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  2. I Slept With a Woman Who Hated Men

    Mellowmarsh replied to Monster Energy's topic in Dating, Sexuality, Relationships, Family

    Yes, men are loved by women and vice versa. I doubt for one minute people really hate each other. They may be users and use each other for sex, or for whatever else another can give you, but they don’t hate each other. Hating people is just weird, because you don’t hate yourself do you. Sex is a healing activity that can enhance our overall wellbeing. And that’s why men and women will never turn their backs on it. But even those who choose celibacy who have healed from their emotional traumas still now and again crave human intimacy. That’s why God made a pair of humans. Male and Female, they are complimentary opposites. It’d be a weird world otherwise.
  3. @Rishabh R yes awesome!
  4. Well, I admittedly am no PhD scholar of comparative religion, so you might want to take the following reflexions with a slight grain of salt... but the way I understand it, the big difference between Advaita Vedanta and (Kashmir) Shaivism is that classic Advaita in the vein of Adi Shankara regards the world of form & change as illusory and unreal and postulates that there is a formless and unchanging essence of reality which is sort of hidden behind a "veil of illusion" and which alone is ultimately real. So the glaring irony of this philosophy is that while Advaita literally means "not two", it splits up reality into "real" and "unreal", "illusory" and "not illusory", "essence" and "appearance" etc. and thereby creates exactly the kind of duality that it nominally denies. Shaivism on the other hand acknowledges and honors the duality of Shiva-Shakti (i.e. spirit/matter, consciousness/energy, permanence/impermanence) and sees them as two equally valid sides of the same coin, as I said earlier. Now, the delicious irony on my part is that my signature, which you can see below - The World Is Illusion, Only Brahman Is Real, The World Is Brahman - is a famous Advaita slogan that is widely attributed to either Adi Shankara or Ramana Maharshi, who are arguably the two most revered and well-know proponents of Advaita philosophy in all of history. So why, in spite of everything I just said, do I love it so much that I decided to make it my signature of choice? Well, I love it precisely because it spells out the inherent contradiction at the heart of this philosophy in such a clear and palpable way that the contradiction turns into paradox. It basically says "it's all an illusion, and it's also real, and it's all one, and it's also two, and it's all the same, and it's also different". So I guess you could say that the saving grace of Advaita philosophy is that it basically negates and annihilates itself, once you take it to its proper conclusion. And if that's what being a "radical nondualist" is about, then by all means... non-dualize away.
  5. @Ulax watch out for old dutch grannies, they will fuck you up
  6. coming to the Netherlands is not for the weak, you will get insulted by everyone, especially from the old ladies but they don't say it is insulting, just being honest
  7. Hahaha you guys are the opposite of my culture.
  8. Missing the videos, it's been half a year already 🥲
  9. @Ulax oh yeah for sure, we don't bullshit, we say straight how it is "do you have trouble standing up" that is what I said to girls sitting down, typical dutch opener
  10. You guys have a direct communication style
  11. @Rishabh R Nice!
  12. The specific people who committed Oct7? No empathy for that.
  13. @Nivsch It is good to share more about Oct 7th. People are too dismissive of what happened that day. I found watching the Shoah Foundation very insightful
  14. @Ulax you got to explain
  15. This is not a competition. I think both sides have suffered terribly.
  16. @Zen LaCroix well the first hour I only approached 5 and I was full of anxiety as I had this high goal that I wanted to achieve. It was kinda like work. Like have you ever done a job where you had to do something hard or maybe in school, but you had to to do it? Like you can't just say okay fuck it, I give up. That is what it is like. Also I promised in different groups that I would do it, so now I had to proof everyone in the group that I could do it, so that held me accountable. Around 30 I thought I couldn't reach 100, that I should just give up and that it is impossible to ddo. But I kept going and I started to get into a flow, I started to approach quicker, less time in between sets, I started to care less and less, I would even go yell at girls like 20 meter away from me and they would yell back, it was funny. Then I got motivated again when I reached like 60, I was like oh shit I can actually do this. So I kept my pace a bit fast, kept pushing myself, kept having fun and eventually at 80 you know you can reach it and you can just chill out. What was it like emotionally? In the beginning very stressful as you have this super high goal and you only approached 5 in an hour and think you cannot do it. It is easier to have no goal as you can just chill and approach whenever, but with such a high goal, you feel all the pressure. Then some hopeless feeling like you can't reach it and then later when you keep going you feel like a machine, almost dead inside, but like just finnishing a to do list. And because I was so much focused on the process, I got these girls to engage with me so much, I never had so many girls be interested in me, because I was just focused on numbers (not phone numbers lol) just focused on the process. At the end you feel like superman, you feel that anything is possible, I felt like I could point at a girl and make her come to my home like directly. Probably because of the endless girls that had shown interest in me that night, if so many girls show interest in you, you start to think that every girl wants you, it becomes a kind of self fulfilling prophecy and you don't even register the rejections, all I remember is the good conversations. my biggest insight is that woman date up, they date the guy who isn't interested in her, if I put her on a pedestal and see her as the price, she isn't interested, but when I am not interested in her, because I am focused on my process (in this case 100 approaches) then she is interested in me, not all, but many. So that is what freedom of outcome is, you focus on a process rather then the result. This also makes you stop validation seeking and chasing, because you just don't care if they like you or not, you care only if you did the process correctly. What is hard is to balance that also with closing numbers and not to forget to close, there was only one girl I tried to close of the 100 and it was the girl I was interested in and you can guess it, because I was interested and put her on a pedestal, she wasn't interested that is why it is so easy to close girls that you are not attracted to. You have to find a way to not show interest in the girls authentically, you can't fake it and focusing on the process is key. Also time management, don't waste time on girls who are not down, not all of them will be down for you so don't waste time on them, only on the girls who give value to you back. Don't try to make a dead horse alive, that is like a dutch saying.
  17. You don't get it, Leo. The potted plants, dream catchers and Buddha statue(s) is non-negotiable.
  18. @Ulax I mean that I can't not to understand their emotions after hearing what they had been through. I don't want to overwhelm the forum with that but I will try to find a link or something.
  19. Do you apply the same standard for the Gazans who commited october 7th who went through similar if not worse by previous Israeli actions? You do realize the 2014 war in Gaza alone caused more suffering amongs the Gazan civilian population than October 7th did on Israel At least be uniform consistent
  20. He is just dutch bro lol
  21. @Mellowmarsh I think everyone retired for the morning / night... After the round of crazy we all went through?i feel like we really satisfied the world for the next... 5 days or so Or hey, they are all dreaming a great dream of maybe like ... native american spiritual type stuff (my guess), A native american dream-like theyve never dreampt before! (i wish i had dreams like that... hence im not asleep)

  22. What car do you recommend?

    r0ckyreed replied to r0ckyreed's topic in Personal Development -- [Main]

    I talked with the Toyota Dealer, he recommended I continue to drive my Ford Focus since it is running great so far with only 135k miles on it. And then come talk to him when I’m ready. I was kind of planning on doing that but I wanted to see what was out there. A plugin hybrid Prius might the car for me because I can charge it with electric and gas. It can go 50 miles on one charge before it starts using gas.
  23. What was the story?
  24. Couple of days ago I heard a new story about Oct7. After that, it was impossible for me to judge the emotions of the people who have gone through this.
  25. I know jus what ya mean. I wanna say i felt that same thing today. Granted, i sorta forget exactly wat it was now, but it had a similar sorta tone, of which was like this "humans are becoming...." but i forget (ill prolly remember later and be like dANG it, i remember now)
  26. Watching the documentary made me think about how some humans are like cancer cells just hell bent on destroying their host. Such is the nature of life. I’ve heard many people say they think humans are like cancer cells. Most humans are normal cells thank God.
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