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  2. You won't end up being exactly the Leo your now avatar can observe, you'll never be that Leo, that Leo is a dream you are dreaming right now for this particular avatar
  3. I started to approach women like 4 years ago but I barely approached them because of fear. I used to go to night clubs for months to approach women but couldn't do it because of fear. I saw guys approaching women and making out with them, the same women I wanted to approach but couldn't and I felt very bitter about it. I got to the point of almost killing myself becuase if you hang in this shit for so long you feel awfull. I still have resistance now, but it's not as big as it used to be and I learned that my problem was idealizing women and overestimating them. Once you got to approach them and talk to them you will see who they really are. Most of them are here to have fun, raise kids, talk shit and eat food. They are not here to make u happy as I stupidly believed or share with you their metaphysical experience or undertanding of God consciousness . Speaking of spirituality, I went to 3 different "spiritual" comunities led by women. Two of them were some sort of cults and the other one was new-age horseshit about energies and telepathy with cats. Anyways, what helps a lot is having good and dedicated wing-man. Find yourself one and go for it bro!
  4. From what I read in Chateu Heartise this is the exact age where the self-esteem of most women is the most inflated, as her fertility also peaks around this point and they can receive children without any type of complications, if you're in the top 10% of men, you can easily get the most fertile and healthy women around this time, dating women in their early 20's I have little experience, I peaked quite high via potential and was somewhere in the mid-range of top 20-30% of men, on some days I eventually peaked the top 10%, by just potential not actual happenstance, as I worked as an a.i architect as a working student and with exercising and lifting again, I quickly pulled a decent amount of women, but also repelled a couple. Sex is the easiest way a women will bait you, I had the exact same experience with the ex, she always called me when she was horny and lonely, and I do very well alone, at times I just cry out my depression or do some exercising or distract myself with something, but she practically abused these time slots for "quality time" relationship, but we had very little in common, she did not really teach anything, and imo this is the worst part of women even if they seem integral or more aware, they are very bad at giving any type of educational reference experience, you're just pushed into the superior man, the man of 0, or you're just left in this "beta-zone" I dislike the term beta, but I use it here to make a point, about being just normal, as I see most of this to some degree as normal. Not going out, not being the be all end all from the get go, I am not very good at coaxing, I am very blunt, which pushes my attraction range to women where I later find out, they enjoy the strong dominance side of things, I also am sort of prone towards enjoying hot and deluded women, who're just very wild in their feminine, but it's not properly tamed, and my core character has been defined by post-modern and at best integral edges, till I pushed ahead, it's all good as long as I lead a girl. It's also good for a man to have some type of impossible belief about himself, that he is the best or the greatest and leverage that, but to put away violence, I was forced into some dark places, due to the extremeties of how I perceive dating, being naturally very atheltic, but injured for life, so a lot of nefarious tendencies I see in others, where I can clearly tell if this goes on, especially also in men, who're deeply insecure about their body, generally I at times tend to attract them, I have problems and at times very dark thoughts about my body, but I am not insecure about my body for example. Women in their 20's generally have less bagage the real reality hits them when they turn 30 often, as the rose-red tainted glasses come off, often times they played their chances with the rising star, or they betrayed and cheated, because they think they deserve more, some of women not many, but many who're in this modern independent women type of hype, and yes I am prone to dating such women, and being in their "weaves", so to speak as I had to deal with a lot of feminine manipulation, that just somewhat get's out of our family now, but I doubt it will happen till my mother finally dies, as she is from her typology a master manipulator, and quiet satanic, even if she is a good human to some degree, the level of manipulation based on body language is surreal, but she also has been abused by men, who lack boundaries and see women just as tools not even toys, but just tools for satisfaction etc. If you have more options it's easy to be aloof and go to the next women, till you find someone that actually matches, most women in their 20's and most likely 30's are not relationship material anymore, the whole nuclear family thing, seems quite fucked, you really need to be more advanced and have family support, as most are stuck in the underbelly of modern/ethnocentric perceptions, there are some solutions I see, but I also have to solve this scenario that I am in, eventually this is insightful for you.
  5. @something_else From your perspective, it's gambling. From mine, conviction. @Leo Gura You have no idea what Bitcoin will do next month, but you can look at the previous bear markets and see when it becomes a good investment again.
  6. The mistake people here make is thinking the left wing in America would make any difference at all, when both sides are going to lead to the decline as China becomes the next superpower from having competent leadership and a work ethic. You don't get a prosperous nation handing out money for people to do nothing, and importing mass amounts of immigrants while getting rid of prisons and thinking we can habilitate criminals. (Democratic socialist of america issues) That's not going to work. No doubt about it democracy suffers from a human nature problem, but western leftism isn't going to fix it. Leftism is just another human nature (or evolutionary) problem to deal with, this idea people should get something for nothing and get overly coddled on a planet where evolutionary living is harsh, outright savage. Financialization is what broke the west, not even globalization, just financialization, trying to make money from playing around with assets, the top have become parasites in the system just like the bottom. Private equity is a cancer in the system. Maybe Norway/Sweden come close to doing the best job in the west. Beyond that I'm not that impressed. Western politicians on both sides are mostly corrupt and inept, or suffer from flawed idealism that would never manifest in real life to successful outcomes. Tell me why people on the left are shutting down nuclear plants again? Energiewende isn't going as planned now is it... solar and wind are great but you need more then that... Will say China is impressing me... top down autocracies can work with competent leadership. They tell them how things will be done and they get done. In any case, voting in the west is largely useless, at least at the federal level in the United States. Lipstick on a pig is all either party will get done as they are more concerned with ballooning the national debt and lining their pockets and "free stuff" (both sides) and their modern monetary theorist purposely limiting supply to inflate prices and margins to make for a stonk bubble of epic proportions as wages lag. Price controls won't fix anything either, you need more supply like the global "elites" (more like idiots) are complaining about China doing.
  7. Why do you think you deserve the best women?
  8. This is why you’re always making threads in here where you’re clearly feeling bad about something. Your beliefs are poisoning you.
  9. @KosmicGeng I think spiral dynamic stage has to do with it but also the age of the women, after a certain age women think they all deserve the best men. She was 27 and somehow they think they deserve the complete package for some reason. I think it is because of the pink pill videos these women are watching. For me it is much better to date early 20 girls they don't have this relational and emotional baggage that makes them overcompensate and think they deserve the best men while they are not the best woman they can be. you are right to filter these women out early or have an according strategy. She was using sex as a pressure tool against me and after a while it just became too annoying treating me with stick and carrot all the time. Probably my biggest mistake was not to set the frame very early on because I liked her and I let some of her behavior off. You need to coax them very early on.
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  11. The longer the relationship is, the more emotional processing becomes necessary when it ends. Having a strong inner state does not mean you can ignore these emotions and get on with your life, that is avoidance. A strong inner state means that you are secure enough to face and process those negative emotions instead of running away or distracting yourself. 3 months isn't a long relationship, I agree. I don't think you need to take a break or anything. Though I will say that the initial post here (and the fact you made it at all) does give the impression that you at felt at least some resentment or other negative emotions which you shared to get them off your chest. Perhaps this means you could benefit from some reflection. Maybe that's not the case, I don't know you. That's just my impression.
  12. That is not true, it's only a perspective of post-modern role-reversal and self-defensive pattern, often a DARVO pattern, deny attack reverse offender, you can also play vulnerbale and accept that, I wrote with feminists who write big in their profile "fuck the patriarchy" and just go about how I am not one of them only to validate their worldview, and be vegan and safe the world, often times these women are nutcases and stuck in ethnocentric forms of post-modernism, men inherently have more value then women, but I know the frame and emotional pain to well, I often also misperceive, due to the social dynamics that this underbelly or underheart I often call it creates, but imo men have more value then women. You can also play along, but often times I found my self-esteem to be dwindling, and it just causes a beta or cuckhold perspective, where I thought it does not feel well to be emmasculated, and getting to a more genuient masculine energy, can also be an issue among men in my experience, it's an issue for e.g orange men groups turned red quickly to get women, and they blew-up the whole group and got it banned, when I was in an integral men group from integral itself, it felt very good to share experiences, and typical men problems and go for solutions, and solve more from the root, but I find the women sort of pushed the men away, and it's very exhausting for a man to hold such a group. That is why I watch a lot of Orion Taraban, a trained psychologist that can help with men problems is better than for e.g a spiritual guy leading a man group, as often the shadow of the post-modern stage creeps up, I noticed this when I did a lot of calculus recently, and there was just this underbelly of envy of men, of knowledge = power, so I demonize you like a women subtely and just downplay your problems in order for me to feel better, if a man regresses to often into this stage which I find with older men at 40+ can easily happen, (Leo mostly excluded I see smth. else often that also touches some points in my familiy and with the ex), so often your left to your own devices, with A.I or if your lucky one good friend, that can help you. After my break-up which was very odd I immeditately jumped into dating, as the pool just opened randomly and the relationship was already over, it was very hostile as she was not very supportive and just out for my success like a fake chief, just judging you on behaviour while excusing their own behaviour and especially past behaviour and hiding a lot of baggage, idk it's difficult, and she already broke-up before, but wanted to meet and I sort of followed my intuition and what I could source from Deida, but in the end it turned out she is a fake luciferic type of soul, it was a mistake to be that passionate in a relationship. I will never date and be out with a women who is typical to this and runs an achievment drive, it's close to impossible to get the judgement function out of her, and it breaks the process towards exellence and brilliance, and often such people feel diminished in the light of success of this different type of drive, and act like isolated machos or feminine version of a macho, where she just inflats her self-esteem and prides herself in all of the glory the deficieny needs and regressive post-modern view has created idk. My take and perspective, but imo men have more value then women, just different types of value women have more value in certain areas, so do men, but overall I'd say men have more value to society then women, if it's not framed in terms of reproduction, etc.
  13. To take a break isn't contingent on how long the relationship is but on your inner state and if one needs time for emotional processing. Sometimes it is better to move on as quickly as possible since some people are not worth it. One must be inclined to take agency to get out of victim mode whatever that means.
  14. Yesterday I remembered this old robotic dance gorup on YouTube called Dragon house that I used to watch years ago. I decided to search them up and I found some new videos and dancers. What was really interesting as I started to watch these videos again is I found that they give me a really similar feeling to the ego-dissolving experiences I had on psychedelics that I mentioned in the first post in this thread. These dances have a really strange, weird feeling to them (but really cool). They feel alien, robotic, non-human. I find this feeling to be especially deep when the music sounds and feels equally strange and robotic. I find that when I watch these dances now, that strange, alien, almost disturbing feeling they provide has the exact same effect as what I experienced on psychedelics. When I watch it, feel into it, really take it in, I start to get such deep ego dissolution. It's like the weirdness is a barrier that the ego cannot pass through. The more I focus on it and feel into it, the deeper the ego dissolution becomes. I don't imagine other people would experience the same thing, I'm guessing this has to do with me being as close I am to permanent ego death, but I think it is so interesting that weird and unusual things like this consistently have this kind of ego-dissolving effect for me. Here are some of my favourite videos I've been watching:
  15. @AerisVahnEphelia Oki lol

  16. Urge to smoke weed.

    Sugarcoat replied to shubhamsharma's topic in Mental Health, Serious Emotional Issues

    I moved from my family
  17. Very good point. I would say even if the relationship was "short" I would explore the desire to jump right back into dating. I mean why do you want to be dating all the time?
  18. @KosmicGeng that is true.. men have no inherent value
  19. @something_else 3 month relationship This video explains the sins of victim mindset the best so far. Really worth the watch if you like deep psychology.

  20. Urge to smoke weed.

    shubhamsharma replied to shubhamsharma's topic in Mental Health, Serious Emotional Issues

    They don't allow it even that much.

  21. Urge to smoke weed.

    shubhamsharma replied to shubhamsharma's topic in Mental Health, Serious Emotional Issues

    My head rush with suicidal thoughts and I feel uneasy. Everything seems point less.
  22. Pets are good for the immune system and the gut microbiota. More impacful for children rather than adults, but still.
  23. A very good point. Most people resist and suppress. This tends to prolong the emotion and risks thoughts arising tangentially, which can feed narratives that keep the emotion alive. Often we fear the emotion as being worse than it really is. Just let them happen. Identify them. They pass relatively quickly compared to avoidance, suppression or resistance. Anger is normally a secondary emotion to the genuine one.
  24. While I'm glad that worked out for you, what you did is pretty much just gambling
  25. There is a benefit to attuning to the enviroment, for a certain time, eventually I can get a 30 min meditation again done, so I am moving forward again with my meditative practices, as well as my efforts to meditate while being in action, I should turn off music more often, but meditate with music, to attune more properly to the enviroment, my hearing senses are very good, I seldom make use of them, and people abuse it for some reason, they intuit it, because I am usually very quiet.
  26. How long were you together? It can be good to take some time to just sit with the breakup instead of jumping straight back into dating as a form of distraction. It depends how long you were together and how close you were though, hence why I asked. If it was a few months then yea, jumping back in is ideal. But if you were together 1+ years, or even 6 months, you become close enough that you should take some time to process those emotions instead of distracting yourself. I suspect the point she was getting at is that it's often a good idea to just sit with your emotions, let them surface and percolate. You may think this sounds feminine and have a gut reaction that it isn't manly to do this, but the opposite is true. Distracting yourself from emotions you're scared of is a form of running away, it's not masculine.
  27. When i was making this piece, the initial post, one idea that i was going for, beyond the main function, and meaning and form of it, of just a general "it" factor, was, having it read and feel like we had never left the very beginning premise, Like i want it to be as if we are always circling back to the main idea, even though its always changing. And the way to know that 'that's whats happening (how to judge it, imo) is if you can read it and not think about it, and still have it make sense, or to feel as though it is, minus any critical thought thats needed to extend it, or compare it to anything, etc. Its — if you can say to yourself afterwards — "that makes sense". Even if later its to open up new portals. Where would we be if everything was still focused on psychology, or atomic sciences, or anything else. Thats something that we are always demonstrating of course. This video is a good comparator, cause i feel like theres a few two many ideas being explored; the "patterns" idea, which is more rhythmic, more repetitious, more routine and personally geared to the individual and the way they move and think and feel and project things onto the world. Why even bring it up if its left unresolved is my point — — Then there was another big idea introduced towards the ends, about the imagination becoming real or something, i mean, thats another unusual perspective, as it opens up the question of what "real" means, and, why we are phrasing it like that, Like 'why would there be anything more real than the real you call real -is what i mean. These types of questions stack up, and in trying to make this perfect linguistic, artist rendering of 'the thing, its gotta be like a song that you dont have to internalize, yet its somehow producing an understanding of what it even is that you are talking about. And, its not trying to jump to too many topics, or trying to merge too many elements. Like its simply an entry into a particular domain, And this is an entry of that flavor, that idea ~Not this video, srry, that is just what i thought would function as an illustration of something thats got too many unresolved ideas in it... Im not saying any of yous do this either, it is more of a thought experiment to get yous thinking in this way of like "circle within circle" in conjungtion w/ the other circles.
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