sounds super-technical. But it's interesting. Thanks for explaining. I will play around with it.

@Karmadhi That means your game is pretty weak and could use a lot more work. I suggest you drop the expectation of pickup transforming other areas of your life. Just enjoy doing it for what it is and you will have fun and learn new things. Pickup is best when you turn it into an adventure and make it as fun as possible for yourself. My best memories of pickup is all the crazy adventures I went on and all the fun I had. Not the sex.

@KatiesKarma Have you tried Kriya yoga? It might have a good chance of helping you if you do it for at least a year.

@KatiesKarma Your situation is so unique that it's hard to say. You just gotta keep trying stuff with the hope that you will stumble upon something some day. Maybe emotions are not gonna be your way. Maybe you can find happiness just in being conscious and at peace, like one of those Buddhists. Maybe what you're looking for is just classic enlightenment.

Thanks

Have you tried literally just sitting down and doing that?

Because my highest goal in life is to understand reality. Nothing else is worth doing in the end. God's only purpose is to understand itself. It tames the monkey mind and builds focus. It can produce some powerful shifts in consciousness but it has to be done for many hours on end, for days. And it's tedious as hell.

I understand. Then I suggest just doing some deep research into all the various techniques for healing and trauma that exist out there. You're bound to find some good stuff. I don't have much experience helping people heal from mental disorders. One thing you can do is to research other people who had your condition and healed it, and investigate what methods they used. This requires doing DEEP research. Gather up all the info that's available on the subject until you become an expert on it.

@Karmadhi Let's not turn this thread into a gender debate.

@Karmadhi It just sounds like you are already satisfied with that part of your life, so move on other things. Pickup in mostly for guys who really struggle with girls or socializing, or guys who want to sleep with tons of girls, or guys who want exceptionally hot girls. If none of that suits you, then you probably won't be in pickup for long.

@KatiesKarma I can suggest working with a psychic/mystic therapist rather than a traditional one. You can find local ones on Yelp. They will probably help you a lot more than traditional materialist therapists. That's hard to say since I don't have that kind of mind. Maybe buried hurt or anger. Something like that. Trauma. Have you actually tried programming your mind with positive imagery on a daily basis for months? That might be a great practice for you. Learn to control your mind with positivity and love. If you have multiple personality disorder then you should research specific therapy and techniques for that. You require an expert on that condition. You need to do more research on exactly what condition you have and find specialists with extensive experience healing that. Generic spiritual advice is not going to help you much.

@Water by the River In your long post you explained some very elaborate techniques for taming thought. That's sorta your whole method. My question to you is: Why make it so complicated? Why not just use something like the noting/labeling method for monitoring your thoughts? Seems to me like this would achieve the same thing with one simple method. I'm talking about something like Shinzen Young's method. How is your method superior to the Shinzen Young method?