Leo Gura

Yes, there would be more suspicion of you. Because humans make stereotypes and have unconscious biases as part of survival. A cop is not going to treat a nicely dressed guy in a business suit the same way he will treat a guy who slurs his speech and wears a hoodie. Call it unfair, but such stereotypes are going to be a part of policing. For example, when I police this forum, I have to manually approve each new member who signs up. I manually check their IP address. If their IP address is from India or Bangladesh I ban their account in about 50% of cases because 95% of spam accounts are from India or Bangladesh. Sometimes I ban Indian people by accident who aren't spammers. Is this fair or am I being racist? You can say I'm being racist, but it's just a fact of online policing that 95% of spam comes from India. I would be a fool to treat accounts from India the same as accounts from the US or Europe. Indian accounts must clear a higher bar. This is just the harsh reality. Nothing against Indians other than their fucking endless spam. Why do Indian's spam so much? Because they have dirt cheap labor costs and they speak English better than most underdeveloped countries with cheap labor costs, and they have decent internet access. If I treated Indian accounts the same as US and European accounts, there would be a lot more spam on this forum. It would also cost more energy. But it would be more fair. So there is a trade-off between security, energy, and fairness. Ironically, if you want very tight security AND high fairness you need to invest A LOT more energy into the policing system.

Not necessarily! There could be a difference between dying of selfishness and dying of selflessness.

And what does the cop do in a mass shooting which happen on a weekly basis? Cops have guns precisely because they need them. Yes, when you taze a cop, you're giving yourself a death penalty.

When a drunk person is shooting a taser at you, the last thing you'll be thinking of is how you should let him go and re-arrest him the next day at his home. If this his how arrests worked, everyone would resist arrest all the time. If a cop gets tazed, his gun is free for the taking.

@WaveInTheOcean Welcome to the 0.01%

I don't agree with Shunya's apocalyptic messages. I would ignore that part of his teachings. Bad stuff has always happened throughout human history. Nothing new here. Humanity gets through it and keeps going.

Valid is a relative notion, of course. Do whatever you want. But in this work/teaching we have some standards for what is acceptable and what is not. Depression is something that can be reversed in many cases. So it's worth suffering through it.

Once you do a few deep trips on 5-MeO, just the thought of tripping on it will literally make you want to shit

But that is not a point we want to guide people towards. He got very lucky. Don't count on that. 99.9% of suicidal people will not awaken.

There can be valid reasons for wanting to end one's life (like in the case of chronic or terminal disease, or torture). Just don't confuse it with God-realization.

I didn't ask you to go pick up hotties. I asked you to simply start some conversations with random people at the mall. Just go do it.

@Dlavjr Sit down and contemplate what you want. You know by asking yourself.

No. Do not confuse the lower death drive with consciousness.

Nothing exists besides God. You are it. No, this the most selfless motivation possible. It is pure Love: to give up your self so that everyone else could be selfish.

Only in your mind.

@Dlavjr Sounds like your issue is lack of clarity. Figure out WTF you want. Then pursue it deliberately rather than accidentally. If you want a girl you can't act so cool as to not even call her back. Girl wants guy to chase her a bit, to show her she's special.

Go out and socialize with real humans.

@Laloosh If you want to go that route then I would at least sit down with him and have a deep honest communication about WTF is going through his mind. But I still call bullshit on his games. He's fooling himself and you as a consequence. If cheating occurs I would consider that relationship dead. There are some lines in a relationship, which once crossed, cannot ever be uncrossed. That's certainly one of them. Be careful with low self esteem. You ladies who put up with this shit have low self-esteem issues to work on. A high self-esteem person does not let others take advantage of them.

Fear vs Love is what all this work boils down to. Nothing surprising here. The more Love you will be shown the more fear you'll have to face.

The actual answer is shocking: ANYTHING you do will be the highest form of love. It makes absolutely no difference what you do. Ta-da! That's real Love. Love is a tautology. Anything that exists is by definition Love. Love cannot be broken.

That's the art of learning to small talk. The less important the topic, the better. You need to learn to talk about things casually. Just for the sake of talking. It's hard at first but then it gets easy with practice. One of the best things is to talk about yourself. Talk about your day. Talk about what you're doing. Talk about how you feel. Talk about your ideas. etc. Sure Stop thinking of it as a brute force way. It's just practice. If you want to learn to golf, the only way is to go and hit the ball. Is this "brute force"? No! Its just practice at the activity in question. The reason you suck at socializing is simply because you've done too little of it in your life. Everything worthwhile seems hard.

@Chumbimba No worries. It's all part of the process. You learn by screwing up. You haven't really lost anything. You just got ahead of your skiis.

Go out and practice socializing with strangers at malls, stores, etc. Practice on old ladies at the mall. There is no magic pill solution that will allow you to escape practice. Your practice shouldn't be focused on how to get anyone attracted, but just simple basic small talk. Learn to keep a conversation going with a stranger while holding good eye contact and being comfortable in your body. Keep it very basic.

You and him are both fooling yourselves here. Especially you, but probably him too. If he sleeps around with other women he will never marry you and your relationship will end very soon. The subtext of his decision that you are not properly reading is this: "I'm not happy with you. You're not the one for me. I want to go find other girls who are better for me." That's really what he told you. He just sugarcoated it so that it doesn't break your heart and so that it appears justified in his mind. Don't forget, he must fool himself here too because otherwise he couldn't get away with such selfishness in his own mind. Dating is a game, and both parties are trying to get the best they can get. He's looking for an upgrade but has to do it in way that won't make him feel like a total asshole. I'm sorry to have to tell you this. It's some brutal truth. Do not fool yourself with fantasies of trying to tame him, change him, or capture him for yourself. That will not work. Clearly he's not ready to commit to you. That doesn't fit your values, so you should seek a new man. The only reason to continue to be with him is if you are both clear that this is just a temporary thing for sex or whatever. But don't fool yourselves into thinking this is going to go somewhere serious. Again, be ware of the trap of trying to tame him. You can waste a lot of that doing that. The bitter pill here that you need to swallow is that he just don't like you enough to sustain a relationship. Try not to take it personally. P.S. Please don't literally shit your pants.

Calling that "defunding the police" is such bad framing though. That framing will hurt the liberal agenda, scaring people away from embracing stage Green. We have to be very careful with slogans like "socialist", "defunding the police", "open boarders", etc. This freaks normies out.