Leo Gura

Aubrey made a huge mistake publishing that podcast with Vylana and Alana. Their situation could have lasted had he kept it private, but now that he's made it so public, Vylana will never hear the end of it. People will keep whispering around her how he is exploiting her and it will slowly eat away at her soul until the whole thing implodes. I doubt she will be able to handle all the gossip and judgment. This whole incident will be like a worm in her brain. She will torture herself over this while calling it spirituality. There's good reason why Mormons keep their polygamy secret. The women need to be kept in the dark and isolated for it to last. Aubrey naively wants the benefits of polygamy but with honesty and transparency. Fat chance. There's good reason why polygamy is not socially acceptable in developed nations. It only exists in patriarchal 3rd world nations where the women don't have equal rights and there is no transparency. And Aubrey is being quite foolish because Vylana will divorce him and take half his fortune. If he is legally married to her with no pre-nup, he better start praying to all the gods in the pantheon every night.

What I said was not ad hominem, it was a substantive point. If you listen to that guy too much your view of women will get distorted and that will hurt your ability to have relationships with women. It's not about him, it's about you getting harmed here. I don't care about him, I care about your mind getting corrupted. Anyone who leverages anger or resentment to sell more books or courses is a corrupt and sick being who will also corrupt you.

It is of course true that women are delusional about the material/survival aspects of dating and mating. But it is also true that that guy presents a distorted view of women.

This dude has axe-to-grind-against-women energy. Don't listen to men who have an axe-to-grind against women. It's going to distort your understanding of women.

I haven't seen him lying.

So, I learned this: In Vylana's previous relationship she was cheated on by a guy who impregnated two women while monogamous with her.

5000 years ago I was a humble crocodile in Egypt.

This is pretty good:

We were talking about clubs.

That is funnier than what I said.

Yeah, the men go there for the stimulating small-talk.

Yes, sex is valuable. That's why prostitution is a thing.

It has nothing to do with healthy or unhealthy. It's just about getting the girl to invest into going on a date. Girl will not go on a date with guy who she feels is below her.

But actually barely ever comes to these people. And even if does, it's still not God Realization. Go ahead and integrate and live your nonduality perfectly. You still won't understand God.

Nonduality is too generic of a notion. You can realize that duality is illusory and that at a high level of consciousness all things are One. But that does not mean you've realized what God is. God is a much higher level of consciousness. So nonduality without God is easier to access. Nonduality is also far less threatening and far easier to integrate and make sense of. God is such a mindfuck that it requires serious philosophical work to comprehend and integrate. Oneness is a much less threatening notion that God. Any old weekend Buddhist, rationalist, scientist, or even atheist can stomach oneness.

@Daniel Balan You can still vote for the less corrupt party/guy. That takes so little effort and time. Beyond that, obsessing over politics is a bad idea unless your job is to be an activist.

@Santiago Ram I don't think you will find any "truth of self-control". Just discipline yourself to follow your values. That's it. There's no magic trick. When you see a slice of pizza your tell yoursrelf NO. And you obey. Because it violates your values.

Of course girls make your survival harder because you gotta take care of them and protect them. But in return you get sex, intimacy, love, emotional support, companionship, children. It's a trade off. It's more worth it for the personal growth you get as a man rather than the pleasure of sex. The amount and quality of sex I got was not worth it. But the amount I grew myself in the process was worth it. The growth would be worth it even if I got zero sex. The sex lasts for minutes. The growth lasts a lifetime.

Of course. That's how all politics works. Society has worked this way since the dawn of time. The purpose of most politics is to get rich by getting special treatment for your friends at the expense of the general public. The party in power serves it own small in-group at the expense of everyone else. This is the essence of corruption: self-bias.

Yes. Although in practice it will be quite indirect. It's hard to remove corruption without already knowing truth because you don't even understand what corruption is or where it comes from. Building yourself up emotionally is good and important for truth-seeking. So yes, something like therapy will help you handle truth in the future. But nothing replaces love of truth for its own sake. Truth should be pursued for its own sake, once you are strong enough. It's good to view it both ways. Absolute and relative truth are both important. Figuring out relative truths helps with ultimately reaching absolute Truth. The connection is quite loose and mostly one way. That means being highly creative will not get you much closer to truth, but getting closer to truth will boost your creativity. Truth requires direct pursuit. But creativity and art is great stuff so I'm not suggesting you quit that. Sure, there is much room for customizing your path. But you want to be careful not to kid yourself. Most human activity has nothing to do with truth-seeking. Just doing whatever resonates is probably not you far towards truth unless you really love truth. If love of truth is present in you then following what resonates works. You gotta love the right things! If you love Satan then following your love is not so great. Both.

I don't know that they shouldn't. But they should be extra careful and clear-eyed. But of course they won't be.

You gain freedom from human nonsense -- which is her entire life.

Broken people LOVE, LOVE, LOVE spirituality because they have no capacity for truth, lacking any kind of epistemic responsibility, which means they get to run wild with spiritual fantasies and use pleasant spiritual stories to rationalization and excuse away all their broken, toxic, unconscious behavior as something anointed by God. Spirituality is the prefect excuse to avoid responsibility and not do any genuine work. Why do the hard work to fix your brokenness and worldview when you can have faith in Jesus?

@Daniel Balan Because the less conscious a mind is the more it operates on group-think. Group-think is an unconscious survival mechanism. This means group-think rationalizes unconscious survival activities like theft, exploitation, abuse, illusion, falsehood, lies, propaganda, indoctrination -- as good. An unconscious and selfish mind calls whatever serves its survival as "good" and anything that threatens its survival as "evil". That's what every religion does. Religious morality is a rationalization of human bias and selfishness.

No. God-Realization is realizing God. Whether you live it is another matter. You can realize God and then still live like an animal. But you still realized God. You are just also an untrained animal. Nonduality does not mean you realize God.