Leo Gura

It's not pointless, but yeah...

Hehe... well, yes. We did tell you reality was Nothing Sounds like a bit of the ol Dark Night of the Soul. Look, take it easy. Deconstructing reality is the most challenging work in the universe. Sometimes you gotta take a short break and just enjoy life. Then get back to deconstructing. If you want. Don't do this work if you don't love it at some level. Why you doing all this? Cause some bald guy told you you should?

@neutralempty No idea what you are saying.

I have no idea since I'm no corporate climbing woman. Certainly there will be challenges there. You are dealing with stage Orange men who will be very masculine in their attitude and probably will not take you seriously unless you kick some ass and grab some balls. You should seek out a woman in corporate for better advice.

@Etherial Cat I'd like to see you reshuffle your neocortex to be attracted to a gorilla. Why do you hate gorillas? Don't gorillas deserve love? Maybe it disturbs the gorilla that you reject its black hairy flesh. Your racism makes lonely gorilla cry. See the games you play?

Let's say she was just being nice, then she rejected me for my looks, which is even worse. But in that specific case, she literally looked at me, took my necklace in her hand, and said, "Ewww... I don't like this. Go away." And I've had girls not return my texts even after we slept together. Fucking cold.

Lol Welcome to reality. You know, it's not like us men sat down and decided one day: we will be attracted to X but not Y. Attraction is not a choice. Contemplate this: why aren't you attracted to a gorilla? When you get to the bottom of that one, you may understand why not everyone is attracted to you. No one likes being rejected for any aspect of themselves, flesh or otherwise. Rejection always hurts. And women reject men all the time over the most superficial things. I've had women reject me because of the necklace I wore. I've had women punch me in the mouth and I couldn't hit her back. That's life. You suck it up. I have literally been rejected 1000s of times. Some nights I'd go home and cry. It's good for the ego. Makes you stronger. Teaches you not to care what people think.

I am suggesting dating is a survival game and honesty was never its goal. I like being honest about what dating is. So as not to fool ourselves with stories about it. None of this means you can't have a decent relationship. Just understand that both sides are playing games. And that's okay. Life is an interplay and life is sneaky.

Man, I don't know all the details. That's the one I got.

Pickup works of course, but: A) I don't really enjoy clubs and bars. I did that earlier in my life because it forced me to grow. I would rather be meditating. Chasing girls is not so appealing to me since my time is valuable. I am not a social person by temperment. I can be happy living in a cave. And one day I may just completely leave society behind and you may never hear from me again. Cause ya'll are fucking nuts B) Covid killed pickup

It's not assumed, it's a given. If you and I weren't one, we could not communicate. Your very communication with me disproves your point. You simply aren't contemplating how reality works. You're just spitting ideas out.

@Preety_India Read the book: Thick Face, Black Heart. That's what you're missing. You need to learn to be more ruthless. Which of course you will refuse to do cause you are stuck in the care-bear paradigm.

@ertopolice Depth can come later, after the attraction is solidified. There is an order of operations to dating. Don't go too deep too fast. But eventually you can go deep. You have to calibrate. I love going deep, but only at the right time.

It depends a lot on the level of development of the people you commune with. If they are low in development, stage Red or Orange, they will preceive nice as too weak to survive. Nice gets appreciated and valued at stage Green and above. For example, if you try to be nice in prison, it will backfire.

YES! Very good. Now that's some progress. You are an enneagram type 2. Classic girly problem. You sacrifice yourself too much for others to the point of not taking care of your needs enough. You need more self-care and self-love. Be more selfish.

@DianaFr Of course you can't just keep pushing like a dumb mule. You gotta be very clever and intelligent about it. You gotta be like a fox. Notice that all of reality runs on cleverness. Brute force approaches are not smart enough to solve the deep problems. The problem you're facing is a lack of requisite variety (a cybernetics term). See my blog post video on Requisite Variety. It will explain everything.

Good work! You're right on track. Keep going.

A hell of a question.

Nope, that's not how it works. Stop spectulating and try it.

Begging for food is a full-time job. Might as well just grow your own food at that point.

If everyone had their own, what would connect them all?

I don't plan it. I just do it when it feels right. It takes me 1hr 20mins to make a lap around the entire city on the circular highway. I just drive and think or meditate. Driving puts me in flow. Best part of my day.

Be honest, what is it you find attractive about narcissists?

What @Nahm does it good. What I do is I take hour-long drives to nowhere late at night and just contemplate/integrate whatever ideas are in my mind that day while I drive. Not so good for global warning, but amazing for my clarity of mind.

@Gesundheit Easy... There's no need to attack him. What I did was bold and I knew it would be somewhat controversial. Some people will not like it.