Leo Gura

Yes, commitment is emotionally challenging because commitment only makes sense from the POV of an attractive guy with many options if the girl is exceptional. There is little desire to commit to an average girl. For commitment to make sense she has to be really amazing. But most girls are not that. Also, commitment means losing years not developing one's game. And the longer a guy wait to development one's game, the harder it becomes. Also the sex and even the relationship will start to get stale after some years unless special measures are taken. So there is a fear that commitment will lead to mediocrity. Having very high standards makes commitment very challenging. In a sense commitment requires surrendering or lowering one's standards. From the male POV, sex is a daily requirement but commitment requires something exceptional. Which is why guys tend to have sex but not commit. If a guy waited to only have sex with girls he was willing to commit to, he would be starving like a homeless dog waiting for years for the right girl to come along. And then he would fuck that up with neediness. So ironically girls are attracted to the guys who are least likely to commit. These are the guys who have so many options that commitment makes little sense. Because a guy who doesn't have all those options will be super needy and repel most girls. You girls are attracted to the most detached guys, and then you wonder why he won't commit. The guy who would commit to you, you have no interest in sleeping with. He doesn't make you wet or emotional. And your sleeping decisions are purely emotional, not logical. Hence you keep hooking up with guys who won't commit. The more arousing the guy the less likely he is to commit. That's how this game works. You have to find some sort of balancing point. You can't just chase the highest arousal. You have to make sacrifices. You can't get it all unless you are bringing massive value to the negotiating table. Sex is a value exchange. And everyone is trying to leech maximum value. Everyone is trying to get something for nothing. And then suffering ensues of course because leeching and theft are self-undermining. In a sense, when you are dating you are trying to steal sexual value. You aren't doing this consciously, but subconsciously that's exactly what all your arousal and emotions are doing. Your emotions precisely motivate behaviors which steal sexual value. This survival mechanic is so deep that you aren't even aware it's happening. To you it just feels like romance. When you get super attracted to a guy so much that you can't stop daydreaming about him, that's because you know he has more value than you, and that locking him down would be a really good deal for you. It's like walking into a car dealership and seeing your favorite car 50% off. You are giddy with joy at the bargain you just found and you want to pounce on it immediately before someone else does. But of course no quality car is ever 50% off unless there is something seriously wrong with it. Bottom line: If you want the best car in the dealership you should expect to work hard and pay a lot for it. If you don't want to pay a lot, then expect a mediocre car. Madness is expecting the best car for dirt cheap. Men's commitment phobia is their emotional way of maximizing sexual value.

It's not possible to get it without doing it. Only after a few thousand approaches does one start to understand what game is. And it's extremely counter-intuitive.

You cannot learn cold approach effectively in such a city. I would invest your energy into figuring out a way to move to a big city faster.

Be careful not to turn this thread into something vulgar, or it will be shut down. I want to avoid the toxic aspects I have seen on pickup forums.

No idea. Be extra careful. Do not give psychedelics to someone who didn't consciously choose to take it.

That's why you go out and spend 1000+ hrs learning how to be fun and chill. That's called learning game. You learn it by doing it, not by philosophy.

Good work!

If your highest doesn't include the lowest, then it's not the Highest

It's not that the universe is against you, it's that you are too lazy to do the work required to get women consistently. You will lose way more women than you sleep with. That's just how women work.

I have clubbed in totally packed clubs in Vegas post-Covid. No mask. Club packed so tight can hardly walk. Lots of makeouts with random girls. If you are vaccinated you should be fine. Of course there are risks so it's up to you what risk you wanna take.

Ironically, cold approach is amazing for building a social circle quickly. You can make dozens of new friends within a month of going out every weekend.

My teachings have never been exclusively about spirituality. And in the future I will release many practical basic materialistic self-help videos. Actualized.org is about holistic development, not just high level spirituality.

When a hot chick is grinding on your dick in the nightclub, no-mind dawns. Thoughts vanish like ashes scattered to the wind I think you could put that into Haiku form: Chick grinding on dick, Club music blaring, Thoughts nowhere to be found

It's not hard to fix as long as the server is working. Sometimes the server has problems which I cannot fix on my end. There can be crashes or connectivity issues on the network and even DDoS attacks on the server which cause it to crash.

It can be a pain in the ass sometimes to fix it. The databases can get corrupted, requiring restoring from backups. And it's even possible for backups to get corrupted, which would be really bad.

Please confirm

I have always said that I would make more practical and materialistic videos after I knock out many spiritual ones. Actually, this is long overdo. I am not going to be talking about enlightenment endlessly. My goal has always been to cover new material and not to repeat myself too much. I can have it both ways. My work has always tried to marry pragmatism with deep existential topics. Since most people are stuck in low consciousness, teaching them is very necessary in order to create people who are interested in high consciousness teachings. My work has always tried to be a bridge between the two. I'm not catering. I'm actually becoming more niche. Talking about sex or pickup does not make my work mainstream appealing. Most of my audience is age 20-35. I have always catered to that general demographic because that's who's on YouTube and also who benefits from my work the most.

I know some of you guys here are struggling to learn game and struggling to find wingmen. Here's a resource that lists Telegram groups for wingmen in every city in the world: https://www.gameglobal.net/groups/ Scroll down the list to find your city. Learning game solo as a newbie is nearly impossible, so make sure you make use of wings. Just be careful when selecting your wingman that you don't use him as a crutch to avoid approaching girls. Bad wings can be distractions more than help. Your wingman must be committed to going out consistently and approaching, not just standing around talking shit. And once you get comfortable with wingmen, start going out solo a bit too, until eventually you can solo any venue. This resource is to be used responsibly to help you learn game. Do not abuse your new-gained powers for unethical or devilish dating activity. Reduce harm and manipulation as much as possible. Be ware that most of your wings will be deeply stuck in stage Orange and that mindset will rub off on you. This isn't exactly high-consciousness stuff, but it's better than being an Incel. If you are starved for sex and feeling depressed and lonely about it, start learning game and going out consistently. Do not be inactive as the problem will not magically solve itself.

The only way anything could function at all is thanks to Infinite Intelligence. But most people take this totally for granted, assuming that stuff can function just haphazardly through luck or evolution or whatever. It's laughable how dumb science is on this point.

Pretty much. If you have high standards.

Lol

@ValiantSalvatore You can land a gf from online, but it's gonna hinge on your pics. Online it doesn't really matter what you write as long as you're not creepy or needy. You're never going to convince a girl to fuck you with clever text messages. She has to want to fuck you first based off your pics.

I don't hold him that high. He's popular but his content is rather shallow.

You CANNOT convince women to sleep with you. It will never work. Online game is all about your pictures. Nothing you write or say matters. Stop doing online game and start doing real-life game. That's where you can run serious game.

That's not PUA advice, that's how relationships work: no willingness from partner to do serious communication, walk away. A PUA doesn't understand this.