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  2. No; does he say something like that ? In our next reincarnation we'll just have to "JIJJIJJJJJ%%%%" together 😏
  3. I recently spent about 100$ on X ads and got about 600,000 views, 60 likes and 0 new installs from it 🤯
  4. @Schizophonia Have you read Osho’s book “from sex to super consciousness “ ?
  5. Basically everyone at the beginning should try Google ads.
  6. Isn’t it better than sex? 😜
  7. @Yimpa thanks my love .

  8. Contemplating Motherhood

    soos_mite_ah replied to soos_mite_ah's topic in Self-Actualization Journals

    An Increase in Empathy I think as I have been thinking more about whether or not I should become a parent that I have gotten a deeper sense of empathy towards the people around me. Don't get me wrong, I've always had a sense of empathy for most people but I think now, I'm thinking from the lens of *what would it be like to be the parent of this person?* or *what would it be like to parent under these circumstances?* For example, a few weeks ago there was a shooting near me and a few people were shot. Of course there is the layer of empathy around how messed up this was, what was this like for the individuals that were harmed, how this is impacting the community and the people around me. But then, I caught myself thinking things along the lines of "imagine being a parent and then decades later, your kid gets shot" , "what are the possible parental and community level enabling that caused the shooter to do what he did since his actions don't exist in a vacuum," "imagine getting shot and then you have to recover and still parent your kids. Also, imagine what it's like for the kids to witness this." I also think over the years I have found myself looking at my elementary, middle, and high school years more fondly. Not in a romanticized "I wish I could go back" kind of way but in a "I might not have liked everyone from those years but now as an adult, I no longer harbor any ill feelings towards those kids and I genuinely wish them well." I find myself thinking about random people and thinking about what was going on at home in addition to school that was contributing to them acting the way they are or what it must have been like being their parents. I feel like I especially think of this when I think of my friends who had young parents (I'm talking their parents had them when they were in their teens or late 20s) and how that impacted my friends growing up and into adulthood. Like "what was it like having to have a kid at 18 and then having to go to college plus figure out your adult life while having to raise a kid?" or "what was it like for the grandparents involved having to look after the grandkids after dealing with their child's teen pregnancy?" Or when something awful happens to either the parent or the child, I'm like "damn, and you still gotta go home and raise those damn kids. What do you have to do in order for your parenting to accommodate this so that this event doesn't taint the way you're raising them." Then I think of the kids that I didn't really get along with when I was a kid. I mainly had trouble getting along with the "trouble makers" which ranged from kids who were doing drugs, not paying attention in school, the hot cheeto girls that would intimidate me, and the like. And I think about what I would have had to do from the parent's perspective to correct their behavior, to understand them, and encourage them in their interests. I really don't like how some adults would label some kids as good or bad, or how they would label some kids as the problem child, the smart one , the pretty one etc. because now that I'm an adult, I can see how that create a complex in the kid and how that can show up in a variety of ways well into adulthood. That's not to say that you can't compliment you kid on being smart or pretty or that you have to enable you kid by not calling out their bad behavior as bad but it is to say that writing them off or forming their identity around that is pretty fucked up. And I think as the kid who didn't know better, I also fell into the pattern that the adults around me were exhibiting on labeling some kids as the trouble makers, the dumb ones, the smart ones, the successful ones, the quiet good ones, etc. Now as an adult, I try not to do the same thing for other kids. For example, my boyfriend has a friend, who has another friend who has a kid. The kid is like 8 years old now and the mom had him when she was like 19. The kid is a little bit chaotic and rambunctious and I think my boyfriend and his friend has a knee jerk reaction to say that he is a bad kid. And on the surface, I can see how from the perspective of the parent he is not one of the easier kids to raise and how especially if you had to deal with the difficulties of parenthood from such a young age, that you probably aren't well equipped to handle such situations, which makes the kid and situation more frustrating. But at the same time, I don't think this kid is "bad." I think he is largely acting out because of the instability of the mom's life. This led led to the kid having incosistent attention from his dad (and eventually the dad abandoning him all together), constant moving, strange men coming in an out of the house, and a mom who is trying really hard to figure out her own shit to where he gets neglected or is causing the kid to be on the receiving end of less than ideal parenting. And I'm not looking down on the mom either. Don't get me wrong, I do disagree with her on a lot of things and I don't like the way she handles some situations, but I can have some empathy for her seeing that she really is doing her best (even if it's not great). As a woman, I can empathize with the pressures put on her, the bullshit she has had to go through, and how a life event like this has moved around her prospects in life and the extent to which she was able to grow and develop as a person. It's not to excuse the way she's raising her kid but it is to give additional context and understanding of the situation. Like I think a lot of kids who act up is a combination of their surroundings and life circumstances, the way they are being parented, age appropriate behaviors, and also the temperment. Out of the 4 factors, only one is personal and up to chance 100%. The surroundings/ life circumstances, and parenting skills can be controlled and prepared for to a certain extent. And the age appropriate behaviors is just markers of developmentally healthy tendencies that shouldn't be taken personally but should still be corrected and taken seriously. Like yes, it's normal for 4 year olds to be egocentric tantrum monsters. That doesn't mean you take their actions personally, see them as evil, or think you're a bad parent. But you still do need to discipline them so they know right from wrong and so they can continue developing in an age appropriate way. Speaking of age appropriate behaviors, I do think the whole "you're kid is so mature and calm for their age" isn't necessarily a good thing or a proxy for good parenting. Sure, on the surface it can look like it because it carries this notion that you must have done something right for them to behave. But, having a quiet kid can be the by product of a lot of things. Maybe that particular kid's way of dealing with instability is being quiet and standing in the corner because they're anxious, while another kid with a different temperment's way of dealing with the same situation is to act out. Maybe, the kid is more mature for their age because their parents are making them responsible for adult issues and they're forced to grow up faster. Maybe the kid is really anxious and terrified of the parents because the parents are abusive. Don't get me wrong, I do think in some situations, kids can be healthy, calm, and well regulated because the parents are doing something right like providing them a stable environment, modeling good habits, soothing the kid to where they learn to soothe themselves, etc. But as a parent, you can do all of those things and still have your kid act out in age appropriate ways and have that be healthy. If anything, if I encounter a pair of 3 year olds from different parents, and one of the kids is acting like a normal 3 year old/ having tantrums, while the other kid is too scared to do anything or show any emotions, even thought the second kid is seen as "easier to raise" I'm more worried about the second kid as opposed to the first kid. Sometimes, considering the parents having good parenting habits and are raising the kid in a good environment, the kid acting out is indicative that they are comfortable around the parents and are alright with sharing their emotions, which is a good thing. But yeah, it's not as simple as having a good quiet kid who always behaves well in public versus having a bad kid who is like the human equivalent of an agressive chihuahua.

  9. Thought Art 📓

    Thought Art replied to Thought Art's topic in Self-Actualization Journals

    Lovely day, outside with that freshness, Journaling, writing Qigong routines, listening to some of my song demos. My music is magic. I am glad I invested the time into it.
  10. Blue cosplaying Green was 20th century Marxism-Leninism.
  11. Not at all I think it's a human thing. In another completely unrelated incarnation there is no more love, sex etc but "ISDGISDIUGSD%%%%HFSDOIHQFDHJLNQI78556867587..." https://www.instagram.com/reel/DW1DWVYFQuq/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== No pb

  12. Leo's Blog Discussion Mega-Thread

    Thought Art replied to Leo Gura's topic in Personal Development -- [Main]

    @Yimpa Haha, I love so love so much. But, also at a point it gets so extreme it almost become infinite. It’s like, perfection, but yeah. My ego is terrified of it. I know the experience with the girl is dualistic human love. But, it’s also a form of unity happening in the human domain. I think this love can be profound and important to human life. But, becoming totally selfless and One. I’ve been there. I’m not there now. It was perfect. But, to me now it’s terrifying.
  13. I’m feeling lots of Joy for you. Keep it up
  14. Soften up, buttercup!
  15. @Joshe Did I l demand credentials? This is a factor that needs to be considered in diagnosis (if we were going to strengthen the claim to steelman). I may have phrased it otherwise - can you quote me please so I can check, that way I can avoid whatever offensive language was present? The second point regarding drama, I cannot find where I accused you of that, it was more a contemplative offshoot. Can you quote where I accused you of that directly, or if you thought it was indirect, how? I intentionally worded it so it wasn't directed at you, and I consciously recall that. Tons of users have thrown this discussion under the bus claiming it was drama, and the discussion with you promoted my insight into what constitutes drama as it applies here (vs actually trying to work out of this is a cult or not, or isolate real dynamics that contribute).
  16. Lets analyze this quote because represent the thought of Krishnamurti. According to him, the direct image of the bird is the essence of the bird. This image is formed by the posterior lobe of the child's brain based on the photons captured by the retina. According to Jiddu, this is the truth. However, if the child learns things about the bird, which are stored in the frontal lobe and the default mode network, and the structure created by the frontal lobe is superimposed on the image of the bird created by the posterior lobe, this is false. So, according to him, the posterior lobe is the truth and the frontal lobe the lie? That's strange. Perhaps he doesn't understand that any perception requires interpretation. Without minimal interpretation, you wouldn't even see the bird; you wouldn't distinguish it from the background. You would see a mixture of colors and disconnected sounds. A cat, if it sees a bird, interprets it as food. Perhaps it isn't enlightened. If I take 7 gr of mushroom I don't see a bird, I see a brunch of colors and waves. It doesn't seem more true than the bird. It's just without structure . Krishnamurti's entire discourse has absolutely no relation to enlightenment. He's just a guy pretending to be mysterious and profound, accumulating nonsense upon nonsense. His skill in convincing some people of his genius is commendable. The perception is the reality in the form of perception. The interpretation is the reality in the form of interpretation. Deep meditation is a state that is possible being human and interpretation is another. No one is false, and of course, no one is unreal, out of the reality. Meditation is the ability to dissolve all the limits, then the perception becomes unlimited. That doesn't mean that you perceive unlimited things and you are omniscient god, but that the fact of unlimited being is perceived by itself. Interpretation is the ability to perceive the limits and it's not false, it's limited. And Krishnamurti is a professional scammer, same than almost all the gurus
  17. @Yimpa I want to put this in my signature. I’m feeling in a moment of bless . I love myself and I love god and I love you and I love everything .
  18. You said we should take money from multinational corporations and give it to the poor who are starving. That's an ethical idea. And i say it's wrong for different reasons You are regularly aggressive and have a big ego.
  19. Do you think love and sex has any absolute nature like infinity and consciousness? if the questions are off topic please feel free to not engage me .
  21. It's just some kind of limit within infinity.

  22. Leo's Blog Discussion Mega-Thread

    Leo Gura replied to Leo Gura's topic in Personal Development -- [Main]

    The photographer even writes about how he found the nest, in the description.
  23. More like a contemplation I want to share with you : when we love a girl ..and we adore her and we want to propose to her and hold hands ..then kiss..then hug …then the inevitable must happen :sex. More existentially speaking : why is this process the most beautiful thing in existence? What does the energy of love means ?
  24. God the Y thing, sent out a search party but then called off the search after realising the part Y’s hadn’t actually de partied. LoL

  25. The dumbest collective shit test

    Schizophonia replied to WonderSeeker's topic in Dating, Sexuality, Relationships, Family

    @LordFall I just went on a date, so I haven't created a Hinge account yet. Since she's interested in philosophy I briefly mentioned it on Actualized. I made the mistake of saying I was posting here so I hope she wasn't trying to spy on me given what I've said lol.
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