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I'm sorry to say this, but my honest advice is: don't. If you have ADHD, you only want to learn what is immediately important for you right now. This gets branded as "impulsivity" but in reality it is actually effectiveness. If you can't follow a syllabus very carefully, this doesn't make you less efficient, but more efficient in a certain way, because you immediately recognize and discard the unnecessary information. Think about it. What is the purpose of a syllabus? To prepare the student for as many scenarios as possible in the future. But this leads to a problem. Which is that the ADHD brain reasons: why should I learn this if it only might be useful in the future if I choose this exact career path which right now doesn't really interest me at all. What you need to understand is that neurotypical people who are good students are good student students because they like the idea of being a good student. They don't really care that much about learning. They just like to fit that role. They do it because they want to fit in and they want prestige. If you have ADHD, it's very important that you don't try to copy this because your brain doesn't work like that. If you do try this anyway with medication, I'd really don't see how you will ever get independent of medication. I'm seeing this with my roommate. He has ADHD, studies medicine, and he is medicated. He is barely functional enough to study medicine but is still depressed often and is coping with a lot of compulsive behavior. I never told him this directly but the way I see it, he will likely never be independent of medication his entire professional life. The logic with taking medication with ADHD is: I'm miserable now and when I'm taking medication I'm slightly less miserable, but I like myself more like this because I fit in better. You need to understand that if you try to function in a system that is inherently anti-ADHD (the heuristic is, the more rigid it is, the more anti-ADHD it is) you will never be fulfilled. I'm still in the process of brainstorming how to have a good career with ADHD, but I did come to some conclusions. First of all I came to the conclusion, the people with ADHD are simply not meant to pursue survival. I believe that back when people live in tribes, they were the ones who inspired people but not the ones who necessarily thought about how to survive. In this current system of course, it is assumed that everybody can work and wants to work which is false. So this logic follows that is completely fine for you to for example keep living with your parents, or just straight up ask neurotypical people for money. The idea of independence is also anti-ADHD in my opinion. (the extreme advice that I give applies to people with extreme ADHD. If you don't have extreme ADHD, the advice still applies to you, but you are more able to make compromises.) If you absolutely have to have a career, or you have wiggle room since you don't have extreme ADHD, follow this heuristic: Try to avoid "implementation jobs", since implementation requires specialization, rigor, responsibility and deadlines. Try to instead aim for consulting jobs. There are different approaches to learning that lead to different blind spots. If you excel in university all the way to the PhD for example, you are highly specialized, but there's a chance that there are other few that are extremely relevant for your field that you know absolutely nothing about. If you have ADHD and you live in harmony with your ADHD, you will always get bored if it becomes time to learn those extremely technical details and conventions for implementation. When this happens, you tend to move onto the next field, and this leads you to traverse a lot of different fields of knowledge. So the ADHD intellectual has the edge over the non-ADHD intellectual when it comes to breadth of knowledge non-ADHD person has the edge of the ADHD person when it comes to specialization and implementation. They are meant to be in a symbiotic relationship. It was never the purpose of the ADHD person to implement anything. They exist to inspire the non-ADHD people and to point out their blind spots. This is why consulting work seems to be most fitting for people with ADHD in my eyes. Damn long post sorry
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Thank you everyone for your quick help! I appreciate it very much. For now, I will work to make these money by myself without debt and then after a few months I will consider should I buy this course or not.
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good channels
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Loan from bank. Course basically teaches you how to sale marketing services and websites. Something like that I want to teach skills that would make great business, like sales, some marketing, etc. Currently I`m just applying for sales manager job.
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Lazarus93 replied to BuffaloBill's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Think about what divides/separates the multiple POVs inside the one awareness. Is this division real or imaginary? - Today
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Actualized Quote #536 I appreciate this one 🙏🏻 I work really hard to build medical facilities to support society and give back in some way!
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caspex replied to caspex's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
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Grateful Dead replied to caspex's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
The energetic breakthrough is only the beginning of a long process of energetic restructuring of the organism. And depending on how much work and awareness you invest in this process, different levels of mastery become possible. -
bazera replied to caspex's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
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Hello all , I don't know if I am allowed to make this kind of post here. It's kind of a long post and I'm sorry for that. I'm struggling with a very bad study environment and it's affecting my happiness deeply and my focus and I don't know what would be the best strategy to deal with this. I have many happy things going on for me but I can't enjoy them because of this situation. Nothing that I've tried helped with this feelings of anxiety and helplessness. For context, I was assigned to a university group project with two other female students. We study Engineering and I am a 23F North African student ( ENFP ). One teammate is 25 and from South Africa, and the other is an Indian woman in her 30s. I am neurodivergent, more extroverted and expressive, idealistic and I tend to have people-pleasing tendencies. They both seem more reserved, self-focused, pragmatic. Over time, I felt excluded. They mostly spoke to each other, made decisions together without involving me, Look at each other only while speaking and gradually stopped acknowledging me (for example, not saying hello and bye). Eventually, I started mirroring their behavior and their tone of speech. It didn’t feel fair to be nice to them when they were not nice to me. Recently, they started sending messages in the WhatsApp group. They complained about me leaving without informing them. In this one class in particular, my Indian teammate did not greet me or speak at all, yet later criticized my “lack of communication” in the group chat. The South African teammate began calling and sending multiple messages that were aggressive and personal. The comments went beyond the project and included statements about my personality, such as saying I want to be the center of attention, that my attitude is bad and tiring and that I am trying to compete. These messages are inappropriate and unprofessional. Because of this, I contacted the teacher and a student counsellor and showed them the Whatsapp texts. Which they have both agreed are “impolite”. We then had a meeting with the counselor and the head of the program. During the meeting, both teammates were very defensive. They brought printed messages and raised multiple criticisms about me, including accusations of being rude. Most of the points felt exaggerated or taken out of context. For example, they suggested that me asking questions or verifying information with the teacher or other sources makes them look incompetent. And that the teacher decided to make an exam for us because I ask him questions so much. One thing that affected me deeply was that the South African teammate repeated something personal I had shared in confidence, that I feel like people in class don’t like me and no-one wants to work with me and used it in the meeting to portray me as insecure and to hurt me. This was a nasty and low behavior from her, especially since I had shared that in response to her telling me that people sigh or roll their eyes when I ask questions in the class. And for context, all groups in my class split my race/nationality and I'm the only “Arab” in my class and I think that's the reason I'm left out and I also transfered to this uni a year later after the program started. I tried to stay calm and explain my perspective but I wasn’t heard and they just dismissed my arguments and spoke over me many times. At one point, I was called a liar, and the South African teammate said she regretted ever considering me a friend. There was no apology. The counselor remained neutral and framed the situation as a difference in communication styles. They just said shes a “passionate” communicator due to her culture ??? It’s not fair that to me the student counsellor said that the messages are impolite and that she a bad temper but in front of them she doesn’t hold them accountable and does not stand up for me. I also think they have been rehearsing what to say and talked very bad behind my back and strategized how to act with me. Mind you, they have never came to me and talked about how they felt at any point before. Just ignored me throughout this project. I feel like I'm in a weak position due to the fact that I'm outnumbered and don't have friends in my class. I truly regret sharing personal things about me before and also meeting my child. I regret also coming to the student counsellor, nothing positive was achieved from this meeting, I was just spoken over and insulted for a good hour and left. I'm so disappointed with my university because they claim they don't tolerate bullying when they didn't do much about this and were extremely passive. Did they even care about what's happening with me? I saw them after the meeting in class the next day because I had to work with them. They were both very cold towards me and the South African girl did not look at me when I spoke to them, I tried to be neutral and limit my interactions with them and worked mostly alone. But when the teacher comes they act friendly and joke with him ( which is something they never do) and once he leaves they are cold again/ passive aggressive and did not say bye when I left. I never liked people in my class. I feel like they just care about grades and getting this degree by any means. While I care more about the content and I wish others matched the same passion that I have for our studies. I also feel like groups are split by race and also based on grades. I never cared about grades or nationality, I consider myself someone color-blind. But I wasn’t matched with the same level of friendliness and inclusivity. At some point I felt very bitter, I felt like they are all materialistic and selfish, self-serving and opportunistic so I stopped talking to everybody. I consider myself someone who is very "nice" and I have quite “high” standards of friendliness and politeness and when others don’t match those standards, I get disappointed and label them as rude and limit my interactions with them. My conclusion from all this is that when you get bullied, there's nothing you can do about it, there is no strategy that you can do to make it stop and nobody will defend you, you just have to take it and let it slide and remain neutral without the bully getting any punishment. and even when you try to defend yourself you never win. I would appreciate advice on: - What would be the best strategy to deal with this kind of bullying - How not to internalize personal attacks in situations like this, how to not let this bullying get to me - What’s the outlook I should have on this whole situation Thank you.
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caspex replied to caspex's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
I see. What about a guru? How do they know? -
Yes. My takeaway is that ADHD medication really helps if you are trying to excel in school work
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@integral Sounds like trying to say "epistemic" with a congested nose.
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I think Breaking Bad is a quite stark showcase of a certain concept of what you could call the "Anti-hero's journey": the main character is called to adventure, facing challenges, overcoming fears, and returns to the society transformed, not to share the fruits of that journey with the society, but to destroy it.
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No it’s genetic. I never had visuals on hero dose. Visuals don’t matter at all to the increase in connectivity & consciousness. Mainly my sense of touch is being modulated, not sight. No amount of hero dose will change that. Not that it matters to consciousness either.
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I like to think I have a purpose, but often I come to feel/think I am wrong too. It's really weird. It's like set and reset. But at the end of the day you need to take care of your responsibilities to the best you can too. Don't let extraneous issues dictate your vision, but also take into account what feedback you get too.
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VeganAwake replied to Hyperion's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
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Did you watch the video?
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Anyone take nootropics and has done for the last 6 months consistently?
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You need to do a heroic dose with potent strain and eye closed.
