Leo Gura

Yeah, I've been there. I feel ya. Especially the breakups are hard. It's important, when do this work, that you don't make major life decisions too rashly. If you had a good relationship, then I don't really see a point in breaking it up unless you are just not interested in that any more and want to go 100% solo. Of course it will be hard going full-Buddha. Much harder than most people realize. Expect major ego backlash. Fast, dramatic, and intense is what you're signing up for when you go full-Buddha. It's not necessary to go full-Buddha. But maybe for you it's the right move. Only you can know what you're capable of.

There is no such thing as subjective perception. Ego appropriates the Absolute for itself, creating the illusion of subjective experience. Without ego, subjective experiences becomes recontextualized into the Absolute. Your experiences are not really yours. And they are not really experiences, but Being. "But Leo! I'm having this experience right now! I'm seeing the world!" << No! That is ego! The universe is simply being. The universe is not happening "to you". This life is not yours! The universe is alive without you. Without ego, what was always subjective becomes objective. Being has instant direct objective knowledge of itself via no mechanism -- DIRECTLY! Being is. Out of blind self-centeredness, the ego-mind mistakes Being for perception. It's like looking at clouds and always seeing rabbits instead of clouds because you're always looking for rabbits.

Rogan has a lot of Green in him despite his macho proclivities.

Discussing PUA theory with women is like a lion discussing with a gazelle how best to hunt it. Nothing good will come of it.

@Speedscarlet She is beyond both.

@Outer Whatever meaning it has for you is precisely the meaning you're projecting onto it.

The problem here is that you've got a highly skewed, demonized notion of what multiculturalism is about. Multiculturalism is about valuing diversity of human cultures, not holding your own as superior. It's about being curious about exploring other cultures and noticing how all cultural norms are relative, arbitrary, and socially constructed. It would help if you actually traveled abroad or deeply studied other cultures and saw the rich diversity that exists all around the world. This would open your eyes to whole new way of seeing humans, societies, and life. For example, you could travel to Costa Rica and see what life is like in a country which has abolished its army entirely. Costa Rica has zero army. And people there seem to be happy with it. Don't make this political. Politics is ego. Work to let go of your judgments. If you're judging a thing, that means there's something about it you don't fully understand.

Great example of Orange gone Green. Stage Blue hates whistleblowers because it sees them as traitors to the civilization Blue is trying to build. And Stage Orange hates whistleblowers because they ruin profits and Orange's ability to manipulate.

Perhaps Yellowish too. Hard to pigeonhole him. But he's definitely beyond Blue or Orange. Incredible level of integrity and selflessness this guy has.

Friendzoning is independent of your Spiral color. Guys of all colors get friendzoned, and only because they are clueless about pulling the trigger and escalating. Friendzoning is never going to be a problem if you just learn a bit about flirting with girls.

@Clayman Good work. Messy, but you gotta start somewhere. Try some LSD for a less twisted and less disorienting experience. The goal with psychedelics is to be able to contemplate on them. So you can figure stuff out rather than just being blasted into hyperspace -- which leaves you confused after you return. You wanna contemplate questions like: What am I? Where did I come from? What is intelligence? What is God? What is another? What is language? What is time? What is the purpose of life? etc.

@Emerald Nope, not Shinzen. Gaydar? Lol P.S. Careful with spreading rumors.

@ShaharA Great video! Man, that atheist is in for a rude awakening

Hint: If your poo is Green, you're probably Green

I've had experiences of Infinite nondual love. It's awesome thing. Male teachers will of course tend to be more rational and less lovey-dovey. Matt Kahn being an obvious exception to the rule. No, the guy I was talking about is celibate. Gandhi-style.

Many women are naive and underdeveloped themselves. And also, Green guys are pretty rare. Most guys are Blue/Orange. And since women don't do pickup on guys, they don't have many choices a lot of times. An Orange woman is not conscious enough to realize that what she really wants is a Green guy. She will keep getting attracted to Orange assholes for a long time, until she learns her lesson the hard way. Like attracts like. The best way to attract a Green guy or girl is to become solidly Green yourself. Hang out where Green people hang out. Oh, definitely! The problem is it rarely works. Most Orange guys are stuck being Orange. Much easier to find a guy who's already Green.

@MM1988 It's gonna depend a lot on his particulars. A person like that is going to have serious motivation problems. So you need steps which will get him engaged and mobilized. That will depend on what he really wants in life and what will motivate him. If he's a 30 year virgin, then coming up with a compelling vision could work nicely. Like a vision of him getting into shape, starting to socialize, and finally landing his hot dream girlfriend. That should probably get him engaged. But he has to start believing that it's really possible for him to do that, not just a pipe dream. A person so stuck will have A LOT of excuses for why he can't, why nothing ever works. Classic victim mindset. You gotta question all those excuses to death and draw that compelling vision anyway. A great vision is the key to motivation. A vision that really fits you. (See my Life Purpose Course for how to create a badass vision for your life.)

The biggest trick with romantic love is that for it to really work, you have to convert it into Platonic love. Romantic love is usually needy love. You need something from the relationship which you lack. Platonic love is the love you GIVE, not receive. So the goal of the game is to make yourself less and less selfish, and to love more and more unconditionally without expectation. The big trap for women with this advice, though, is they become doormats for douchey guys who cannot appreciate unconditional love. And women use the excuse of "unconditional love" to stay in bad relationships and not enforce boundaries. You have to find a guy at your level who is willing to love back, and you need a boost up your self-esteem so you do not let the guy transgress over your boundaries. Then things should work. I know a Western yogi who's married to a hot wife. But he never has sex with her. It's purely Platonic. Of course he is enlightened and developed as hell, so he can pull something like that off. It also helps to be in your 60s.

@waking_dreams Great stuff, those 10 principles.

@Rilles Excellent! Lots of wisdom packed into 3 minutes.

@tsuki It's not strictly a prerequisite. There are people who I would classify as Yellow who don't know Spiral Dynamics exists. But learning Spiral Dynamics will super-charge your ascent and mastery of Yellow and help open you up to Turquoise. Noam Chomsky is a Yellowish guy, and I don't think he knows about Spiral Dynamics. Yellow just requires a passion for removing all biases from your perception of the world, and being able to explore diverse perspectives with radical openmindedness and neutrality.

@billiesimon Girls love artistic hippie guys. They love the long-haired chaotic musician stereotype. A Green guy can easily steal a girl away from an Orange guy. Girls want emotional connection, not your Orange logic and business-suit. Don't confuse PUA emotional manipulation tactics with true emotional connection. PUAs are not able to build deep emotional connection. They just know how to manipulate her emotional buttons to create drama. Which works short-term, but not long-term. And 99% of Orange guys don't know pick-up, so they are the boring logical nerd guy who cannot get laid.

The map is also the territory

@DoubleYou Yeah, that's very true. Orange looks for love externally rather than internally. Because Orange is materialistic, it treats love as just another kind of material.