Leo Gura

@mr_engineer If you were getting laid you wouldn't be talking about any of this crap.

My last two girlfriends were both emotionally unavailable for 4-6 months before they came back around to date me. I gave them space and it worked well. This is not the ideal way to date, but sometimes you gotta give girls space. Just don't sit there waiting. Go talk to more girls. Fill your funnel with interested girls and some of them will pan out 6 months down the road. It's no different than a sales funnel. A good salemen is not pushy and gives the customer space to come back around.

I have been earnestly trying to help you for a long time now. But my patience with you is running thin. You show no interest in learning or changing.

Not really if it's a cornerstone to your dream. Don't worry about working hard towards things you know you want and need. Worry about wasting your money on things that contribute little to your top values.

Yes, your behavior is scaring vulnerable girls. So stop doing that. Simple. You deliberately refuse to take in the points I make. Why don't you just learn to behave better? It will be easier than all this complaining you do for YEARS.

@Cocolove Well, 55 hrs of work is not that much in order to build a key piece of the life you want. You just have to frame it properly in your mind, as a stepping stone towards your dream.

I understand. You need to understand this: You have become a drug addict, and this has robbed your whole life from you. Your number one priority now must be to quit drugs forever and build a sober life. It will be challenging at first, but it will be better than being a drug addict. The good news is that weed should not be so hard to quit. It's not like heroin. If you need help, consider researching a 12-step program for addicts, where experienced folk can give you support. It's just addiction. That's all. You can kick it. Once you go sober, the rest of your problems will be much easier to solve. You don't need weed to live a good life. You just need to reach a point of pain where you clearly feel like you never wanna do weed again in your life because it's not worth the suffering it generates.

That's very young. You have plenty of time yet to develop yourself. And what is the alternative to developing those things? What else is there for you to do? You can develop skills, get better jobs, move to a better place, and learn to socialize. Why not spend the next 5-10 years doing that?

No. You are over-thinking this. It just means your behavior is weird and out of touch.

YOU are making it personal. It's not personal. No it doesn't. That's how you take it because you are insecure and resentful.

Creep is not someone you are, creepy is the socially uncalibrated way you are behaving, which you could change if you were serious about learning game. If I stared at people's crotches whenever I talked to them, that would be a creepy behavior that I could learn to change and stop being creepy.

What case are you citing?

Dude, stop it.

@mr_engineer You are totally missing the point.

There are many things I could do around you which would be legal but still make you want to run away. You can be likeable or you can be unlikeable. That's really up to you. And even ugly people can be likeable by acting in a likeable way.

I cannot make sense of what you asked.

On a scale of 1 to 10, how much would this course help you build the house you want? And how much more effective is this course vs a book or free videos?

@Past-Philosopher-562 How old are you? And what is stopping you from doing those things?

Frankly, all this is too much investment into a girl who doesn't care about you. The real solution here is to go talk to 100 other girls and forget about this one. Don't chase girls who don't return your interest.

Hard to say. What is it you want out of life?

That's a bit more tricky. Don't give her much attention I guess. But it's a weird situation.

Don't be so melodramatic. The gist of your whole topic was linking up the notion of "the West" with those other concepts. And it is perfectly legitmate for me to question the validity of such a linking. That is not a case of some absolute skepticism on my part.

Then that would have been a different (and better) sort of point. A great point could always be made. They key is to make it

I find this whole notion that "the West" has a special set of values quite childish and silly. "The West" and its purported "values" are a shallow social construction and gross generalization, so spending much time analyzing them is a waste of time. You're not gonna get high quality insight from this line of reasoning. There are complex trade-offs between individualism and collectivism which go far beyond East or West.

Because she's a girl and she goes with the wind. Girls are often confused. Sounds like she's not emotionally available right now. It happens. Not your fault. What you do in such a case is tell her: text me when you become emotionally available and we will go on a date. Don't text her for 3-6 months. Check in with her in 3-6 months. I've had cases like this which I eventually converted just by giving her 3-6 months of space and then checking in with her in 3-6 months. But very importantly, don't sit around waiting for her. Carry on with your dating. And in 3-6 months she might come around. The important thing here is to give her space and not to make a big deal of this nor to put any pressure or expectations on her. Just treat the whole thing casually, as if it's nothing important. Do not make an argument over this and do not act butt-hurt. Be detached and non-needy. If you do that, there's a decent chance that within 2-3 months she will contact you herself when she gets lonely and horny.