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@Zenterus I was thinking the same thing, because it only happend to me 4 times
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@Ulax that is valid
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enchanted replied to emenasche's topic in Society, Politics, Government, Environment, Current Events
Interesting you bring up Alex O'Connor because his path of development is truly fascinating and very relatable. He went from skater, stoner, rocker, atheist to entertaining tier 2 themes in a very sober and palatable style that might turn some spiritual psychonauts away but appeals to more rational audience with a similar background as him. -
My issue is more so with how non-specialized work is gatekept behind degrees. It's an elitist system that barely gets acknowledged. It has turned into a rat race of depreciating returns. You need more and more education, from bachelor to masters to PHD, just to be treated like a high school graduate. And it's not good for the academics either. The institution is being bastardized by business motives at the cost of developing knowledge. No one really goes to college anymore to learn anything beside the freaks. 80% of the value of a degree is signaling. That's huge. And there's a subtle arrogance to how we treat intellectual development as the only valid form of intelligence. College does not suit all life paths, but we look down on construction workers despite contributing more to society than the average office worker. It's terribly elitist.
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I wouldn't try to grasp or hold on to it, this will get you right back into the funk that you were in. You got into the state that you were in precisely because you let go of the need to grasp or cling onto something. Its very paradoxical.
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@Zenterus that was literally me tonight, I couldn´t sleep well after that
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enchanted replied to emenasche's topic in Society, Politics, Government, Environment, Current Events
I know it's not your question but if you are looking to get to tier 2 study spiral dynamics and integral theory. Read Ken Wilber's books for example as every book talks about Integral Theory. Once you are at tier 2 everything is viewed from that lens. -
What is death?
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Habits & Disciplines Journey Entry #221 ~ Sat Sep 12 '26 Daily goals: Wake up at 7:30 AM: 3 Make bed: 37 Take medication: 54 Shower: 54 Groom hair: 54 Brush teeth: 54 Floss: 4 Kriya yoga: 0 Push ups & pull ups: 0 No porn: 5 No ejaculation: 5 No electronics before bed: 0 Brush teeth before bed: 1 Wash face before bed: 1 Weekly goals: Workout 3x: 4 (☑️ Give yourself a haircut: 1 Do laundry: 7 Clean room: 7 Clean car: 6 Things to do: Get new card at L Bank Set up high yield savings account Pay tolls - idk how to pay it - I have a number to call to pay it off Get new light bulbs - ACE hardware on Saturday of next week
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All of them
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Human Mint replied to Maheshwar's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
You could benefit from a professional like therapist. -
Breakingthewall replied to Loveeee's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Yeah normies are not so special as you, poor normies, so low, not like you, so high 🤣 -
Breakingthewall replied to Mellowmarsh's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
The self is an structure that the reality takes that implies being aware of itself splitting into two. The self is not someone or something, it's a self reflexive form that happens. There is not a mysterious seer, it's just the fact os seeing that happens when a process that we call life interact with what is external to it with enough complexity to create a model that acts as interface between the external and the internal. It's absolutely obvious, read again and if you get it, your self will loose it's limits -
This reminds me of a YouTube lecture I watched some years ago on “genuine pretending” that @tsuki shared describing identity formation as an inherently paradoxical and incongruent process of performance and experience. It also described three main “technologies” of identity formation we have today and how they sit in a historical context, namely sincerity, authenticity and prolificity. I will try to describe the three in this vein with respect to dating, romance, and relationships, as you asked. The general premise was that all identity is essentially a performance, and that performance is a condition of identity itself. Whatever “sense of self” or identity you inhabit has to be performed in some manner in order to be socially perceptible, whether you are writing, speaking, moving, the clothes you wear, your hairstyle, the car you drive, etc… you are putting on an act to yourself and to the world. You may stop performing an identity or part of your identity you experience as false, but you cannot stop performing altogether; the performance morphs and changes as you move through your journey of life. There is a subtle sense this model of identity is insincere; however, it’s important to note that identity becomes genuine through it’s enactment. So being “genuine” isn’t some hidden source behind the act, rather, it is the effect produced by performing the identity well enough that it comes to feel real to oneself and to others with a sufficient level of congruity. Hence the phrase “genuine pretending”. This model of identity rejects the idea that we have a “real self” behind some curtain within us that we then act or express to the world and instead posits that we first act and express, generating experiences that we then either experience as genuine or false. If an act is experienced as false, we then adapt it to be experienced as something more genuine. The three “identity technologies” are different ways of organising this process, and none of them functions perfectly, as there is no way to construct a “right” identity, yet all of them somehow presume there is a perfect way to “be” in the world, as a person. When forming identity through the process of sincerity, it is organised through externally established social roles. This was far more normal in antiquity and is a normal process most people in both the East and West move through today as we grow up. It can be loosely correlated with stage blue on the spiral. The culture you live in, and its prescribed roles, are strictly adhered to; for example, you could be the town’s clergyman, a fisherman, a husband, a father, a man, a boy or some combination and there will be clearly defined modes of enactment prescribed to you by the culture. Sincerity demands commitment to roles. The external role is what’s REAL and your insides must back it up honestly, otherwise you are considered a dishonest fake. Traditional roles under this technology can feel natural or genuine, especially as they correspond to some natural order, for example women in their roles as nurturing mothers to children, men using their physical strength to tend fields, defend territory etc. Under sincerity, gender roles are assumed to be naturally correct; there is a “right” way to be a father, mother, daughter, husband, wife, etc. This results in the implication that if you are not fitting the roles correctly, it’s YOUR fault and the onus is on YOU to improve your performance to match your role(s). The pathology with this technology is that no man perfectly fits the idealised version of a man, or woman a woman and so on. Add in sexuality and things get worse because … WHAT ABOUT THE GAYS!? The rise of authenticity as an identity technology emerges as a result of these conflicts. Authenticity changes the direction from asking “what role am I supposed to inhabit?” to “Who am I really, underneath social expectations?” The implication being that there is a fully fledged, consistent and coherent true self is inside you, waiting to burst forth and impose itself on the world. With this comes the rise of individualism moving away from collectivist tendencies of various cultural norms. Many great works of fiction from the Romantic period idealise this way of thinking. The inherent flaw with authenticity is almost demands the pursuit of originality. The inside is REAL and the outside must be an accurate representation of it, otherwise, it is considered a hypocritical façade … you’re a super special *one of a kind* snowflake after all, and if you are not bringing the phreshness there’s something wrong with YOU; you’re not being your realest bestest truest self. Not real enough, not original enough, not unique enough etc. Romantic love is idealized under this model as the meeting of two unique inner souls, each of whom has shed their facades and is seen and loved by the other for who they really are, away from the ideals of love under sincerely constructed identities with clearly defined roles for husband, wife, courtship, gender roles, expected duties to one another etc. Prolificity emerges with the rise of social media, and roles as they exist in a technocratic society. Like sincerity, it relies heavily on something external to the individual. But the external reference is no longer a stable inherited role from a culture. It is a profile whose meaning depends upon how it is observed, evaluated and circulated within a social environment. A profile can be a literal social-media profile, but the concept is broader: it is a publicly legible representation of oneself constructed in anticipation of how others will view it. Like a forum post. Profilicity permits a much looser plurality, a person can have a linked in profile, a tinder profile, a professional persona, and various other pseudonymous identities without any requirement that all of them express one underlying fully formed unified self, they can be relatively independent identity formations. They can be much more dynamic, as contexts change, audiences change, evaluative criteria change, and there is a multiplicity of public spheres, as opposed to a single unified public sphere in the case of sincerity modes of being. Communication is different between each of these sphere’s and they function according to different rationales. An important aspect of profilicity is the notion of second order observation. Where you create a representation or expression of “yourself” to some profile, and you then join in with the general audience of that sphere to evaluate yourself. Shame can emerge from each of the three identity technologies when the inevitable incongruence and paradox of self generation meets itself. In sincerity, one can feel shame about not fitting a role correctly enough: I’m not a good man, good father, good wife, etc. In authenticity, I am not being myself enough; I am hiding my truest self, my true self isn’t enough in some way, or I am too cowardly to be my real self; under profilicity, I am not recognisable enough; how am I being seen? How do others see others seeing me? What do I look like to the relevant audience in the context of this profile, of all my profiles!? @eos_nyxia Taoism is indeed the way. Don’t hold any act of self too tightly, or it will enclose you in suffering.
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Sadly true.
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I would get lost in that house. 😂
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I’m seeing huge improvements in my smoking habit and insomnia, and I’m genuinely happy about the progress I’ve been making. I haven’t smoked in the last three days, and, at the same time, I’ve been sleeping well and falling asleep easily for a few days now. For someone who has struggled with insomnia and addiction to both caffeine and nicotine, I see this as a real achievement .Lol. There were decisive moments when small, trivial choices became crucial. Once again, I’m reminded of how powerful small choices can be. A decision that looks insignificant in the moment can have consequences far beyond that particular moment. This has become particularly clear to me with smoking. When the urge is really high, having just one cigarette can seem like such a small thing. It can feel almost too insignificant to matter. But that one cigarette has the potential to ruin an entire week. That is what makes those moments so decisive. The choice itself may be small, but its consequences can be much bigger than the choice appears to be. And then there is sleep. I’ve been sleeping well and easily for a few days, which is something I’m very happy about . I’m happy to see improvements in both areas at the same time: smoking and sleep. There is something reassuring about noticing that things are actually changing. There is, however, one side effect I’ve noticed. I’m becoming much more sensitive emotionally. Sometimes it feels like my emotions are much closer to the surface than they used to be. I can listen to a song and immediately start crying, or suddenly feel something very deep inside me. I can’t control my emotions easily . I cry easily . I guess these are withdrawal symptoms. Whatever the reason, I’ve definitely noticed this increased emotional sensitivity alongside the other changes. again, I’m seeing that the power of small choices is invaluable. Always choose the right thing even if you feel like the wrong thing is trivial .
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All the best with it !
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I use this forum to practice my shit test responses lol
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Guys i'm performing tomorrow as a rapper for an open mic at tilt Hamra in Beirut, wish me good luck, it's my first time performing for an audience
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Trippy.
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@D2sage how often do girls approach you and under what circumstances?
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The power of intuition. I want to completely surrender to its apparent divine guidance. The more I do so, the more I see that life is working for me and not against me and, consequently, the more I trust it.
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JoshB replied to Nemra's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
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@Miguel1 Been asking myself the same question every night at 3am when waking up from the nightly fever dreams I've had since that incident.
