Leo Gura

The self-help industry is so incestuous that basically everyone rips off or references someone else. Most of Tony Robbins concepts are not his but "rip offs" from other teachers and authors. I do it to an extent too. I try to cite sources to be generous but it's hard to figure out where to draw the line because there are few truly original insights to be made about human psychology and whoever you cite probably wasn't the original source of the idea. You could cite Tony Robbins for the 6 Needs but they certainly aren't his. I remember reading an older self-help book which listed "his" 6 needs and upon realizing that I said, "Woah! So that's where he got it from. Straight up copy." I forget exactly which book that was. If you're gonna use someone's well-known concepts, like Tony Robbins, definitely give credit. It actually makes you look good. Otherwise you look like a dick. Eben Pagan is one of the best examples of a self-help guru who cites his sources VERY generously. And it makes him look awesome. A great quote I read once in a creativity book that applies to this situation went something like this: "If you're worried that your work is too similar to someone else's, then you're being too derivative and not creative enough."

Oddly enough, one of the BEST things you can do for the world is to rid yourself of ego. Once that's gone, you are in a much better position to see how to actually help the world. Without that, you may easily contribute to its ruin while thinking you are helping. It's really hard to change the masses without first changing yourself a lot. And ironically, after you change yourself a lot, you may not feel such a great need to change the masses. But if you want some more external solutions to the worlds problems, I think the following areas are important: Education reform Political reform, getting corporate lobbying out of politics Bringing up 3rd world countries Solving the Western vs Arab cultures conflict Moving the world away from stage Orange materialism to stage Green and Yellow Addressing pollution, waste, and global warming Teaching people about mindfulness, meditation, and enlightenment Teaching people about practical psychology and emotional awareness Changing the Standard American Diet Reforming the healthcare system All the above are doable and passionate people right now are working on them. But they need help.

Anything from the Greeks and Romans is usually good. But also check out Eastern material. The Buddha's Dhammapada is great. And there are many other examples from the East. Western philosophy from 1000 AD to 2000 AD is highly intellectual and pedantic. Very little of it deals with actually improving one's life. New Age type books from the last 50 years will probably be more fruitful for you. Like Carlos Castenada's work.

This is a problem of lack of authentic relating. The next time you relate to a human being, try to do it from a place of 100% genuineness. Only say exactly what you think and feel and not some polite bullshit. Then when you say "I'm sorry" it will be coming from an authentic sense of feeling sorry, and not just empty words, or even worse, lies. In general, try to clean up your language so that whenever you say some words, you really mean them. << That's a great self-improvement exercise. You could turn it into a 30 day challenge. It will grow you a lot. Re-watch my How You Lie video. It's addressing this very point. What you're basically doing right now with people is lying. And it makes you feel hollow inside.

True non-neediness is a MUCH deeper thing than you're thinking of it as. You're still thinking of non-neediness as a manipulation. Like, "Oh, if I am non-needy then I will be more attractive and gain some advantage or benefit in life." << But that is actually coming from a place of deep lack. True non-neediness is you are alive and 100% fulfilled simply by your very existence. It's a deep in-the-moment knowing that you need nothing external to satisfy you. You don't need social contact or women or money or anything. You just sit there and bask in being fully complete exactly as you already are. And you don't care about how this will affect anyone or anything. Will this get you laid -- just sitting there and being happy? No, probably not. But you don't care because you don't need to get laid because you are already complete. In fact, getting laid would be a distraction from enjoying the present moment. Non-neediness is not a tool to be used to get stuff. It is rather being in-touch with yourself to such an extraordinary degree that you need nothing more and you don't cling to having things go any particular way. It's a kind of flow with and surrender to reality. As you can see, it almost seems too idealistic and impractical. That's because it's a very advanced stage of development. You can only get there with years of work. And this is why non-neediness is so hard to fake. We could characterize the majority of your daily life at present as a desperate reaction to fill a need. That's what the ego does. It doesn't understand much else. It's always lacking something. Because fundamentally it lacks reality. To really be non-needy requires that you find existential Truth and reality.

There is no time constraint of course. You can get enlightened at any time and much sooner than 1000 hours. But I would rather give people a realistic expectation than a false hope. When you tell someone 1000 hours, they get a good idea of the seriousness of commitment required. Besides, that first enlightenment experience only just the beginning. All the follow-up work will exceed 1000 hours easily and I want people to be prepared for that. But for some folks enlightenment comes much sooner. Then again, for some folks it comes much later than 1000 hours.

Well, now you gotta deliver!

Yes, I want to cover guilt for sure.

Yes, that is planned.

Well... the truth is purpose is an illusion. There is no purpose to life. All purposes are artificial ego constructs. So if you keep churning through purposes, perhaps it's time to tackle the root issue: enlightenment & truth. After enlightenment, the need for purpose is gone. BEING is far superior to purpose. Until then, purpose is better than no purpose.

I am a lone-wolf kind of guy, so I don't do social circles. I consider it a form of torture. So I'm not the best person to teach you about it. Look to more extroverted teachers.

Interesting topic. I'll have to give it some thought.

I love this topic! Good thinking! How To Be A Fuck Up At Life Lol

Yes! I want to shoot a vid on this. I've been holding off to get more real-life experience.

Yes, I'll cover that in more depth.

Yup, this one is planned. Shadow Work is a very deep topic.

I am a pretty lazy and slow reader. For me it's not about some fancy reading skills, it's just a life-long commitment to learning. Over a decade, the books add up. And lately I mostly just listen to audio-books. Far more efficient.

If I ever commit to being a vegan, I might discuss it. But I haven't made that commitment yet. I will shoot some more videos about good nutrition though.

This is a disaster in the making. Stop being lazy and pathetic and go meet new girls! It will only get harder as you age. You dream girl will only happen as the result of taking massive action. Statistically, you'll have to burn through a dozen girls before you find her.

Find a new girl to practice with. Go for a less attractive/popular one. Don't be too picky. Get all the rookie mistakes out of the way. Go try to approach 10 new girls and befriend them. If you fail, don't worry about it. Failure with girls is all part of the game and ultimately they don't care.

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Divorce rates are actually like 40% to 45%.

This! Exactly! You have not addressed the root cause of anything. You cannot control your negative emotions at will. What you're doing is using him as an escape from dealing with your own issues. That's a disaster in the making.

Fastest way to get over one-itis is to find a new girl. Use your current loneliness as fuel to pursue the next girl.

This makes no sense from a biological perspective. All our closest ape cousins jerk off and have sex incessantly. Your body produces sperm regardless of if you jerk off or not and then expels it through your urine if you don't use it. It's not like that sperms stays in your nuts for a month. Sexual release is healthy for the organism. Now... perhaps not 12 times per day, lol.