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  3. Oh yeah!
  4. If anyone tells you there is a holon, run fast.
  5. Found em thanks
  6. Someone needs to make an app like the old Swipes app on iPhone. That was the best app for getting your stuff together.
  9. Holon sounds like a weird term to me. I'm suspicious.
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    Yimpa replied to Human Mint's topic in Personal Development -- [Main]

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  12. Update: I did 11 approaches went to two clubs, approached some girls in the gender free toilet not an ideal place to approach lol kinda weird place too hahahahaha. Then I gave a girl a compliment and walked away, she went into a trance looking at me walking away, like I was fucking James Bond or something, I could have asked her to come to me, but I didn't, don't ask why. I then went to walk around approached 2 girls sitting down, short interaction nothing special, then I approached. Then went to the first club, approached a girl, she said she was waiting for her boyfriend, I didn't really looked for taking her home anyways, so I just kept chatting she was from bali and had a great vibe. I danced for 2 hours or so, the music downstairs was awful, but upstairs the music were old hits from the 2000 so perfect dance music if you ask me. I then high fived a girl while I was dancing, and turned my back towards her and kept dancing. Then she tapped on my shoulder wanting to high five me again, but I didn't gave her a high five hahaha I thought playing hard to get, but I was just being a dick for no reason, so mistake on my part. Then I went to the second club, outside there was an accident so an easy way to approach a 2 set of girls, talking about the accident. Went inside, approached one girl and she pretended that I didn't exist, that kinda brought me down, plus the club was literally horrible. I was standing there for 5 mins thinking what was wrong with this club, I realised what was wrong, there were tables on a stage, all the single girls were being pulled towards the tables. The only girls that were not on the table side were the big groups of girls of 6 girls. You can't even come to the tables as it is on the stage. So I decided fuck this club, let me go somewhere else where there is not such loud music. I went to a karaoke bar and there was a girl alone vibing. I was like, PERFECT, that is what I need. So I approached her, she said it was her favorite song. She then rejected me so politely and kind that I couldn't even be mad, she did it with class I have been rejected so many times, but never this good. She made me leave feeling good even tho I got rejected, life makes no sense. Then I approached 2 girls don't remember exactly, and I wanted to go back to the first club. It was already 4.20 or something and I wasn't allowed back in, then next to me on the left there was a girl looking at me twice. So I was like fuck it, I had to build up the courage to approach her, but it went good, she was very receptive and started asking me questions, she was super soft and sweet and feminine, very beautiful in a natural way, with like a bit of messy hair and messy clothes kinda hippy, literally my type, for others maybe an 8 for me she was a 10 as she was exactly my type. She started being interested in me and asking me questions, she told me she never went out and there were just so many green flags. She was interested in me, I was interested in her, she was relationship material and then her friends came, which isn't a huge problem, but I rejected myself, I REJECTED MYSELF! FUCK!@!@ I am so done with rejecting myself. I had a good 7 to 10 minute conversation with her, teasing her a little bit with stupid arguments, disagreeing with what she says and making assumptions that were push pull, good eye contact everything went well effortlessly, except for closing. I DIDN'T FUCKING CLOSE. I could atleast have gotten her number and I rarely meet girls that are relationship worthy, she is from a small city close to Amsterdam. I went home feeling so sick to my stomach that I let myself down, that I got out of my house, on my bike and cycled back as fast as I could, I thought NOT TODAY! Yet of course she was already gone. Lesson learned: NEVER NEVER REJECT YOURSELF! Fuck self rejection, I hate it so much. Sometimes you need to go through pain before you learn these lessons.
  13. The Holism videos are Part 2 and 3.
  14. Interesting questions! For what it is worth, I tend to look at these type of ideas within the context of the history of ideas first. I was raised with the intimate exposure to two philosophical traditions: Chinese and Continental (aka. "Western") philosophy. The idea of the moral necessity/ imperative to "express yourself" wholly and freely comes from the Romantic tradition, which itself was a response to the Enlightenment. The latter shifted the locus of control from God and destiny to the individual (and by extension the concept of individual responsibility) and the revitalization of "Reason" as a primary virtue. Individualism. I do this, I am that. I, I, I, etc. In the Daoist tradition, it is also about returning to what is true and pure (in the way that an uncultivated being is, like a very young child or an animal) but you don't need to turn that energy outward at all. You really often don't need to act. You don't need to push for people to see or hear you, in fact, you ought not to push and force at all, because that is in direct resistance to the Way (the natural flow of nature, life, the universe, etc). Daoism is also about inner transmutation and self refining to "perfection", but not through the psychoemotionally constipated notions of "effort" Westerns tend to have. Actually, now that I think about it, this type of beingness tends to be coded is very "feminine" here. In the Chinese tradition, this is both the yin and the yang, but whole and in balance. I was going to say that I don't believe this either, but it depends what you think the self is made up of. Do you have anything in you that aligns with the belief in a "soul", or some essential aspect that survives death? To me, what people generally call a "personality" is mostly a social costume. If they have no sense of anything else beyond that, well, that is why they are trapped within it and must suffer with it, because it always eventually becomes a burden in some way if you can't shed it. Why is there a gap there at all? Do you think it has to be there? (I do experience this same gap myself too, at times.) Philosophically, I follow both in my own way, but I wholeheartedly hold the perspective that the Daoist way is "more true". I go through phases of "expressing myself" in the way you described above mainly to relieve pent up energy, but there ideally would not be an "inner" and "outer" self at all due to the congruence principle you mentioned and also generally having all of your aspects integrated rather than segregated in some fashion from each other. Ideally, you would have just enough "structure" (or "mind") to move through this world smoothly and with purpose, and no extra deadweight at all. Wherever I am at now inevitably effects all of my relationships, but often not in a positive way.
  15. The reality of relationships is definitely more fair and beautiful than those hyper-sexed fantasy paradigms. The issue with those kinds of paradigms is that it focuses solely on truths that feel hot and sexy and hyper-polarized... and doesn't focus on what actually sustains a relationship. Let's say that there are several layers of how relationships and attraction operate... The compatibility layer The friendship layer The community layer The resonance layer The romance layer The animalistic layer And the paradigms that young men learn from often have to do with the animalistic layer. And on that layer, everyone is nothing more than the sum of their parts: women are only beauty and men are only power. .And everything is one giant transaction of mutual usery. And it's hyper-objectifying where beauty is exchanged for power. And it's something that tends to make men both aroused and empowered... as men tend to "win" the animalistic layer because men are stronger, taller, and have an evergreen reproductive cycle. (And women will tend to sort men who over-index on this layer because of that) But that layer is also disturbing for men.... because it leaves them with the question, "If there are stronger, more successful men... why don't all the hypergamous women just join his harem?" or "Why aren't all the hot 20 year olds with 50 year old rich men?" But that's not how people operate. And it jut creates a confirmation bias loop where the man will only seek out evidence that seems to confirm those paradigms... as he's turned on by them but also dehumanized and objectified in them, and his worth is challenged in them. It's honestly brilliant marketing on the part of such authors and coaches. It definitely pushes men's emotional and sexual buttons. But it tends to leave men in a bind where they're not actually understanding what women really see in him when she sees him in that more holistic way. And they're trying to hyper-optimize themselves along objective lines because of that misunderstanding to try to increase power and status to prove themselves worthy of beauty. But women tend to be more holistic in the way they view a man... seeing him as greater than the sum of his parts. And she can intuitively feel for each of the layers listed above... with the animalistic layer being just one ingredient. But that ingredient is meaningless and gross if the rest of the "dish" isn't good. The animalistic layer is like butter. In small quantities, it enhances the quality of dish. But you don't want to eat butter by itself. And there's definitely such a thing as too much butter. Honestly, if you want to understand how people really pair bond, you just have to look at ordinary people, and you will tend to see an equality among spouses. And it's not novel or hot or sexy. Of course, you might go "Well those are average people. I don't want to be average." But we are all average people, at the end of the day. We're all very ordinary. And that's where the magic is. And you can find very attractive people in awful relationships... and uggos in wonderful relationships. You just have to look more at real people's relationships and marriages... and less at over-sexed paradigms that are heavily focused on excitement and hotness in the initial dating phase.
  16. @Natasha Tori Maru so how's the aussie tonight? 😉
  17. For sure. I’ve been “doing this work” for over 10 years. And every time I’m convinced I’ve reached the end, I am wrong.
  18. I would say 10 years at a minimum. But there might be exceptions.
  19. God is not beholden to backwards, human reasoning and arrogance.
  20. I disagree, I found breath of the wild disappointing, Ocarina was much better for me. But I already played the previous remake many times so I don’t care to play it again. And yeah the constant remakes are annoying, the least they could do is also remake majoras mask and bundle them together. Or better yet do a reimagining of them.

  21. Thought Art 📓

    Thought Art replied to Thought Art's topic in Self-Actualization Journals

  22. What is some music you like?

    Joseph Maynor replied to itsadistraction's topic in Off-Topic: Pop-Culture, Entertainment, Fun

  23. Thanks. I'm glad you found value in my video.
  24. The more severe the outcome of corruption is in a given situation, the more you should be wary of "legalization" of such corruption. Since you're apparently not satisfied with the current standards, how high should the standards be? I'm not entertaining that as a likely hypothesis; I'm making a point that making factual claims is most probably (I can't come up with a counterexample) always less than 100% certain. And that should inform whether or not you want to kill people based on such claims. Imagine that you take all prosecutions that will ever happen in the history of the world, you take the inevitable portion of wrongly executed people, put them all in a ditch, and you're standing on top of the ditch with a gun. You walk down the ditch and up to every person and look them straight in the eye, and for each person, you say "I might be wrong, but..." *pulls the trigger*. Every person you kill is innocent. That's the moral weight of you as a person supporting killing by the state as punishment (capital punishment). 21 years in a jail cell, unless you're old (which then you're less likely to commit such crimes), you have hope for a future, you have opportunity for recourse, you have a life where you can better yourself, work towards something. Around half of the people sentenced to death in the US were ages 20-29 at the time of crime; when they're below 25, their brains are not fully developed, and many criminals tend to grow out of it by 30-40.
  25. Did it get taken down?
  26. This is what I was thinking when I wrote that haha. True.
  27. @Joshe “What if this is just fascination + identity + seriousness being inflated into universal importance?” @Natasha Tori Maru “Your argument is mistaken because your psychology is defective.” Exactly. These two posts are why I held my ground. Joshe names the inflation. Natasha names the mechanism. Once someone’s fascination, identity and seriousness are inflated into universal importance, and the framework becomes self-sealing, ordinary disagreement stops working. Every objection becomes further evidence that the person objecting is mediocre, projecting, victim-minded, Stage Green, insufficiently competent, or whatever else the model can absorb. You are no longer being answered. You are being explained away. That is where public prodding can have value. Not because a pile-on establishes truth, and not because I was trying to bait LordFall. You name the mechanism, keep it in view, and let people watch it repeat until it becomes visible outside the framework. I became too combative at points, and some of my insults weakened the presentation. I own that. But that explains why I should have communicated the pressure better, not why the pressure itself was unnecessary. It is difficult not to react when the framework you are challenging is simultaneously being used to invalidate your perspective and characterize you as a person. This also was not happening in a vacuum. LordFall has explicitly refused to acknowledge me in a previous exchange.
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