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Karmadhi replied to Husseinisdoingfine's topic in Society, Politics, Government, Environment, Current Events
What I personally find a bit hypocritial from many centrists like Destiny or even non centrists like @Leo Gura is that when it comes to Israel and Palestine they seem to have a very pragmatic ruthless attitude not based on morals but on purely raw power dynamics Basically, Israel is on the wrong but Palestine is too weak to do anything about it so they must submit and allow Israel to get away with the bad things they did and heavily compromise. Because they cannot revoke the wrong-doings. Fair But when it comes to the Russia-Ukranian conflict, they do not have the same stance. They have the stance that Russia is on the wrong and Ukraine should keep fighting to reverse the wrong-doings of Russia. They should not submit but keep on fighting. Even though Russia is much more powerful than Ukraine and Ukraine realistically has no chance of gaining back any of the land they took nor Russian leaders facing serious trials for war crimes So basically, there it is a lot more idealistic and moralistic attitude meanwhile on Israel and Palestine it is basically "you lost, now submit to the one that fucked you" Now I agree that the power difference between Russia and Ukraine is no near as big, but it is big enough that it is still pretty impossible to resolve without any compromise from the side that got unfarily treated (Ukraine here). Especially since Trump came to power and basically removed a lot of aid and there is even an air defense Western shortage thanks to the Iran war. I find it interesting that when I speak with hardcore Pro Palis and I tell them they need to do a 2 state, I get the response (you do not lower your head when someone comes to your house, takes your house, rapes you and tortures you) When I say to an Ukranian or someone very pro Ukraine that Ukraine needs to probably make some compromises to Russia I get the response (you do not lower your head when someone comes to your house, takes your house, rapes you and tortures you) Both sides view it in a similar way even though they will each say 'but that other conflict is different" Yet 1 side should compromise and submit meanwhile the other is encourged to fight on against impossible odds according to centrists. I find this a bit bizzare. Personally I support both Ukraine and Palestine, do not get the wrong idea here. But I feel compromise is needed on both sides, not just for 1 conflict. Ironically I get called here a leftist but when it comes to Ukraine I am extremly realistic and pragmatic and not moralistic at all. @Raze What do you think about this or I have the wrong idea? -
I wasn’t able to surrender my ego and I want to know why. The reasons I’ve come up with is: Immaturity: If you aren’t mature enough to handle the Truth you won’t do it. Priorities: If you value survival and sanity over Truth you won’t go all the way. Attachment: If you’re too attached to the dream you won’t let it go. Fear: If you’re too afraid of the unknown (Truth) you won’t face it. Another question I have is why did it begin to happen if I wasn’t ready?
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It's very important, but not that important to get a lifelong debt for it. Unless you want to be a doctor, lawyer or engineer, in which case it's compulsory. In my country prices are reasonable, I'll soon start a MSc in project management. If you love learning, many topics are still locked behind universities and I bite the bullet for understanding.
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George leonard spend 20 years doing akido before writing mastery . he reached such high position in 20 years that he get into flow state easily . everything he do, can get him into flow state so when he write "practice is pleasurable" , " do it for love" , " do the thing to enjoy yourself" it is true for him but for a noobie who is starting something , that is a terrible advice. for a noobie , its an uphill battle. trying to love what he do is a bad advice for noobie. if a noobie spend 20 years in that field , he can naturally love that thing. but for a noobie , at the begining , doing that thing is painful and hard
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when you look for a job , the recruiters wont allow you to sit in the interview if you dont have a bachelors or masters degree. getting a degree is important. you wont get a job without a degree. although college is a scam , it is need for getting a job. thats the world we live in
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The proud girl came back after a bit of a break. I have to be honest I do have some feelings for her. I think she is 19 though which is pretty young. I just had this inner realization today or that inner growing of a process that I actually want someone older in a relationship and was about to put charakter and charisma a bit over physical looks. That seems to be the voice of truth .. or is it? Anyway I would probably make an exception for her.
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If the typical laypersons definition/conception of authenticity is interpreted through some epistemic framework, is there actually a framework-independent authenticity (am I always smuggling in assumptions)? Is authenticity always a subjective concept between a person and whatever idea they have of themselves, or take themselves to be?
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Absolutely. The term can be Frankenstein'd into whatever we may want to serve a frame. And it often is! Authenticity is framework-neutral at the abstract level (or I want my definition to be closest to it), but any ideology can sort of... Pollute or (maybe colonize it) in a way that serves its own assumptions. But authenticity has a legitimate distinct concept within each framework. I think it starts to reveal a philosophical issue; the disagreement is about what counts as the deeper self. I was thinking through how ideologies grab onto the concept. Red Pill could be "stop suppressing your biological/sexual nature to satisfy social expectations". Feminism could be "Stop suppressing yourself to satisfy patriarchal gender expectations". Individualism "Live according to your own chosen values rather than collective expectations". And even Spirituality "Stop identifying with constructed ego/personality and discover what you fundamentally are". I could go on... I could go into gender roles with it. I think in any case I will never be able to hear the word "authenticity" being used without asking "Authentic to what? And according to who's epistemology? "
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But I mean if a girl is a 4/10 and she starts becoming more selective. That doesn't mean she now deserves guys that is a 6/10. But a lot of women believe that. And that is why there are so many single women out there. And thus 40% of women will be childless by 2040. I don't think that is a good thing though. People are pricing themselves out of the dating market. Because they all think they deserve the best. And although I wish that for them too, it is not realistic. Making a deal is also about compromise and I'm not reading that back in your message. Usually I skip women that are too selective. Because it only tells me she has been around the block. And I have to carry the emotional baggage of her past mistakes. But if a girl is hot she can get away with it because she has such a big dating pool, she can just work the field to find a sucker. If a girl is hot and she is can get away with basically everything, I was dating this hot girl and she made me work for it. At the end I was just irritated because I knew she was a club girl and other guys smashed it on the first encounter and I had to go through 5 dates with her. At the end I didn't respect her. Because I had to pay 5x the price the other guys had to pay.
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My perspective comes from someone who was classically gifted as a child, who is also married to someone who was classically gifted as a child. Our backgrounds were very different, but we have a lot of shared perspective as a result of this commonality. Like my husband, I have no concept or experience of having had an intrinsically insufficient intellect (and creative capacity, to a somewhat lesser degree) to do anything during my formative years. Everything came super easily. Points in No Particular Order: Giftedness is very poorly understood amongst the general population (and honestly pretty much any demographic, including general intellectual ones). An example: a lot of gifted people have inborn and developed early-life emotional traits which are often clocked as masculine if female or feminine if male. A lot of these traits are treated as “problems” growing up, and this often lingers as baggage in adulthood. Just a few examples, by no means extensive: If female: too logical/ left-brain orientated, know-it-all, too blunt and asks too many questions in a way that gets under people’s skin (even when you’re trying to be as polite as humanly possible and mindful of people’s boundaries), unusually high learning and problem-solving drive If male: too sensitive and feels too deeply is the big one. Also cripplingly self-conscious in an emotionally self-aware from a young age. Combined with having a child's brain, this is not very enjoyable. Likewise, the last time I felt self-conscious about how the opposite sex viewed my intellect was middle-school aged, where it became pretty clear that boys in general don’t like know-it-alls. I mean this super literally, as just knowing things that they do not and being willing to point it out. But after that point, it’s never been a real deterrent for whenever I wore my interests and way of thinking on my sleeve. If I was not very secure about my intellect (because for me going out of my way to clock as intelligent for its own sake is a joke), I’m sure I would have had a different experience. I think the biggest factor for me is having a certain kind security in your intellect and not tying this to your intrinsic masculinity (which highly gifted men either tend to not do at all, or they have paralyzing amounts of it as if their idolatry of intellectualism was an armour that could save them from the stupid in this world). This is where I tend to clash the most with men who have... at some point in their lives (let’s just say as a teen and onward), chose to identify themselves as The Intellectual. I've found it to be tryhard. Like if you NEED to be the smart one in the relationship or negate the experience I went through because that’s the only way you can feel man enough, that is not cute. You are probably not secure in your intellectualism in the way that self-appointed intellectuals often are not, and that itself is ok. But it is just better to be able to assess yourself realistically and then aspire to do better, which is what we ALL should aspire to do. And there are easily a ton of things you could potentially be better at than me, and that itself, especially with curiosity and passion, is very attractive. I find that a certain kind of combativeness is brought to interactions and they’re not always aware of it. It's the energy of needing to prove themselves. It's not a zero sum game lol. A relationship is not for competition, unless somehow you can make it a healthy one and you want to for some reason. Keep it playful and light though, I think! But more than anything, there is a huge gap to bridge in our ways of relating to the world and the way our identities were formed, I think. For this reason especially, the unwillingness to put himself in my shoes is a deal breaker, because that is what I try to do for him!
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Thursday: September 3rd, 2026. Building a life of desire is distinct from embracing slothfulness.
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Thursday: September 3rd, 2026. Starting over beginning at zero is distinct from squandering progress.
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Thursday: September 3rd, 2026. Ignoring an internal emotional need is distinct from emotional regulation.
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Thursday: September 3rd, 2026. Deeming physical connection as necessary is distinct from sexual narcissism.
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Thursday: September 3rd, 2026. Distorted disbelief when infidelity happened is distinct from emotional instability.
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The issue with evo psych is that it’s largely all speculation. There is often no way to actually confirm the root of a behaviour is evolution, not social or cultural. It ends up being a lot of valid sounding stories that cannot be proven or disproven.
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kavaris replied to kavaris's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Heres another weird one @30:00 (see video at the end) or somewhere around there, the idea of being dead, And being brought back to life, thats like a thing w/ maybe like an accident you got in, And like maybe you are at the hospital, and you come to, while in a hospital... but maybe you were inside of either a light, or it was just darkness... totally unconscious. But thats like, something very different, because you can just exist as your dream body, in that place of light or dark, assuming theres a space thats carved out in there, like assuming you arent leaving your body behind all the time, like, spiritually, its always w/ you, so maybe its like, just dont leave things that are necessary behind maybe? i dont know, its not like theres a way to measure it, or try to record or weigh it or anything, while in a dream. its just there. Iuno wat happens to your body on dmt either, but in my experience, the body, mostly, is like, prior to identity and mind and everything else, like its priority mail, even in abstract dreams of floating around its there, and watever happens in reality is rotated elsewhere, til you return. The light is the scary part, and like i said, i cant confirm wat that light is, as its more symbolic and dissolving, and has nothing to do w/ ancestors. Like its a Soul in itself or something, pure dissolve maybe, but if you get wrapped up in it, your getting cut up in a way, like its not gonna be very loving and caring if you are in between dark and light, And iuno, like, if you become a new person, in a new reality, then you just bypassed this light, so its not like you will have even seen it, like im saying, theres alot of little details that we dont understand, like alot of little details, And most ppl describe "dream experiences", but its not wat im tlking bout. im talkin bout a total flip-around of whats like, flipping the mainstream idea and possibility space around, and the concept of your body, and how its more like a traveler that doesnt end or begin -
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Yup. It isn't defined well in these conversations because it actually can't be well-defined. The definitions are necessarily functional and not philosophically rigorous. Gender roles are perfect for showcasing this ambiguity. Can gender roles be authentic? That's a whole can of worms.
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https://dworakpeck.usc.edu/news/how-to-stage-intervention-for-loved-one-gambling-problem https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TFZOgBO3wN8 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UwxvUofenC4
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@Natasha Tori Maru Yup feeling of fulfillment is a side effect of acting with healthy values. Giving a recent example : I acted in alignment with my values of resilience and guess what conquering that obstacle generated a feeling of fulfillment in me from inside which no self-help technique can manufacture.
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Yesterday, I stayed up until around 3 AM. I’ve realized that staying up past midnight is not good for me. That time of night can feel a little depressing. There’s usually not much going on, and because the day is basically over, it becomes easier for me to lose my discipline, waste time, and fall into bad habits. I ended up masturbating as well. I don’t want to judge myself too much for that anymore. I’m single, and I accept that I have sexual needs. Sometimes I feel sexually frustrated or pent up, and I think it’s okay to have some kind of release. The part I don’t like is how unconscious I can become when I do it. It’s not really the fact that I masturbated that bothers me. It’s the way I got there. I was up at 3 AM, tired, with no real reason to still be awake, and I slowly slipped into something without really thinking about it. That’s the real issue . I feel like I should have just listened to myself and gone to sleep. I could have taken a warm shower, made some cocoa, relaxed for a while, and gone to bed. That probably would have been better for me. At the same time, I was actually feeling sexually pent up. So I don’t want to pretend that the urge wasn’t real. It was. I just want to learn how to deal with those feelings in a more conscious way instead of letting them control me when I’m tired and it’s late at night. let’s give it another shot . Not allowed to Stay up past midnight fooling around .
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@Rishabh R yes 🙏🏻 I think authenticity is a function of maturity and knowing thyself (but not limited to these things!). We can persue sex thinking it is our top value - and claim it is authentic. But when deconstructed we might realise we didn't want sex after all. It was a deception. And we acted out of authenticity as a result, unknowingly and unconsciously. This is where feeling and emotional intelligence come in. Sometimes we can intellectuallize a value, but the feeling tells us something isn't right.
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If you can find the same level of material and integrate it somehow at a similar rate that college kids do (like not just theorizing but doing some type of active learning like thru projects, groupwork, problem solving), then you technically dont need it College can actually be fast paced so youd need to be moving quickly information that comes from college is actually generally high quality and principled. So you'd need to do solid sorting wheat from chaff as well if you do it without and be very resourceful to get that info But then a college degree gives u a signal for employers as well
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I think monogamy is good. Women fall in love deeply to one man. Immature men want to fuck the whole city. But I personally want ONE woman and I want her to commit to me, and need me. This polyamory shit doesn't really work nowadays. Only in niche cases of some hippie hipsters. I most cases polyamory is what a man wants, ignoring women's feelings.
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