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  2. I have read it over and over again and loved every bit of it. ( more than 3 times) And I can proudly say that it improved my life. Looking back at my life even though I am still young now , I think that my choice of value was good but my measurement of self-assesment was wrong and it made me suffer. I used to compare myself with people who dated,had a relationship,posted on this forum that girls rejected me and then dated other guys( which happened for real ) , but those rejections were not due to the fact that I was less attractive than other guys but rather I was vulnerable. I misunderstood myself to be inferior to other people who had relationship experience ( which is victimhood narcissism per say according to the book ). Now I realized where my un-confident feelings were coming from - it was not behavioural ,it was thought oriented which I challenged later on. Now a these days rejection stings me but it doesn't stop me . Sort of like - The desire for a positive experience is itself a negative experience and the acceptance of a negative experience is itself a positive experience . I saw a recent example of this live in my life recently and many others in the past.
  3. I am not sure if you are consciously aware of what you are doing @Miguel1 . Your rhetoric has a recurring tendency to sidestep the user's actual point by moving the conversation onto a conceptual frame where you have already established the terms. You are dismissing through reframing. Not engaging with what is said. You did this to Xonas in your exchange, and with myself. It's this strange move toward epistemic positioning: you take the role of the person who identifies the deeper principle, correct the users framing, distinguishes the percived “real” issue from the superficial one, and explain the other's misunderstanding. This is subtly patronising and is not beneficial for the type of relational discussion you want. You position everyone as a subject to be corrected. I know this isn't your intention. But it is what is happening.
  4. Pick up artistry people are nuts lol.
  5. You would get insane if you have been programmed by genetics to be a social being from billions of years. If you had been programmed to be alone you will be ok alone.
  6. you could elaborate and having a conversation. Or maybe you don't dare because your ideas are not solid? Anyway, try and let's see.
  7. You can perceive the "creep vibe" in certain people if you are attuned enough.
  8. Duality and nonduality are two sides of the same coin.
  9. @Breakingthewall Nuff said.

  10. Conformity Examples Mega-Thread

    Natasha Tori Maru replied to Husseinisdoingfine's topic in Personal Development -- [Main]

    Bit of a grey area : Doxxing or DDoS The whole intent behind doxxing is to instigate groups to harass. And DDoS while it can be automated, is a similar groupthink frenzy when done via users.

  11. I Fucked Up.

    Miguel1 replied to Zenterus's topic in Dating, Sexuality, Relationships, Family

    Yes, you could be very correct here. You did have the ”hate men” on quotation marks, so it can be much softer than what hating men really is. As for her message to you, it sounds good. I would just becareful it is not just to keep things professional, but truthfully deep down she is repressing.
  12. I see an essential mistake there. The absolute can be experienced all time because the absolute is not the sum of every relative thing but the nature of anything that exists. The absolute is the fact of being and being enlightened means being open to the nature of the absolute being. Forms are relative, but the absolute is not the sum of all forms, one or all are the same, are the absolute manifested as a form, then you don't need to know all forms to know the absolute, you just have to be, and obviously you are, then what you have to do is just to transcend the form for a while and open yourself to the absolute. Much more simple than the wrong path that in focused in the form thinking that this is the absolute

  13. How do you properly take N,N-DMT?

    Joseph Maynor replied to ROOBIO's topic in Psychedelics

    I don't know what happened there but I thought I said psychedelics are generally not fun. This is what i RECALL I wrote Psychedelics are NOT fun because only those who know know. If you know you know!

  14. I Fucked Up.

    Miguel1 replied to Zenterus's topic in Dating, Sexuality, Relationships, Family

    I would also prefer the older girls as they are more mature, IF they have done the work and have integrated. But goddammit most of them just doesnt cut it for me physical attractiveness wise. And lots of them haven’t done the work either, the shit has just compounded if anything. Now, if I grew older with her and her looks faded, then I am sure it wouldnt matter.
  15. The difference is basically your ability to “hold” a paradox or "be" a contradiction. For example, reality is everything and nothing. You could say that’s a contradiction: you can’t be everything and nothing. But reality can, because reality is above duality and bias. It can hold or be both without being “self-contradictory,” so to speak. All paradoxes are inherently contradictory, but the difference is that a paradox can contain and hold that contradiction. A biased, defined, dualistic entity like a human can’t do this as easily, because for a human to remain a human, it has to operate within duality. It can’t fully become a nondual entity. You could say a paradox is truth viewed through a 2D/3D “dual” perspective. From a 4D or “non-dual” perspective, there’s no longer any confusion about paradox. It’s all just Is-ness, truth.
  16. Of course it's just the first few moments - but if it never gets beyond smalltalk, or smalltalk is that person's substance, then you know it's not the person for you. You are putting me down, you just can't see it. You are condescending. I don't care if you don't claim it. It still happened. Never said feelings are the whole truth.
  17. Interesting. Wouldn't you say there have been periods in your dating where you wanted to focus on a singular person? (Or at least "narrow" down to 2-3?) Perhaps I’m different here, but after getting to know several people, I usually have a very clear sense of who I want to focus on getting closer to. If I don’t have that feeling, then I simply don’t. I suppose a useful step here is learning to recognize that feeling, but you might just be different in that regard.
  18. This is the issue. It is not a matter of ”if”. It is a matter of conscious intention.
  19. Look and see how someone is controlling, especially regarding what you say or believe, that is a real red flag.
  20. Of course small talk is part of it. But should it last for the majority of the date? Or just the initial moments? I am not trying to put you down, the fact that you even think so is a problem. I am just genuinely confused. Notice, feelings are part of your truth. Not the whole truth.

  21. The Tension Before the Approach

    Natasha Tori Maru replied to Olaf's topic in Dating, Sexuality, Relationships, Family

    Thanks for being patient with me
  22. Today

  23. Anyone follow Vinh Giang?

    Harikrishnan replied to enchanted's topic in Personal Development -- [Main]

    He is so right. I have to watch his videos on communication. It’s one area I think I am lacking.
  24. I don't think so, paradox is just lack of understanding. Reality is absolutely logical. Saying things like: reality in nothing and everything. That's nice and if you wear white Linus and long bread it's even better, but it's just a wrong quote. It's much better to go to the point and define it. Reality is not nothing. "Nothing" is just a concept that doesn't exist in reality since it's formulated from "something". Then saying that reality is nothing is just a mistake.
  25. PUA is toxic? Shocking.
  26. If you think I haven’t spend years of my damn life going through my deepest and inner demons, fears, selfishness, self-deceptions and biases, I don’t know what the hell have you been reading, as I have been extremely vulnerable sharing my journey on this forum. But of course, if you are committed to seeing me as the problem, you will not see anything else, especially yourself as the problem. I admit I am not happy with my dating and I am trying to fix it, sharing my lessons here, asking for thoughts and open conversation, and overall being vulnerable, yet respectful — but I am faced with accusations of ego and having holier than thou mindset. What in the world. Becareful you guys are not living in your mutually created bubble, where Miguel is too egoistical to admit his short-comings. I have also talked to Aurum on phone recently. In there we seemed to agree, but here he seems to be against me. Hopefully not because it is just popular. There are people who support me on this, but they are more quiet and do so more via pms. Just becareful guys that when publicly you guys love to gather and go against me together, that it isn’t just bias and a self-defense mechanism to actually look deeper within yourself, and to actually be open to what I have to say. - - - - - At the end of the day, I am simply trying to have more honest, truthful, authentic, and vulnerable conversations and connections with people I meet. I am not claiming that I am Alien God.
  27. But all those questions are proxies - they show tone, intonation. Bring out body language. Expression. Spark further conversation into deeper subjects. Neutral small talk is a safe template to begin rapport. Eye contact. What topics they like. You can't avoid small talk. It only leads no where when you fail to see someone's eye twinkle on a topic and question more. Show real interest. Don't try to use your rhetoric to put me down like I don't know what depth, maturity and self awareness are. Stop that now. Feelings are part of your truth. You really want to avoid this topic.
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