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  2. Warning To Members Here

    Asayake replied to Leo Gura's topic in Personal Development -- [Main]

    Do you get banned for talking about stuff like that?
  3. The famous Italian guru,
  4. It's an absurd case, and I'm betting that they are following the law in a sort of draconian fashion. Technically technically, etc. But also, it's not self-defense when you shot at someone who's escaping the scene. That was probably core to the robber's argument in court. He's sure being heavily sentenced though. Reminds of that time a robber sued and won for health and safety when he slipped on a loose roof tile. When the legal system feels unjust it always chills people's trust in the system.

  5. Contemplating Motherhood

    soos_mite_ah replied to soos_mite_ah's topic in Self-Actualization Journals

    The Best Case Scenario Lately, I have been in a brighter mindset where motherhood doesn't seem like all doom and gloom. Like I feel like if I had a good amount of preparation and a dash of good luck in life that being a mother might not seem all that bad. I have been watching some videos of women who had their kid in their mid 30s with proper planning and consideration to where you can tell they REALLY thought about having a kid. The best case scenario for parenthood is if I have my kid in my mid 30s or later. I am financially stable and able to handle most things. I have a supportive partner who is an active parent. I have a village in the form of friends. We live in a walkable city. I have lived my life to the fullest prior to having this kid. I am physically fit with no health issues. Pregnancy, labor, and post partum, though difficult, are relatively smooth. Sure the first 3 years is hell but I am able to maintain an active lifestyle because my kid is energetic, I have my own hobbies that I either share with my kid or I do on my own to have time to myself. I am far enough in my career to where I can take a step back and ask for accommodations without it risking opportunities. My kid sees me as someone who has a life outside of the home, who has their own identity in addition to being a mother, who has an amazing relationship with their dad, who is self sufficient careerwise and financially, and who has a social life that turns into a sense of community for them as well. My partner is alive during their entire childhood. We are financially stable. And my child doesn't have any severe disabilities that would prevent them from typical developmental milestones or prevent them from having basic autonomy. They don't see a woman who is stressed out and doesn't have time for themselves. They don't see a woman who is only reduced to being a mother. They don't see a woman who is trapped by her own circumstances into a marriage. Rather, they have a good trusted role model who is guiding them through life and who is a safe person to go to. They see an adult who has a lot of their life figured out and who they can go to for advice rather than a woman in her early 20s who is just trying to figure out how to be an adult. As for what kind of kid I want. I want one child. That child can be of either gender but personally I prefer a girl because I feel like if I had a boy, I would REALLY have to lock in. I would want this kid to have structure in their early years and outlets to run around so that they are less likely to act out. I would want them to be multilingual and gain those language skills from the way my partner and I talk to the kid and the media they are exposed to. I would want them to have minimal screen time so that they have the time to be bored and cultivate their own interests. I would want to have a kid who is confident and isn't afraid to talk back and assert themselves even if it's inconvenient for me. I don't want a kid who will be blindly obedient rather I want to teach them over time so that they can build their own understanding. I would want to raise them gender neutral and expose them to both "girl" and "boy" toys and books so that they don't feel limitted and so that they can relate to all genders. Yes, I want to read a princess book to my son and have him play with dolls because I think that can also help his social and emotional development so that he sees girls as full and complete people and that he is socialized to value relationships and empathy the same way girls are based on the media they consume and the way they play. I would want to take them to the library once a week to get books for the rest of the week for bed time stories and for the day time when they are free. I want to encourage them to have an open mind and to have a positive association with learning. I want to include them in house hold activities whether that means they can watch me cook from a far or have them pitch in with a few chores around the household. I want them to grow up to be educated, responsible, kind, considerate, and confident regardless of what path they choose in life or how their personality develops. I want to give the kid solid access to opportunities and make sure that my finances and retirement are in order so that I won't be overly reliant on them when they're older and have their own life. I know I said I want to raise them in a walkable community but I also want to raise them in a relatively diverse area so that they are exposed to a wide variety of people. Yes I want them to have a good education, but I don't want it to be at the cost of them being in some kind of bougie private school where they're only around wealthy (and often predominantly white) kids. I want them to have a healthy realtionship with their own culture and travel to visit their extended family abroad about once every 2 years. Speaking of travel, I also want to take them on little trips domestically in the U.S. based on what they are learning in school (take them to Pennsylvania when they are learning about Gettysburg and the Civil War, or take them to Hawaii when they are learning about volcanos). Lowkey, I would want a gay kid. I grew up around a lot of queer kids and I myself am a little queer. So I think that would be nice to have in common with my kid. And also, that means I wouldn't have to worry about teen preganancy. But I hope that by the time my kid is old enough to know they are gay that society would have progressed far enough to where they don't need to go through the process of coming out to me and instead can just treat being queer as a basic and mundane thing. I also sometimes imagine sharing various stories from my youth, especially since I travel a lot, with my kid. I imagine telling them what I have encountered and gone through as well as all the types of people I have come across. I imagine having difficult conversations with them regarding things they are encountering in their lives and being able to relate to that because I have a wealth of life experience.
  6. I was replying to @Inliytened1's message not taking jabs at jim.

  7. Finished the LP course

    Jannes replied to Jannes's topic in Self-Actualization Journals

    So he wrote again because he missed the website I put in chat which has a 1 day delete So I answered him again but then added some real talk and problems i had/ have with him. Will see what happens.

  8. Finished the LP course

    Jannes replied to Jannes's topic in Self-Actualization Journals

    Yesterday memories flashed my mind. When I was like 19 years old I visited an old classmate of mine. At that moment I felt so weird, like I was so old already and I already needed to have socialized a lot more. I felt so much sadness and sense of having missed so much. lol I was a baby back then. Now I am so much older and still live through the same sort of dynamic. I am fundamentally wired differently for that outcome to happen continuously. Will see if my youtube block changes things fundamentally.
  9. The confusion stems from linguistic limitations. I said “authenticity,” but to clarify the idea, we could also talk about acceptance. A child who shouts in a store does so because he doesn't want to see that it leads nowhere; a serial killer doesn't want to see that he'll end up in prison. Children are not necessarily more “authentic” then; they have karma like anyone else. They are also weaker physically and psychologically, and they also have less experience. No, that's wrong; there are just as many rational children, particularly capable of projecting themselves into the future, as there are significantly impulsive 50-year-old adults. I'm going back to what I said at the beginning about the confusion surrounding the word "authentic."
  10. From the scraping, somebody should just generate an RSS feed file with the full posts embedded and with the OCR idea in a free static file hosting service like Cloud flare. So the user can just use his favorite RSS reader. There are probably some good ones that allows for full text search, if not that can be easily be done from the RSS feed file. This way we don't have to waste time maintaining more custom code than necessary, we won't be running multiple of those bots accessing and creating their own databases, and it will work in all platforms and provide the real-time update abstraction from RSS feed readers. If that's not enough, we can just write our own custom format if RSS happens to have some major limitation like maximum number of posts. Extracting the posts into their own respective HTML files cleaned and properly tagged for automation before doing any further format transformation should be the first step of this scraping pipeline, that will guarantee that it will preserve all the original features on the post, like the youtube embeds and whatever he might have included there. The major issue I believe would be the vimeo embeds, I believe leo configured them to not run outside of actualized.org. It has to be checked. What Claude Code gave there wouldn't handle if it's taking just the text of the posts and tossing away the original HTML. HTML already has a tag to add the text description of images that is used for accesability, that would be the correct way to extracting HTML and using OCR to embed back into the image the text, and then the later stages of the pipeline uses that. For searching quick right now just use on google: the tag "site:" followed by the address to search there. site:https://www.actualized.org/insights
  11. Another Iranian billboard I don't understand why Iran would escalate this walking away from the billion dollar gifts, unless China is backing it, obviously Russia needs this.
  12. Hungaryfication 👍
  13. This is poetic genius
  14. I barely use it even when it's free. It's more like stop shoving it into my face constantly. My tablet updated recently and they they changed the power button to some AI shit 🤦‍♂️ Thanks Google. Thanks Mark.
  15. What if you can't do better? Just thinking that fucks up your mentality. Also, don't lead on people with kids you don't plan on having, even if that's not your intention. Your wasting years of a persons life. Get real or gtfo.
  16. Iran is taking out water and power in the gulf states
  17. Today
  18. The cutoff should be about 50 million dollars per person. You can secure a luxurious lifestyle from that for 30 years and invest / start any kind of business. More money only serves as a tool for power and securing unfair advantages. Reality isnt this simple of course, but in principle everyone should be taxed so you cant have more than 50 mill. Or atleast tax it very heavily and if you still manage to accumulate more, good for you.
  19. No
  20. If you guys feel hopeless, it really is just a culture war, there's no reasoning with them but there is a way to win. This is the reason for the manosphere and maga, despite the claim for "rugged independence" conservatives just want to fit in somewhere, not that it's about anti-white male sentiment, it's because their 'community' is more visible, they wear the same hat lol. All we have to do is 'make more friends' essentially, not with maga but with independents, bring them into the cult. You don't actually have to even talk politics, we have our own culture, it might be hard for you to see but you can see conservative culture! Independents can see the two different cultures. Even just online, or just going out works, you don't have to make actual friends. People are just voting their tribe.
  21. You’re imagining an inside, an outside, and everything in-between. You’re even imagining me.
  22. This is what I was going to ask. He also seems young. How old are you? @Pure
  23. Yes and just so you know how you act with me right now will decide where you spend an eternity!
  24. Ahahah I reacted too, I thought “is that some other guy” has he some connection to the Niagara Falls? 😭😭😭😭
  25. Self help and self halt. The 10 commandments is the former - you do good to me and I'll do good to you. Won't get you anywhere.

  26. Sober Thoughts

    eos_nyxia replied to eos_nyxia's topic in Self-Actualization Journals

    HAPPY HAND WASHING BEHAVIOUR: Yesterday, I woke up and felt a deep sense of peace to have finally written the words above and fully meant it. Today, I feel equally at peace. I've also felt surprisingly excited and optimistic at the possibility of the total absence of such of thing in my life, to never be bothered or to concern myself with these type of questions again -- what would be done for me in my time of need? Who would be there for me? What would be done in my relative absence? What do people do when I hold back? How do they live their lives, what do they value, and what choices do they make for themselves? What things do people correctly attribute to you and which things are false or at least highly twisted? What are these people hiding about themselves that they expect you... or someone... to see? To fix or heal? The same type of concerns have been circulating its influence since early childhood near incessantly, though at first I knew the feeling without having the ability to put it into words. And even when I never thought about it consciously, the imprint was marked so deeply on me that it affected everything I did and who I was to become. The choices I actually got to make as well as the large variety of things I had absolutely no control over, the situation I was born into. And all the things where accountability and responsibility has been shunted onto me and I simply expect it to take it and EAT IT (so that I might have the immense and high privilege of transmuting people's undigested psychological rubbish across time and space lol), when all I ever needed was to remain fully dedicated to serving ""The Highest Good"" as fully as I possible can, without pretense. And this looks however it looks, I need not concern myself with how I'm perceived or what people take from it. I need not continue to latently concern myself with all this heaviness than I have worn my whole life like a mantle, but instead I do need to be strong again, to be a person willing to wholly live this life and make the best of it without overly concerning myself with what people will or won't do, as if I am waiting for them still. The lingering self consciousness and the shame and embarrassment where the rage has quieted. I am not waiting to meet anyone as if life will start, and I wish I had stopped fixating on this at least 5-7 years ago, once it was obvious that my "test" or "leap of faith" was a failure. But it is what it is. Everything always takes far too long to get rid of all traces of so it's not negatively impacting my psyche in some way that is seriously holding me back. When I was in 25-30, I was able to figure out that the minimum amount of time to make a major psychological change, not at the level of habit, but on the level of deeper emotionality/ the worldly presentation of the "soul", about 3 years. Absolutely never less than 2. This took 7 years. SEVEN FUCKING YEARS of my life. I took the wager with myself, I somehow survived that bet (it was not at all a given to me that I would), and ultimately it only really hit me the worst, it seems. The inhuman amount of rage at watching people live their best life while I sunk, with the original pretense and belief that I mattered and that I was needed. Bitterness. The sort of thing that poisons you first and most deeply, and often no one else, or else those who are closest to you that actually WILL be there for you. From my perspective: I paid off my debt fully; it's over, like it would be inevitably. The question has been answered, and the book has been shut. It was always waiting for me to shut it, and I've had to be the one to make that decision. To be able to put that final brick in place. And there is no way with how much continuous effort and time its taken these past years, as with every major decision I have to reinforce within myself which runs directly against the emotional grain, that I would ever consider changing my mind. Again, who will pay for my future years? The law of balanced exchange still applies even if one person has agreed, in their soul, to take on a lion's share of the work/ sacrifice. My blood and time and energy? No one. Not worth it. Extremely poor risk-to-reward ratio. After all, I have to look after myself and look out for myself like everyone first before I can be operational to serve ""The Highest Good"", or whatever form this life's version of it will take, whatever it is that I both desire and can feasibly sustain. As they all have. I'm not much good if I'm dead or incapacitated am I? And if I have nothing left that I would willingly offer, then I'm completely off the hook in terms of what I do with my conscious energy, who I spend time with, and if I chose in the future to be completely absence and out of reach for an indefinite period of time (which means the rest of this life). This has at times been something that has been hard to wrap my head around, but it's my issue to make it work. No one else's problem, and I guess it never was. Anyway, every time I have felt that sense of definitive calm no one and nothing has ever been able to get in my way or to stop me. It is very literal when I say nothing will stop me. So of course I feel at peace. I have finally received the rest of my power that I had given away. I lack a lot of the social skills and have many hard edges as a result of the life I have lived, particularly the things which I have had no conscious input into or choice about, about the years of enforced isolation and the things I was kept in the dark about -- what you would call "soul contract" stuff. I could have learned (at least I told myself this, as I both believed and would have been willing to put in whatever time and energy that was necessary), but I could not make things line up and they did not. I tried my best; so I am at peace. I rescind my own judgement onto myself for the things I actually did consciously choose that failed, my own anger and piss poor attitudes at times (from my perspective), despite my own lack of knowledge of certain things (or else there would have been nothing to test for near absolute certainty). I still think that we all collectively chose the HARDER OPTION and it does link into how I was treated and received. Take whatever you want from that. But you if you picked THE WORLD AS IT IS and the values it holds and expect me to hocus pocus things for you or do things through THE POWER OF LOVE AND SELF SACRIFICE, well, that's your business now. Was I ever actually loved by anyone other than my husband? Honestly I do not give a fuck anymore.

  27. Distinction Journal

    Emull replied to Emull's topic in Self-Actualization Journals

    Friday: July 17th, 2026. Giving someone room to breathe is distinct from emotional suffocation.
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