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@Emerald Nope, not Shinzen. Gaydar? Lol P.S. Careful with spreading rumors.

@ShaharA Great video! Man, that atheist is in for a rude awakening

Hint: If your poo is Green, you're probably Green

I've had experiences of Infinite nondual love. It's awesome thing. Male teachers will of course tend to be more rational and less lovey-dovey. Matt Kahn being an obvious exception to the rule. No, the guy I was talking about is celibate. Gandhi-style.

Many women are naive and underdeveloped themselves. And also, Green guys are pretty rare. Most guys are Blue/Orange. And since women don't do pickup on guys, they don't have many choices a lot of times. An Orange woman is not conscious enough to realize that what she really wants is a Green guy. She will keep getting attracted to Orange assholes for a long time, until she learns her lesson the hard way. Like attracts like. The best way to attract a Green guy or girl is to become solidly Green yourself. Hang out where Green people hang out. Oh, definitely! The problem is it rarely works. Most Orange guys are stuck being Orange. Much easier to find a guy who's already Green.

@MM1988 It's gonna depend a lot on his particulars. A person like that is going to have serious motivation problems. So you need steps which will get him engaged and mobilized. That will depend on what he really wants in life and what will motivate him. If he's a 30 year virgin, then coming up with a compelling vision could work nicely. Like a vision of him getting into shape, starting to socialize, and finally landing his hot dream girlfriend. That should probably get him engaged. But he has to start believing that it's really possible for him to do that, not just a pipe dream. A person so stuck will have A LOT of excuses for why he can't, why nothing ever works. Classic victim mindset. You gotta question all those excuses to death and draw that compelling vision anyway. A great vision is the key to motivation. A vision that really fits you. (See my Life Purpose Course for how to create a badass vision for your life.)

The biggest trick with romantic love is that for it to really work, you have to convert it into Platonic love. Romantic love is usually needy love. You need something from the relationship which you lack. Platonic love is the love you GIVE, not receive. So the goal of the game is to make yourself less and less selfish, and to love more and more unconditionally without expectation. The big trap for women with this advice, though, is they become doormats for douchey guys who cannot appreciate unconditional love. And women use the excuse of "unconditional love" to stay in bad relationships and not enforce boundaries. You have to find a guy at your level who is willing to love back, and you need a boost up your self-esteem so you do not let the guy transgress over your boundaries. Then things should work. I know a Western yogi who's married to a hot wife. But he never has sex with her. It's purely Platonic. Of course he is enlightened and developed as hell, so he can pull something like that off. It also helps to be in your 60s.

@waking_dreams Great stuff, those 10 principles.

@Rilles Excellent! Lots of wisdom packed into 3 minutes.

@tsuki It's not strictly a prerequisite. There are people who I would classify as Yellow who don't know Spiral Dynamics exists. But learning Spiral Dynamics will super-charge your ascent and mastery of Yellow and help open you up to Turquoise. Noam Chomsky is a Yellowish guy, and I don't think he knows about Spiral Dynamics. Yellow just requires a passion for removing all biases from your perception of the world, and being able to explore diverse perspectives with radical openmindedness and neutrality.

@billiesimon Girls love artistic hippie guys. They love the long-haired chaotic musician stereotype. A Green guy can easily steal a girl away from an Orange guy. Girls want emotional connection, not your Orange logic and business-suit. Don't confuse PUA emotional manipulation tactics with true emotional connection. PUAs are not able to build deep emotional connection. They just know how to manipulate her emotional buttons to create drama. Which works short-term, but not long-term. And 99% of Orange guys don't know pick-up, so they are the boring logical nerd guy who cannot get laid.

The map is also the territory

@DoubleYou Yeah, that's very true. Orange looks for love externally rather than internally. Because Orange is materialistic, it treats love as just another kind of material.

Looks like something a rationalist Orange ass hat would post

@Spacious He's trying to reconcile Blue religion/morality with Orange science. Which will never work without direct experience of the Infinite. The Infinite IS the reconciliation. You cannot comprehend the Infinite via the finite. Duality cannot fathom nonduality. A discontinuous leap in awareness is required. All religion is an aping of nonduality.

@tsuki Those are good points. That's exactly right: your perspective is always relative. There is no such thing as absolute stages. Your ability to understand each stage depends on what stage of the Spiral you are at. And you ego will tend to cloud your vision of the Spiral until you get to solid Yellow. Many of the lower stages will no be able to understand Spiral Dynamics at all, rejecting it out of hand, or misusing the model for egoic purposes.

Some good insights there. I definitely could have said a lot more about women and relationships with respect to Spiral Dynamics. That could be an entire episode all on its own. Cliche examples of the Orange woman is a slutty club girl or a gold-digger wife who marries more for security than for love. Then she cheats behind his back with the fun, adventurous, romantic, artistic Green guy who actually makes her wet. Melania Trump seems pretty Orange to me. As is Trump's daughter, Ivanka. The female character in House Of Cards -- Claire Underwood -- is a great example of a manipulative Orange woman. Orange women like to wear business-suits and compete with the boys in the corporate boardroom. Orange women can feel like they have to compete with men in a masculine way, over-arresting themselves. Orange women are different from Blue women in that they often have their own big careers, like men.

Sit down with a journal and break down all your beliefs by asking, "What is really true?"

No, it's a SPIRAL -- which is a vertically offsetting loop.

Blue/Orange triggered by Green.

@Silvester Kriya yoga Psychedelics Deconstruct your web of beliefs