Leo Gura

You have plenty of time to correct your mistakes. But not so much time that you can spare any more of it sitting on the fence. GET TO WORK!

In general the male attitude towards sex is as follows: have sex first, then decide if she's worth keeping around. Maybe she is, maybe she isn't. Obviously females don't like this attitude, but I'm just sharing how guys think about this stuff. GF-material will be determined by how hot the girl is, the quality of the sex, the personality of the girl, and other indicators of her value. Basically, the higher her overall value the better the chance of being kept around. Honestly, the most important factor for guys is physical appearance. Your overall value is not meaningfully changed by flirting with a guy. As the female, your strategy is to get the guy to invest in you before sex. Because you are concerned he may otherwise just ditch you. I get that. You want him to invest in you before you invest in him. That's your game. Which is why you resist flirting with him. But what I'm saying is, you can flirt with him, and then still play the game of getting him to invest in you. I am not telling you to just spread your legs for him.

Allow weeks of time to fully integrate these radical insights. Don't stress over it until you let at least a few weeks pass. You're not just alone, you're Alone because you're so Together.

Some guys are just insecure fools who don't know how to handle women properly. So what? You are going to let that one insecure fool keep you from ever flirting with another man you like? Don't overlook the fact that it might be YOU who is judging yourself for not being girlfriend material. Most girls have this silly idea in their mind that if they sleep with a guy too soon then he will judge her as not girlfriend material. In reality I've never met a guy who would disqualify you as his girlfriend based on that. Guys love easy sex. You are not going to offend a guy or turn a guy off by being sexual with him. Also, flirting does not mean you have to make it easy. You can flirt, and then still play your screening games. You can still make him work for it if you want to play games. Push/pull, hot/cold builds extreme attraction. If a guy thinks you're not girlfriend material, I can confidently predict it's not because of your flirting. It's other factors.

You were rejected once. So what? You know how many times I have been rejected? Thousands of times. Welcome to dating. 5 hard rejections is a good night out. If you flirt with a guy and he thinks less of you for it, he's being an idiot and that is not the kind of guy you wanna date. You are trying to manipulate the situation to avoid being rejected. You want all the up-side of announcing your intentions but none of the down-side. Well, that's not possible.

Then you are blind.

What is authentic to you is that you want to flirt with him but are too afraid or shy to do it because you want him to do it instead of putting yourself up for rejection. If you want to be authentic tell him you like him and stop playing these mind-games.

Fornication is still great. Just have your priorities straight.

I was 100% focused on my life purpose.

I have noticed that taking it in the morning does sit well with me. It works better for me at night. Maybe that's just coincidence, or maybe there's something to that.

Now here's the kicker: make your life revolve around the thing you love most. That is the key to the best life. Ta-da!

Just read David Deida. See my book list.

You simply lack experience. 23 is so fucking young. Your window for getting good with girls has just begun. But you have to start taking serious action. This is your wake up. Don't waste the next 10 years not learning game. I started learning at 27. You don't need any women to guide you through it. You don't even need to tell them anything is off. Just learn game and physical escalation. Sex itself is natural and easy. The hard part is getting her into your bed.

@Karmadhi Which is why I told you that some dates simply won't spark. The point of a date is to see if things will spark. The solution is to do lots of dates with lots of folk.

Don't just point blank ask him on a date. Be cheeky about. "Hey, when are you gonna realize I'm trying to flirt with you? ;)" Something akin to that would work nicely.

@Karmadhi Be less logical, more emotional, more intimate, more flirty, more physical escalation. Basically treat her like she is already your GF. When you walk with her, put your arm around her. Interlock fingers. Physical escalation is very powerful once you get good at it. Tease her. Talk about interesting things. Crazy strong eye contact. Poke her. Tickle her. Bounce around to multiple nearby locations.

She was initially interested but then it sounds like the date was luke-warm. I've had dates like that. They are okay but just aren't strong enough to lead to more.

That is hardly flirting. That is some friendzone shit.

It wasn't because you didn't kiss her. It just seems like you two lacked chemistry and she didn't find you that attractive. Sometimes that happens and there's not much you can do. You will not resonate with all girls. There needs to be a certain level of chemistry and you can't always make it work. Hooking girls usually requires emotional conversation. So the better you get at emotionally stimulating convo the better your odds will be. But still never 100%. Don't beat yourself up. It's not always your fault. Some dates just turn out to be duds. If she says she's busy after a date, take that to mean she lost attraction. She is just giving you easy excuses. Girls love to do that.

It requires a lot of practice.

I far prefer direct. But getting good at indirect is actually more effective in more situations. It's really effective to start indirect and then convert that into direct, because it is less threatening.

Of course. Namaste

Balls and leadership, basically.

Beautiful responses. Keep 'em coming.

This Although my work is not passive.