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Progress: i actually notice how thinking screws me in RV wanting to do it "right", is doing it wrong. NO THOUGHTS! .. Didnt help with my RV results though, still shitty.
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You got some nerves, that you even consider going with them. I couldnt take that at all. When you go they get the sense that they can maybe talk you into it which will only make it more difficult, I would build a boundary as soon as possible.
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I made the decision about a month ago to get myself out in the city more often and start doing some approaches to get over my anxiety and hopefully improve my social skills - mostly for dating but I've found it helps me with being social in general. I've wanted to write down my experiences so far and hopefully give helpful advice for anyone else new to this. I'm a 29 yo male from UK. Best locations - During the day I'd walk around the busy high streets and shopping centres. Coffee shops are really good, bookstores, clothing stores, pop culture shops (in UK we have HMV and some anime/comic book stores), the plaza, and some parks. How I'd approach - This mostly depends on what environment I'm in - e.g. in a store I would open with some sort of observation. The girl may have been flipping through a book and I'd ask her if it was any good. Or in the Hot Topic I'd ask if she liked this particular band or not. If I was approaching a girl just as we were walking down a busy street I would be more direct by saying something among the lines of "excuse, do you have a sec? I know this is kinda random, but I just saw you as I was walking, and I wanted to come say hi". Eye contact and a smile is also being used in all these scenarios. Dealing with the anxiety - The key thing I've learned so far is that getting rejected is not the end of the world. It's honestly pretty liberating when you get knocked back and realize there was nothing to worry about. You learn it doesn't faze you and that you should be proud for actually having the balls to even take a shot at all. Approach without knowing what to say - The best approaches I had were the ones were I acted first before thinking. It's better to let go and trust yourself that you can just flow into a conversation. Making observations - When asking questions like "what do you do" or "do you like x or y", I found it didn't do much just to be like "oh cool" or "oh I see". It felt more engaging to make guesses. e.g. if a girl had tattoo's and piercings I would say she seems like one of those 'ex-goths' and she'd laugh a little. Light teasing and common ground - If a girl told me something about herself I'd generally either do some playful teasing over it or find a way to relate to her in some way. e.g. a girl mentioned to me she was going to get dinner later with a friend out in a restaurant, when I asked her whether she worked or was studying she said she was a student. Since students here are on a tight budget I teased her by going "ha, as if you could afford a dinner out in the city". Or I could've said something like "oh you're eating there? I love their food! I make that stuff at home" if I chose to try and be relatable in some way. Out of the 30 or so girls I've approached I've not been able to get a number or a date yet. The only thing that's happened so far was me and one girl ended up making out while I was out in a club. My favorite approach so far was probably with this one girl I saw while walking down the busy street - her looks blew me away (an alt girl with tattoo's, dyed white hair and some piercings). Without thinking about it I had waved as we were walking past each other. I stood in front of her and while making eye contact I went "I just wanted to say, you're very pretty" and she went to me "oh thank you! so are you!". While it didn't go anywhere (she said she had to keep moving and I just thanked her and moved on), I remember the massive confidence boost I felt. When you do these approaches you'll get counter-evidence to any limiting beliefs you have about yourself. I'm on the spectrum and I've lived most of my life being super logical and flat and my social skills suffered as a result, but I'm trying to make up for that now.
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And let’s not forget Dad’s first impressions of Beans when he first heard them over the phone:
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...and this is why I love communicating with AI
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Sounds like they love an idea they have about you and don’t care about what you’re really into.
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I wish to give more nuance to my answer. Although it's true there are no synergies, combining them may still be useful. Using vape pens, 5meo first cleans the body, energy and mind, raising consciousness for DMT to flow much better. When you return back to 5meo the clarity is much better. It's not synergy but there are benefits if you use them skilfully and masterfully.
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I wish to give more nuance to my answer. Although it's true there are no synergies, combining them may still be useful. Using vape pens, 5meo first cleans the body, energy and mind, raising consciousness for DMT to flow much better. When you return back to 5meo the clarity is much better. It's not synergy but there are benefits if you use them skilfully and masterfully.
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You shouldn’t have said Buddhist, you should have just said meditation retreat, or better yet mindfulness retreat. Just tell them you go because of the scientific evidence meditation is helpful and not for any religious or spiritual guidance, and many people there aren’t Buddhists and are from other or no religion.
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There are many keys points and action to eliminate Suffering... One is too establish Your BEING before doing anything (Action) in life or Having anything in life. If You do or have before You establish Your BEING, then suffering is the only result, just look out in the world, all those that appear to be successful, or have everything You think You want, they are suffering in someway or another, and suffering for a Human Being is most self suffering, not from another person making You suffer! Another way is total Acceptance of what Is, if You can do this, then no suffering will exist for You// Another way is LIving totally Now, Use past to become wise from not wounded, use future to plan for but don't live in either Emotionally, live Now emotionally, as NOW is where life is, past is just memory, future is just imagination.. Another way is to raise Your energy level to high intensity, if this happens for You naturally Your Blissful of Your own nature.. Another way is to stop identifying yourself with things You are not, You are not Your Body or Mind, or Sex, or what society says You should be (rich, powerful, beautiful, this or that). Identify with Life, or the cosmos, or at the very least being Human, as Human means unlimited Potential and Possibility!
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+1 Leo Helped me introducing me into self-development and Psychedelics so now i've got rid of 70% of my OCD and i'm not an Incel anymore.
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Everything didn't COME FROM Nothing. Everything IS Nothing and Nothing IS everything. There is no Source.
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The list reminds me of the beginning of this episode:
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Ishanga replied to Never_give_up's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Yes, but the most basic essence of reality imo is not dynamism but stillness or staticty, this is the foundation of all creation, think of a clear and still small lake, perfect in sight and completely silent, that is the basis of creation, then a rock is thrown into it, ripples flow out, that is creation being born and expanding, but eventually the ripples dissipate and end, then its back to stillness/staticity and silence again... Everything has a foundation, its just a matter of breaking it all down, something is standing upon something else, for dynamism or movement to happen it has to have a stable, still base, so stillness is basic foundation of everything existing... If everything came from nothing (Shiva-"That which is Not") then stillness is nothing, dynamism/movement/change is something... -
"Safety" is a drive, not a value. It's reactionary, not proactive. The whole idea of a life purpose course assumes being proactive - taking initiative from a place of meaning, not fear. That said, your confusion is understandable because values are not fully stable - they're context-dependent. One day you might value this and the next day you value that. What you value at any given time depends on many circumstantial variables, which makes the exercise difficult. But still, there are identifiable patterns that persist for long periods of time that you naturally gravitate toward regardless of survival. Those are the things to identify. These patterns remain relatively constant across life seasons. The domain might change, but the signature stays the same. A good question is "What problems do I most enjoy solving?" For example, I have this motivation to explore complexity and make it simple but only if it results in real-world benefit for myself or others. This motivation is detectable in nearly everything I do of my own volition. It's why I'm fascinated with human psychology and software engineering. I'm not into "psychology" or "software engineering". I'm into "useful coherence". It seems like an organizing principle of my entire psyche. Point is, there's an underlying motivation beneath all your interests and activities. Something at your core - after survival - that drives you. The idea is not to figure out a domain, but the underlying motivation: your "post-survival drive". Once you find it, point that motivation at whatever domains make sense at that time, given your specific circumstances and opportunities. I wouldn't worry too much about domain so long as you get to exercise your post-survival drive. Doors will open in time. Side note: I'd be cautious with the whole "life purpose" paradigm. I think it's more about "life trajectory". A single purpose isn't compatible with life because life is inherently too chaotic. "Life purpose" is a control fantasy and not suitable for most humans.
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Princess Arabia replied to Razard86's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Lovely. Excellent. Marvelous. Perfect rendition of how the dream operates. What you've described is it's Reality and it cannot be or see anything outside of it. Infact, there's nothing outside of it except total emptiness and deep sleep which is the same as nothing. All of that is a part of the dream's storyline and what it needs to sustain itself - continuity, linearity, a sense of autonomy, belief in separation, etc. There's nothing logical about this, only within the dream of separation and does indeed need logic to sustain itself otherwise it crumbles and falls apart and wouldn't make any sense. Without the sense of a center, there is no logic, without a sense of I AM, there is no logic, without a sense of here and there, now and then, us and them and all that comes with the illusion of separation, there is no logic. THIS (Nothingness, emptiness) is not bounded in time and space; so therefore, logic is what appears, logic is what it is being, it isn't separate from logic but this logic cannot exist without a storyline, A storyline like the marvelous one the dream created here. A Reality of Nothing based on logic. It can spin anything into a Reality if it imagines it to be so. -
@Leo Gura Alex O’Connor recently had Bernard Kastrup on. Don’t you think you would do a better job explaining consciousness to him? It seems Alex is relatively more open-minded than other atheist YouTubers.
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You said this You were saying it's a parasitic relationship, one-way. It's symbiotic.
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I think the best proof of my appreciation for Leo’s work is this result from my YouTube recap showing that I’m in the top 3% of his viewers. The other channels I watch are mostly about magick, philosophy, and creating music. Thank you, Leo, for the last 10 years since I started watching you. I can’t wait for the rest of the Deconstruction of Rationalism series!
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What’s your point, elaborate?
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Husseinisdoingfine replied to Ponder's topic in Society, Politics, Government, Environment, Current Events
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Resource Based Economy is the best, but for this too work the majority of Humanity has to have a somewhat higher level of Consciousness that it is currently at... Right now nothing really works, Capitalism is just a hidden form of slavery, at least now it is, maybe 20 yrs ago and beyond it was working well, but not now, now we mostly are all slaves to the dollar, to the employer or consumer of your product to continue on with what You are doing, while the rich get richer and more powerful and the poor get poorer and less powerful and basic hidden from society where no one cares!
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Grammar seems like a reasonable type of conformity; otherwise, people will only speak and write unintelligibly to one another. Furthermore, clarity seems like a reasonable principle to strive toward. I remember Leo suggesting that people need to put more effort into their grammar, yet he included it in his list of acts of conformity. Obviously, you don’t need to be overly pedantic—there’s a balance to be found.
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Let's see how we can best conform to this thread. Meh, actually, neh. Well, actually: My mom has throughout the years talked about the negative health effects of fried or grilled food (how the browning process or charring creates aromatic compounds that are carcinogenic etc.) and that we should try to avoid eating too much of it. Then, in the later years when I eat my bread in the morning, I cut off the crusts (which are of course charred bits of bread). And the times she has seen this, she is like "ah cmon, why you do dis", insinuating it's weird and obsessive because that is not how people usually eat bread (in my country). So choosing to not eat charred food is ok when it comes to things like meat and vegetables, but when it comes to bread, that is suddenly too much. Also, the sheer amount of charred bits in a loaf of bread is probably 10-100x more than in a grilled or fried piece of meat or vegetable.
