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@Skin-encapsulatedego Around girls be like a child -- grasshopper -- and you will do well

You realize that what I posted is actually conscious and honest? I posted my dating intentions honestly without any games. Any other alternative will be more dishonest and manipulative. The problem is that people are so used to playing games with dating that when someone does it directly and honestly they are shocked. Usually all dating is done in secret so that none of your people know your true intentions. This is safe for the ego and lets you get away with a lot more manipulation. With dating and sexuality in particular, people are often outraged and shocked when the mechanics of the game are laid bare before their eyes. As if the mechanics were not present before looking. Hiding your intentions does not make your dating any more conscious or honest. And really, dating is never a function of honesty. It is dishonest to suggest that dating is honest. That is not its function. It's an illusion and a game that both sides are playing while trying to pretend like that isn't so. You can cry about how unfair it all is, but the reality is, when you acquire your dates -- however you acquire them, online or offline -- you are still playing this game. If I truly wanted to be dishonest and manipulative, I could easily have done that a long time ago and gotten laid a 100x over. My position can basically get me unlimited sex for a lifetime. I could push that button any time. And I basically never do because I have some integrity. But that doesn't mean I'm disinterested in finding a romantic partner. I am. That's honest. And that's okay. You can judge it of course. But if you really care about honesty so much, I invite you to contemplate the double-standard of how you acquire your dates. You may find that your method is less honest than mine. Consider all the social circle games you play.

Dude, when you date, you don't get all philosophical about it. You keep things fun and easy. Don't start whipping out actualized.org lectures on your date. You relate on a much shallower level. On your profile you could mention that you're into spirituality and meditation. That should pique some girls' interests. The smart girls. Girls love spirituality stuff. It's like chick-crack. If I'm socializing with a girl, I act like a total goofball. It's not serious. Stop saying anything logical. This is the #1 rule of game. No logic.

There's only one problem in your master plan: online forums don't make any money.

If I owned an online dating app, I would invent covid in a lab and become a billionaire. Online dating sites must be running hog wild right now.

Your logic is backwards. The risks of mutation are higher when we don't get vaccinated. Letting a virus just run loose through the population will result in more mutations and even more dangerous strains.

Consider the possibility that they WERE superior, which is why they felt superior. Gold!

Unfortunately that won't happen without serious vaccinations. And many people have been brainwashed not to take them. So we're sorta fucked.

@Preety_India I think your issue would be solved if you simply screened harder. If what you want is a honest guy, screen him for it early on. Honesty is a character trait. Some people have it, some don't. Train yourself to be a good judge of character.

@Skin-encapsulatedego You shouldn't really use me as an example because I'm at a very different position in life than you. You'd be surprised. You can meet conscious and openminded people in clubs and bars. Girls of all kinds go to clubs and bars for fun with their friends. There is this false idea that only sluts or skanks go to clubs. That's not true. I've met some amazing people. One of the most amazing things you'll discover when you go out a lot is that you will bump into the most surprising people. I once bumped into Tony Robbin's copywriter and she went on a date with me. We had some amazing conversations and she was all into self-help and stuff. Ironically, it is closedminded to believe that openminded people don't go to clubs. Then again, I've never really enjoyed clubbing. It's something I did to grow myself, but it's not an environment I want to be in if I can avoid it. Oh, I once met a stripper with a Om tattoo and she liked to smoke DMT and was into yoga. People are more interesting and complex than you expect. As far as finding a high caliber match, that's basically luck. The more numbers you get the better your chances. You can't really predict it.

@Cosmin_Visan So? That's called business. Maybe you should question why you expect him to give you shit for free. Wherever your paycheck comes from, you do the same thing. You sell something for profit so that you could feed yourself. And you better understand that enlightened gurus are not above selling you shit. Because survival requires money.

@Leo Nordin If you're worried about that question, then you ain't a Buddha. The whole point of a Buddha is that he don't give a fuck if he dies tomorrow because his enlightenment already killed him. Why would survival be automatically taken care of? What fantasy world are you living in? If the Buddha does not brush his teeth, his teeth will fall out. The only way to escape survival is to stop caring about it. But that does not at all guarantee you will survive. But luckily if you did part 1, you no longer care about part 2. Enlightenment is radical stuff.

You just lied right there But, sure, you can find decent men. They exist. But you have to understand that your criteria for men is asymmetrical. A man is not subject to the same survival pressures as a woman, so don't expect men to be as nice as women. If they were, they would get steamrolled by other men. If you want a nice partner, consider dating a woman But if you want a man, then expect him to be a bit of a man. You're sorta asking for a wolf with no balls.

@DianaFr Of course it's H-A-R-D. If it wasn't, it would have already been done, and there would be no value in doing it. Improving society is always H-A-R-D for this reason. This is why society evolves inch by inch, tooth by tooth, claw by claw. It takes a hero to push new ideas through to mass acceptance.

Depends on how you're defining "nice". If by nice you mean a meek door-mat with low self-esteem who can't stand up for herself, then yeah, people will have less respect for you because you let them push you around. People tend to be exploitative. If they see an opportunity to exploit you and you just let them get away with it, then they will usually do it. It's just how humans are wired for survival's sake. It's important to set boundaries and not be afraid to enforce them. Once people see you enforcing your boundaries they will stop trying to exploit you because they know you're not the kind of person who stomachs their BS.

It's time to upgrade the quality of people you know.

That's a tall order to fill. Not just for a man, but for any human. What you're asking for is a highly developed, conscious, selfless man. Which is gonna be as rare as a highly developed, conscious, selfless woman. Basically, you want to be date God See... on the one hand you want a man who not manipulative, yet on the other hand you want a man who's really good at survival and a provider. These two things are inversely related. A "strong" man is often the most manipulative and deceptive. That's how he gets his strength in a low-consciousness society. And a weak man is probably not gonna make you wet. So it's a delicate balancing act. And here's the ultimate kicker: if you ever sleep with a man who's that God-like, and if you ever break up with him, it will be the most painful, heartbreaking event of your life. Because you know you'll probably never meet someone that good again. So be careful what you wish for. Just because a man is good or Godly does not guarantee he will not break up with you at some point for any number of legit reasons which have nothing to do with him cheating or being an asshole. There is a deeper problem you're hitting up against here, which is this: every great thing comes to an end, and the greater the thing is, the sadder its end will be. You can't escape this. This is the existential suffering that the Buddha taught. Relationships are bound to be painful. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship without any pain. Relationships are like a rollercoaster, so enjoy the thrill while it lasts. The better the man, the bigger the problem. Any kind of attachment will necessarily create suffering. Such is life.

There's definitely an art to what you're doing.

@Khr I was teasing him. This was not a serious conversation.

Yeah, that's called Primordial Avoidance. The ego is terrified of realizing it's own emptiness. The thing looking through your eyes is Infinity. You are Infinity. How can you continue? As you slowly chip away at it, you'll get more comfortable looking inward and eventually the resistance will melt away with only Infinity remaining. This chipping away process can take a few years. Gently keep at it. If it gets too emotionally tough, take a brief break and then return to it a few days later. Remember, Self-Love is key here. Don't force yourself too much. Comfort yourself with Self-Love when the going gets tough.

@The0Self Sounds like you've mastered the art of sniping wounded cougars. I'm just teasing ya. I don't care who you bang.

OMG Trump supporters are so dumb: This is why populism is doomed to fail. You can't build a great country using its dumbest people. The Founding Fathers understood this but modern populist pundits do not.

I shudder to picture what YOU consider a 6 Does it even have to be human?

Vaccine side-effect is not gonna kill ya. This is just plain nonsense. Covid can certainly kill her mom though.