Leo Gura

Strong men don't drink. Weak ones do.

Look! Life is an amazing opportunity with near-infinite possibilities. Forget about all the stuff you don't want. What is it that you actually DO want?! What do you want to do with your one and only life? State it clearly without worrying about whether it's possible or not.

Of course that can be your life goal. One of the problems with your previous/current strategy is that you've tied your success to out-competing others, which is a terrible idea because you're forcing yourself to play a zero-sum game: he has to lose in order for me to win. Instead you want to switch into the Creator paradigm, where you are generating endless amounts of value without needing anyone else to lose. Imagine if you started your own fitness school, for example. You could passionately train young people and still be involved with weightlifting but not in a dog-eat-dog way. This would be much more fulfilling than winning competitions. This topic is covered in the life purpose course.

This sub-forum is only for keeping a public self-improvement journal. This is intended for committed users who want to make a big change in their life and want to document their rags-to-riches journey. Keeping a public journal of your struggles and triumphs can be very powerful, both for the author as well as for readers. You are encouraged to update your journal like a blog, several times per week. You are also encouraged to be brutally honest about your struggles. Document things exactly as they occur for your, without any sugar-coating or self-censorship. This is extra-powerful. If you're struggling with holding yourself accountable for taking action, starting a journal can be your lifeline. As other people become fans of your journal, they will hold you accountable and encourage you to follow-through. Tips for keeping a good journal: Make a commitment to yourself to update regularly. Power comes from consistency. Be brutally honest about yourself and your problems. Be authentic about your emotions and thoughts. Interact with your fans & followers. A quality journal will create followers if you keep it up to date. Give it a sexy title Here are some ideas for themes you could start a journal around: An all-purpose journal with your daily private ruminations and insights Your journey of starting of a new business Finding and aligning yourself with your life purpose The mastery process, how you're training your skillset Your creative challenges at being an artist, musician, writer, poet, novelist, designer, etc. Getting better at dating or relationships A new 30-day challenge that you start each month Enlightenment work journal Spiritual-autolysis journal (as described by Jed McKenna) Insights from your daily meditation practice Notes on personal development videos you watch every week Your struggle to overcome an addiction like food, sex, porn, alcohol, or drugs Your struggle to overcome a hard life event like a divorce, legal battle, death in the family, etc. How you're healing or coping with a medical condition like cancer, diabetes, etc. Your journey to conquer depression Your journey and insights using entheogens or psychedelics Your fat-loss journey Your journey to getting that 6-pack you've always wanted Your journey going vegetarian or vegan Your journey in martial arts Your insights from traveling around the world Insights from your weekly therapy or life coaching sessions If you're a life coach or therapist, your insights from working with clients Etc. There's a lot of potential gold to mine here, so get creative!

I don't think there's a need to bring Graves into this. Just finish the course and you'll experience a HUGE upward shift. Life purpose is not only for people in stage Green. Life purpose is good for people at any stage. In fact, if you want to really ace stage Orange, find your life purpose ASAP. It's hard to make money without a clear sense of direction and passion for your work. I don't see life purpose as me doing charity work for others or sacrificing myself for others. Just the opposite. My life purpose is for ME! It fuels me. It's not some kind of altruistic burden.

You got a couple of basic choices here: Go become a monk and not worry much about money Bite the bullet and get serious about handling your career & lack of money Get a basic and soul-numbing 9-5 job that barely covers the bills Live in your parent's basement Find someone to mooch money out of to finance your lifestyle (or get married) Become a thief

It definitely works. The emotional upheaval you experience is normal and actually a great sign that the process is working. That's how your mind purges and purifies itself. Intense meditation has the same effect. The key is to never stop, but just keep going despite all the upheaval. You have to do it every day for years though, just like regular meditation. Still, totally worth it. If you're gonna do it, don't be cheap. Invest in a high quality program. I don't see any cons. The only thing better is lots of regular meditation.

It basically requires MASSIVE amounts of rigorous practice & training. 1) Daily 1 hour mindfulness mediation habit with mental labeling (as described in my video Mindfulness Meditation). 2) Go to meditation retreats at least 2 times per years. Vipassanna retreats or other kinds.

It's in our nature to be lazy and to prefer theorizing versus taking massive action. No matter what the tool, or course, or book, or seminar, only about 20% of people using it will get shit done. The rest are slackers. Yes! People will definitely use this forum for mental masturbation. Resolve to not be one of them. The best way to use a forum is very selectively. Find the golden nuggets, ignore the rest, and focus on building up your life instead of yapping all day. Contribute your own golden nuggets back into the community once in a while.

Such a great movie!

So what you've discovered here is the threshold between Zone of Excellence and Zone of Genius. Living inside your Zone of Genius is SCARY! That's why most people don't have a life purpose and never will. This is emotionally challenging stuff. Lots of resistance will come up. Best thing I can suggest is to just be mindful of the resistance and keep pushing through the course and doing the assignments. Don't worry yet about "But how will I do it? How will I make it all work out in the end?" << Those questions are not as important to answer as you might think. The important thing is to simply get clear about what you want to do with your life. And the assignments will help you do that. Also realize that this is a long-term journey. You don't need to do it all in one month. You can take a couple of months off and then come back and finish it.

I know of two ways: 1) Go into a coach training program, get certified. Doesn't require college. Takes about 1 year. 2) Don't even get certified. Just start coaching people and building a client-base. Option #1 is much preferred because without good training you will make many mistakes.

Basically, therapy is dealing with more dysfunctional people. More serious issues like depression, anxiety, anger, abuse, severe trauma, etc. Coaching is dealing with high-achievers who want to do even better. Less serious issues. More about achieving success and optimizing one's life.

I don't have a desire to manage coaches. That's not my path.

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The Star Wars movies have a lot of juicy Hero's Journey wisdom. The Force is so similar to enlightenment!

I'm just curious, for those guys who feel that porn/fap is toxic, how often exactly are you jerking off? Like 6 times a day? Lol

I have read it, but I doubt its accuracy. Human beings seem waaaaay too possessive and prone to jealousy to fit the Sex At Dawn model. You gotta wonder where the whole girlfriend/boyfriend dynamic came from. It certainly didn't come from mainstream society. Mainstream society ultimately reflects our own nature back at us. The human animal seems to like to pair-bond, at least for 2-7 years, which makes sense given how human children take a while to mature.

I used some local lair forums which won't be helpful to you guys. And some other lame pickup forums which shall go unmentioned. I used RSD Nation a lot. RSD has some of the best hardcore pickup material you'll find. But also very dogmatic community. Finding local guys in your area who are willing to take you under their wing proved very helpful to me. You can do that by either finding a local lair online for your city. Or through RSD inner circle.

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6 to 12 month range.

Faith has become somewhat of a dirty word. But let's put it in proper context. Does a scientist need to have faith in order to verify an existing peer-reviewed lab study? Is it proper for him to act like a fundamentalist cynic and refuse to allow the possibility that the study was accurate, to the point where he refuses to verify it for himself? Even to disprove something requires that you first take the possibility of it seriously. Otherwise why even bother disproving it? From a pragmatic point of view, you wouldn't even be able to take a piss without the faith that it won't miss the bowl and squirt in your eye. All action requires a baseline level of faith. Self-inquiry is no different.

Technically there is no way to tell because enlightenment is an inner realization. But in practice, you can easily tell enlightened people from non-enlightened people simply by the non-reactive way in which they carry themselves. I've never found this to be a problem. I can tell when someone is speaking the truth just from listening to them for 5 minutes. It's quite obvious if you study this stuff for some length of time. The other reason it never bothered me is because it doesn't really matter. What matters is my enlightenment. What matters is if the stuff they tell me is getting me closer or further away from my own truth. And that's quite easy to detect.

That's a lot of interests! Oh well... better to have too many than too few. One thing I could suggest is to buy and read books about each one of those fields. Then see which interests still stand strong and which ones fall away. A top interest should emerge over time with further study. If you haven't checked out my life purpose course, in the course I take you through a pretty deep process for how to drill down into your core values and eliminate dead-ends. That might save you a lot of time too. The whole point of the course is to show you how to develop a VERY strong, clear, singular direction in life.

I would wait until the forum gets more users and more established before trying to organize meet-ups. There aren't enough members yet to make that feasible. Once we have 10,000 or 20,000 members, THEN it could work and perhaps we'll even create a sub-forum specifically for that purpose.