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  4. I broke up (part 2)

    Rishabh R replied to Asia P's topic in Dating, Sexuality, Relationships, Family

    I felt that too in the past for a long time as a male. Quoting Mark Manson here which really helped me and helps me now - If you're sitting day by day miserable then you are already wrong about something major in your life.For any change to happen in your life you must be wrong about something. Try reading Subtle Art of not giving a F---.(A great recommendation)
  5. Why would consciousness/awareness require time? I think that it's self-sufficient on its own. And that it is actually what creates the sense of time or the structure that you mentioned. There is awareness of something, simple as that. No need for time or anything else. There's also an awareness of time.
  6. So, it's aware of thoughts. I would say that it's not limited to just thoughts, but it's a good place to start. What are thoughts?
  7. @Majed I get you I felt this when I was in college that I won't get a girlfriend. It's pretty miserable place once you take that beleif seriously (speaking from experience) .Either question that beleif or stop buying into it since it can lead you to emotional turmoil,suffering ,sadness - all of which I went through in college by believing this thought .Fast forward today , I have graduated and I rarely think of that beleif as well as I have replaced it with better ones - I can get a someone if I continue putting myself out there. Secondly , you can replace it with I don't know weather I would get laid ot not . Now a these days whenever guys tell me I won't get a girlfriend it feels little hurt for a while but eventually it bounces off my chest .
  8. It's based seemingly entirely on the anti-cult movement, an outrage and money-making machine. Go to literally any other source, academic ones. Most of them will take a huge dump on the anti-cult movement (and the cult concept itself) and use terms like "new religious movement". It's a farce considering his purported status as epistemic God numero uno that he doesn't make clear the underlying assumptions of his chosen view or present alternative views. That's epistemology 101. It would've been yet more evidence of ulterior motives / motivated reasoning if it weren't for the fact that it's actually fairly common for Leo and not limited to these series of videos. I'm trying to limit my cynicism here but it makes you want to ask more questions. Nevertheless, it underlies the one-sided engagement with the issue by his followers, and that anything else would be a result of self-education or other education.
  9. I'm not a skeptic as to causation.
  10. I was also confused about the same .By the way I prefer philosophy as a lifestyle .

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    Jirh replied to Jirh's topic in Self-Actualization Journals

    I haven't felt like this in a very long time. I'm feeling peaceful and in-sync with reality. I feel complete. Perfect. When I first awakened, it was peaceful but chaotic. Then it was peaceful through different states, including sad, hurt, excited, tired, bored, etc... Things can change. But peace remains. I have it. I am it.
  12. Healthy love is partnered with respect. Unhealthy love, lacking respect is obsession. Healthy love for others includes love for oneself. Unhealthy love for others, lacking love for oneself is fool-hardy and unsustainable. That's why the knight in shining armor in the storybooks is always riding off into the sunset after saving the town and the damsel from whatever it is that's threatening them.
  13. Dada Gavand is an enlightened sage of modern times who was influenced by the writings of Jiddu Krishnamurti and had spent time with him as a spiritual seeker in his youth. Dada's core teachings after his own enlightenment reflected Krishnamurti's philosophy, emphasizing silent watchfulness, choiceless awareness, and freedom from mechanical thought. I had created a thread on Dada Gavand's account of enlightenment ....

  14. Let’s Take Looksmaxxing Seriously

    Natasha Tori Maru replied to AtmanIsBrahman's topic in Dating, Sexuality, Relationships, Family

    @LordFall You have a solid amount of life experience and attending to what is relevant and highest priority - so this naturally means you have the wisdom to know when to stop, when to pivot and reallocate resources and when diminishing returns take effect. When we reach this stage of development - these ingrained good habits become so natural to us, it can appear to be simple & intuitive. But when you take the lid off and approach from a less experienced persons mindset - there are many aspects to consider that mean that one size doesn't fit all. And peril can be close without critical thinking. Really questioning and critically analysing a method or concept helps others find where they personally align with a subject. tl;dr Expertise / experience often squishes complexity down into intuition. But that intuition is built on countless judgments, mistakes, and refinements that newer people haven't yet learned and internalized. Critical analysis helps fill the gap, rather than simply asking others to trust the conclusion. And taking on some conclusion without thinking is one of the largest pitfalls in modern society.
  15. Yeah. If it's not a cult, then it's pretty close to one. And of course, things can evolve.
  16. In this case the seeing through the self, is referring to the end of identification as the thinker and experiencer. It's recognizing that the entire framework of the thinking mind was constructed under the false premise of there being an owner or controller of it. A self referential conditioning!
  17. Discipline, challenge, effort are also forms of Love
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  19. Do you feel the cult accusations should be taken seriously, in the sense that actualized.org might actually go down a dark path eventually ?
  20. Ah okay, sorry, misunderstanding on my part.
  21. It's a good point I like the idea of lifemaxxing in general, looks is just a small part of maximizing your dating life. I think everyone should write down a page of their dream life and then work towards it. If you're feeling like you're getting good response from the people that you really wanna date then great you probably focus on looks less. Most of it is like science you make a theory and go test it. It seems people get stuck at the theory part and never test it because it hurts to fall short of your own ideals. The only way to reach them is to go out there and try and fail and improve on your thesis and try again. So many dudes think they can get hot women if they tried and it will crush them to get rejected but it's not personal it's just a market. What in your life is gonna be more important than your dating life apart from your career/business/life purpose? If you're happily in a relationship then obv looksmaxxing is less important but even then plenty of relationships that end up in a deadbedroom because one or both partners let themselves go. People think self-improvement ends when you start dating someone but in a lot of ways that's the start of your problems. It's also a positive flywheel, if you workout, your partner/members of the opposite sex start liking you, you start caring about life more, you then put more efforts in those areas. Looks are also just the most immediate factor in appearance and presentation. Then you fall into one of my favorites, statusmaxxing. Now people are gonna say status is shallow. How dumb, our whole society is based on it and a lot of it are honest signals of competence and value you're offering to the social groups you're in and society as a whole.

  22. Let’s Take Looksmaxxing Seriously

    Natasha Tori Maru replied to AtmanIsBrahman's topic in Dating, Sexuality, Relationships, Family

    Is it straight forward? How far do you take this? Does everyone need to value this? Where are diminishing returns taking affect? How does substance work into this? How do you know your potential? What markers indicate when you cap potential? What are the limits to just appearance having an effect on reality? Does this affect anything other than base impression and treatment? How do you qualify it's direct, causative affect on outcome? What does it affect? How long for? What is this doing psychologically, if potential is limitless? When does seeking become anxiety? How do you know when to stop? How do you determine how much effort to put in? How much resources should go to this endeavour? I can think of more. So, is it straightforward? Love the process. Not the outcome. Otherwise it's an endless desire loop that can breed dissatisfaction with the now. With being.
  25. My actions felt like a rock by the side of road, indistinguishable from stillness. I remember being terrified once at my non-existence but in those two days something new happened. Normally I'd be paralyzed at my non-existence, but in those two days actions happened, thoughts came about and the constructed self existed in heaven. However in each moment I was aware of non-existence and that the constructed self and the thoughts were simply part of the experience. What made this embodiment for me deeper was not only the performance of actions in an otherwise paralyzing state, but also the constant exploding fireworks in my heart for those two days. I did not have a head nor a body. I felt entirely non-human. I felt 3 layers of existence simultaneously in those 2 days. 1 - The constructed self, thoughts, body, emotions and mind. Heavily Purified due to a constant stream of energy to the heart 2 - Some unknown non-human self, not quite non-existence but pervading the experience thoroughly, existing in some weird fuzzy space 3 - Non-existence, the absolute truth.
  26. Leo had a conversation with what he believed was God and the question he chose to ask was about how people perceive him. But this is the real move right here: "And remember, God is the ultimate narcissist because I love myself unconditionally." This is Leo coping with his condition by making God HIMSELF a narcissist. This is narcissistic architecture talking to itself through the mask of the highest authority, giving itself permission to continue. He should just come out of the narc closet after this.
  27. I mean it's straight forward you're maximizing your potential. I don't know if you guys are being intellectually honest here, what percentage of men do you guys know that are as fit as they can be, have a top tier fashion, have a unique style that gives them sex appeal? That's like easily less than 5% of dudes I meet and I live in Montreal and lived in Toronto which are supposed to be pretty cosmopolitan. In Calgary it was like 2% at best. Have you been guys been to a nightclub recently or walked down a street? You guys really think dudes look as good as they could? That's not even to speak of the dudes that look like they came from 2002 and/or their mom dressed them which is like easily 20% of men. It's also summer, there are pool bars and beaches. If you look like a chump that's gonna hurt your chances. Just in the first 30 seconds of this I got a dude wearing a blue and red disaster that looks like a warning sign, asian bro wearing a shirt 2 sizes too big for him and indian bro looking like his dad. Like if you don't cold approach you might think this stuff doesn't make a difference if you're just thinking about it in your head but talk to real women in the street or at events and it makes a big difference. If you got great game you can handle handicaps but especially if you're going after attractive women that have options every part where you're uncalibrated works against you. I ran a podcast where the whole point was talking to women about their dating lives and basically all of them had trouble finding men they were attracted to and were shocked men were this clueless. Are you guys observing the opinions you have about dating in real life or it's just like theories that you think might be true?
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