Leo Gura

Sweet. Yeah, the ego-mind will recoil in horror upon realization of the Void. It comes as a jolt of terror down to your bones. Existential horror. Fear is the biggest thing holding you back from God. If you're not doing psychedelics, retreats are crucial for awakening because the only way to match the power of a psychedelic is with days upon days of uninterrupted concentration/meditation. That's why you had your Void encounter on retreat. It's hard to get that kind of uninterrupted concentration at home. There will be no awakening without laser focused concentration for hours on end. Good work. Yeah, it's best not to take your partners or friends with you because it creates a distraction. You don't want to be worrying about what he is thinking or feeling or what he's doing. That breaks your concentration. Next time, go solo. If he wants to do retreats, have him take a different one. Awakening is not a team sport.

Simple. The people in academia are self-biased fools. Richard Dawkins style. Science has validated paranormal phenomena long ago beyond reasonable doubt. The studies and data are simply denied. They have to be, or else the entire credibility of materialist science crumbles.

I emailed him. We'll see what he says.

It was my debates with him about evolution and God which got me to start contemplating epistemology from which all of Actualized.org was spawned. By contemplating epistemology I got my philosophy degree in university. After a debate with Tiago and his dumb Christian friends, I would come home and contemplate the nature of human knowledge. I was baffled how such people could be Christians and believe the Earth was 5000 years old. It made no sense to me back then. I allude to this in one of my older videos on epistemology. The Mechanics of Belief, or was it The Ultimate Model of Human Knowledge? Can't recall. I wonder if he's still a Christian?

LOL I went to high school with Tiago! Haven't heard of him since today. He used to be super religious. Carried around a Bible and denied evolution. I was a super atheist. Now it seems the tables have turned.

No, I never said it was all suffering and pain. I said SOME nights. Other times it can fun, exciting, positive, etc. Overall it's an adventure. Don't think of it as some negative chore you must do. I don't understand why you need to feel suicidal about it. If you're doing the work, there's plenty of hope and no need for suicide. You will get laid if you go out enough. I guarantee it.

Love is everything. So... what are you complaining about? I'm kidding (sorta). I know what you mean. Yes, of course it's possible to build loving relationships. But in order to do that you must first fully understand how deep survival goes. People often jump into things calling it "love" when really it's survival masquerading as love. Of course survival too is love. But that's not what you want. You want something higher. We can get to something higher, but we need to start with a solid foundation first. Yes, such a video will definitely come. So many videos, so little time. Those are technical words. All words are relative. You gotta learn how they are used within a certain paradigm. Of course things are confusing to the ego-mind. That's the whole challenge of this work. It takes years to un-con-fuse things. Is it really so hard to understand what a devil is? Or what love is? Or what God is? These things can be explained to a child.

It gets way bigger. This was just a chia seed

If it is ever complete, yes, it will be a massive tome over 1000 pages. But it will also contain many colorful illustrations and diagrams. I have a few parts written and probably 1000 pages of outlines and notes. Figuring out how to organize it all into a linear sequence is the biggest challenge. Yes, it will be associated with Actualized.org and Leo.

@billiesimon Good! It's a start.

No! Both genders are looking to maximize survival of the ego-mind. Whatever that entails. Each ego-mind has it's own priorities and needs which it self-biasedly justifies as "authentic", "true", and "good". It's all illusions and devilry within devilry. Survival is not about truth. A truthful relationship is a virtually non-existent thing. They are rarer than hen's teeth. You can create one, but it's nothing that happens automatically.

It's important to distinguish attraction vs dating vs relationship. These are distinct phases. What I'm talking about here is mostly the first phase: attraction, without which nothing else is possible. Once the relationship begins for real (after a few times of sex), then things change. I recommend all guys practice what I call Conscious Relationship. Which is a huge topic which I won't explain here. Suffice it to say, you ladies would love it. It's everything you want out of a relationship and much more. It's the thing you wish pickup was because you're not concerned about the attraction phase much. I am by no means only about attraction and anti-relationship. I think there's lots of value in intimate relationship. But before we get there, we gotta bang There's a certain order of operations to the mating game.

No, because I am the Truth. End of story.

Of course women keep all of their inner demons locked up in a bottle until the day after you sleep with her. Then that bottle gets uncorked and the drama begins, LOL. Most women are what they called Ronald Reagan, "An authentic phony"

Women are attracted to cocky guys. Stop listening to what women logically tell you they want. The ability to talk endlessly about yourself is crucial. That's what all extroverts know how to do to initiate and sustain conversation. It's not egotistical. "Today I blew out my tire. Then this happened. Then that happened." etc. That's how conversation is made. Yes, that's the catch-22 of it. How do you handle it? Same way you handle getting a job. You slowly build up experience through practice. Even if you are needy, it's not like 0% of women will sleep with you. There will still be 1 in 100 who will. You can also, like, keep your neediness suppressed for a while while you're with a girl. It's not like all of your inner demons need to be worn on your sleeve. She can't know you're needy unless you act needy in front of her. There is an element of fake it till you make it in this process. Same as with getting a job.

Nonduality is not a model or a temporary experience. You're wasting time with this. Stop trying to model nonduality. This an absurdity by definition. A Zen master would slap you across the face at this point because you are lost in your mind and being stubborn about it.

LOL, thanks man.

Telling people to consider that ego is truth is just silliness, though. We are not here to be democratic with the devil. We are here to reach for Truth.

Truth is NOT a model or a description of any kind. You cannot have alternative versions of Truth. Truth is singular and absolute. Nonduality is not a state either. You are not appreciating how radical this thing called "Truth" is. Your mind cannot hold it, it holds your mind.

@Jacobsrw 3.5 grams will be too much. Complete 10 trips at 2 grams first. Doubling from 2g to 4g will quadruple the power. At 4g, mushrooms can seriously mindfuck you. So be cautious.

Lol

Match is part of the process. Of course not every woman will be a match with every man. That's all sorted out in the field. It's not like if a guy has game he can attract/sleep with 100% of women. About 33% of women will love him, 33% of women will hate him, and 33% of women will be indifferent. There's always an element of luck and personalities need to match up. That's why he chats with 10 women, 3 get attracted, 1 comes home. A highly attractive man is actually more polarizing. Some women will absolutely hate him. But those who like him will LOVE him. You also have to keep in mind that not all guys with game are the same. Each guys attracts a specific subset of female personality types. Because game is expressed differently through different personality types. Game is not a specific type of guy, it's general principles of attractiveness which are incarnated uniquely by each guy, attracting different kinds of women. For example, humor is going to vary from guy to guy. Guys can have very different senses and styles of humor. But learning the general principles of humor will help every guy, no matter what his style of humor is. And all girls love some style of humor. Humor can be dry, witty, intellectual, sexual, subdued, bold, sarcastic, self-deprecating, dark, physical, nerdy, etc.

That's such a huge topic. Here's a few things quickly off the top of my head: Laser eye contact Learning to create a genuine smile on a dime Firm, commanding tone of voice. Slowing down your rate of speech. Being relaxed and at ease in your body when talking Simply lots of socialization and conversation experience (doesn't even have to be with women). The stuff I talk about in my video: How To Be Funny The ability to talk about yourself endlessly. Dressing sharp. Get all of your clothing tailored for slim fit. Groom yourself well. Upgrade your whole wardrobe to be stylish. Develop a sense of style that suits you. The ability to be playful and laugh at yourself and life Handle your sexual neediness so that you aren't sexually needy Develop charisma -- I have a good book about charisma on my book list. Passion for life. You must be building an awesome life for yourself aside from girls/sex/relationship. The girl should be the least important part of your life. Your life should be so awesome that anyone who comes into contact with you would feel lucky. You must be in love with yourself and your life. Self-Love. Accept yourself as you are, completely. Be thrilled to be you. Treat yourself as God's gift to the world and to women. You feel the pain of it fully. You cry. You pull your hair out. Some nights I had such failure that I literally drove home crying. And that's what made me stronger. The suffering grows you. Read the book Mastery by George Leonard.

Of course most guys doing game are Orange, and some even Red. I've known guys who do game who are flat out rapists with pending legal cases against them. But this is rare. Most guys are Orange. Yes, many guys objectify women and sex. But you also have to understand, this is not a function of game itself, this is simply how most guys today think about sex. A stage Orange man will objectify women whether he learns game or not. Russell Brand used to be heroin addict. So, yeah, people grow. Trump's "locker room talk"? Honestly, lots of guys talk that way behind closed doors. That's excessive Orange mentality. It's just hidden. You have too appreciate that pickup brings up into the open what has been repressed and hidden for centuries. Stage Blue repressed sex so much for so long that stage Orange swings in the opposite direction. There is still a social stigma about being open about the reality of dating and sex. Dating can be ruthless. Not just from the man's side from the woman's side too. Women are not angels in all this. They too are constantly manipulating to meet their survival needs.

You are unwittingly condemning men to stay losers. Become a charming man is not something that happens naturally for most guys due to poor social conditioning. Becoming a man takes work! Being shy, unsociable, self-conscious, meek, fearful, angry, bitter, lonely, needy, inarticulate, poor at physical touch, bad sense of humor, etc -- these are not natural. This is the result of bad upbringing and lack of training. It doesn't matter what source the man got his charm from. If he's charming, he's charming. That's real and girls respond accordingly because they don't care about the backstory of how he became charming.