Leo Gura

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You simply lack experience. 23 is so fucking young. Your window for getting good with girls has just begun. But you have to start taking serious action. This is your wake up. Don't waste the next 10 years not learning game. I started learning at 27. You don't need any women to guide you through it. You don't even need to tell them anything is off. Just learn game and physical escalation. Sex itself is natural and easy. The hard part is getting her into your bed.

@Karmadhi Which is why I told you that some dates simply won't spark. The point of a date is to see if things will spark. The solution is to do lots of dates with lots of folk.

Don't just point blank ask him on a date. Be cheeky about. "Hey, when are you gonna realize I'm trying to flirt with you? ;)" Something akin to that would work nicely.

@Karmadhi Be less logical, more emotional, more intimate, more flirty, more physical escalation. Basically treat her like she is already your GF. When you walk with her, put your arm around her. Interlock fingers. Physical escalation is very powerful once you get good at it. Tease her. Talk about interesting things. Crazy strong eye contact. Poke her. Tickle her. Bounce around to multiple nearby locations.

She was initially interested but then it sounds like the date was luke-warm. I've had dates like that. They are okay but just aren't strong enough to lead to more.

That is hardly flirting. That is some friendzone shit.

It wasn't because you didn't kiss her. It just seems like you two lacked chemistry and she didn't find you that attractive. Sometimes that happens and there's not much you can do. You will not resonate with all girls. There needs to be a certain level of chemistry and you can't always make it work. Hooking girls usually requires emotional conversation. So the better you get at emotionally stimulating convo the better your odds will be. But still never 100%. Don't beat yourself up. It's not always your fault. Some dates just turn out to be duds. If she says she's busy after a date, take that to mean she lost attraction. She is just giving you easy excuses. Girls love to do that.

It requires a lot of practice.

I far prefer direct. But getting good at indirect is actually more effective in more situations. It's really effective to start indirect and then convert that into direct, because it is less threatening.

Of course. Namaste

Balls and leadership, basically.

Beautiful responses. Keep 'em coming.

This Although my work is not passive.

Don't forget, something like 20%-40% of America is like this. Explains a lot.

I am how I am. My style is my style. Every style will have its pros and cons.

You are expecting too much. He has no idea you are interested in him romantically. You're not seeing this from his POV. You judge him too soon on such superficial stuff. First flirt with him, THEN see how much he cares about you. You will still have plenty of time to figure out his willingness to invest in you. You have nothing to lose by flirting with him, but you could potentially gain a boyfriend. This risk-reward scenario is a no-brainer. If you want something in life you have to go after it, not sit around hoping for it to come to you. YES! -- even if you're a girl. That's not a valid excuse. The only thing you got to lose here is some ego.

Depends on what kind you're talking about. A bit. Of course if someone was poking me with a stick all day I would get more angry. I designed my life so I don't have to put up with anyone's bullshit much.

It was one of the few times in the least 5 years that I got angry. I can count the number of times I get angry on one hand.

Omg girl, you are way overthinking this. Stop worrying and just flirt with him. It will make him feel flattered.

I still experience fear and anger sometimes. Fear moreso than anger. It takes A LOT to anger me but it might happen once every few years. They have helped me with emtional mastery by making me more loving and conscious. I actually feel emotions more deeply now, both up and down. I am more sensitive. There is also more desire in me to feel emotions more deeply. Emotions take on a spiritual dimension.

I can see it working. Eye contact and vibe is at least 50% of game. The silent opener is more of an advanced technique. Requires really calibration and groundedness or it comes off creepy.

Your lead is so weak he might just see you as being friendly and nothing more. If you want to do this you must actually flirt with him. Stop being afraid of rejection. How do you think us guys feel? We deal with that bullshit all the time. It's okay, you'll live. You must indicate some romantic intent. An ex-gf of mine initiated on me with the line: "I would go home with you." It was very effective on me.

It's useful in helping to understand your personality better, to understand your strengths and weaknesses and why your mind works the way it does.

Realistically you will probably lose a lot of girls this way. It's pretty weird to stop someone who's walking and then stay silent. But on some girls is may work.