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  2. That's the beauty with young girls. Fhey are still so.naive. but older women have been around the block. You pick your poison. I look young so I can get away with it
  3. You're gonna have to go through it. But something might happen too
  4. “Sell your cleverness and buy bewilderment; Cleverness is mere opinion, bewilderment is intuition”. - Rumi
  5. Seems like progress is back on the timeline, and that progress changes gender roles as a matter of survival.
  6. What bothers me most is that relationships are inherently uncertain. People evolve, feelings change, relationships transform, and circumstances shift. That's why I don't think anyone should make their long-term survival dependent on the stability of a romantic relationship. Financial dependence is a risk in itself, one that I'm personally unwilling to take. And I suspect very few people would willingly accept that degree of vulnerability outside the context of marriage or a romantic relationship. Once your financial survival depends on keeping a relationship intact, you may find yourself desperately trying to preserve something that no longer works, or tolerating situations you would otherwise find unacceptable simply because leaving isn't financially viable. Of course, marrying someone extremely wealthy who provides you with a house, a trust fund, or some other form of financial security could mitigate that risk. But even then, I think it's important to maintain the skills, resources, financial literacy, and ability to create value that allow you to navigate the world independently. People die, businesses fail, fortunes disappear, and circumstances change. As for motherhood, I actually love children, and I think contributing to creating and raising a family is an enormous privilege. I can easily imagine it being one of the most fulfilling things I could ever do. But children have two parents, and I think traditional gender roles have historically deprived men of opportunities to participate fully in raising their own children. That's a shame, because I believe both fathers and children benefit enormously from spending time together and developing a close relationship. And naturally, every hour the children spend with their father is also an hour during which their mother is free to pursue other interests, work on projects, or simply enjoy some time to herself. I personally have a strong need to create, learn, and work on projects, and I don't see why that should be incompatible with loving motherhood. There's also the fact that raising children is an evolving responsibility, not a permanent state of intensive caregiving. The early years are particularly demanding, but children gradually become more autonomous. Our role as parents evolves from providing constant care to offering guidance, support, and increasingly more freedom. And that's healthy for them, too. Children need to discover the world, develop their own identities, and become independent individuals rather than remain permanently under their mother's protective wing, however loving she may be. So I don't see motherhood as something that should require sacrificing the rest of my identity, my projects, or my financial independence. Nor do I think being a good mother means being the parent who does absolutely everything. If anything, I'd want my children to have two fully involved parents, each with a meaningful relationship with them, and each with a life and identity beyond parenthood. Ultimately, I'm not against a partner providing financial support, nor do I think every contribution to a family needs to be financially compensated. I simply don't want my ability to survive independently to depend on the continued goodwill, love, or financial stability of another person.
  7. This is like saying “Autism? That’s just bad social skills. Have you tried talking to people?” The problem with the “just use willpower” argument for ADHD is that the part of your brain that is responsible for willpower is dysfunctional. Imagine it took you 5x the willpower just to do basic tasks like go for a walk and eat healthy, and how exhausting that would be over time. And while diet and exercise definitely help, the single biggest factor impacting the effects of ADHD is sleep quality. Also, plenty of people with ADHD are quite well behaved as kids, especially if they’re more on the inattentive side of the spectrum vs hyperactive, so that immediately discounts your final theory. All of this is to say, respectfully, you don’t really know what you’re talking about.
  8. I didn't doubt it. I trust you on that one Yes, some men nowadays are very interested in bonding with their kids and want to be a bigger part of their life than just being the provider. It's healthy and is natural part of emotional availability. As for childbirth, I can't imagine it to be very pleasing, but the joy of holding the baby is a great reward. I am still as clueless as you are .
  9. The game was created by Russians, so it uses kilograms, not pounds. And the character isn't an underage girl. The game is designed so that you gradually realize this particular husband is a real asshole and that you're trapped in a Groundhog Day-like situation, with no money and the same chores to do over and over again. I read it as a way of putting the player in the shoes of someone who slowly realizes they don't want to be there anymore, doing endless chores in a relationship they no longer want to be in, especially once they understand just how bad the situation actually is. This design speeds up the emotional process of really not wanting to be there anymore, and feeling trapped. That's much more common, unfortunately.
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  11. What is some music you like?

    LastThursday replied to itsadistraction's topic in Off-Topic: Pop-Culture, Entertainment, Fun

    Not my usual taste but kinda catchy
  12. Sadhgurus Hatha yoga programs and his lifestyle teachings are legit. It changed my life. I feel incredibly good withe these yoga exercises teached by isha foundation and I can do things during the day which I never could do before. It's not only spiritual but very practical.
  13. I hope we are finally at the "destroys itself" phase! Not sure on what grounds Republicans can criticize others again. They will try I am sure.
  14. No one is arguing over absolute truth. People are arguing over relative truths. Others argue over lower vs higher truths.
  15. @Sugarcoat He doesn't identify with any particular spiritual tradition, so he's automatically New Age by definition. Actualized.org is New Age too. If you know a better category for them, let me know.
  16. We don't want Schumer / Jefferies for Senate / House leadership, we want people who represent the values of the blue wave we just had (Sanders or Khana for Senate Majority Leader, for example). This is step 1 because if you get the wrong leadership you're fucked from the start. Everything will get watered down and nothing will get done. Corporate democrats are the minority now and that MUST be reflected in government.
  17. The more you try to push something away the more it comes back, same if you want to skip this difficult period. If I were you I’d keep doing the practice and evaluate whether it’s what I need right now or not. When I was going deep into enlightenment work, I started feeling bad, and I was trying to push through. Then with time I understood that my body was telling me I was not ready yet, and so I went back to normal meditation and lighter spiritual practices. I’m 25 and I got into this work early like you, and even though I was drawn to it, deep down I knew it was a bit too early, and I had to grow in other areas in my life, which will later let you go deeper into yourself and spirituality

  18. Journey to Nothing

    LastThursday replied to LastThursday's topic in Self-Actualization Journals

    I like a bit of art with my music. Guess the language.
  19. @Carl-Richard We gotta replace the force that controls the leaders of the world with a different force. Or we have to wait for biology (read DNA coding) to do its job and hope they don't figure out a way to disable the telomerase that shortens the DNA every-time the cells are copied. Once they figure out a way to stop or reverse the aging-problem, we are utterly fucked, forever. The world leading-systems, read capitalism, communsism, even the old and tested king | autocracy | dictatorship doesn't work anymore, because people have unfortunately learned that they can rebell against tyranny. Soooo the problem is really that people don't like being controlled anymore. And I also don't like to be controlled anymore, not by programming from you guys (actualized.org members, any human being, any breathing being with a heart, anything that tries to influence me). I am utterly done with it. I reject any form of control, be it mind-control, biologic control and everything that tries and prevents me from being myself uncensored. Any if that has the effect that I have become completely and utterly schizoid then so be it. I also accept every-label, psychopathy, sociopathy, complete and utter schizoid-ness, complete and utter autism in its purest-form (read schizoid-ness in its pure form, being I am completely and utterly uncontrollable and if I decide to kill something and I will do that within a split second with no hesitation). In my mind I am completely free and if I decide to accept a bit of morality, because it serves me well, I will do that and might reject any form of morality (good vs. bad) in the next second. I just do what serves me and the rest of humanity (read you or WE) well. I just flip-flop back and forth, however I want to. The problem with complete schizoid-ism is that you will believe everything your mind tells you to believe in. Yesterday I came to the complete and utter undeniable conclusion that the only way out was suicide. Not a maybe, not a I'll think about it and then I went to bed and just hoped that my brain would repair itself. I just hoped and prayed to God that when I awaken that my brain comes to a different conclusion. And it did. I don't know how many warnings I have received from different moderators here on actualized that I shouldn't post when I am high. I never was high when I posted that. I was just high on dopamine, natural-dopamine, speed-dopamine, any dopamine. High dopamine leads to schizoid behaviour. It doesn't matter if the dopamine comes from crystal-meth, cocaine or just because your life is so amazing. It is all the same. Also high-dopamine leads to seeing things that are not there, hallucinations that feel real. Because what you are seeing is real. High-dopamine also is usually referred to as psychosis. Because from the outside it looks psychotic and schizoid. The problem with being fully aware that you are schizoid, psychotic an psychopath and a sociopath is that you can commit murder without any repercussions. You can technically claim that you are insane and get away with it. Many people have tried that defense and it falls apart. Every-time. I have seen many many many videos of mass murderers and how they try to defend themselves. It never works. So I will not try that - ever. Because I know. I also know that self-murder (read suicide) doesn't ever work. So I am not going to try that ever and just let biology do its work. I have learned to ride the waves of schizoid-ism, aut-ism, psychos-ism, sociopath-ism, psychopath-ism and just the general human-condition in all its aspects... Please note: The usage of the word "we" is completely undefined in this post. We can mean anything, anybody, anything or any-thing, or any-xyz. (Get it? Get it? XD). And no I am not high. I am completely sober and if iiiiiiiiiiiiiiii use letters wrong on purpose iiiiiiiiiii don't care, because I have stopped pretending and I|I have stopped giving a fuck.
  20. How is Sadhguru “New Age” lol? Have I missed something? New Age encompasses a lot, and so do Sadghurus teaching, but I don’t consider them same category overall

  21. Woman Simulator Game

    Bjorn K Holmstrom replied to Etherial Cat's topic in Society, Politics, Government, Environment, Current Events

    I wonder whether Universal Basic Income could help resolve some of this tension. Homemaking, raising children, and caring for others can be genuinely valuable contributions, but they often come with financial dependence on a partner, lost career opportunities, and reduced pension security. What if everyone had an individual, unconditional income floor, independently of whether they're employed, studying, caring for children, or doing something else? That could make homemaking a more viable choice for either partner without requiring complete financial dependence on the other. We could also explore additional support for intensive caregiving, though there's a danger of turning human relationships into bureaucratically measured work. Of course, UBI wouldn't solve everything. It could even reinforce traditional gender roles if women disproportionately withdraw from paid employment, and a modest payment wouldn't necessarily provide genuine financial independence. But perhaps the goal shouldn't be to get everyone into paid employment, or back into traditional homemaking roles. Maybe it should be to give people more freedom to choose how they live and contribute. Would that change how you think about homemaking?
  22. I think the thread has run its course. I got some cool responses that inspired me. Thank you!!! I hope you got some inspiration from the thread too. Lockingggggg now 😛✌️
  23. You can create a vote thread to determine how many people think he's legit versus how many think he's not. And then you can use that information to accomplish nothing whatsoever. 👍
  24. I think AI is great for scaffolding. Coating and polishing and finishing and maintaining a product must be done by hand. Whether that hand uses AI or not does not matter. What matters is that it has experience and understanding.

  25. Dating is getting crazier

    something_else replied to AION's topic in Dating, Sexuality, Relationships, Family

    Jesus christ dude. I almost have sympathy for how emotionally fucked up you are. But I’m also thinking more and more that you’re just trolling. It feels like every post is specifically crafted to produce outrage, but not be so wild that it becomes obvious you’re trolling. Regardless of whether that’s true or not, the first sentence of this reply holds.
  26. I haven't experienced much resistance aside from family members whom I find particularly egoic in comparison to people in society and friends I've interacted with (makes sense as they are older and more conservative), the times I've brought up deeper things, specifically a more meta perspective and relating to inner world processes, or pointing out where I notice judgment in people (with family). More commonly, I find things I say can "fall flat", not engage people, or sometimes even as if they barely even heard it at all. Even talking to people who I consider open minded and have at least some curiosity about spirituality. But I find I could come off as speaking in "abstract ways" (shocks me a little when talking about the inner world, when people seem disinterested in it). I'm not even speaking of "ultimate truth" (The God stuff lol) mentioned in this forum. But I feel this social disconnection, so I wont keep going at it, because I don't see gain for anyone just speaking if there's not mutual interest or some understanding. Ever since I was a child, I've found people talk so often about concrete, worldly things. So sometimes I am just quiet, because engaging feels fake at times when I barely have thought about certain things people speak of, nor have developed much interest in it. I don't find this a problem with people in relation to myself, but rather what this "unconsciousness" does on societal level (destroying our planet for example), as I don't place it on others to understand me or desire them to like me, I just focus on how I can develop my own self expression more and more. And one thing that I find about myself is that I tend to naturally "show don't tell", and be quite implicit about things, take it slow before I share more (if connection grows). There is definitely people who can connect with you, I found.

  27. Journal

    Jirh replied to Someone here's topic in Self-Actualization Journals

    Namaste brother 🙏🏻❤️
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