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Yes, but those biological inclinations can make people to unconsciously adopt values or choose people that they might not even want. For ex. choosing a partner because others tell you he or she is a good fit for you. Or to unconsciously choose a person just because society programmed you to think you like that person.
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Probably the best advice is to just be social and not aim for sex, because if you can't be social, you are probably weird because you are aiming too much to get something from her. They are focused on the wrong things. This is the consistent pattern with incels. I have couple of incel friends so I know their inner world. Can't tell a thristy man to stop being thristy. You just have to let him be and suffer. The other day I invted a friend, I invited him to go the beach but he didn't want to go because he hadn't shaved his back. I said nobody cares. But he cared because he wants to get a gf. This guy is bald and can't hold a conversation but he thinks shaving his back will get him a gf. He never had a gf. This shallow mindset is much more off putting than any body hair. But no way he gets it. Some people are just not meant to breed: 3/5 (60%) of all men did not reproduce, meaning only about 2/5 (40%) passed on their genes. By contrast, roughly 4/5 (80%) of all women successfully reproduced, resulting in modern humans being descended from twice as many unique female ancestors as male ancestors. Historcally most males didn't breed. And nature has good reasons for this.
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They are worth mentioning twice
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I don't think that's true. Personally, if I had the chance to do it... I wouldn't because I'm already spoken for. And I value my relationship. But otherwise, if I think of someone like Brad Pitt in his heyday (or any model-esque Hollywood man who looks similar to him), he's too pretty for me to feel turned on by the thought of a sexual scenario with him. That said, I think Brad Pitt's like 60 now and gotten a bit more average-guy looking, so age may have changed this dynamic a bit... as he doesn't look as pretty anymore. For me, part of the polarity during sex is that I get to feel pretty in contrast to the man that I'm with. Like, I have to feel like the peacock of the relationship to really feel the charge. And I can feel that dynamic a lot more easily with a guy who's a 6 than I can with a guy who's a 10, because I'm not myself a model-esque woman. And a model-esque woman is a LOT prettier than a model-esque man. So, the polarity works there. So, to give an analogy... if the guy is the pretty one, imagine it's a bit like if a woman has a great body... but she's a lot taller and a lot stronger than you. Even if she's attractive, it's may not be a turn-on if you tend to get turned on by feeling taller and stronger than your female partner. That said, I'm sure many women would be interested in Hollywood hot guys, like Brad Pitt. But I think there's some psychology where they feel pretty by being chosen by a pretty person. I know that exists too. And maybe they are more fame driven in their attractions. But if I try to imagine having sex with a Brad Pitt type, I just can't feel anything about it.
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You mentioned it.
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Have we mentioned Trad Wives yet?
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@Olaf Thank you for this great message. I think that as a response to the question: I'd say: share my own meditations with original music and soundscapes, and do meditation retreats around the country and the world. This is the thing that comes in my mind right now, but I wouldn't really know if that's what I want. I am attracted to the idea of being a life coach, in general I want to help people, but still do some kind of work that can help me grow spiritually and personally.
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No way. The stupid and powerful will always hate me.
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I do wonder if Actualized.org ever has a chance of going mainstream. Contemporary people need wisdom about how to raise their consciousness in a more modern package, and not in the typical ways in which it is conveyed, which is basically organized religion. Also, if Leo's message of epistemology and conscious politics goes viral and popular with generation Z, and maybe with those a bit older, then that would really help raise a new generation of conscious voters. Because right now, we have a problem with zoomer "groypers" and those subscribing to far right ethnonationalism, conspiracy theories, etc... Imagine if instead of Nick Fuentes, America First ideology and antisemitism, what if the next viral craze with zoomers was Actualized.org, introspection, and philosophy.
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One thing I would mention is that the thing that draws a woman to a man (and to sex more generally) isn't really about the physical sensations during sex or about his penis. As a side note and caveat... Of course, orgasms are enjoyable for women. And women will want to have them during sexual encounters. And if there's a huge orgasm gap between her and her male partner, she will likely feel the unfairness of this disparity and what it means about the guy's values. But the thing that actually makes a woman think about a man doesn't have very much to do with orgasms or the techniques he does with his penis. What actually draws a woman to a man (and to sex more generally) is the shared intimacy and the emotional experience of sex. So, if you have "Man #1" who is a master at sexual techniques and giving women orgasms... And you have "Man #2" who is just okay at sex from a technical standpoint, but he's someone that the woman wants to be close to and who is able to connect to her emotionally during sex and hits the right emotional buttons... Most women will choose "Man #2" every time. So, it's important to recognize that women generally aren't drawn to the same things as a man is during sex. Men and very visual and very orgasm-focused. And it's very much about the physical body of a woman in terms of what turns him on... and very much about the physical body (ejaculation) in terms of what makes it satisfying. And a man won't feel satisfied with the sex without these components. But being too orgasm-focused or physicality-focused actually makes sex less interesting for a woman because it's too point a to point b and too material in its focus. It can feel a little "lather, rinse, repeat" to a woman, if the deeper emotional layer isn't activated. Of course, orgasms are good and important. But they shouldn't be the primary North Star of sex, if you want it to be enjoyable for the woman. Consider this... most men feel the drive towards orgasm daily or every other day. And men masturbate frequently when they are by themselves. And women tend to masturbate a lot less than that. I looked up the statistics, and it estimated about once per week. But even that seems a bit high to me. So, there's just a lesser drive towards the physical sensations themselves for women. Instead, think of the woman like an emotional instrument... like a harp. But each string on the harp is a different feeling state. And during sex, what makes it interesting is when a guy is able to be very present and is able to operate in a way that plucks the strings skillfully. And this doesn't have much to do with sex techniques. It's really just about him being who he is in his highest integrity form. On a physical level... there's basically only 3 ways to have sex. And on a physical level, the path to orgasm is just about sensation in the right places at the right rhythm. And women aren't as motivated to sex when sex is only that. But on an emotional level, there are many facets to the sexual experience. And that's what women are usually looking for... and what makes her want to get closer to a man.
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Jesus That's cool.
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Cool cool. Nice that you tried tripping blindfolded. How many times have you tripped in total, roughly? This icks me a bit. Don’t call yourself an idiot, you don’t deserve it.
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Atypical/Weird ❌ Special/Unique ✅
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Someone here replied to machinegun's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Honestly I think the only way to get really enlightened is to abandon society and meditate in a cave . Enlightenment retreats are good to some extent though . online enlightenment is just entertainment. -
12% of my entire follower count came from that one clip.
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Jirh replied to Carl-Richard's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
That's not what I'm saying. I've never been "psychotic" to experience telepathy. What I experience is recurring subconscious thoughts about telepathy in the realm of possibility, as in my internal radar is on, observing every happenstance, trying to connect the dots and draw lines between various events, in order to collect evidence for telepathy, even though I have already consciously concluded long ago that it is a misconception, and that true telepathy happens through technology, not through some vague mind relationships. In this sense, I'm actually being more open-minded about this topic than most, still the result is always the same, always nothing of value. Coincidence at best. Delusion/misconception at worst. -
I think this so-called 'trolling' went in the other direction. But I agree, life has to be lived before it can be transcended. Even Peter Ralston admitted to this in his interview with Leo. I don't even necessarily buy everything Leo says. It depends on where you're coming from and your particular situation. I think our uniqueness has to be factored into how we structure our awakening journeys a lot more than we let on to. I don't understand you original comment @Hojo. If you can articulate yourself better, I'm open to taking you seriously. @Asayake I was thinking the same thing.
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If you’re average or above average in looks, erase “game” from your mind. It puts you at a psychological disadvantage and takes the fun out of it. Trying to run some system as opposed to relying on your own intuition in the flow is artificial and stifling. Game tells you to be imposing. And sure, if you approach 100 girls, you’ll increase your odds of sex, but this isn’t always the goal. Also, there’s nothing wrong with having a crush. In fact, that’s organic attraction, not some desperate ploy to get your dick wet. Nothing wrong with the latter, but crushes are more fun, especially when you actually do get your dick wet. To finally get that piece you’ve been working on and dreaming about for the last few months is much more fun than sexing some random you don’t even really know. Anyway, back to being imposing. “Be assertive” “Be direct” “Make a move”. My tact was always the exact opposite of this because I noticed it didn’t work. Of course, there might come a time for these, but IME, usually not. Usually, attraction leads to getting the dick wet without ever having to be direct at all. Rather than approaching 100 girls, run a long-form seduction on 20 girls at the same time. Hard to not get pussy when you’re swimming in chummed waters. The key is to spend time around women in loose social environments and to be unimposing, yet a bit mysterious and interesting. This is literally like 80% of it. You might let the attraction build over a dozen encounters, or even more if you detect no interest at all. Sounds like you were already doing this, but it’s all about subtlety and calibration. Long-form seduction might be a good name for it. After many interactions, there’s nothing quite like the moment she looks at you and finally let’s you know it’s time to kiss her. All without ever being talked about or you asking for her number. This doesn’t work for recluses. I mean, it can, but it’s hard to seduce your barista behind the counter of her workplace. Loose social environments are the waters to swim in. There is a reason why in the movies, 99% of sex scenes don’t culminate from a guy having asked for a number or making his attraction explicit in some other way. The way it works is attraction builds covertly, behind the scenes until it leads to kissing. No asking for phone numbers. IME, getting the number almost always came AFTER the kiss, not before. For the love of God, just put yourselves around women and learn how to calibrate your shit. This is how getting laid has worked for centuries. Op, you just learned what didn’t work. This is calibration data. Being direct didn’t work. You could have executed perfectly and it still not work. Once you made this move, you revealed your position, which severely constrains your maneuverability. Get good at reading the situation. And next time, don’t be direct. Instead, play interesting, subtle, escalating games. At each escalation, you're waiting on a signal to advance. Your job is to make that signal fire. When the signal fires, that doesn’t mean it’s time to seal the deal. It means it’s time to advance - time to make your seduction a little less subtle, but still not overt. Rinse and repeat on each signal fire until the most obvious next advance is tongue in mouth. But also, you have to allow each escalation sufficient time and not be in a hurry to reach the next one. It's close to time to seal the deal when she starts getting closer to you and getting physical, touching your face, hitting you, etc. I suppose the best barometer is noticing how often she closes the distance between you two, and with what energy. The distance is the tell and the energy is your calibration data. Reciprocate her actions. Never go out of your way more than she does but let her see you'll go out of your way if she will. The dance ensues. I was once standing at a crowded bar, drunk off my ass. Some girl I never seen before came up and reached into my pockets to take my keys out so I couldn't drive. No idea how she knew where my keys were. If a girl reaches into your pocket with playful energy, that means she's ready, lol. Probably because she saw me sitting with two other girls earlier and she could tell they were evaluating me. The girl who reached into my pocket made the other girl jealous. Had sex with both of them. Never cold approached, never asked for a phone number. Just building attraction in a loose social environment. Ahh, the good ole days. Oh and guess what, I was wearing dirty pants and shirt from having stopped at the bar after getting off work from my construction job. Dirty as fuck. All this "dress to the 9s" act like this, act like that. It's all bullshit. So yeah, you should give up "game". Also, keep in mind some girls are just weird af. And some aren't sure themselves of how the process works and will play oddball games because of it.
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It's important to learn from celebrieties in the sense that whatever you admire in them is something you can amplify in your own life. I think having role models is healthy especially at younger ages like 20s and 30s. You should be proud of what you've done in your time away. It's like you completed a growth cycle that came to a close with you 360ing back to your native geography. Maybe. How would you define it? Here's to new chapters to come 🥂
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I was in dreams: 6, 7; In lucid dreams: 1, 10, parrot, seagull.
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Gotta reframe rejections. Think of getting 1000 no’s before you get your first yes and it’ll completely change your approach. It’ll all be well worth it in the end. Don’t give up hope
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Shows the limits of what’s rational. perfect
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Might not be the deepest but it shows how a cult actually operates. I just wanted to show the difference between actual cult and a public forum....unless there is a private one rip
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Oh they are all like this haha.
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The truth also is that getting good at game is brutal, we should remember to remain sympathetic to OJ. And the reward is not often a great GF.
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