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There is no such thing as a human improving their sexual fitness just for their own sake, nature makes us puppets, by its invisible hands in the name of "self-care". But also I do believe you got a good point, this idea of being locked blind into self-beautification, or should we say "self-sexual-fitness" improvement, for males and females alike. It makes us into obsessive pleasers to others.: Big car, Big biceps, Big fake tits, Big dick, Big ass, etc. Bigger and bigger! Nature doesn't tell us: "Go sweat under heavy iron, eat protein, and buy decent clothes so you can perpetuate the genetic line of Homo sapiens." Instead, Nature whispers to our ego: "Do it for you, king! Look at those biceps! It’s self-care! You deserve to feel good!" Maybe men and women were born for intense self-attraction for self-attraction for its own sake? Maybe many people want an attractive mate, they don't want them for themselves, but for their own sense of self-attraction. But It's an androgynous loop. The risk with that, it's that it can turn into a highly narcissistic womb. Like, I often think the mirrors in the gyms are not so much to perfect the form, but to perfect the ego. Men are the only male creatures on earth who have massive aesthetic standards for long-term commitment. But, men are tricked by fake big breasts and fit asses which gives mid women ability to attract a more attractive male even if genetically her face is average. Some women are so facially attractive and have specific phenotypes, that at least for men like me, there is no pair of breasts and ass that for committed long-term relationship would make me cheat with them. But also due to my phenotype tastes, some women no matter how much they might beautify themselves, they couldn't possibly compete with the genetics of such phenotypes I seek, even if they are much older.
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I would deadass pay for a series where you interview forum members and/ or long-time viewers of actualized.org. Very unique collection of people here.
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Hyperion replied to Hyperion's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
And what precisely is the point of pointing out that you don't see the point of me pointing out that trying to point out what cannot be pointed out with words is pointless? I sure do. And I sincerely hope that you got a good ol' kick out of pointlessly commenting on my pointless comment, my fellow chief mate. ⚓ -
We can do a duet together and put on the first ever actualized.org concert
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Hmm..
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That's epic! Will give it a watch
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I could honestly share my digital minimalism strategies to the world. I have learned so much about it, it could be worth sharing.
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I blocked videos on my phone as well now. It got very unhealthy very quickly. I was going to bed and was already looking to binge watch the next thing. The binge watch virus was infesting my virus within a day or two.
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Good example. But I'm not talking about the artist, I'm talking about music itself.
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An important insight for my digital minimalism approach. Whenever I have a big impulse to get out of my minimalism, because I want to watch a video too find out about something it usually comes from a very productive and healthy place. For example when I wanted to watch a video on how to execute the chop block in table tennis. But after a short time I get into autopilot like an addict and binge watch. I cant control myself in those time periods. So what I could do is create an approach which is formulated around exactly this, through some kind of way I get a short access to something but then some structure pulls me right out with force again. That could work.
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Its not just masturbation but the whole easy dopamine system you allow yourself. When you deny yourself all that easy access, its not just that you are more motivated to get it, your mind will reavaluate the situation and will unlock more resources in the form of confidence in you, because it is sensing that the current unrisky approach to things isnt getting you enough dopamine/ survival shit. Thats at least my thesis on it. Not sure about less masturbation in particular, I denied myself mostly everything around it so the described mechanism kicked in and I accessed more confidence which I needed to connect with other people to get the dopamine. I compensated my compensation strategies with the real thing eheh. And you can only jerk off a couple times a day, its not the biggest soure of mind numbing input you consume in a day.
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It’s def a risk; I wouldn’t state it categorically, however. I doubled my income and had some of my most productive years after an ayahuasca retreat. I was using psychedelics more from a personal development vs a spiritual pursuit back then. After a couple years I started working with 5meo and focusing on awakening. That did further disconnect me from my job further, despite it being something I was never fully connected to. On the order hand, this less productive-at-work period was a time I fully embraced stage green and changed many things in my personal lifestyle. I was also training hard at the gym and following a strict diet plan, no slacking off. So I think it largely depends on the individual and their life stage. If you have stage orange work to do and lessons to learn it may be wise to postpone. As Leo says you can always dose higher later
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Wow great! Thanks for sharing
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BIG DICK ENERGY OOZING. I know of my SUPERIOR INTELLECT and most women can sense my might and crumble under the weight of my industriousness.
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I just found out that Connor Murphy passed away. Wanted to post on the forum but I am way too late. Whoa, not sure how too feel about it. Something about Leos comments on the thread struck me though, Connor was very unpractical in his approach. I used to incredibly unpractical, ideologically ungrounded as well. Gosh it felt great but reality gave me bad feedback again and again so I cooled down quite a bit. An important faceit of my development which I havent reflected or even forgot about.
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Theory for most things makes us go crazy, there are too many unknown variables, too many assumptions, it leads to this combinatorial explosion of variables in our head. Also, we don't even have enough working memory to keep all of those variables all at once. The real world tosses it at us for free, we don't need to simulate in our heads. We can simulate at best a few variables at a time, but not all of it.
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I realized that it doesn't work that well when I have a women that I'm talking too much about intellectual topics. What I mean, as much as she might be enjoying and she likes me, at least for myself, it creates a weird dynamic where I feel like I'm just dumping on her information, she quickly can't follow up. It creates this trigger where interacting with her becomes being intellectually puking on her. When I do, it has to be highly measured and strategic, to create this meta layer of appearing intellectual and that I'm having deep conversations with her, but in the back of my mind I'm actually being strategic to what she would like to hear from me to keep her fantasy about me. It's important to have a chick that I have same communication style. It's important to keep the communication still signaling desire and break off before she gets bored. Most women will swear to me that they are intellectual because they look up to me, but they can't handle it if I go too deep. I can't quite put this into words, it's not exactly their intellect, it's their attitude and communication style. They have to be good conversationalists, not necessarily keep up. When they say they want a smart guy, they don't really know what to do with him! WOMEN WANT THE EXPERIENCE OF BEING SMART WHEN THEY ARE ATTRACTED TO YOU. NOT ACTUALLY DOING THE WORK. Why do we see most new age women being all woo woo with spirituality, but not actually be hardcore about? Not just women, but other guys as well, in being social.
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Willy Phallicus replied to Hyperion's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Just not seeing the point in doing the captain obvious thing where language and the metaphysical are concerned. Maybe thats how you get your kicks, I dunno. -
Lady Gaga helped (and still helps) a lot to the LGBTQ community with her music and messages.
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Just the right amount of nutting to not go nuts.
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Well said. I call it healthy game.
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If this is an ongoing problem what I would recommend doing first is making an appointment with your GP (Huisarts) to get your blood checked. Within a couple of days you know what going on inside of your body. A couple of pointers: - The 'R' is back in the month again, sun hours are going down, more doom and gloom weather. Less sun is less vitamin D3. I'm really sensitive getting cold and getting the winter depression. I swallow some D3+K2 tablets to compensate for the lack of D3 being generated by natural sunlight. - Magnesium can be overdosed and body and brain fatigue can be one of the symptoms. The blood test can point this out. Be careful experimenting willy nilly with supplements, don't get your advise from influencers. In the Netherlands the water companies (sometimes) add nutrients like Calcium, Natrium and Magnesium to tap water. So that makes it more healthy, it's also clean but nowadays there is a concern about microplastics and remnant medicine traces. Do some research (beyond influencers) to see if you want to stick to tap water or you want to filter your water. If you are going to filter your water, you can use a simple water filter can. You can also use RO (Reverse Osmosis), you can have good ones, or the ones they use where I usually live in the Philippines they filter everything is filtered out including the good nutrients. So I have to reintroduce these nutrients again, but this is not necessary with standard water in the Netherlands (unless filtered with RO) I have been told at HEMA you can dried tea herbs for a decent price. Use a tea strainer/diffuser and you don't have to worry about microplastic tea bags anymore. Better for you better for the environment. I realised that a change of climate towards a more tropical and more humid (yes I prefer more humid as an aquaman :)) works best for me. I'm here in NL now, I can feel the last two weeks my energy and mood dropping because of the shift towards autumn. Good luck.
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Human Mint replied to Maheshwar's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
@Maheshwar I was saying more in the sense that someone that knows you can point things to you that makes you reflect. From what you say I can only make hypothesis. I'm sorry for what you're going through. -
@integration journey yeah more minimalism here.
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@Leo Gura Yep, I guessed so, thanks for sharing your view.
